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How good are you in bed?

Do you want to know how you score in between the sheets? Take the Love Matters quiz and find out how you measure up!

Foreplay is a must for me

If foreplay is a crucial ingredient in your love life, chances are you’ve got a happy partner. Those who don’t warm up are missing out.
If you are into foreplay, add 1 point.

I have afterplay

Having sex doesn’t end with the orgasm. Being great in bed means you give care and attention to your partner after the main event has come to an end.
If you agree to afterplay, give yourself 1 point.

I like action straight away

Speed may be impressive when it comes to racehorses but it’s disappointing between the sheets. Those who take lots of time to have sex are better lovers.
If you tend to rush, subtract 1.

I like getting my entire body involved

If you are good in bed, you know there is more to erogenous zones than just the genitals. Do you know how to use your hands, lips, mouth, nipples, breasts, and other body parts to drive your partner wild?
If you do, add 1 point.

I want to make my partner feel sexy

Making love isn’t as exciting if you don’t feel sexy while doing it. Being comfortable and feeling attractive not only makes them at ease, and it also excites them, making them wild and free in the sack.
If that’s what you believe in, add 1 point.

I believe in good communication

Communication should always go two ways. It’s key to talk to your lover about what you excites you sexually. Being open about your likes and dislikes, and finding to your partner’s, as well as each other’s fantasies, are fast and easy ways to improve your sex life.
If you agree and practice what you preach, add 1 point.

I struggle to be supportive

Lovers should feel at ease when it comes to talking about things they might want to try in bed. Revealing fantasies can make your partner feel exposed and really vulnerable. Making them feel uneasy about it will not only kill the mood but also harm their trust in you. Even if their desires aren’t your thing, don’t make them feel uncomfortable about revealing them.
If you have trouble being supportive at all times, subtract 1.

I enjoy both giving and receiving

If sex is just about you, then you’re a bad lover, period. But if you enjoy giving pleasure to your partner, they will surely be coming back for more. Is this the way you are?
Give yourself 1 point and a pat on the back.

I feel confident

When it comes to sex, confidence is a major turn-on.
If that’s a yes for you, add 1 point.

I don’t like to show vulnerability

Sex makes us vulnerable. Our bodies exposed, but we also have to open up our souls and hidden desires. If you are afraid to show vulnerability, it may be because you are afraid of losing power and control. It may take time and plenty of love, but those who aren’t afraid to show their vulnerable side make the best lovers.
If you are not yet comfortable with opening up fully, subtract 1 point.

I give back

If your own climax is your only goal, you’re a lousy lover. Sex is about giving as much as it is about receiving. Always be sure to return the favour. If this is what you believe in, add 1 point.

Sex toys scare me

Sex toys can make the sexual experience more exciting for some.
If you feel threatened if your lover likes a little extra stimulation from a vibrator, subtract 1 point.

I ensure my partner is confident about their body

If your partner doesn’t feel comfortable with their body, they’re not going to be at ease with you seeing or touching it. Not only will you get less sex, but it won’t be nearly as good as it could be. Compliments can go a long way, but keep in mind that a single negative comment can make someone feel self-conscious for a lifetime.
If you are liberal with your compliments, add 1 point.

I know what ‘No’ means

Sex isn’t everything, and you shouldn’t pressure your partner into making love if they are not up for it. Coercion, whether it’s physical or mental, is degrading and really bad for your relationship. You need to show respect for your partner’s choices at all times.
Add 1 point if you do, subtract 1 if you don’t.

I know my lover’s likes and dislikes

Everyone has certain like and dislike during sex, and what drove your former lover wild may do nothing for your current partner, and vice versa. Communicate, and get to know what your partner likes.
If you do that will every new partner, add 1 point.

I often skip the romance

Making love isn’t just about pushing erogenous buttons and rushing to penetration. The best sex will often be the climax of a full evening of romance. A full day, even! If you miss out on time spent outside the bedroom, chances are your sex life will suffer because of it.
If you are the hurried kind of lover, subtract 1 point.

I get all my moves from porn

While it can be exciting and give you new ideas, porn shouldn’t define what your love life looks like. You shouldn’t worry if you are good enough based on images you got from porn. Good sex is about what’s happening in your own bedroom, not by some pornographic images.
If you are comparing your sex life to porn, subtract 1 point.

I am often distracted during sex

A sign of good sex is being fully present and enjoying the moment. Leave your phone off and your worries out of mind. The bed is no place for outside interruptions. Do you think about your grocery list while making love?
Subtract 1 point.

I like to be playful

Sex is not only about love, but it’s also relaxing – a time to enjoy each other’s bodies and have fun. If you want to be good in bed, be playful!
If that’s what you are and you are known to have a good laugh in bed, add 1 point.

Scores:

  • 12 = Stellar, you’ve got it all worked out.
  • 8 – 11 = Good, keep up the loving!
  • 3 – 7 = There’s room for improvement.
  • 3 or below = You gotta work hard. Start your journey to becoming a better lover. 

So, what’s your score? Leave a comment below or via Love Matters Naija and Love Matters Africa. If you need tips and tricks, get in touch with our discussion board: our moderators will help!

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    1. Great! Thanks for sharing.
      Great! Thanks for sharing.

  1. I hv that high sex. Libido.
    I hv that high sex. Libido. I have spent 3month with out having sex. And I have a boyfriend but we don’t stay together he works at fear district. For real I miss him and don’t want to cheat on him.am just in that mood of having sex. plis. Advise me thanks

    1. Hi Hawa,

      Hi Hawa,

      There is nothing wrong with having sexual urges that’s perfectly normal.

      If you do not mind musterbation you could try it to help you deal with the urge. Otherwise you just have to stay occupied and try not to think about sex too much.

    2. Hawa its haram and big sin …
      Hawa its haram and big sin ,let your bf marry you then you can enjoy it the way you want

      1. We appreciate your…
        We appreciate your contribution Ahmed.

  2. Thanks for the information…
    Thanks for the information its helpful

    1. We are glad that this…
      We are glad that this information was useful to you Mercedittas.

  3. Does a small dick satisfy a…
    Does a small dick satisfy a woman or a huge one

    1. Hey Kbt, Sex is more than…
      Hey Kbt, Sex is more than penis size. As shown in the article above you will find that that a partner looks for more than just penis size. It helps to talk to your partner and get to know what they want or like during sex.

  4. can i lady leave you because…
    can i lady leave you because you like sex so much

    1. Hi Onyango, People will…

      Hi Onyango, People will break up for different reasons including when they feel that they are not compatible with the other person. This is why it is important to recognize the differences in partners and then find a middle ground that is comfortable for both. At times, you have to give up one thing to again another in a relationship. 

    1. Thank you for your…
      Thank you for your contribution Inno.

  5. IS good that u stayed…
    IS good that u stayed without sex relax u will cry With joy{

    1. We appreciate your…
      We appreciate your contribution Sammy.

  6. Hi, our sex has become…
    Hi, our sex has become boring how do we make it exciting like kitambo…

    1. Hey Saz, A good place to…

      Hey Saz, A good place to start is to talk about what is going on currently in your relationship and the agree on how you can make things better. The focus of the conversation should be what you both can do to make the experience better for you both and not to blame each other for the current situation. Have an open and honest conversation about what you both want and then go on to try out what you talked about. It may not work out as expected the first time but keep talking and keep trying. All the best. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  7. How do I get my partner to…
    How do I get my partner to communicate more during sex? Yeye hukua amenyamaza sana not sure whether am doing it right or not.

    1. Hey, have you talked with…

      Hey, have you talked with her about this? Talking about sex makes it better for both partners, on the other hand communication during sex should not just be verbal, it can also be non-verbal. This has to do with how she responds to for example to your touch. Check out the following articles for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/five-facts-to-know-about-erogenous-zones

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  8. I do agree with all that you…
    I do agree with all that you have said as and written down.

    1. Thank you for the feedback…

      Thank you for the feedback Kisha.

  9. Hawa get enjoyment of sex…
    Hawa get enjoyment of sex from someone near you who is attractive to you but make sure it’s not discovered by your distant boyfriend remember he is fucking someone else as you are suffering… Keep strong ? ? ? ?

  10. I really want to have sex…
    I really want to have sex with my boyfriend but am afraid because I have not done it before but I love him dearly

    1. Hey Zahra, first, you should…

      Hey Zahra, first, you should only have sex if you feel ready, you feel it is the right time and you are with the right person. Take time and learn as much as you can about sex before choosing to have it as this will help to address your fears. Also, when you do choose to have sex, remember to use protection to prevent unplanned pregnancies and Sexually Transmitted infections. Have a look at the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/virginity/first-time-sex-what-makes-it-good

  11. Thank you for the eye opener…
    Thank you for the eye opener am impressed

    1. You are welcome Chelsea and…

      You are welcome Chelsea and we are glad this was useful to you.

  12. FYI, it’s impossible to…
    FYI, it’s impossible to score 12.

    There are only 10 things that add points…

    1. Hey Luke, the items are…

      Hey Luke, the items are actually more than 12. Check again, there is always room for improvement.

  13. I had complications in my…
    I had complications in my testicles and one of them was removed..how can I ensure the safety of the remaining one cz sometimes I feel some mild pain on it which goes away after a few seconds

    1. Hi Christopher, 

      I am so…

      Hi Christopher, 

      I am so sorry to hear about what you have gone through. Kindly visit a doctor immediately for further tests and treatment. The doctor should also be in a position to advise you on the best treatment options and how to ensure that your testicle remains healthy. 

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    1. Hi Sam, 

      Thank you! And I…

      Hi Sam, 

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