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8 types of foreplay you should try

Foreplay is everything that gets you in the mood for sexual intercourse… Kissing is foreplay. Flirting, touching, and talking dirty are all foreplay.


If you’ve been going straight to sex when hooking up with your partner, you are missing out on some good times. Try foreplay adding foreplay to your sex na utapenda.

Note that foreplay is sex. You can enjoy it on its own, and it doesn’t have to lead to intercourse. Foreplay is equally important as intercourse, and sometimes even more so. Women don’t usually enjoy sexual intercourse without some foreplay first. It also makes it much more enjoyable for men.

Almost anything you do with your partner that feels sexy is a kind of foreplay, but here are some of the most common ones.

8 common foreplay ideas

1. Talking sexy

‘Your pussy is so wet, ‘give it to me daddy,’ ‘You love that, don’t you?’ are all types of sexy talk. I am sure you have sexier examples.

Flirting can be very sexy, and it doesn’t have to lead to anything. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you can’t still flirt with your partner, and take it further by talking while you’re kissing and touching each other. Tell them what you like, what you want them to do, and what you’d like to do to them. Use your imagination! Language can build intimacy as much as touch.

2. Undressing

Ladies and gentlemen, there’s something sexy about undressing slowly and securing your partner in the process. Don’t just undress like you are being chased.

Never be in a hurry to get naked – unless it’s a quickie. Undressing in front of your partner can be a big turn-on for both of you – the slower the better. Or enjoy taking your partner’s clothes off and showing them how much you love their body.

3. Touching and caressing

Let your fingers do the walking.

You can enjoy the feeling of your partner’s body, whether or not you’ve got your clothes on. Take it slowly and make it playful.

4. Finding the sensitive spots

Explore your partner’s body and not just the obvious places. Everyone’s different, so you can enjoy finding out what works for your partner as you touch and kiss your way around their body. Some people have very sensitive ears; others love it when you kiss their neck or their toes.

5. Kissing all over

Kissing on the mouth isn’t the only kind of kissing. Try kissing your partner all over their body, and even nibbling them gently.

Here are kissing tips: How to kiss

6. Playing games

There are all sorts of games you can play to turn up the heat in the bedroom. These games can start much earlier, as you tease your partner with the anticipation of what’s coming later. Or try exchanging some sexy texts during the day. You could try blindfolding your partner and taking control – or the other way around. Or think of a card game you could play, and make a rule that the loser has to take off an item of clothing.

7. Cuddling

Cuddling is when you hold someone close in an affectionate manner.

Making love is not the same as cuddling. When you cuddle someone, it doesn’t have to be about sex. Everyone needs a cuddle sometimes to feel happy.

Cuddling is about warmth and affection. Making love is about sexual arousal and pleasure. A relationship should have space for both sex and cuddles.

8. Oral sex

If you love dining on southern cuisine, then you should definitely include it in your foreplan plan.

Others: Touching, hugging, playing games – almost everything that’s sexual, except for penetrative sex, can be described as foreplay.

What other types of foreplay do you know?

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