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Noisy sex: why women moan and scream during sex

By Sarah Moses March 9, 01:00 am
When do women make most noise during sex? When they’re having an orgasm? Or when their man is about to come? Brace yourself for the truth!

Why do some women literally scream and shout in bed?

Great lover, orgasms, or something else?

Guys, maybe you think that she’s moaning and screaming because you’re such a great lover – you’re pounding away inside her, she’s having a mind-blowing orgasm. Sorry, think again. That’s not why women are so noisy in bed, according to the findings of a British study. Over 85 per cent of women make lots of noise simply to boost their partner’s sex self-esteem, the study found.

The researchers asked over 70 heterosexual women whether they were more likely to reach orgasm during masturbation, foreplay, or intercourse. They also wanted to know how noisy the women were during these different sexual activities and the reasons why.

All of the women in the study said they made noise in bed, whether it was screaming out their partner’s name, telling him to go faster or harder, or moaning with pleasure. But the researchers were in for a surprise when they compared how noisy women were when they reached orgasm.

The women were more likely to climax during foreplay – like when their partner gave them oral sex – compared to intercourse. And it wasn’t when they were coming that they were most likely to make noise.

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Stroking his ego

When it comes to moaning and screaming, they made a lot more noise when they were having sex, right before and during their partner’s orgasm. Yes, the reason most women make noise in bed is to turn on their partner. In fact, almost 80 per cent said they make noise even when they know there’s no chance they’re going to reach orgasm themselves.

All that hollering is mainly to stroke their guy’s ego. It doesn’t necessarily mean a girl’s in ecstasy. In fact, it could mean just the opposite. Women also say that moans and screams are one way to hurry sex along when you’re not particularly enjoying it.

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Yup, women can and do use their voice to control how their guy feels during sex and when he climaxes, the researchers conclude.

And why do they do it? To ‘manipulate male behaviour to their advantage’.

Boosting her guy’s sex self-esteem by making lots of noise could help strengthen the bond between a woman and her partner, the researchers hypothesise. But there’s also the advantage of speeding up a guy’s orgasm if she’s in pain, just plain bored, or ready to roll over and go to sleep.

Subtle signs

So guys, if you really want to please her, don’t go by the big performance, look for the subtle signs of ecstasy. And girls, nice of you to cheer him on like that, but don’t forget to show and tell what really makes you go wild...

Are you noisy during sex? Do you do it on purpose, or does it just happen? Leave a comment below or on our Facebook pages Love Matters Kenya.

Did you learn something new?

Love Matters provides honest information on Love, Sex and Relationships. Feel free to ask any question and we shall be more than glad to respond to you.
Hello Ronald, See some tips below:- Eat healthy- a healthy diet of fruits and veggies does help in lasting longer in bed. Exercise- Exercise improves blood flow in general, and that includes to the genital region! Pay attention to your body- Pay attention to your sensations. If you’re about to - cum, slow down. Slow way down, or stop altogether; give yourself a breather before starting again. Fancy a squeeze- This will push blood out of the penis and momentarily decreases sexual tension, calming your ejaculatory response. Use de-sensitisers- Applying a topical spray to your penis can lessen sensation and help you gain control of ejaculation. Distract yourself- Try distracting yourself by thinking of something unrelated to sex. You could also pull out and switch positions. Switching around your bodies gives you some time to regain vigour and also allows you to explore new positions. All the best.

Hi Jeremy, thank you so much for reaching out to us. You have asked a great question. Topical creams are those applied directly to the particular body part in this case the penis. The topical creams in this case are anesthetic agents that reduce the sensetivity on the penis.

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