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Girlfriend screams with pain during sex

By Valentine Njoroge January 20, 05:08 am
I've tried breaking my girlfriend’s virginity and succeeded. Now every time I try penetrating her she screams in pain. How do I go about it?

Could it be because I have a big penis? Please help!

Wow! Having sex with a woman who is screaming in pain cannot be fun; you must feel like a monster each time. No wonder you wrote in.

Take a break

I suggest you give the intercourse part of lovemaking a rest until you learn how to give your girlfriend an orgasm with other means. Tell her this, it will make her relax because if you yourself are already uncomfortable, she is dreading your sexual attention. Trust me.

Focus on other areas

You could start with a kissing and caressing session with your clothes on and then focus on these much ignored erogenous zones:

  • Scalp:  Most people love a head massage, as it immediately puts us at ease. Gently touch your partner’s scalp, run your nails over it or massage more firmly – depending on what she likes.
     
  • Hands: Hands are personal and very sensitive, especially the fingertips. Give your woman a hand massage and watch her reaction, this is surprisingly erotic.
     
  • Feet: They respond best to firm touch. If you feel a little funny about feet, try washing them first before giving the massage
     
  • Stomach: Try a light touch to begin with, especially as you get lower and closer to the genitals. Try a firmer touch on the sides because we are all a little bit ticklish.

Now that your partner is comfortable, you could get naked and continue with your focus on her. Kiss and touch her more major erogenous zones until she has an orgasm.

Let her take the lead

Then ask her if she wants to try intercourse. I think your experience will be very different this time. Most women need about 25 minutes of foreplay before they are well aroused and lubricated. If necessary go out and buy some lubricant – wetter is always better.


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Comments
Anonymous
Thu, 03/20/2014 - 02:48 pm
Hi pliz help i have three kidz ,wen i got the 1st kid i had my glitories bt 2 n 3 third kid my clit reduced n become smal wat could be the problem.
Hi there, sorry to hear that this is causing you trouble. Your body can change after childbirth, that's quite normal. That the clitoris is also changing can happen. This is nothing you should worry about too much, but you could mention it to your doctor the next time you go for a check-up. Also, does this affect your sex life? The largest part of the clitoris is inside the vagina. Does the shrinking affect your ability to have orgasms? Let us know!
hey I love this guy so much.. and he never communicates with me yet he claims to love me.. if I fail to call or text him then we both gonna be silent on each other..what do I do? coz I have even talked to him about it but he says he is busy with work or tired after work.. should I be patient with him about this.. or move on..
monique
Sat, 02/28/2015 - 09:06 pm
am in love with this guy we usually text about us and he says he loves me via text but he has never said it to me face face and he rarely calls just texting might he be seeing someone else,what should i do?
i love this guy so much n sometimes back last year he brought me a ring it was a surprise but he did nt say anytin wat does this mean?again we had a fight yesterday abt a guy who asked em for my no the my boyfriend asked me if he cud give the other guy...i felt arkward cz i expect em to protect me even if the other guy does not know we are dating...am so troubled i tried talkin it out but he went quiet on me pls advice wat i should do
Peggy, you need to try to talk to him again. Relationships need to be based on trust and honesty, and you need to be able to be open with each other. Share all the things you shared with us with him and see what he has to say.
she says she feels abdominal pain for a week or so and sex.sometimes she feels like urinating but the she goes for it there is no urine that comes out, also during intercourse she is the one who does the pushing up and down, could this be a reason for the pain or it is about my positioning because sometimes she complains of not reaching the orgasm yet I do enough foreplay,plz help
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