Making Love

Making love, or having sex, can mean different things to different people. It can mean a man putting his penis into a woman’s vagina. Or other things, such as masturbating your partner, oral sex, or anal sex. There are many ways to have sexual pleasure.

Facts

Virginity

Can I lose my virginity from oral sex?

I promised myself that I would remain a virgin until I feel ready to have sex. Recently, a guy I have been seeing went down on me. I am still a virgin if I had oral sex?

Making Love

She is 17, can we have sex as long as she consents?

Hello Love Matters, I am an 18-year-old first-year college student and my girlfriend of 2 months is 17 years old. We love each other and while we are yet to have sex, we are very excited about our first time. I have heard that at anyone below 18 cannot consent to sex, is this true?

Making Love

Have you ever tried pegging?

Ladies, have you ever slid a finger, or two, inside your man’s anus? How did he react? If you have never, maybe it’s time to experiment. Tell us how it goes. Do you see where I am going with this conversation? Anal play is a thing and if done right, it can take your sex game a notch higher. Pegging is one of the most common anal play and that is what we will talk about today.

Making Love

Important hygiene tips before anal sex

Anyone can practice anal sex yet this type of sex is more common among a lot of gay and bisexual men. Anal sex can be extremely pleasurable but at times it can be very uncomfortable if one partner is paranoid about poop (feces).

Orgasms

Do women really orgasm from penetrative sex?

I am a 26-year-old woman and have been consistently sexually active for the past 8 years. I love to experiment during sex and while I have had multiple clitoral orgasms, I have never experienced vaginal orgasms. Are vagina orgasms even real? I am the only one?

Making Love

7 tips for a perfect blow job

If you want to blow your partner’s mind, blow them! Blow jobs are one of the best foreplay acts and they are pleasurable to the receiver and can be to the giver too!

Making Love

Common sexual fantasies to try

Almost everyone has sexual fantasies, but only few people act on them. It’s possible that even though you fantasize about something like a threesome, you really wouldn’t want to try it in real life.

Sex Problems: how to overcome them

What causes low sperm count?

Let’s take a closer look at what it means to have a low sperm count, its possible causes, how to know you have a low sperm count, and what you can do about it. What does it mean to have […]

Orgasms

Dry orgasms: Orgasms without ejaculation

A dry orgasm is also known as orgasmic anejaculation and it happens during sex when a man climaxes but does not release any semen. A dry orgasm can be a temporary or permanent condition and while they are often not […]

Making Love

5 common myths about consent debunked

Whether you’re in a committed, casual, or any type of relationship, consent is key for any sexual activity you engage in. It is very important to understand consent and practice it every time you engage in any sexual activity.

Making Love

Acts you didn’t know count as unsafe sex

Sex can be fun and pleasurable but having unsafe sex comes with serious risks. It’s important to educate yourself about unsafe sex in order to protect yourself.

Sex Problems: how to overcome them

Things your partner shouldn’t do during sex

If you and your partner have reached the point where you’ve agreed to have sex, it’s likely that you’ll discuss it and are now comfortable enough to do so. But sometimes, especially if you’re still new to it, it’s not always easy to determine what’s good or bad during sex.

Making Love

Here’s why you should have sober sex

People get high for different reasons. Some as an escape to reality while others use alcohol or drugs to help them relax for a better sexual experience.

Sex Problems: how to overcome them

Here’s why you feel like peeing during sex

Ladies, have you felt like peeing (or urinating) during the good deed? Is this normal? What should you do?

Making Love

5 disturbing myths about dry sex

Have you heard of or tried dry sex? If you haven’t, it’s when you purposely dry out your vagina with herbs, household detergents, antiseptics, leaves…

Virginity

12 things to remember before first-time sex

Before having sex for the first time, you may feel a range of emotions, which is completely normal. You may be nervous, scared, thrilled, excited, or anxious, and that’s totally expected. You may be unsure about what to expect. And […]

Ways to Make Love

Do all men masturbate?

If you’re Kenyan, you may have heard or used the term ‘kunyonga‘, if you’re not, it is slang for masturbation.

Making Love

Top masturbation tips for men

Masturbation is a healthy and safe way to explore your body and discover what makes you feel good. There are lots of ways for men and women to masturbate, get aroused and then orgasm. Women usually do it by rubbing their clitoris […]

Making Love

How do I know my partner is having an orgasm?

Can you tell your partner is having an orgasm by looking at them? For men, yes since they often ejaculate, but for women is not that easy. There is no one way to have an orgasm, especially for women(including intersex […]

Making Love

Why does my vagina make farting sound?

You are having sex and then, BOOM! your vagina makes a farting sound. What will you do? Hide in shame? Stop to investigate the fart? Pretend like it wasn’t you and instead blame your partner? Laugh? Continue like nothing happened? […]

Ways to Make Love

How dirty talk can spice up things during sex

Whispering, moaning or sighing sexy things in bed can be a real turn on – if you do it well. But it can quickly become a turn-off if you aren’t careful.

Porn

Is porn sex real?

Should everything you see in porn be replicated in the bedroom?

Sex Problems: how to overcome them

8 sexual difficulties faced by women

Sexual difficulties are very common for women of all ages. Having trouble reaching orgasm is one of the most frequent problems women experience.

Sex Problems: how to overcome them

7 common sexual difficulties faced by men

Sexual difficulties are very common for men of all ages. Common guy problems include premature ejaculation or delayed ejaculation – either coming much sooner or much later than you’d like.

Ways to Make Love

Sexual fantasies

Sexual fantasies are completely normal. Some of them may seem weird, but just because you fantasise about something doesn’t mean you have to do it.

Virginity

The hymen: what is it?

The hymen is a thin piece of skin that is part of a woman’s vulva. Its importance is mainly cultural, and many myths are associated with it.

Ways to Make Love

8 types of foreplay you should try

Foreplay is everything that gets you in the mood for sexual intercourse… Kissing is foreplay. Flirting and intimate conversations are foreplay.

Porn

Talking about porn

There’s nothing wrong with masturbation and porn can be great, too. They can help us understand more about our own bodies, our likes and dislikes.

Virginity

Is my partner a virgin?

Many people think that you can tell whether someone is a virgin or not. However, this is a myth. The only way to know if someone is a virgin is by asking them!

Ways to Make Love

Talking about sex

Whether your relationship is casual or serious, it can always be difficult to bring up the topic of making love, especially when it comes to the when and the how.

Ways to Make Love

Anal sex: the new frontier

Many people enjoy anal sex. Others are ashamed of it or think it’s dirty.

Ways to Make Love

Sex: the ins and outs of intercourse

Sex or intercourse – to put it bluntly, fucking or screwing – is when a man puts his erect penis inside a woman’s vagina.

Ways to Make Love

Oral sex: taste the pleasure

Oral sex is when you pleasure someone else’s genitals with your mouth, or they use their mouth on your genitals.

Orgasms

His orgasms

When a man gets really turned on, he can have an orgasm – in other words, he can come, or climax.

Orgasms

Her orgasms

When you get sexually aroused your vagina becomes wetter, which makes it smooth and slippery. With more stimulation, you could climax (orgasm).

Ways to Make Love

Is masturbation healthy in a relationship?

When you masturbate, you touch and caress yourself to give yourself sexual pleasure. Often you do this until you’re fully aroused and have an orgasm. What if you’re masturbating your partner?

Virginity

First time sex: what to expect

When people talk about the ‘first time’, they usually mean the first time you have full intercourse. That’s what people mean by ‘losing your virginity’.