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Penis shapes and sizes

Penises come in all shapes and sizes. And they all look different: straight, curved, long, thick, thin, circumcised, uncircumcised. One is no better than the other.

When soft, a penis is usually between 6 and 13 centimetres long. An erect one is usually somewhere between 7 and 17 centimetres long. The average erect penis is about 12 centimetres. Smaller penises grow more in size when they become erect compared to large penises.

Some boys and men joke a lot about the size of their penis or other people’s penises. It’s often because they feel insecure, or because they want to look tough, or they want to make up for lack of knowledge.

If you want to measure your penis, do it when it’s erect, on the top side – the side closest to your belly.

Bananas in different sizes and shapes arranged vertically

Does size matter?

If you have a bigger penis, it doesn’t make you a better lover, and it doesn’t mean you’ll have better sex.

Girls or women find foreplay, affection and relationship satisfaction as important as their partner’s penis size.

Related: Do Women Prefer Big Penises?

Do condoms come in different sizes?

Yes. When you buy condoms, it’s important to find ones that fit you. Most condoms are made to fit average erect penis sizes (4.7 to 5.9 inches/12 to 17centimetres).

Condoms
Different condoms in different shapes and sizes

Related: Vagina Shapes and Sizes: Are They All The Same?

Do people from some ethnic groups have larger penises than others?

There is no conclusive evidence to prove that certain ethnic groups have larger penises than others.

However, some organisations such as the World Health Organization’s have reported slight ethnic differences in average erect penis size that men of:

  •     African descent have slightly longer and wider penises
  •     European descent have medium-sized penises
  •     Asian descent have slightly narrower and shorter penises

Can you tell the length of someone’s penis by the size of his hands or feet?

No. There is no relationship between having a bigger shoe size or larger hands and having a larger penis.

Related: What determines penis size?

Can you make a penis bigger in length or width?

There are no non-surgical techniques that can permanently make a penis bigger.

Other penis enlargement products like pills, weights, and stretching devices don’t usually work in the long term. At worst they can be very dangerous to your health.

Related: Does Penis Enlargement Work?

What is a micropenis?

A micropenis is a penis that measures less than 2.75 inches/7centimetres in length when erect. It happens if the level of the male hormone testosterone is too low when the baby is developing in the womb. Most boys and men who are worried they have a micropenis and who see a doctor don’t actually have the condition.

micropenis

Most often, the penis looks smaller than it really is because it’s hidden by fat around the genitals. In other cases, if a boy has not reached puberty just yet, his penis may appear smaller compared to his body size. This is not something to worry about, because once puberty starts, the penis will also grow in length and width.

Related: Testicle shapes and sizes: What’s Normal?

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          2. Very nce one but how can l…
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    2. what if he is already…
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    3. When Virginia is not tight…
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          1. I mastubate alot can that…
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      1. Its you feel its not tight,…
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    5. I have a problem. I’ve once…
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      I also see my Penis small. It’s. About 4.5″
      But ladies tell me I’m good in bed. I’m confused as well.

      1. Hi Anon, thank you for…

        Hi Anon, thank you for reaching out to us. It is perfectly normal to take longer with one person over the other. This is particularly true if you are used to having sex with one over the other. Typically you will take longer to climax while having sex with a person you are used to.

    6. Can l erect to 10-12 inches…
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    7. i had such issue with my…
      i had such issue with my penis size but it grew with time and also eating healthy food that promote it growth. and truly it never about size but how well you can use it.

      1. Thank you for your input,…

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    8. Happy to know ethnicity is…
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    9. Have learnt something…
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        Hi Ladiki, we are so glad that you have learnt something and are always here to help. Thank you so much for reaching out and opening up to us. What you are describing is known as Erectile dysfunction (ED) which is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Do not worry though, occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you beleive might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information: 

        https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

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    10. Hey does a penis Matter…
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    12. CAN a person who has one…
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    18. Have learned that the size…
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  1. Wants the facts cause…
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  2. 12cm penis size can really…
    12cm penis size can really satisfy a woman in sexual encounter???

    1. Hi George,…
      Hi George,

      It helps to talk to your partner and get to know what she likes or wants during sex. You will find quality is perhaps more important at than quantity.

    2. Yes because it is not small…
      Yes because it is not small. So just learn how to enter and last for long

      1. Thank you Daniel for your…

        Thank you Daniel for your contribution.

      1. Thank you for your feedback…

        Thank you for your feedback William!

  3. I have a problem I do not…
    I have a problem I do not get enough erectoin

    1. Hey Patrick,…
      Hey Patrick,

      What do you mean you do not get enough erection?

      1. Hey Salim, what do you mean…

        Hey Salim, what do you mean by small in size?

    2. Normal men produce how many…
      Normal men produce how many times to satisfy the women

      1. Hi Jose, are you asking how…

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        https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/quantity-vs-quality-what-matters-when-it-comes-to-sex

        https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

  4. Can a pens be tested to be a…
    Can a pens be tested to be a Virgin?

    1. (No subject)
      Hello Mr Kingz,

      There are no tests to determine whether a man has had sex.

  5. How can I make may penis…
    How can I make may penis more taller and bigger

      1. My girlfriend infected me…
        My girlfriend infected me with gonnorrhea or syphillis which was treated by herbal medical then i lost my power. I cant have sex and my balls are shrinking what can i do

        1. Hi Daniel, did you get…

          Hi Daniel, did you get tested to get to know what exactly she infected you with? It is difficult to know what exactly the effect of the herbal medicine was. I suggest you visit a medical centre where tests will be conducted to determine what exactly Sexually Transmitted Infection you may have and the correct treatment will then be prescribed. It may also be useful to encourage your girlfriend to get treatment as well to avoid reinfection just incase you are still together. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe

          1. Hi Lucy, welcome to love…

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    1. I WANT MY PENIS TO BE BIG
      I WANT MY PENIS TO BE BIG

        1. I do release quick less than…
          I do release quick less than 2 minute see please what is the solution

          1. This is a very good question…

            This is a very good question and a very common one as well. So, do not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see  doctor.
            One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
            Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.
             

  6. I Will like to maker main …
    I Will like to maker main bigger how can I do??

  7. Is 5″ normal for an 18 year…
    Is 5″ normal for an 18 year old

    1. (No subject)
      Yes Ben this size is well within what is average for most men.

  8. Wat is the cure erection…
    Wat is the cure erection dysfunctioning or premature ejeculation…plz

    1. Hello Dennoh,…
      Hello Dennoh,

      First these two are different: Erectile Dysfunction is when one is unable to get or maintain an erection form enough for intercourse to happen while Premature Ejaculation is when one ejaculates sooner that they want to. The first place to start would to get to know what is causing this before moving on to solution or the cure as you have asked. Check pout the following articles that provide comprehensive information on what to do in either situation.

      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/four-signs-you-have-erectile-dysfunction
      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

    2. 1:Do physical exercises…
      1:Do physical exercises-running being the most dominant in ur timetable.This creates endurance and helps in blood flow.(most people overlook this fact)

      2:Eat some protein rich food and lots of juicy fruits-watermelon leading.juicy fruits are known to increase the amount of ejaculation.

      1. Thank you for your…
        Thank you for your contribution Hijos.

  9. When I was circumcised was…
    When I was circumcised was miss handled in that when I pee urine comes out in large amount like that of ladies.ie the hole at the head ruptured. Is there a way I can rectify this am not comfortable.

    1. Hi Robert, So sorry about…
      Hi Robert, So sorry about this. You may need to visit a specialist, to see whether this can be reversed. You can start with a general Doctor who will advice and perhaps refer you for the specialized treatment. We wish you well.

  10. My penis has no fat meaning…
    My penis has no fat meaning it is not thick how do i go aboutthis and rectify it?
    And it is not long probably 5 inches when erect pls help and again i have fat deposits in my thighs and buttocks.

      1. Hello Moraa, how would…

        Hello Moraa, how would Abstinence work to remedy the situation?

  11. What does the fucking sound…
    What does the fucking sound indicate during sex?(thok thok thok)

    1. Hey Jean, The sound coming…
      Hey Jean, The sound coming from the vagina is as a result of air that maybe trapped in the vagina from the penis in and out movement. If it bothers you try a different position but frankly sex is never quiet so you shouldn’t be bothered just enjoy your experience.

  12. Can this micropenis satisfy…
    Can this micropenis satisfy a woman?

    1. Yes a person with a micro…
      Yes a person with a micro-penis can satisfy their partner. Remember, the penis is not the only part involved in sex. Also, most women will not get an orgasm from intercourse only which does not give adequate attention to the clitoris which is one of the most sensitive parts. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

      1. is anal sex okay with your…
        is anal sex okay with your partner

        1. Hello Anonymous, thank you…

          Hello Anonymous, thank you for reaching out and asking a great question. Anal sex is perfectly fine to participate in as long as you and your partner are okay with it. Click here to find out more: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/anal-sex-the-new-frontier

          Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe! 

          Ps. Click on this link to find out more on information on facts about anal sex: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/anal-sex-top-five-facts

  13. I have a problem that I can…
    I have a problem that I can’t do without having a sex a night. I have never used any medic will that ruin my life as was told by others after i shared my problems with them

    1. Hi Hurp, This just means you…
      Hi Hurp, This just means you have a high sex drive and this is not an issue. The challenge maybe when you get into a relationship with a person who does not have the same sex drive as yours. This is fairly common that no two partners share the same sex drive. But if you are committed to the person you are with you can always find a middle ground that will work for you. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/syncing-for-sex-dos-and-donts

  14. Its all right as per the…
    Its all right as per the conversation

    1. Than you for your…
      Than you for your contribution Simon.

  15. Is there any effect when u…
    Is there any effect when u Romans the vagina during the process of sex

    1. Hi Simon, there is nothing…
      Hi Simon, there is nothing wrong with this if this is what you both want.

  16. I hav 20 inches Is it ok?
    I hav 20 inches Is it ok?

    1. Hi Honey, I am not clear…
      Hi Honey, I am not clear what your question but 20 inches is outside what is the average penis size.

  17. How can surgery increase the…
    How can surgery increase the size of the penis??? Does it make the penis long or thick???? And how????

    1. Hi Bob, It is not possible…
      Hi Bob, It is not possible to explain the procedure here but one can discuss what they want with the surgeon who will then advice on what is possible and what will be done.

  18. Mine is small and thin.my…
    Mine is small and thin.my partner is not comfortable with it.what can I do?

  19. Hi? I really like the…
    Hi? I really like the conversation. Am a male and I have hormonal imbalance this means that I have more female hormones than those of men. Am more attracted to male than female and sometimes I feel like am gay.Kindly help am deeply disturbed.

    1. Hi Mike, What makes you feel…
      Hi Mike, What makes you feel you have a hormonal imbalance. Being gay means that you are attracted to a person of the same sex, emotional, physically and sexually. Therefore, have sexual feeling only doesn’t necessarily mean that you are gay. You may want to give yourself time to get to understand yourself and your explore your sexuality. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/sexual-diversity/sexual-orientation/feeling-gay-feeling-abnormal

  20. I don’t reach orgersm what’s…
    I don’t reach orgersm what’s the problem

  21. HELLO…
    HELLO
    WHAT COULD BE THE SIDE EFFECTS OF USING THAT PENIS ENLARGEMENT GEL

    1. Hi Daniel, first these…
      Hi Daniel, first these products don’t give permanent results only surgery will. Creams may cause a reduced sensitivity, nerve damage among other side effects. Sex is more about intimacy and understanding the needs of your partner as opposed to just size. You just might find your partner appreciates passionate foreplay. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/penis-size-myths-busted

  22. After fucking a lady and…
    After fucking a lady and before wiping your penis sometimes you find a mucous substance on your penis . What colour of that mucous should it be ? Sometimes its a clear mucous and others its milky and creamish . Which one means the lady is healthy and not promiscous ????

    1. Hi Dave, you seem to be…
      Hi Dave, you seem to be describing the two kinds of discharge that can be produced. These include lubrication which is a clear fluid that is the result of arousal and the second is a milky liquid which is released following orgasm by a woman. Unless you have been with the person for a long time you may not be able to tell the changes however the lady may tell when they see any drastic changes in smell, color or quantity, especially in combination with itching, pain or redness, it could be a sign of infection. The discharge will not tell you if the lady is promiscuous, if you have fears or concerns you may want to talk to your partner and perhaps use a condom if you are unsure of your partner. Check out the following article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/female-body/vaginal-discharge-top-facts

  23. There are some times I take…
    There are some times I take long to orgasm and some tyms it takes short wat causes dat

  24. Hi.is true that the size of…
    Hi.is true that the size of ur penis can it be determined by the size of your hand rap.

    1. Hi John, No. There is no…
      Hi John, No. There is no relationship between the size of a persons hand or foot with the size of their penis.

  25. How can I make my long and…
    How can I make my long and big(7inches)?

  26. Is the size of a penis same…
    Is the size of a penis same with that of the hand rap???

    1. Hi John, There is no…
      Hi John, There is no relationship between the penis size and a persons hand or even foot.

  27. Measuring in inches how…
    Measuring in inches how about centimeters.. 1 inch equals ?centimeter?

    1. Hi Amos, 1 inch is equal to…
      Hi Amos, 1 inch is equal to 2.54 cm.

  28. when i ejaculate my penis…
    when i ejaculate my penis becomes soft and it take time to get hard again…it annoys my patner…what can i do to maintain the erection

    1. Hi Peter, This is completely…
      Hi Peter, This is completely normal, for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/erection-top-five-facts

  29. I can not errect for about…
    I can not errect for about 30 minutes while having sex,do i have a problem,help

  30. How long should one take for…
    How long should one take for the best sex act!

  31. What problems am I looking…
    What problems am I looking at in case of no foreskin retraction?

  32. Am addicted to murstabation…
    Am addicted to murstabation,and my penis is gettinh weak every day,what can i do to gain my man power again…plz hlp mh

  33. My dick is big enough and I…
    My dick is big enough and I’m black so my dick is wide and long with a curve meaning that I have a big dick and also I’m only 12 and my dick is close to 10 inches

  34. Hello Kevin, penises come in…
    Hello Kevin, penises come in all shapes and sizes. And they all look different: straight, curved, long, thick, thin, circumcised, uncircumcised. One is no better than the other. During puberty, one of the changes that a man experiences is the growth of penis- width and length. So nothing to worry.

  35. I am a male with 21 years…
    I am a male with 21 years and I have never had sex in whole of my life.I feel like having sex but my elders advise me to abstain.will this affect my sex perfomance in marriage?

  36. Hey Bornny, Not having sex…
    Hey Bornny, Not having sex will not affect your performance in marriage. When you do plan to get marriage, learn as much as you can about sex and once married be open to learning and talk about it with your partner so you can get to know what you both like and you will just fine.

  37. I have been 4 along time my…
    I have been 4 along time my penis has grown weak my girl said kwani ni kadogo aje??what can I do iwe kubwa

    1. Hello Josef, …
      Hello Josef,

      What do you mean when you say your penis has become weak? Having a big or small penis doesn’t mean that you will have a better sex life. Better sex is achieved by understanding what you and your partner find pleasurable. Penis enlargement techniques dont work, actually that may damage your sexual organ. Check out this article: https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/penis-enlargement-doesnt-work

  38. What are the side effects of…
    What are the side effects of masterpetion?
    What is a good and safe method of family planning?

  39. I av a problem of…
    I av a problem of ejaculating b4 penetration, what could b da probrem

    1. Hi Mafor, this means you get…

      Hi Mafor, this means you get too sexually exited too soon leading to premature ejaculation. What you may need to do is to try and control this sexual excitement. This you can do by taking shot breaks when you feel the excitement is building, including deep breaths. Check out this article for more tips of what you can to manage this. https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  40. hey my penis small and when…
    hey my penis small and when I am horny my penis can’t stand alone I don’t kno what is wrong with me what does this mean

    1. Hey Mo, What do you mean by…

      Hey Mo, What do you mean by it cant stand alone? Also, as you have seen in the above article, Penises come in different sizes and even shapes. What you may think is small may just be within what is normal. 

  41. what cause not to have a…
    what cause not to have a permanent size of a penis? mine changes it apears 4” but when erected is 5”6”and7”mostly 6” is it normal

  42. Is it contagious to kiss a…
    Is it contagious to kiss a clean vagina or penis with mouth?

  43. Once i look at a lady i do …
    Once i look at a lady i do erect very fast why ?

  44. why do most women proud a…
    why do most women proud a crying sound during sex

  45. my penis is curved downwards…
    my penis is curved downwards is that alright?

  46. A Palm Of Penis Is…
    A Palm Of Penis Is Eguivalent To How Many Inches

    1. Hi Kelenge, penises come in…
      Hi Kelenge, penises come in different sizes and shapes. Have a look at the article above for more information about penis sizes.

  47. I don’t enjaculate during…
    I don’t enjaculate during sex.. help me

    1. Hello Joshua, what you are…
      Hello Joshua, what you are experiencing is known as Delayed Ejaculation, where it takes prolonged stimulation for a man to ejaculate usually over 30 minutes with some men not ejaculating at all. Sometimes this maybe something that happens occassionally other times it maybe a lifelong experience. It’s can be caused by anumber of issues including, psychological issues like stress, anxiety or even depression which supress sexual desire, effects of medication one could be taking including the use of alcohol or health issues. The first step is to find out what underlying issues could be causing the delayed or complete lack of ejaculation and then recommend necessary treatment. Consider visiting a Urologist, especially if you have never ejaculated in your life, who will listen to your challenge, cary tests and recomment possible treatment. We wish you well.

  48. it’s very important to have…
    it’s very important to have medical health comments thanks.

  49. i hd sex with ma gf the 2nd…
    i hd sex with ma gf the 2nd tyme buh i ejaculated frequently like after every 2 minutes for like 7tymez,is it normal

    1. Hey Hazard, what you maybe…

      Hey Hazard, what you maybe experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation where you ejaculate sooner than you wish. This is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article with more tips ;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  50. My penis is bent to the…
    My penis is bent to the right can I really have sex AND ENJOY IT with this bent penis?

    1. Hey Kimiyo, penises come in…

      Hey Kimiyo, penises come in different sizes and shapes and it is also common to have a bent penis. A bent penis should only be a concern if it id bent significantly to the point that you are unable to have intercourse or having intercourse is painful. This means that you can have sex and greatly enjoy it and your partner also. If the pain is too much that you can no longer have sex, then it’s time to seek medical help. Your doctor might prescribe medication, and in some cases surgery to correct the situation. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/help-my-penis-is-bent

  51. Tell me these aren’t real…
    Tell me these aren’t real letters….

    1. Hi there, they actually are…

      Hi there, they actually are and you can also share any questions or concerns on Love, Sex, and Relationships and our moderators will respond to you. 

  52. Can my small penis break the…
    Can my small penis break the virginity of a girl? I finish first can it affect me not to break her virginity?

    1. Hi Tito, having a bigger…

      Hi Tito, having a bigger penis, doesn’t make one a better lover, and it doesn’t mean one will have better sex. Girls or women find foreplay, affection and relationship satisfaction as important as their partner’s penis size. Try focus on your partner, spend sufficient time in foreplay, get to know what she likes and work on having a great relationship. These will not only make your relationship better but also your sex life. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

  53. My partner feels that I have…
    My partner feels that I have a very big penis. The last we were together she complained of pain and we had to stop because I didn’t want to hurt her. I have not had such an experience and my penis is not huge as she thinks is there another problem. It getting very frustrating.

    1. Hi Jose, penis size can…

      Hi Jose, penis size can cause pain especially if partners don’t spend sufficient time in foreplay. Foreplay leads to arousal which inturns gets the vagina to lubricate making penetration easier and enjoyable. It helps to communicate with your partner during sex and to make sure she is relaxed and the vagina is well lubricated before penetration. The position during sex can also lead to pain, partners may have to change positions to find what works without discomfort. Be patient with your partner, eventually you will find what works and what leads to pleasure for you both. Check out this article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/painful-sex-time-to-listen-up

  54. Sperms coming in low speed…
    Sperms coming in low speed.is this normal?

  55. Hii, I’m cuming very early…
    Hii, I’m cuming very early while having sex. May I know some tips to live long with out cuming early while having sex.

    1. Hi Cherry, What you are…

      Hi Cherry, What you are experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article with tips on how to control ones ejaculation;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  56. Is it normal For my erect…
    Is it normal For my erect penis to point upwards (Practically parallel to my body). What positions best suit this

    1. Hi Obama, There are big…

      Hi Obama, This is completely normal, there are, however, big variations in the size and angle of erections, which can be influenced by things like circumcision and genetics. Most people will have erections that point straight forward, but a significant number of people also have an erections that point nearly or completely straight up against their abdomen area. As to which sex position will fit this, it is important you talk with your partner and try out different positions to see which one you both enjoy and is comfortable for both of you. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/overview-the-male-body

  57. How can I increase my sex…
    How can I increase my sex drive

    1. Hello Badger, it is…

      Hello Badger, it is important to begin by figuring out what is causing  low libido or low sex drive. Often times low libido is caused by psychological factors or by the body not producing enough of the hormone testosterone. Getting to know what is causing this helps to determine what steps should be taken. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

  58. I weight 210 I have belly…
    I weight 210 I have belly fat. If I loose the weight well my penis grow

    1. Hey JT, shedding a few…

      Hey JT, shedding a few pounds if you are overweight can help make your penis look bigger, it however won’t make the penis grow. Fat makes your penis look smaller. The penis is anchored to your body at the base, which means that if you gain weight the bottom part of your penis disappears beneath the fat. So shedding some weight will help reduce this fat making the penis appear bigger. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/can-i-make-my-penis-bigger

  59. Does a big penis make a man…
    Does a big penis make a man better in bed?

  60. I am not sure where you’re…
    I am not sure where you’re getting your information, but good topic.

    I needs to spend some time learning more or understanding more.
    Thanks for magnificent info I was looking for
    this info for my mission.

    1. Thank you. Keep on reading!

      Thank you. Keep on reading!

  61. it so educating, pls I want…
    it so educating, pls I want to know, does a man control’s when he can released in a woman?

    1. Hey Anita, yes a man can…

      Hey Anita, yes a man can control his ejaculation. Sometimes however, one may not be able to control their ejaculation so that it comes much earlier than they want or it comes later than they wish or not at all and it may take some practice and exercises or even treatment for them to be able to better control their ejaculation. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

  62. So I an satisfy my gal even…
    So I an satisfy my gal even if I have a small dick?

    1. Hi Ericko, yes you and your…

      Hi Ericko, yes you and your partner can still have satisfying sex. Having a bigger penis doesn’t make one a better lover. Girls or women find foreplay, affection and relationship satisfaction as important as their partner’s penis size. Also, it helps to talk about sex with your partner to get to know what they really want during sex. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  63. thank you have gained…
    thank you have gained confidence

    1. You are welcome Ezekiel.

      You are welcome Ezekiel.

  64. You should just be happy…
    You should just be happy with what you have eeeeh. But what if your partner want a big penis?

    1. Hey Merry, yes one cannot…

      Hey Merry, yes one cannot make their penis bigger but on the other hand having a bigger penis doesn’t make one a better lover. Understanding your partner’s needs and responding to those needs is likely to leave your partner happy. It helps to talk with ones partner to get to know what they like during sex. Check out this articles for additional tips;-

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/big-penis-is-that-what-women-want

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

  65. Two quiz
    1.does masturbation…

    Two quiz
    1.does masturbation affect the sperm count and does it make one have pre mature ejaculation during sex?
    2.is masturbation healthy?

    1. Hey Steve, masturbation does…

      Hey Steve, masturbation does not affect ones sperm count, as long as ones sexual organs are healthy masturbation will not affect sperm count. Masturbation doesn’t cause premature ejaculation. Lastly, masturbation has no negative medical effect, and it can be a great and safe way for one to explore their own sexuality. Check out the following article for additional information;-https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted

    1. Hey Tony, we appreciate the…

      Hey Tony, we appreciate the feedback.

  66. I have a big penis and most…
    I have a big penis and most of the time during sex my partner reach’s climax before me ending to complain what should I do.

    1. Hey Kennedy, this can be…

      Hey Kennedy, this can be really frustrating for both partners. Unfortunately, ejaculating all at the same time can be challenging to achieve for most couples, many times one will climax moments before the other. To achieve this, what you may have to do, is to communicate during sex, take short breaks when either of you feels the sensation to climax, to delay the climax as much as possible for the other partner. THis may take time but with practice you will be able to achieve it. Having said that, partners can still enjoy sex even without ultimately ejaculating. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-women

  67. I was circumcised nd my…
    I was circumcised nd my penis remained short wat can i do

    1. Hey Myk, circumcision is a…

      Hey Myk, circumcision is a process of removing the foreskin on the penis and this process doesn’t encourage any further growth of the penis. However, if circumcision was done when a person is still in the puberty stage, it is natural to expect the penis to continue growing and reach its full growth by the age of 15 years. Have a look at the following;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/puberty-in-boys-what-to-expect

  68. Is it true that when a man…
    Is it true that when a man becomes fat his penis becomes small?

  69. During sex I can feel to…
    During sex I can feel to enjoy because im not sensitive I’m not sure, and sometimes it takes me for ever to cum or I don’t even cum at all and I have to fake sometimes. what do you think?

    1. Hello Joe, What you are…

      Hello Joe, What you are experiencing is known as Delayed Ejaculation. Where you ejaculate much later than you want to or you don’t even get to ejaculate during intercourse. Other than age, it can also be caused by psychological factors. This could be fear of sex, stress or depression. If this is happening frequently it is important to get a check up. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

  70. Everytime I make out with my…
    Everytime I make out with my girlfriend I find a mucus kind of fluid coming from my penis? Is this supposed to happen? If yes what is it for?

    1. Hey Daniel, this is…

      Hey Daniel, this is completely normal. When a  guy gets aroused, he gets an erection and also a clear fluid called pre-ejaculate comes out of the end of their penis. this fluid helps to lubricate should they decide to have intercourse. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/his-orgasms

  71. Why do I get erections when…
    Why do I get erections when I am not thing about sex?

  72. i lack a penis glans since…
    i lack a penis glans since it was accidentally cut during circumcision..can i be able to pregnant a woman and my size is only 3″

    1. Hi Isaac, so sorry about…

      Hi Isaac, so sorry about this. Yes you can get a woman pregnant since producing sperm has nothing to do with your penis size or even the lack of the glans. If you are producing healthy sperms you can get a woman pregnant. Have a look at the following articles for more information;-

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/penis-top-five-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/eight-tips-to-keep-your-sperm-healthy

  73. I want to enlerge my penis
    I want to enlerge my penis

    1. Hi, the only way to…

      Hi, the only way to permanently enlarge your penis is to get surgery done. This is also comes with different complications. Having said that, having a larger penis doesn’t make one a better lover. It is important for one to talk with their partner to get to know what they want and like during this. This is what will help enhance the experience for both partners. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/six-myths-about-increasing-penis-size

  74. Does adding weight like a…
    Does adding weight like a big belly make your penis small?

  75. Please can aenia cause…
    Please can aenia cause quick ejaculation.and if it cause it what is the remedy

    1. Hey Kabir, premature…

      Hey Kabir, premature ejaculation is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for more information on how your partner can try manage this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation 

  76. Can you make your penis…
    Can you make your penis bigger? How?

    1. Hi there, there is no way to…

      Hi there, there is no way to enlarge your penis other than surgery which may also present complications. Having said that, the size of your penis doesn’t determine whether one will be a good lover. Getting to know what your partner wants and enjoys during sex goes along way toward making the experience better for both partners. Check out the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/penis-enlargement-doesnt-work

  77. WHICH OF THE SEX STYLES IS…
    WHICH OF THE SEX STYLES IS GOOD FOR CONCEPTION?

  78. But I have seen many product…
    But I have seen many product being advertised to make someone penis bigger. Do you mean all these don’t work at all?

  79. What do you if your…
    What do you if your girlfriend complain all the time that you div=ck is very big it make her feel pain?

    1. It is important that sex…

      It is important that sex doesn’t cause pain for either partner. Penis size is one of the reasons for painful sex but also having dry sex sex is a major cause of pain. The position during sex can also cause pain. It is important to spent sufficient time in foreplay which helps to make the vagina moist making penetration easier and enjoyable. Have a look at the following;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/painful-sex-time-to-listen-up

  80. What do you do if your penis…
    What do you do if your penis is curved? Can this make you ejaculate early during sex?

    1. Hi Ezekiel, penises come in…

      Hi Ezekiel, penises come in different shapes and sizes including curved ones. It is therefore normal for a penis to be curved. It should only be a concern if the penis is curved to the point you can’t have sex or sex is painful. A curved penis doesn’t cause premature ejaculation, it is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Have a look at the following article for more information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/curved-penis-top-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/i-come-too-soon

  81. How do you know if your…
    How do you know if your girlfriend is satisfied with sex?

    1. Hi Dav, you could ask your…

      Hi Dav, you could ask your girlfriend to see if they are satisfied. Talking about sex helps to improve the experience for your and your partner. I suggest you talk to your partner to get to know what they like and want during sex to help enhance your experience and chances of satisfaction. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  82. Is true that fat girls are…
    Is true that fat girls are watery and for to enjoy sex with one of them you must have a big penis?

    1. Hi Andrew, this is just a…

      Hi Andrew, this is just a myth. Vaginal wetness during sex has to do with arousal and not the body size of the girl. Also, one can simply wipe off some of the lubrication during sex. Vaginal wetness is important for sex to be enjoyable for both partners. Partner can therefore still enjoy sex. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/the-myth-of-the-wet-vagina

  83. Do masturbation increase…
    Do masturbation increase penis size

  84. How to make vaginal warm?
    How to make vaginal warm?

  85. I have heard of penis sprays…
    I have heard of penis sprays that numb the penis to last longer. Just want to know which is the best brand to use. Does it have any effect on the woman, will she become numb also when a man is using?

    1. Hey Jaymo, there are…

      Hey Jaymo, there are different penis sprays out there and it is important to talk to your health provider about the options in your location and carefully ready the instruction for use. Also, it is useful to talk to your partner when using such a product. Using it correctly will ensure minimal negative effects. 

  86. Can you get an STI from…
    Can you get an STI from eating pussy?

  87. I ejaculate soo fast when…
    I ejaculate soo fast when sexing with my girlfriend why?

    1. Hey Kariuki,  What you are…

      Hey Kariuki,  What you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things one can do to overcome this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/i-come-too-soon Also, overcoming this will take practice and time, and for this reason your partner will need your support and understanding.  

  88. I only have one testicle? Am…
    I only have one testicle? Am i really fertile can I get someone pregnant with this condition?

    1. Hello Joab, this is also…

      Hello Joab, this is also known as Monorchism, which means having only one testicle. This is often because the missing testicle is hiding inside the body, and hasn’t or never dropped down into the scrotum. Secondly, having one testicle doesn’t mean one is infertile, one can can still produce enough sperm to get a women pregnant. Check out the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/monorchism-top-facts-about-the-missing-ball

  89. Why do I get erections when…
    Why do I get erections when I wasn’t thinking about sex at all? Hii ni normal?

  90. What should you when you…
    What should you when you girlfriend always says she is not satisfied with sex?

    1. Hello Joakim, sex is better…

      Hello Joakim, sex is better when partners talk about it. Find a good time and talk with your partner to get to know what she wants and what she likes during sex and also share with her what you like. This way you will both getting to know what you are looking for and what you both enjoy hence the experience will be better. Have a look at the following articles for additional tips;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

    1. You are welcome Emmy.

      You are welcome Emmy.

  91. Pls my penis is tiny can I…
    Pls my penis is tiny can I make it bigger

    1. Hello Joel, first, there’s…

      Hello Joel, first, there’s little you can do to increase your penis size. The only option that is likely to work is surgery and even this options comes with complications. Having said that, having a bigger penis doesn’t make one a better lover, however getting to know what your partner likes does. You will find that girls like an extended foreplay session. Do talk with your partner and get to know what they want and like. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/six-myths-about-increasing-penis-size

  92. i keep on erecting anyhowly…
    i keep on erecting anyhowly.is it wrong?

  93. My libido is low what do I…
    My libido is low what do I do?

    1. Hi Ben, you need to begin by…

      Hi Ben, you need to begin by finding out what is causing low libido. Many times the cause of low libido is psychological factors including stress or depression. Others causes include relationship problems, low testosterone levels and underlying medical conditions. Knowing what is causing the low libido is the first step toward addressing it. Also, it is normal to not feel like having sex once in a while, but when  this is consistently happening, it is important to take a closer look. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

  94. My penis is 17cm long but…
    My penis is 17cm long but its thin am worried bcoz wen I fuck my partner doesn’t make any sound and that makes it boring what should I do

    1. Hey Josh, different people…

      Hey Josh, different people enjoy different things during sex and some people will not make a sound and this doesn’t mean they are not enjoying the experience. The way to get to know if your partner is enjoying sex is to talk about and get to know what it is they like and enjoy. Find a good time and talk about sex, get to know what your partner likes and have them tell you what they like and want. If you would like for them to respond verbal, do let them know. This will greatly enhance the experience for your both. Have a look at the following articles for more tips;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/noisy-sex-why-women-moan-and-scream-in-bed

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  95. Everydayin the morning when…
    Everydayin the morning when I wake up my penis is erect whey? It makes urinating difficult and sometimes there is pain. Please explain.

    1. Hi David, this is completely…

      Hi David, this is completely normal. Getting night-time erections is a normal part of a healthy guy’s life, and one is not able to control whether they have them or not. The discomfort maybe as a result of the expanding and contracting of the blood vessels in the penis. If this pain persists for longer periods, it maybe important to seek medical advice. Check this out;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/the-truth-about-morning-wood

  96. Does the size of your balls…
    Does the size of your balls affect the size of your dick?

    1. You are welcome Nicodemus.

      You are welcome Nicodemus.

  97. My penis is very bent it’s…
    My penis is very bent it’s embarassing. Is there medication to correct it?

  98. I have been masturbating…
    I have been masturbating from when I was 13 years. I am now 23 but I ejaculate when we are still caressing and kissing. What should do to for my erection to last longer?

    1. Hello Ishmael, it seems you…

      Hello Ishmael, it seems you get sexually excited to soon and you are unable to control your ejaculation. This is known as premature ejaculation. Controlling your ejaculation and lasting long is something you can learn to do. Sexual inexperience is one of the reasons for premature ejaculation, but with experience one is able to gain better control of their ejaculation. Have a look at this article for some tips on how to address premature ejaculation;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  99. At least I now know I am…
    At least I now know I am above average ??

    1. Hi Biko, we are glad that…

      Hi Biko, we are glad that this was good information for you. 

  100. They say size is not the…
    They say size is not the issue but how can I satisfy a girl irregardless of my dick size?0

    1. Hello Joe, having a bigger…

      Hello Joe, having a bigger penis does make one a better lover. So first, you need to talk with your partner to get to know what they like and enjoy during sex. This way you know exactly what they want and enjoy. Sex is better when partner talk about it. Also, you will find that your girlfriend will enjoy an extended session of foreplay. Lastly, there little you can do to increase your penis size, hence, you best bet is to get to know the different things your partner enjoys. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/penis-size-myths-busted

  101. I mastibate since teenager…
    I mastibate since teenager and now am 28 i observed that my penis dont stand too erect and a lost for sex urge unlike before and I fine it difficult to control pls I need your advice on what to do to restore my dick to former glory ….I have place order for grandex xls

    1. Hello Rayarn, I am not sure…

      Hello Rayarn, I am not sure what you mean by restoring your penis to its former glory…masturbation has no negative effect speaking from a medical point of view. When masturbating the only goal maybe to ejaculate and overtime one learns to to ejaculate sooner. This is something one can unlearn and learn how to control their ejaculation. If you need to use any medicines, ensure you get a prescription from a health provider to avoid negative effects of the medicines. Have a look at the following article for additional information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-your-burning-questions-answered

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts

  102. I heard that you can…
    I heard that you can approximate if a guy has a big or small penis if you look at his height, shoe size or size of his hands. Please confirm if it is true because there is a guy who is into me and I need to know first.thanks.

  103. What are effects of…
    What are effects of musturbation

  104. At what age will the penis…
    At what age will the penis stop to grow?

  105. I have noticed when I…
    I have noticed when I masturbate before I ejaculate another fluid comes out that is not sperm. I have never had sex with anyone. Am I ok?

  106. Girls with big butts have…
    Girls with big butts have tight pussies tell me if it is true…

  107. What about people who…
    What about people who ejaculate as soona sthey start having sex what should they do?

    1. Hey Kilo, this is known as…

      Hey Kilo, this is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling their ejaculation. There are a few things one can do to overcome premature ejaculation, have a look at the following article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  108. Is there any side effects to…
    Is there any side effects to a man who masturbates?

  109. I’m sex lady in my bed. But…
    I’m sex lady in my bed. But later I don’t have more power to continue again. What next.

    1. Hey Emucee, it is completely…

      Hey Emucee, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where the penis cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

  110. Please, I want to ask…
    Please, I want to ask something? A penis of 19cm and girth 10cm. Is it okay?

    1. Hi Liv, Penises come in all…

      Hi Liv, Penises come in all manner of shapes and sizes. The size and shape should only be a concern if it affects the quality of ones life or it make sex difficult or painful. 

  111. IS TRUE THAT IF YOU ADD ALOT…
    IS TRUE THAT IF YOU ADD ALOT OF WEIGHT YOUR PENIS WILL SHRINK?

    1. Hi Ben, this is not true…

      Hi Ben, this is not true. You body weight does make your penis shrink neither will it make it bigger. Weight may cause an accumulation of fat around the groin area making the penis appear smaller but this doesn’t mean it has grown smaller. In some cases one just needs to shave the pubic hair to make the penis look bigger. Check out this article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/can-i-make-my-penis-bigger

  112. When does the penis stop…
    When does the penis stop growing?

  113. Can a penis pump make your…
    Can a penis pump make your penis bigger?

      1. What do you mean by surgery…
        What do you mean by surgery done?

        1. Hey Bob, getting or having a…

          Hey Bob, getting or having a surgery or an operation done on ones penis to have it increased in size. 

  114. What happens when a woman…
    What happens when a woman gives birth and he vagina enlarges and your Penis cannot satisfy her anymore?

    1. Hello Dixon, sex after…

      Hello Dixon, sex after pregnancy and child will not be the same, but this doesn’t mean that vagina is big to the point that partners will no longer enjoy sex. Remember, the vagina has muscles so that it stretches to allow the passage of a baby during birth but relaxes back to allow for enjoyable sex. Check out the following article;-

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/sex-after-pregnancy-myths-and-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/sex-after-pregnancy-top-five-facts

  115. Every time I get an erection…
    Every time I get an erection I feel pain in my penis I can’t event enjoy sex at all. What is the problem? I have tested for STI but it was negative.

  116. What is the problem if a boy…
    What is the problem if a boy pouts sperm when yoh are still romancing and then the penis falls and refuse to stand again even if you caress him and kiss him everywhere?

    1. Hello Dona, this means that…

      Hello Dona, this means that your partner get too excited too quickly and he is unable to control his ejaculation. This is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for more information on how your partner can try manage this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

      Secondly, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where the cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, the body is just telling them that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so one has just try to and work with their own body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then your partner needs to take the time to recharge and focus on you. They can give you pleasure in other ways. They will become hard again in no time and continue.

  117. How can you make a girl to…
    How can you make a girl to climax during sex?

  118. Which food should i eat to…
    Which food should i eat to keep my penis hard for long time?

    1. Hey Husna, just try and eat…

      Hey Husna, just try and eat healthy meals and avoid alot of unprocessed meals. Lasting long also depends on what is causing it in the first place.  Premature ejaculation is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make them ejaculate much earlier or stress from either the relationship or work could also affect how soon they ejaculate. In younger men, it could be the result of sexual inexperience, as one gets older however and also gains more experience they become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few things one can do to overcome it, see the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation 

  119. Hi, I cum very early while…
    Hi, I cum very early while having sex. May I know some tips to stay long without cuming early?

    1. Hello Simon, what you maybe…

      Hello Simon, what you maybe experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out the following article for what you can do to better control this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  120. I didnt know condoms also…
    I didnt know condoms also come in different but now I know…

    1. They Do Seph, now you know. 

      They Do Seph, now you know. 

  121. What is the best sex…
    What is the best sex position?

  122. Is it true that a girl that…
    Is it true that a girl that a girl who has given birth has a wide vagina and a man cannot enjoy sex with her anymore?

    1. Hi Priscah, intercourse only…

      Hi Priscah, intercourse only may not get you to orgasm since it doesn’t give sufficient attention to one of the most sensitive parts – the clitoris. Your partner needs to give the clitoris attention by for instance stroking it for you to perhaps orgasm during sex. Get to know for yourself what will get you there and share that information with your partner. Remember, sex is better when partners talk about. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms

  123. How can you stop wet dreams?
    How can you stop wet dreams?

  124. I have a problem of not…
    I have a problem of not erecting and if I try, I don’t last for ten minutes

    1. Hi Bob, if you are…

      Hi Bob, if you are consistently failing to get or maintain an erection you may be experiencing Erectile Dysfunction and for this reason you need to seek medical advice. However, it is normal for a man to fail to get an erection or maintain one at some point. The reasons are likely to be psychological issues like stress, fear or anxiety. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-top-five-facts

  125. My girl friends have been…
    My girl friends have been running out from our love cave became I have no erection power to perform well in bed, how can you help me?

  126. My penis is long and thin…
    My penis is long and thin can it really satisfy a girl?

    1. Hey Edward, yes you can…

      Hey Edward, yes you can. Remember having a bigger or thicker penis doesn’t make you a better lover, and it doesn’t mean you’ll have better sex. Girls or women find foreplay, affection and relationship satisfaction as important as their partner’s penis size. Also, talking to your partner helps to get to know what they really want during sex. Check this out;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  127. How can I satisfy a girl in…
    How can I satisfy a girl in bed?

  128. How do I find a girl’s …
    How do I find a girl’s Gspot please.

  129. If your penis is small can…
    If your penis is small can you really satisfy your partner. Most African ladies want big dicks

    1. Hello Francis, thank you for…

      Hello Francis, thank you for your question. While speaking of a small penis remember that an erect penis is usually somewhere between 2.7 and 6.7 inches. If you feel that your penis is smaller than this, there aare sex styles that maximises on the angle of the penetration and focuses on the female G-Spot.
      These styes include the Reverse Cowgirl, the Snail,The Bandolee, and the Crossed Keys. A quick online search will help you find these styles and how to achieve them

  130. His penis is so sweet that I…
    His penis is so sweet that I can’t do without it even when am heavily pregnant….. Is this a sexual disorder?

  131. my penis is more than a…
    my penis is more than a micro penis but it is still quite small compared to that of my mates…is this normal

    1. Hi, according to a study by…

      Hi, according to a study by the British Institute of Urology, the average size of an erect penis is about 5.5-6.2 inches (14-15.75cm), and the average girth is about 4.7-5.1 inches (12-13cm).

      At Love Matters we’re a bit more cautious – we just say an erect penis is usually somewhere between 2.7 and 6.7 inches (7-17cm). When it comes to condom sizes, ‘average’ counts as 4.7-5.9 inches (12-17cm)

  132. is it normal to ejaculate…
    is it normal to ejaculate during sex and the penis doesn’t flacid untill the second ejaculation..what does it mean to someone’s sex life..

    1. Hi Kevo, this is normal but…

      Hi Kevo, this is normal but rather rare and is more common in people that are using performance enhancing drugs.

  133. Thank you men grow from…
    Thank you men grow from learning the unlearned ways, you promote love scientificaly, everybody wants to find the truth n enjoy its benefits, sex health is an urgency

    1. Thank you for your glowing…

      Thank you for your glowing recommendation, we are always pleased to help.

  134. Very educative. My question…
    Very educative. My question is: At what age does a penis reach maximum growth limit, azn increase in size?

  135. I have small penis that not…
    I have small penis that not satisfy my girl,pls what can i do?

    1. Hi Solve, what do you mean…

      Hi Solve, what do you mean by small penis? 

  136. My is about 4inch to 5 when…
    My is about 4inch to 5 when erat

    1. Hello sk, thank you for…

      Hello sk, thank you for sharing. 

  137. I’m 16,and my penis is 6…
    I’m 16,and my penis is 6.2inch,is that normal?

  138. Hi Mark, thank you for…

    Hi Mark, thank you for reaching out. To answer your question, yes it is completely normal buddy! 

  139. how will i have sex for long…
    how will i have sex for long time without ecjulating?

  140. Hello Bryan, thank you for…

    Hello Bryan, thank you for reaching out to us! there are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis. 

    In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

    The following articles provide more information;-

    https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
    https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

    Love Matters Team.

  141. My dick is too small.and i…
    My dick is too small.and i cant last longer in bed

    1. Hello Bright, what is too…

      Hello Bright, what is too small? The article says ” When soft, a penis is usually between 6 and 13 centimetres long. An erect one is usually somewhere between 7 and 17 centimetres long. The average is about 12 centimetres. ” Do you fall outside of these parameters.

      In regards to lasting longer, this is a very good question and a very common one as well. So, do not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see a doctor.
      One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop, and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response. This should be repeated many times.
      Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.
       

    1. It really depends on you and…

      It really depends on you and your partners. Do you feel it is satisfactory?

  142. I am 19yrs can i have sex…
    I am 19yrs can i have sex with a35yrs old woman

    1. Hello Stevo, sure you can!…

      Hello Stevo, sure you can! What do you feel is stopping you?

  143. am looking for someone to…
    am looking for someone to love

  144. Hello SAMMY, Sorry to say,…

    Hello SAMMY, Sorry to say, we are not a dating service and cannot assist you in finding a partner. Best thing to do is take some time with yourself, find hobbies, practice things that you love and try to learn how to be happy with yourself.

    Happiness and confidence is attractive in a person and when you find yourself in a good place people will find you. As always, feel free to ask us any questions about love, sex or relationships if they come up.

    Best of luck.

    <3 The Love Matters Team 

  145. At the age of 21 I am still…
    At the age of 21 I am still a virgin I have tried having sex but each time it’s painful what will i do to stop the pain

    1. Hi Jackline, pain during sex…

      Hi Jackline, pain during sex is quite common so you are not alone. The pain may be caused by Vaginismus which is a condition where the muscles of the pelvis floor contract making penetration quite painful. The condition may occur from time to time, it may begin to occur later in life, it may occur in certain situations, or it may happen throughout one’s life.
      The level of pain may also vary from mild to severe and from short term to long term. Vaginismus may be so severe that even wearing a tampon or going for a gynaecological exam is too painful
      Vaginismus could be triggered by many issues both psychological, emotional and physical. These include fear or anxiety, trauma like rape or abuse, infections, menopause, inadequate foreplay, surgery to the area, or even as a side effect to medication.
      Vaginismus is usually treated through a combination of physical and emotional exercises. If you feel that you may be going through this, have a conversation with your doctor.

      This article has more information.

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/vaginism-when-pleasure-becomes-pain

  146. Hello why does my penis not…
    Hello why does my penis not erect for a longer time….how can I correct this?? Because it can actually sleep just after the foreplay and therefore no more sex….so unfortunate

    1. This is a very good question…

      This is a very good question and a very common one as well. So, do not worry, you are not alone. There are some remedies that could help you last a little longer. However, if you have premature ejaculation, you should go see  doctor.
      One option is the stop-start method used to treat premature ejaculation but can also help a person last longer. This technique calls for the man to have sex or masturbate until you almost cum and then stop. When you’re about to climax, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure on the tube running underneath your penis. This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response.This should be repeated many times.
      Another remedy is to engage in sex styles that do not stimulate the underside of the penis like spooning and reverse cowgirl. You could also masturbate before having sex.
       

  147. Learning something new…
    Learning something new everyday

    1. We are very pleased to help.

      We are very pleased to help.

  148. I have a question,what can I…
    I have a question,what can I do not to cum fast

  149. What you are experiencing is…

    What you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety, or even stress. The anxiety that one will not perform can make one ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

    There are a few things you can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity of the penis. 

    In the long term one can ensure they eat healthily and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay also plays a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

    The following articles provide more information;-

    https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
    https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

    Love Matters Team.

     

  150. My penis is quite…
    My penis is quite unpredictable sometimes it gets to a not so long or wideness then again it goes to a extremely long,width and girth…it has an above average thickness and length like a cucumber and bent like a banana.

    1. Hello Russhandan, thank you…

      Hello Russhandan, thank you for reaching out to us and sharing. What would you like us to help you with regarding what you have explained to us?

  151. Am glad that have learnt new…
    Am glad that have learnt new things i didn’t know thanks a lot

    1. Hi Racel, we are glad to…

      Hi Racel, we are glad to have been of help. Please feel free to browse the website to find other articles that could be of help.

  152. Good. Longer penises are…
    Good. Longer penises are always bend to the sides. Why ?

  153. why do penis always stand…
    why do penis always stand erect when seeing a woman or feel the touch of a woman.

    1. Hi Emma, thank you so much…

      Hi Emma, thank you so much for reaching out to us. You have asked a great question. An erection comes about as a result of arousal. Different people are aroused by different things but certain images and kinds of touch may cause arousal. Which is why intimate touch may lead to getting an erection.

    2. Hi Emma, thank you for your…

      Hi Emma, thank you for your question. Curved penises are pretty normal and as long so long as it stays under 30 degrees (the angle), does not increase, and does not cause any pain everything is fine. If these things occur then it is a sign of Peyronie’s Disease which is caused by scar tissue on the inside of the penis.

      This article has some information on the issue that should be of help to you.

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/curved-penis-top-facts

  154. Have learnt something new…
    Have learnt something new and am still following to know more about sex

  155. Hello Ben, thank you so much…

    Hello Ben, thank you so much for your positive feedback and we are very glad that you are able to benefit from our content! We will definitely continue to produce more exciting and informative content for you to benefit from! Have a wonderful weekend ahead and stay safe! Thank you once again! 🙂 

  156. Hello Opeyemi, thank you so…

    Hello Opeyemi, thank you so much for your feedback.

  157. My penis get hard when I’m…
    My penis get hard when I’m in foreplay bt when I get in between the legs it falls completely…. What may be the cause

    1. Hi Masha, thank you for…

      Hi Masha, thank you for reaching out to us. What you are experiencing may be performance anxiety. This is perfectly normal and happens to a lot of people. You can get over it by trying t distract yourself, trying to get intimate in other ways, and being open with your partner about what you are going through so that you can find ways to think it through together. If you are really worried about this and it persists, you could see a medical practitioner for help and guidance on the way forward.

  158. How can i increase penis…
    How can i increase penis size to be good on bed?

    1. Hi Mfalme Wao, as the…

      Hi Mfalme Wao, as the article says

      “There are no non-surgical techniques that can permanently make a penis bigger. Other penis enlargement products like pills, weights, and stretching devices don’t usually work in the long term. At worst they can be very dangerous to your health.”

      Also you do not need a larger penis to be “better” at sex. Sex is always better when partners talk about it. Talk your partner to get to know what they like what they expect that way your sex lives will be greatly enhanced.

  159. I always go for short call…
    I always go for short call every after enjaculation, is it healthy or there is healthy disorders within my body?

    1. Hi Dougy, urinating after…

      Hi Dougy, urinating after having sex is really good and is advised for both women and men. It works to clean out our urethra.

  160. I Have Very Small Dick And…
    I Have Very Small Dick And Has No Sperms Am 20 Yrs

  161. Hello Anonymous, thank you…

    Hello Anonymous, thank you for reaching out to us. How do you know you are not producing sperm? Have you been tested?

  162. Can i sastify a loose vigin…
    Can i sastify a loose vigin as long as i have a small pennis

    1. Hi Mose, thank you for…

      Hi Mose, thank you for reaching out to us. Your question forces us to ask one of you. What is a small penis? Is your penis less than 7 cm long when erect? Second, what is a loose vagina? There is a very common myth that a vagina can lose tightness and shape over time however this is not true. The muscles of the vagina are designed to snap back into shape even after childbirth.

    1. Hi Mose, you sure can. There…

      Hi Mose, you sure can. There is no “ideal” amount of time that one should have sex however remember not to over-exert yourself. Also if you are trying to have sex for an extended amount of time remember to regularly check in with your partner as to their commfort. It is also likely that they will run out of lubrication so remember to use water-based lube to suplement what their body provides.

    1. Hello Marian, welcome to…

      Hello Marian, welcome to Love Matters Africa. We provide honest information about Love, Sex and Relationships. Feel free to ask any questions and we shall be more than glad to respond to you. Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

      Love Matters team.

    1. We are so glad you are able…

      We are so glad you are able to learn something from us Alex, please feel free to share our content with your friends and family too so that they too can benefit from our content and feel free to go through our website and ask us any questions you like regarding love, sex and relationships and we will be more than willing to assist! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

    1. Thank you for the positive…

      Thank you for the positive feedback Kinyanjii! Feel free to go through more of our content across the site and feel free to reach out! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

  163. Got it all clear….a great…
    Got it all clear….a great lesson there.

  164. Thank you so much for your…

    Thank you so much for your positive feedback Elisha, we are always pleased to help and are glad that our platform provides you with information to make informed decisions and learn. Feel free to go through the rest of our site for more interesting information and do not hesitate to reach out! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

  165. How much time can a healthy…
    How much time can a healthy erect penis take in order to ejaculate?

  166. Hi Rono, thank you for…

    Hi Rono, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. That depends on many factors and can vary from time to time. Measured on a stopwatch, it takes an average of 5 to 7 minutes for a man to reach orgasm and ejaculate. But the overall range is wide, from less than one minute to over half an hour.

  167. THANKS FOR YOUR HELP.
    THANKS FOR YOUR HELP.

  168. We are glad to help Samy!…

    We are glad to help Samy! Please feel free to go through more of our content and let us know what you think and if you have any questions, do not hesitate to reach out! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

  169. What is the maximum avarange…
    What is the maximum avarange penis?

    1. Hi Deejay kabbax, as the…

      Hi Deejay kabbax, as the article above states, when soft, a penis is usually between 6 and 13 centimetres long. An erect one is usually somewhere between 7 and 17 centimetres long. The average erect penis is about 12 centimetres. Smaller penises grow more in size when they become erect compared to large penises.

  170. I have a girlfrd bt when i…
    I have a girlfrd bt when i with her their is no erection bt at morning their is erection what is problem?

  171. Thank you so much Chrish for…

    Thank you so much Chrish for reaching out and opening up to us. What you are describing is known as Erectile dysfunction (ED) which is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Do not worry though, occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you believe might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information:
    https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do

    1. Hi, thank you for reaching…

      Hi, thank you for reaching out to us. We appreciate it. Unfortunately, we cannot help you in this regard but we wish you all the best in this endevour.

  172. Can mursterbation shrinks…
    Can mursterbation shrinks the size of penis?

  173. How deep is the vagina in…
    How deep is the vagina in inches

    1. Hello Neato, thank you for…

      Hello Neato, thank you for reaching out to us and asking a great question. When you’re not sexually aroused, your vagina is about two to four inches long (or deep). When you’re aroused, it can stretch to four to eight inches. Because the vagina is on the inside of the body, we don’t really think much about its shape and size. Read up on the myths and get the facts!

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/vagina-shapes-and-sizes-myth-buster

      We hope this information helps. Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

  174. Hi,iwould like to ask that…
    Hi,iwould like to ask that for how long does the pennis could be the lenght or wot is the maximum lenght of penis

    1. Hi Mike, according to a…

      Hi Mike, according to a study by the British Institute of Urology, the average size of an erect penis is about 5.5-6.2 inches (14-15.75cm), and the average girth is about 4.7-5.1 inches (12-13cm).

      At Love Matters we’re a bit more cautious – we just say an erect penis is usually somewhere between 2.7 and 6.7 inches (7-17cm). When it comes to condom sizes, ‘average’ counts as 4.7-5.9 inches (12-17cm).

      The longest recorded human penis is 18.7 inches long.

  175. Can a man transmit urinary…
    Can a man transmit urinary infection to a woman during sex and what are the chances

    1. Hello Bundi, thank you for…

      Hello Bundi, thank you for this question. Typically a Urinary Infection may not be sexually transmitted. However, symptoms of STIs may include a UTI or may aggravate the situation. If you have enthusiastic sex bacteria may also be pushed into the urethra which may also lead to a UTI.

  176. Hey,,can having anal sex…
    Hey,,can having anal sex with an infected girl make me infected,??!

    1. Hello Dennis, thank you for…

      Hello Dennis, thank you for reaching out to us. If you did not use a condom and there was not enough lubrication then your chances of infection are high.

  177. Are there medicine to boost…
    Are there medicine to boost hormone in growth of penis in an adult.

    1. Hi Joseph, 

      There are a lot…

      Hi Joseph, 

      There are a lot of supposed options to increase penis size including pills, creams, and exercises. The truth is almost none of it works. The only way to make a man’s penis look bigger is through surgery, but the results are not very significant meaning you don’t expect a very significant change. Read this article to learn more about penis enlargement: Does penis enlargement work?. Always remember that you can still have pleasurable sex regardless of the size. Here is an article on penis size and sex: Is my penis big enough?

  178. Is it good to use the pill…
    Is it good to use the pill to increase size of penis

  179. men’s penis we all now its…
    men’s penis we all now its defferent in size,shape and length.but some scientise say there is a way to incrise size nuturaly or using pills

    1. Hi Tuki, 

      There’s no known…

      Hi Tuki, 

      There’s no known effective or safe way to increase penis size. I know that you may have come across several information sources saying that this is possible but this is not true. Plus, these methods are not safe and may end of being harmful. The only safe way is through surgery but still, it does not make much difference. Read this article to learn more: Can I Make My Penis Bigger?

  180. I’m ready to marry you Lisa
    I’m ready to marry you Lisa

    1. Hi Innocent, 

      Who’s Lisa?…

      Hi Innocent, 

      Who’s Lisa? Ahs does she know you want to marry her or are you keeping this a secret for now?

  181. Hey I have a problem I have…
    Hey I have a problem I have musterbated alot wen I have sex I usually cum very fast like around 3 min how can u help me with this I would like to stay longer

    1. Hi Musa, 

      First,…

      Hi Musa, 

      First, masturbation does not affect your ability to maintain an erection or make you come faster. Also, 3 minutes is okay for some men. Unless you lasted longer before, you should be okay. However, read this article and learn about how to last longer in bed: How to last longer in bed

  182. Does muratabation affect low…
    Does muratabation affect low sperm count

    1. Hi Joho, 

      No, it does not…

      Hi Joho, 

      No, it does not. Masturbation is not known to cause any physical harm to you. 

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