Help me make my gf love sex
How can I make my girlfriend love sex?
First of all, you need to find out whether she even wants to have sex. So talk to her.
Try to make talking about sex a completely ordinary conversation. The first couple of times, it will be awkward of course, but keep going. Choose a relaxed time, and make sure she understands that you’re genuinely interested in what SHE wants.
Get her to talk about how she feels about sex in general.
For example, some people are asexual, which means that they don’t feel desire. They may have sex out of a feeling that it’s expected, or because they want to have children, but they never really enjoy it. If you discover that your girlfriend is (to some degree) asexual, then you’ll have to decide whether you can cope with that. Because it can’t be changed.
Other people have hang-ups about sex from their upbringing.
If you sense that’s the case with your girlfriend – like somehow she feels sex is ‘wrong,’ or ‘shouldn’t be enjoyed,’ then talk with her about where those ideas came from.
Chances are, if you talk about them together, her attitudes will change eventually. If that proves difficult, see a counsellor together.
Is she really ready to have sex with you? There may be issues of trust. For example, she may worry about whether you two are really serious about one another – and monogamous.
She may be worrying about contraception, or the possibility of sexually transmitted disease. If you talk openly about those – and deal with them effectively – then she will enjoy sex more.
Are there any physical difficulties, for example, a lack of privacy, or she’s dry? Whatever is wrong, fix it! Get some lubricant, or find a new location…
Weave all this talk about sex into your wider conversations. Spend lots of time getting to really know one another. Talk about your previous relationships, and ask her how she likes to feel when you make love. The more she feels that you understand and respond to her needs, the more she’ll enjoy sex.
Don’t restrict your sex sessions to just penetration. Cuddle, kiss, laugh, and tease one another 24/7! Make out a little all the time you’re alone – with no intention of going all the way. Sleep naked and close, hold her as she falls asleep, wake her in the morning with a kiss. And sex will soon be completely wonderful.
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Av tried all these me tried…
Av tried all these me tried all these methods but didn’t work
Hey Folarin, talking with…
Hey Folarin, talking with your partner is likely to better help the situation. Find a good time and talk with your partner, get to know what exactly they dont like and together try find a solution to this. Remember, the intention is not to blame but really to find out what makes her not like sex and then try find a solution that will address this. Check out this article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex