Oral sex: myths busted

Oral sex: myths busted

By Gayatri Parameswaran August 1, 05:48 am
People are shy to talk about oral sex. That’s perhaps why there are myths around it. Is it safe? Does it get you pregnant? Can it give you an orgasm? This and much more in this week's edition of Sex Myth Buster.
Oral sex is safe sex

People believe that oral sex can’t give you any STDs. But that’s not true. Unprotected oral sex exposes you to the risk of sexually transmitted diseases like herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, HPV and even HIV. Using a condom or a dental dam can protect you from these diseases and let you enjoy oral sex.

Oral sex can cause pregnancy

A woman can only get pregnant when the man’s sperm comes in contact with the egg in her fallopian tube. So oral sex can’t get you pregnant, not even when the woman swallows the man’s semen.

Swallowing semen is always harmful

Swallowing semen doesn’t cause any damage if it doesn’t come from a person who is infected by a sexually transmitted disease. Semen mostly contains some sugars and proteins, contents that don’t cause harm by themselves. But if you don’t feel like swallowing semen during oral sex, you don’t have to – just tell your partner you’re not happy to do it.

Oral sex can’t give you an orgasm

You don’t only reach an orgasm from vaginal or anal sex. Oral sex can also give you an orgasm. In fact studies have found that a lot of women find it easier to orgasm with oral sex than vaginal sex.

Oral sex is always unhygienic

If you and your partner live up to basic standards of cleanliness, oral sex won’t be unhygienic. But in case you find yourself or your partner sweaty and sticky from the day’s work, jump into the shower together and gently wash each other before you engage in some oral pleasure!

In some cultures, couples are more open to having oral sex than others. Some cultures even view oral sex as taboo, unnatural and sinful. Although your ideas about oral sex may depend on your cultural background, in this myth buster series, all we’re trying to do is provide scientific facts.


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Hi Tito, well, somewhere in between, to be honest. HPV is a very common virus that can cause warts, and cervical cancer, and in some cases also cancer. Michael Douglas claimed that he got cancer from oral sex: http://lovematters.co.ke/news/female-desire-and-michael-douglass-throat But the risks are pretty low, and chances that the cancer is caused by something else is more likely. However, if you want to make sure you are safe, use a dental dam. You can make one yourself, by cutting the tip off a condom and then cutting it once along the side to make a flat sheath that you then put over the vagina before giving oral sex.
Hi Keleti, who you get your oral sex from is between you and your partner! Please stay safe though, by always using condoms, and, if you are performing it, a dental dam over the vagina (make one by cutting the tip off the penis, and then cutting it along one side to make a sheath).
Hi Titus, while the risk of getting an STD from oral sex is pretty low, oral sex is much safer if you use a condom or a dental dam. And no condom can ever be 100% safe, unfortunately. On average, with perfect use, they are about 97% safe. With normal use, 86%. And even if you see sperm in it, there is a chance that there are some tiny holes. Please always make sure that you don't keep condoms near sharp object, away from sunlight, and don't use them past their expiry date.
Hi Mokgadi, oral sex (or a blow job, or going down on someone, or giving head), means using your mouth and tongue on your partners penis or vagina. Is that more clear? You can have a look here for more information on oral sex: http://lovematters.co.ke/resource/ways-make-love
Hi Robert, congratulations! This is really good! It means your wife is really aroused and ready to have sex. Being really wet is a good thing, and you should not try to change that. Dry sex for women (and men) is painful and can leave you bleeding and with discomfort for days. So be very happy your wife is very wet- it really is a good thing.
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