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Do women really orgasm from penetrative sex?

I am a 26-year-old woman and have been consistently sexually active for the past 8 years. I love to experiment during sex and while I have had multiple clitoral orgasms, I have never experienced vaginal orgasms. Are vagina orgasms even real?  

You are definitely not alone. This is a concern shared by many women mostly because, for some reason, many have never experienced orgasms from penetrative sex.

Before we go into the reasons, it is important to differentiate between clitoral and vaginal orgasms.

A clitoral orgasm involves stimulating the clitoris to the point where one achieves an orgasm while a vaginal orgasm happens when one is receiving stimulation only from penetration of the vagina. Vaginal orgasms specifically occur due to stimulation of the G-spot.

To answer your question, vaginal orgasms are real.

To put this debate to an end, some people experience vaginal orgasms while others don’t. Whether you experience them or not, both are normal outcomes.

Research shows that only a small percentage of women can achieve an orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone. It has been suggested that for some women to achieve vaginal orgasms, they must have clitoral stimulation.

If you have never had a vaginal orgasm and would like to see whether you can have one, check out some tips here. Keep in mind that these tips are not an assurance that you will get a vaginal orgasm as our bodies are different. 

Some factors that can make it difficult to achieve a vaginal orgasm are stress, lack of communication during sex, not concentrating during sex, and body image issues.

One of the best ways to improve your sexual experience is to communicate with your partner. This helps you to communicate what you want from sex and to also discuss your different sexual preferences and responses.

Note: In some cases, if you cannot orgasm, it could be a sign of Anorgasmia (which refers to the inability to achieve an orgasm). In this case, you have a sexual dysfunction and it is recommended to talk to a healthcare professional.

Have you ever had a vaginal orgasm? Share your experience in the comments section.

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