woman with afro against yellow background hugging self

She is 17, can we have sex as long as she consents?

Hello Love Matters, I am an 18-year-old first-year college student and my girlfriend of one month is 17 years old. We love each other and are very excited about our first time. I have heard that anyone below 18 cannot consent to sex, is this true?

Yes, you may want to keep your junk in your trunk until she is 18.

Whether you love each other to the moon and back or whether her vagina gets as wet as a drowned rat when you’re together, you need to refrain from engaging in sex or sexual acts. According to the law, she is a minor and it does not matter whether she is the one who initiates sex with you.

While she may be physically ready for sex – meaning she can get wet, moan, give head, and do other sexual acts with you, you are breaking the law if you engage in any sexual activity with her.

In Kenya, the age of consent is 18 years.

The Children’s Act defines a minor as a person who is below the age of 18 years. Minors are under the care of parents or guardians; they make decisions on behalf of the minor. This means parents or guardians consent to things on behalf of the minor.

It’s all worth the wait.

Love is patient and jailtime is not exactly something you should risk.

Your sex organs are not going anywhere and a year’s wait is all worth it – considering that not waiting will land you in jail.

Once she is 18, both of you are considered adults capable of making informed decisions, including having sex.

The lesson here is to wait and if you cannot abstain from sex, find another partner over 18 years of age.

Good luck!

did you find this useful?

Tell us what you think

LoveMatters Africa

Blush-free facts and stories about love, sex, and relationships