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Weak after sex; orgasm order

By Valentine Njoroge September 1, 12:55 pm
I have two questions… After making love with my partner, we usually feel completely weak – especially him. Is this a sickness?

Also, we are wondering about who reaches orgasm first when getting pregnant – me, him, or both of us at the same time?

Normal bodily reactions

Well! The French call orgasm ‘a small death’ because frankly it takes a lot out of us and most of us need a few minutes to come back to earth and reality. Our bodies sometimes feel weaker as hormones and other chemicals released into our blood streams by our brains tell us it’s time to sleep. Your reactions are completely normal. So no, you are not sick.

A biology question

Your second question worries me because it says there is something wrong with what you learned in school biology class. Conception occurs when a sperm successfully penetrates an egg in a woman’s body. To get the sperm into a woman’s body, a man must ejaculate and this is what we typically call orgasm in a man. A woman does not have to orgasm in order to conceive a child. I should also point out that even before a man ejaculates fully, some semen (the fluid that contains sperm) might leak out of his penis and into a woman during regular intercourse.

Preventing pregnancy

Contraception or birth control methods such as condoms work by hindering the sperm from getting to the egg – and are therefore sometimes called 'barrier methods'. Other methods such as the oral contraceptive pill fool your body into thinking that you are already pregnant so that no new foetuses can be conceived.

Racing to the orgasm finish-line will neither protect you from pregnancy nor cause it.

If you want to prevent pregnancy, condoms are a great way to go because they protect you from both disease and pregnancy. If you trust your partner and you are both faithful then perhaps you can have a doctor fit you with an Inter Uterine Device (IUD) which is 99 per cent effective in preventing pregnancy. They cost around KSh 4000 and you can have it in you for up to 10 years.

If you would like to get pregnant, then make sure you have sex about 12 days before your next period as this is when you are most fertile and an egg is waiting to be fertilised.


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Comments
kimuyu mulwa.
Mon, 09/01/2014 - 08:04 pm
mine is a question: if. orgasm in men is typically reached thru ejaculation, what marks orgasm in ladies? pls lemme knw
Hi Kimuyu, orgasms aren't really reached through ejaculation, most of the time, they occur together. So a man orgasms, and ejaculates. Orgasms in ladies can also come with ejaculation (yep, even women can ejaculate. but not sperm, of course). Other than that, women will have the physical signs of orgasm- shivering, moaning, uncontrolled movements... Read more about the female orgasm here: http://lovematters.co.ke/resource/her-orgasms
arthur lachance
Mon, 09/01/2014 - 08:36 pm
hi is there any thing out there to help get it hard and keep it hard .I have tried most and they do not work need your help ,this is very important for me being a man please let me know thank you ,my next step is I do not know
Hi there, Generally though go slow, enjoy the buildup of touching and caressing each other. Make time for oral sex during your physical interactions. Take time focusing on your partner as well as yourself. Communicate together about what feels nice, what doesn't and what you would like to try together. Experiment, explore and try new things and see if anything works. Some people say condoms help them last longer, while others may use cock rings (just make sure it is the right size and not too tight!). Generally just remember that sex is more than just penetration and there are lots of ways to enjoy each other. If you are finding that you really cannot maintain an erection then it might be time to see a doctor. There are some medical conditions that can affect your performance but would need to be looked by a professional. You can also masturbate, however challenge yourself to last longer. Go slow, feel the way your body changes when you are getting closer to climax. Tease yourself, find tricks that help you delay the finish.
Hi Rosemary, an orgasm is the amazing, warm, tingly, or even explosive feeling you will feel after arousal and stimulation during sex or masturbation. You can read more about orgasms here: http://lovematters.co.ke/resource/her-orgasms
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