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Oral sex: taste the pleasure

Oral sex is when you pleasure someone else’s genitals with your mouth, or they use their mouth on your genitals.

Oral sex on her

Oral sex on a woman is when you stimulate her clitoris and vagina with your tongue and lips. People also call it ‘going down on a woman’. Many women find this very arousing, and it can bring them to orgasm.

How do you do it?

There are lots of ways to give oral sex. What feels nice is different for every woman and can be different every time.

  • You can lick around or over the clitoris.
  • You can lick the labia or inside the vagina.
  • You can lick faster or slower, harder or more gently.

Ask your partner what she likes. Get to know her so you can really give her pleasure. You can also just try something and pay attention to her body language. Is she getting moister and moaning? Then you must be getting it right!

If you can’t keep it up or your jaw starts aching, stop or change position. Or switch to using your fingers for a while.

If you don’t like the idea of giving oral sex, you don’t have to do it if you don’t want to.

Are you curious? Have a shower together first, so you feel nice and clean. And you can start making love under the shower!

Remember that you can stop doing it at any time. You don’t have to continue if you don’t like it.
Many women can have an orgasm through oral sex, but not every woman. Even if she doesn’t have an orgasm, oral sex can still feel wonderful.

Advanced oral sex

Use your hands and tongue at the same time. For example, you could put a finger inside her vagina and move it back and forth, gently or a little harder, while you stimulate her clitoris with your tongue. Many women like it if you switch between your tongue and your finger.

You can give oral sex in different positions. The woman can lie on her back and you can lie between her legs – though this isn’t the best position for your neck. You can also lie down so she can sit on your face. She can also sit on a table or the edge of a chair so you can sit in front of her between her legs. In short: use your imagination.

Oral sex on him

Oral sex on a man means stimulating the penis with your mouth. People also call it giving a blow-job, giving head, or ‘going down’ on a man. Many men find this very arousing, and it can bring them to orgasm.

How do you do it?

There are lots of ways to give oral sex. What feels good is different for every man and can feel different every time.

  • When you give oral sex, you can hold the penis in one hand. Then you can guide the movement and determine how deeply you take the penis in your mouth. Use plenty of spit – it’s a natural lubricant.
  • Lick your lips before you start. You can move your mouth over the penis faster or slower, with long strokes or short ones, harder or more gently, only over the head of the penis, or also down over the shaft.

Ten tips:

1. Ask your partner what he likes. Get to know him so you can really give him pleasure.

2. Pay attention to his body language. If he moans and his penis stiffens, you must be doing it right!

3. Don’t use your teeth! It hurts.

4.  Be careful with the penis and testicles. Your mouth and lips are soft, but you’ll probably also use your hands. Pay attention to how he responds to see if you’re being too rough.

5. Don’t take the penis too deeply inside your mouth – it can make you gag.

6. Stop if your jaw starts aching, and switch to using your hand for a while.

7. Don’t get sperm in your mouth, as you could run the risk of HIV infection, although the risk is very low. Otherwise, use a condom (you can get flavoured ones).

8. If he does come in your mouth, spit out the sperm.

9. A lot of men like to come in your mouth, but if you don’t want this you can also think of something else, like having him come on your breasts or belly.

10. You don’t have to give a man oral sex if you don’t want to. But if you are you curious? Have a shower together first, so you feel nice and clean. And you can start making love under the shower! Remember that you can stop doing it at any time. You don’t have to continue if you don’t like it.

Did you know…?

If a man drinks a lot of coffee and alcohol and he smokes, it makes his sperm taste bitter and sour. Sweet fruit and vegetables make the sperm sweeter.

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Recent Comments (175)

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      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/cunnilingus-the-ultimate-dos-and-donts

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      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

  23. Is it ok to swallow semen…
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      https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe

  24. Is there an problem if those…
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  26. Is there a risk if I lick my…
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  27. I think there something…
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      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/anal-sex-the-new-frontier

  28. Pls my girlfriend is a…
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    1. Hi Nelson, first time sex…

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  30. wots the effects of oral sex
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    1. Hi, oral sex has no effect…

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  31. Side effects of swallowing…
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    1. Hi Leah, if you get sperm in…

      Hi Leah, if you get sperm in your mouth you could run the risk of HIV infection, although the risk is very low. It is adviceable that you use a condom for protection, the flavored condoms are ideal for this. Aside from this it is in fact healthy to swallow semen. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/semen-top-five-facts

  32. My partner doesn’t like oral…
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  33. Can sperm affect you if you…
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    1. Hey Dottie, there is a small…

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  34. Apart from HIV can you get…
    Apart from HIV can you get other diseases like hepatitis when you have oral sex?

  35. How can it b less…
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    1. Hey Roman, you could have…

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  36. My boyfriend almost…
    My boyfriend almost penetrate my anus he says it was by mistake. There was a day he said we tryitbutme I can’t do it but I hear people have it even some of my friends. Can you educate me more about it especially the negative part of it?

  37. Where can I get edible male…
    Where can I get edible male condoms for oral sex?

    1. Hey Shiha, edible condoms…

      Hey Shiha, edible condoms are flavored usually preferred for oral sex. You could check your local pharmacy  and also the online vendors. 

    1. Hi John, you are welcome.

      Hi John, you are welcome.

  38. My vagina does not always…
    My vagina does not always smell fresh. I have been told by a friend that I can use detol soap or warm salty water. I just wanted to know if this will help. Thank you.

    1. Hey Karemin, it is perfectly…

      Hey Karemin, it is perfectly normal for the vagina to have an odour. This is different for all women. You should not use dettol or even salty water since this will upset the natural balance of bacteria in the vagina leading to infections. You could use soap but use baby soap which is mild. Have a look at the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/genital-hygiene-dos-and-donts

  39. Is oral sex hygienic…
    Is oral sex hygienic especially licking vagina?

    1. We hope this was useful…

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  40. What happens if you swallow…
    What happens if you swallow Sperm?

    1. Hey Shally, when one…

      Hey Shally, when one swallows semen, which is the fluid that carries sperm, it is digested in the same way food is digested. However, having sperm in ones mouth can expose them to a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STIs). Have a look at the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe

  41. MY HUSBAND LIKES IT BUT ME,…
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  42. Do girls ejaculate when they…
    Do girls ejaculate when they climax or is urine?

    1. Hi Leo, yes girls do release…

      Hi Leo, yes girls do release a fluid when they orgasm. One is the whitish liquid that will be released when a girls experiences orgasm. Some other girls will squirt during sex releasing a clear liquid in amounts of upto a litre. The clear fluid is not urine and only some women get to experience this. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

  43. I love giving oral sex to my…
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    1. Thank you for sharing Bazze.

      Thank you for sharing Bazze.

  44. what happen when you swallow…
    what happen when you swallow sperm? can you become pregnant?

    1. Hey Mkiza, no you cannot…

      Hey Mkiza, no you cannot become pregnant if you swallow semen. The semen will go through the same process as food. However, unprotected oral sex can expose one to the risk of getting a Sexually Transmitted Infection. Using a condom can help keep you safe. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe

  45. Can u one get infection…
    Can u one get infection through vagina licking

    1. Hello Chris, yes, you may…

      Hello Chris, yes, you may get an STI from performing cunnilingus.

  46. Just curious to know…How…
    Just curious to know…How does one use protection during oral sex to prevent an STI??

    1. Hello Magan, thank you for…

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  47. I like Oral sex especially…
    I like Oral sex especially when she sucking my dick,its makes me feel so good but still trying to see if I can lick pussy because some pussy has odour if it has odour what should I do?

  48. What is seamen?

    I don’t…
    What is seamen?

    I don’t feel sexually urged why?

    I’ve never felt like masturbating, what could be the reason?

    How can I know what turns me on, cos I don’t?

    Squirting can it come in form of urine?

    Lastly, how will I know when you reply me?

    1. Hi Lilian, semen is a fluid…

      Hi Lilian, semen is a fluid that a man produces during sex when they orgasm. In the semen is contained sperm that can cause pregnancy but also, it can transmit infection from one person to another if the man is infected. Have a look a this article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/semen-top-five-facts

      There is really nothing wrong with you if you have not felt like having sex or felt like you want to masturbate. Perhaps you are just focused on different things at this time. You could explore your body to see what turns you on, also learn as much as you can able sex. Check out this article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/what-does-it-take-to-turn-you-on-or-off

      The fluid that is produced when one squirts is not urine, see this article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

      Hopefully you have come back to this question to see this response since this is the only way. We wish you all the best.

  49. Hi, are there any…
    Hi, are there any consequences for a man licking a pussy, such as diseases?

    1. Hi Kim, yes. if the lady one…

      Hi Kim, yes. if the lady one is with has an infection, for instance a Sexually Transmitted Infection, it can be transmitted and this is why one should consider using protection like a dental dum which is a square piece of latex-same material as male condoms-which is placed on the vagina as a barrier. Have a look at the this article for what’s safe and whats not;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe

  50. What is the problem with…
    What is the problem with swallowing semen? If exposure to sti, you shouldnt be giving guys blowjobs in the first place without a condom. Right? Also girls, never forget the balls when giving oral to your man. Those guys need some lovin too. A little gentle caress goes a long way and suckling does wonders!

    1. Thank you for your input,…

      Thank you for your input, Kolo.

  51. If he rub my clit without…
    If he rub my clit without inserting his finger am i stil a virgin

    1. Hello Anonymous, thank you…

      Hello Anonymous, thank you for asking a great question, and yes, according to most conventional cultures on earth, as long as there is no penetration (his penis actually entering your vagina), you are still technically a virgin dear so do not worry. What we do request though is that you recommend to your partner that he still wears a condom as there is a risk for pregnancy involved when in such close sexual proximity with your encounters. 

  52. Do you recommend oral sex?…
    Do you recommend oral sex?
    Because my friends say that its bad

    1. Hi Doris, we are so pleased…

      Hi Doris, we are so pleased to be of help. Please feel free to go through the website to find other articles that may be of help to you.

  53. When i suck my virgine girl…
    When i suck my virgine girl vagina for the first time,how will she feel?

  54. Hi Emmanuel, thank you for…

    Hi Emmanuel, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. The article above talks about these experiences and will help respond to your answer! have a wonderful weekend ahead and stay safe!

  55. Hi TREVO, thank you so much…

    Hi TREVO, thank you so much for your feedback and we are always here to help you make more informed decisions. If you need any more information, do not hesitate to reach out 🙂 have a wonderful weekend ahead and stay safe!

  56. Can you have a running…
    Can you have a running stomach or infection after oral sex if it’s not well clean or hygienic?

  57. Hi Morris, thank you for…

    Hi Morris, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. Shigella infections can be caught during sexual activity and are often mistaken for food poisoning as it causes severe diarrhea – sometimes bloody – stomach cramps and fever. The bacteria can be spread during sex, particularly during anal-oral sex (also known as rimming) and by giving oral sex after anal sex. So it is best to maintain the best hygiene practices, especially when having sexual intercourse. Are you currently experiencing any illness?

  58. If I swallow the sperm from…
    If I swallow the sperm from her virginal when doing oral sex with her will I contact any decease

    1. Hi Promise, that is a…

      Hi Promise, that is a wonderful name! Thank you for getting in touch with us and asking a great question. Participating in any form of oral sex could put you at risk if not done the right way. But just like your name, we promise that this information will help you to make more informed decisions when having oral sex in the future. Click here to find out more about the do’s and don’t’s of oral sex: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/oral-sex-dos-and-donts

      While you are here, check out our link to Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) to learn about them: https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/talking-about-stds-and-stis

      We hope this information helps and have a wonderful week. Stay safe!

  59. it is my first time giving a…
    it is my first time giving a head to my boyfriend, why is my throat itchy?

  60. Hi Nicole, thank you for…

    Hi Nicole, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. Are you experiencing this for the first time? Is it presenting any discomfort? What you could be experiencing could range from symptoms of a sore throat. 

    If you feel that you may be experiencing symptoms of an STI, here is what you should know.

    Sexually transmitted infections and diseases (STIs) aren’t just contracted through vaginal or anal sex — any skin-to-skin contact with the genitals is enough to pass an STI on to your partner.

    This means that oral sex using the mouth, lips, or tongue can pose similar risks as other sexual activities.

    The only way to reduce your risk for transmission is to use a condom or other barrier method for every sexual encounter.

    Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be spread when you’ve had sex without a condom. This section will break down what the different types are, what the symptoms are, and how they can be treated. Click here to find out more: 

    https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/stds-stis

  61. Thanks alot. I have enjoyed…
    Thanks alot. I have enjoyed the topic

    1. Hi Nikoo, 

      I am glad you…

      Hi Nikoo, 

      I am glad you enjoyed reading this article. Keep visiting Love Matters for more enjoyable and informative content. 

  62. This is a nice lesson but…
    This is a nice lesson but what are its dangers

    1. Hi Val, 

      One of the most…

      Hi Val, 

      One of the most common risk of oral sex is that you can catch certain STIs if a barrier method such as a condom or dental dam is not used. 

  63. Is it wrong to be scared to…
    Is it wrong to be scared to have sex for the first time. I was right as a young child say about 12-13. What can I do to ease the nervousness from me please help

    1. Hi Rebekah, 

      It is totally…

      Hi Rebekah, 

      It is totally normal to be scared of first-time sex. The fear may be caused by bad and scary stories you may have heard or read about sex. While some are true, others are definitely exaggerated and told to scare people so that they do not have sex. 

      One of the most important things to do to avoid being nervous is to ensure that you are with someone you trust and like or love. You shouldn’t have sex under any kind of pressure – whether it’s from your partner or your peers. You should make this choice by yourself and feel comfortable with it. After this, remember to spend as much time on foreplay so that you are ready for sex. Third, always remember that if you are uncomfortable before or during sex, you have a right to ask your partner to stop. He or she should respect your wishes. To get more tips, read this article: Top tips for first time sex

       

    1. Hi Maureen, 

      Go ahead. We…

      Hi Maureen, 

      Go ahead. We are happy to answer your question. 

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