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Is it love?

Love is a powerful, positive emotion. Like all emotions, you may experience it differently depending on your age, the relationship you're in, and the kind of person you are.

Loving someone isn’t the same as being in love with them.

Being in love is the intense feeling at the start of a relationship, when you only see the positive things about the other person and walk around with your head in the clouds. This feeling can be so intense it actually hurts – especially if the person doesn’t feel the same way about you.

The feeling of being in love develops over time, and becomes a deeper, steadier, tender feeling for the other person – you love them.

Love develops in stages, and doesn't always follow the same pattern. But in most cases love begins with the passion of sexual attraction, then the dreamy, overwhelming 'in love' stage, and finally the deeper attachment that develops over time and can last for years – sometimes for a lifetime.

Read also: 5 signs of healthy love

Are you in love?

When you’re in love, you think about the person you’re in love with all day. You think everything they do is wonderful. Being in love can make you feel on top of the world, but it can also make you nervous and edgy.

You get a strange, restless feeling when you see the person. You might even get stomach ache. You can’t help smiling. You don’t know what to say when you see them – or you talk too much because you’re trying to impress them.

If all this sounds familiar, you’re probably in love!

Scientists have tried to find out what makes us feel this way, and what happens to our brains when we're in love. They found that really does go to our heads: our bodies produce more of certain hormones like oxytocin, commonly known as the 'love hormone'.

Read also: 9 useful tips to talk to someone you like

Making love

Having sex is also called 'making love' because it's such an important part of a romantic or intimate relationship. But love and sex aren't the same thing – you can have one without the other. Many people only have sex with someone they love, but you can also have sex out of lust – just for the pleasure of having sex. Still, most people find deeper pleasure in having sex with the person they love.

Read more about making love.

Did you learn something new?

Thu, 03/23/2017 - 10:32 pm
Am in a relationship for past 5years the starting was so lovely and great but after child come in there has been lack of communication , no attentions l HV try so many times to find out what is going on in his mind but no chance, pls what shall I do.
Hello Abigirl, A child will at times affect the dynamics of a relationship. It is upon both partner to recognize these changes and be deliberate about making time for each other. open and honest communication about this changes will help resolve the different conflicts. A baby can also take up all the time so that you do not have time for each other or cause you to be to exhausted for your partner. Think about how your lives have changed after the baby and the talk about how you restore things to what they used to be. Open and honest communication will go along way to helping this process. Do find a good time to have this conversion. Check out the following articles for more tips:-

Hi Star, thank you for reaching out to us. We understand that it would cause you discomfort for someone you love to laugh at you. Have a conversation with her and ask why she is doing it and let her know how you feel. Try not to accuse her so she does not go on the defensive.

I know what you have been doing before he meet you, and I don't know how you luck like den. So try and set up your self again, luck good always he will come back to you, so from there he will tell you what the problem is and you will Len from there. Thank
Mon, 03/27/2017 - 09:13 pm
Hi my name is Esther I have been dating Guy's but I don't love when I pay a visit and see another girl I will be very angry please I need help
Hi Esther, You mean you find another girl at his place when you visit? Have you asked what the relationship between him and girl is? How you feel when this happens is completely normal but it maybe important for you talk to your partner and get to know what could be going with the girls you find at his place. Holding on to assumption may lead to make a decision that is misinformed. Talk to him so you can get to know. We wish you well.
Do u know the girl. Have u asked him who the girl is.if yes and you realize she is his girlfriend. Ask the guy to one of you. Or he chooses her ,don't cry,although it pains alot . he is not the3 only guy in the3 world...
Hi Paloma, The only way they will get to know how you feel is if you become brave and tell exactly how you feel. It maybe tough to do it one on one but you can also do it over a call or any other way you feel will work for you. Remember, they maybe feeling the same way or not and you'd have to respect their feelings even if they don't feel the same as you.
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