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Common sexual fantasies to try

Almost everyone has sexual fantasies, but only few people act on them. It’s possible that even though you fantasize about something like a threesome, you really wouldn’t want to try it in real life. Yet, some of us are adventurous and will totally try something we’ve imagined.

What are the common fantasies?

So what are some of the things that people fantasies about? Here’s a short list, but there are many, many more.

  • Oral sex
  • Threesomes
  • BDSM (bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, masochism)  
  • Being watched or filmed having sex
  • Watching other people have sex
  • Sex in public spaces
  • Sex with strangers
  • Group sex
  • Sex with someone who’s very large/small/tall/skinny/older etc.
  • Sex with someone of the same gender
  • Sex with celebrities  
  • Anal sex

Acting out your fantasies

It can be fun and arousing, to share some of your fantasies with your partner. And if you want to and they agree, you can even try to act out some of those images your brain came up with.

If you are shy about bringing it up, try casually mentioning it, for example by saying you have read about sex in public places. Gauge your partner’s reaction, and, if they are curious, ask them if that’s something the two of you can explore.

Role-play is a common way to act out fantasies. For example, if you dream about having sex with a stranger, your partner can pretend to be someone you don’t know. You can arrange to meet at a bar, and talk to each other like you’ve never met before. And then you can take them to a hotel room, or your place, and have a one-night-stand.

But don’t be disappointed if things don’t quite work out the way you imagined them; the brain is a powerful instrument and can sometimes make things look better than they actually are.

What are your sexual fantasies? Talk to us in the comments section.

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