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Penis shapes and sizes

Penises come in all shapes and sizes. And they all look different: straight, curved, long, thick, thin, circumcised, uncircumcised. One is no better than the other.
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When soft, a penis is usually between 6 and 13 centimetres long. An erect one is usually somewhere between 7 and 17 centimetres long. The average erect penis is about 12 centimetres. Smaller penises grow more in size when they become erect compared to large penises.

Some boys and men joke a lot about the size of their penis or other people's penises. It’s often because they feel insecure, or because they want to look tough, or they want to make up for lack of knowledge.

If you want to measure your penis, do it when it’s erect, on the top side – the side closest to your belly.

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Does size matter?

If you have a bigger penis, it doesn’t make you a better lover, and it doesn’t mean you’ll have better sex.

Girls or women find foreplay, affection and relationship satisfaction as important as their partner’s penis size.

Related: Do Women Prefer Big Penises?

Do condoms come in different sizes?

Yes. When you buy condoms, it’s important to find ones that fit you. Most condoms are made to fit average erect penis sizes (4.7 to 5.9 inches/12 to 17centimetres).

Different condoms in different shapes and sizes

Related: Vagina Shapes and Sizes: Are They All The Same?

Do people from some ethnic groups have larger penises than others?

There is no conclusive evidence to prove that certain ethnic groups have larger penises than others.

However, some organisations such as the World Health Organization’s have reported slight ethnic differences in average erect penis size that men of:

  •     African descent have slightly longer and wider penises
  •     European descent have medium-sized penises
  •     Asian descent have slightly narrower and shorter penises

Can you tell the length of someone’s penis by the size of his hands or feet?

No. There is no relationship between having a bigger shoe size or larger hands and having a larger penis.

Can you make a penis bigger in length or width?

There are no non-surgical techniques that can permanently make a penis bigger.

Other penis enlargement products like pills, weights, and stretching devices don’t usually work in the long term. At worst they can be very dangerous to your health.

Related: Does Penis Enlargement Work?

What is a micropenis?

A micropenis is a penis that measures less than 2.75 inches/7centimetres in length when erect. It happens if the level of the male hormone testosterone is too low when the baby is developing in the womb. Most boys and men who are worried they have a micropenis and who see a doctor don’t actually have the condition.


Most often, the penis looks smaller than it really is because it’s hidden by fat around the genitals. In other cases, if a boy has not reached puberty just yet, his penis may appear smaller compared to his body size. This is not something to worry about, because once puberty starts, the penis will also grow in length and width.

Related: Testicle shapes and sizes: What's Normal?

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Hi Jackline, pain during sex is quite common so you are not alone. The pain may be caused by Vaginismus which is a condition where the muscles of the pelvis floor contract making penetration quite painful. The condition may occur from time to time, it may begin to occur later in life, it may occur in certain situations, or it may happen throughout one’s life.
The level of pain may also vary from mild to severe and from short term to long term. Vaginismus may be so severe that even wearing a tampon or going for a gynaecological exam is too painful
Vaginismus could be triggered by many issues both psychological, emotional and physical. These include fear or anxiety, trauma like rape or abuse, infections, menopause, inadequate foreplay, surgery to the area, or even as a side effect to medication.
Vaginismus is usually treated through a combination of physical and emotional exercises. If you feel that you may be going through this, have a conversation with your doctor.

This article has more information.

Fri, 05/08/2020 - 01:24 am
Hello why does my penis not erect for a longer can I correct this?? Because it can actually sleep just after the foreplay and therefore no more unfortunate

This is a very good question and a very common one as well. So, do not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see  doctor.
One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.

What you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety, or even stress. The anxiety that one will not perform can make one ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

There are a few things you can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity of the penis. 

In the long term one can ensure they eat healthily and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay also plays a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

The following articles provide more information;-

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Sat, 05/30/2020 - 09:55 pm
My penis is quite unpredictable sometimes it gets to a not so long or wideness then again it goes to a extremely long,width and has an above average thickness and length like a cucumber and bent like a banana.

Hi Emma, thank you so much for reaching out to us. You have asked a great question. An erection comes about as a result of arousal. Different people are aroused by different things but certain images and kinds of touch may cause arousal. Which is why intimate touch may lead to getting an erection.

Hi Emma, thank you for your question. Curved penises are pretty normal and as long so long as it stays under 30 degrees (the angle), does not increase, and does not cause any pain everything is fine. If these things occur then it is a sign of Peyronie’s Disease which is caused by scar tissue on the inside of the penis.

This article has some information on the issue that should be of help to you.

Hello Ben, thank you so much for your positive feedback and we are very glad that you are able to benefit from our content! We will definitely continue to produce more exciting and informative content for you to benefit from! Have a wonderful weekend ahead and stay safe! Thank you once again! :) 

Hi Masha, thank you for reaching out to us. What you are experiencing may be performance anxiety. This is perfectly normal and happens to a lot of people. You can get over it by trying t distract yourself, trying to get intimate in other ways, and being open with your partner about what you are going through so that you can find ways to think it through together. If you are really worried about this and it persists, you could see a medical practitioner for help and guidance on the way forward.

Hi Mfalme Wao, as the article says

"There are no non-surgical techniques that can permanently make a penis bigger. Other penis enlargement products like pills, weights, and stretching devices don’t usually work in the long term. At worst they can be very dangerous to your health."

Also you do not need a larger penis to be "better" at sex. Sex is always better when partners talk about it. Talk your partner to get to know what they like what they expect that way your sex lives will be greatly enhanced.

Hi Mose, thank you for reaching out to us. Your question forces us to ask one of you. What is a small penis? Is your penis less than 7 cm long when erect? Second, what is a loose vagina? There is a very common myth that a vagina can lose tightness and shape over time however this is not true. The muscles of the vagina are designed to snap back into shape even after childbirth.

Hi Mose, you sure can. There is no "ideal" amount of time that one should have sex however remember not to over-exert yourself. Also if you are trying to have sex for an extended amount of time remember to regularly check in with your partner as to their commfort. It is also likely that they will run out of lubrication so remember to use water-based lube to suplement what their body provides.

Hello Marian, welcome to Love Matters Africa. We provide honest information about Love, Sex and Relationships. Feel free to ask any questions and we shall be more than glad to respond to you. Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

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Hi Rono, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. That depends on many factors and can vary from time to time. Measured on a stopwatch, it takes an average of 5 to 7 minutes for a man to reach orgasm and ejaculate. But the overall range is wide, from less than one minute to over half an hour.

We are glad to help Samy! Please feel free to go through more of our content and let us know what you think and if you have any questions, do not hesitate to reach out! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

Hi Deejay kabbax, as the article above states, when soft, a penis is usually between 6 and 13 centimetres long. An erect one is usually somewhere between 7 and 17 centimetres long. The average erect penis is about 12 centimetres. Smaller penises grow more in size when they become erect compared to large penises.

Thank you so much Chrish for reaching out and opening up to us. What you are describing is known as Erectile dysfunction (ED) which is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Do not worry though, occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you believe might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information:

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