How to keep having hot sex in a long-term relationship.
Mikhail Bakunovich

Tips for hot sex in long-term love

Long-term relationships can be rich and rewarding. On the other hand, sex could get stale and unexciting if you don’t step up your game. Keeping passion alive in the bedroom isn’t so difficult. Here are some tips to help keep your sex life fresh.

  • Have sex in new places

    To keep sex fresh you’ve got to make it new, and one of the best ways to do this is to have sex in new places. Start small. Make love in different places around the house, in the kitchen, for instance. From there, perhaps consider renting a hotel room every once in a while, or, if you’re feeling risqué, try doing it outdoors.

  • Vary the times

    Who said sex is supposed to be at night before going to bed? There are 24 hours in a day – make use of them! Have sex in the afternoon, or in the morning before work – it will set a positive tone for the entire day.

  • Try out new positions

    If you can count your repertoire of positions on one hand, it’s time you broaden your horizons. There are 64 sex positions in the Kamasutra alone…

  • Share your fantasies

    Don’t be one of those couples that spends their entire lives together without revealing their fantasies. A long-term relationship is good for getting so comfortable with each other that you can finally open up. Take advantage of that closeness and set aside a night to talk about your fantasies – your sex life will definitely benefit.

  • Focus on foreplay

    Foreplay is fantastic, and the longer it lasts the better your sex life will be. There’s plenty of experimentation to choose from, from oral sex to sex toys. Play with each other as much as possible to keep your sex fresh.

  • Try to watch porn together

    If you both agree, porn is a great way to inject a little excitement into your lovemaking. Your preferred style of adult entertainment may differ, but if you look around you should be able to find something you both enjoy. Not only will it get you in the mood, it could also provide you with new ideas.

  • Try new things with each other

    Sex doesn’t have to start with physical intimacy. You can begin building momentum with other intimate activities, for instance by trying something new, such as taking a dance or yoga class together. Or just go on a date together. Just because you’ve been a couple for a long while doesn’t mean you can’t take each other out on dates any more.

  • Hesitate to surprise your partner

    Whether it’s surprising your partner when they come home from work with candles or sexy lingerie, going down on them when they least expect it, or suggesting an unanticipated sexual experiment.

  • Underestimate flirtation

    Making romantic advances isn’t just for attracting the affection of someone you desire – it’s also playful and fun and can remind your partner that you’re still hot for them.

  • Be afraid of sex toys

    There’s nothing wrong with bringing a little outside help into the bedroom, especially in the form of adult toys. Particularly if they are new to you, they can really reinvigorate sex with an established long-term partner.

  • Rule out technology

    Now that smartphones are a part of our daily lives, why not take advantage of that technology to breathe life into your lovemaking? One example is sexting (foreplay with text messages), which can be a great way to fire up a workday and get both of you in the mood for the evening.

  • Be afraid to spend time apart

    If you’re in a long-term relationship with someone you truly care about, being away from them can be difficult. Sure, you want to spend as much time with them as you can, but it’s also important to have space to yourself. Being apart every once in a while allows you a bit of needed freedom and also makes both of you miss each other – an ideal way to keep a long-term relationship interesting.

    Do you have any more tips about keeping sex in long-term relationships fresh? Let us know by leaving a comment below or via Facebook.  

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    1. Carol,

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  4. wat ken a du 2 mek ma vagina
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      Thanks for your thoughts!

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  7. Hi my name is Dan,I work with
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    1. Dan,

      we suggest you ask her what’s going on.
      From personal experience, when traveling for work, things can be very busy, and even though you appear to be online, you might not really be.

  8. My partner just told me she
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    1. Gever,

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  9. My hubby cheated on me and I
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    1. Maria,

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  11. Pliz help me i had a fiance
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      Caira hurt breaks are very difficult to deal with. You need time to heal and move on before you are able to date again. If you try to date while you still harbor the pain of last relationship it will be difficult to be in one. Read this it might help you with that

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    1. Have you tried to tell him
      Have you tried to tell him that in those words?

  13. so i have been with my gul fr
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  14. I loved him n supported him
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  15. I have been dating this gal
    I have been dating this gal for six months en had sex twice which she enjoyed… Bt recently she suddenly changed… No more intimacy.. ie kisses, hugs… En on questioning her she says that she is trying to find out whether i am only after her body or if ts true love… I really love bt this change is driving me nuts.. Wat shd i do??

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      Viny you can talk to her and find out what love is to her and why she feel like you are not showing her love.

  16. hi,am joe…I had a gal n I
    hi,am joe…I had a gal n I loved her soo much…met on facebook a year back ….we loved each other …she really sacrificed herself to come to my place of wich she could have travelled for more than 500kms just to c something happened of which av neva got the clear picture of it….I started being unfair to her ….the trend continued for almost 4 months n finnally we broke up…of which upto now still itches my heart. I have tried to talk to her bt she is playing hard-to-get though she always replies my texts,sometimes she calls to just kno how am proggressing ….bt each time I introduces love matters, she is ever shocked n says NO to my every request I make to her ….though she calls me n texts me always ….I need an idea on wat to do …plz help

    1. Hi Jose, it souunds like you
      Hi Jose, it souunds like you broke her trust towards you. Trust is easy to loose and difficult to build back. You can try talking to her and find out ways of how you can build the trust back.

      You can also try things like keeping your promises, being honest and open always. All the best to you.

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