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9 signs someone's in love with you

It's easy to know when you're in love with someone. But, how do you know if they are in love with you?

Love is a powerful, positive emotion. Like all emotions, you may experience it differently depending on your age, the relationship you're in, and the kind of person you are.

Being in love is the intense feeling at the start of a relationship, when you only see the positive things about the other person and walk around with your head in the clouds. This feeling can be so intense it actually hurts – especially if the person doesn’t feel the same way about you.
 

How do you know if someone is in love with you?

Signs you are in love
They think about you a lot

When someone is in love with you, they think about you a lot and they will call or text you more. They want to talk to you. They will want to make plans to see you and spend time with you. You may find that they call you for no apparent reason but really all they needed to hear is your voice. Some may travel across town to just come and see you. 

Their body language

How they look at you says a lot about how they feel about you. It's not only about how often they look at you, it is equally about how they look at you. You will notice that they will look into your eyes for longer as you talk. 

Even the most confident person can get nervous so you may notice that they are fidgety.  

It may also be that they can’t help smiling. They don’t know what to say when you meet – or may talk too much because you’re trying to impress you. 

No mixed signals

You're not confused. It is very clear that the person likes you enough to want to be with you. They will want you to do things that couples do, including making plans together, checking on each other, caring for each other, etc. 

Showing interest in your interests/hobbies

They have fun with you even if what you are doing is not that fun. Have you ever heard the phrase, 'it's not what you do, it's who you do it with?' This is exactly what is implied here. When you're involved with someone, you can watch paint dry and think it is magical. If you've never enjoyed watching the stars or moon at night but suddenly that becomes interesting with someone, you may be in love. 

They may also be open to assist you to do things they don't normally enjoy or care for. This shows that they want to be near you and spend time with you. Chances are that they wouldn't do this for everyone else. 

You get attention...lots of it

They give you more attention. People make time for things or people that are important to them. If someone is giving you a lot of attention, they could be in love with you. Likely. 

They care deeply about you

There is a difference between someone showing sympathy and another showing empathy. Someone who is in love with you will show empathy. They will care about your feelings and well-being deeply. They will want to be with you when you are going through hard times and are likely to help you find solutions. They are willing to sacrifice to help you. 

They remember little details

If someone remembers little details such as that you prefer dark to white chocolate, love chips mwitu, your birthday, or your favorite color is yellow, or that your sink was leaking, it's likely that they are in love with you. 

Related: Are you in a relationship or situationship?

They want others to know about you

How they introduce you matters. Well, I know this is contested since some people will even introduce you to their grandmother yet they are not in love. They exist. Forget those ones for now.  Someone who's in love with you will want others to know that you are an important part of their lives. They will want to connect more to your world and you to theirs. 

Read also: 5 signs of healthy love

You are in their future

Listen to people when they speak. If their future plans involve you, it means that they want you by their side and the implication is that they are likely in love with you. They will use 'us' and 'we' when talking about the future as opposed to 'me.'

If all this sounds familiar, they’re probably in love with you!

Bonus: Scientists have tried to find out what makes us feel this way, and what happens to our brains when we're in love. They found that really does go to our heads: our bodies produce more of certain hormones like oxytocin, commonly known as the 'love hormone.'

Read also: 9 useful tips to talk to someone you like

Did you learn something new?

Comments
Abigirl
Thu, 03/23/2017 - 10:32 pm
Am in a relationship for past 5years the starting was so lovely and great but after child come in there has been lack of communication , no attentions l HV try so many times to find out what is going on in his mind but no chance, pls what shall I do.
Hello Abigirl, A child will at times affect the dynamics of a relationship. It is upon both partner to recognize these changes and be deliberate about making time for each other. open and honest communication about this changes will help resolve the different conflicts. A baby can also take up all the time so that you do not have time for each other or cause you to be to exhausted for your partner. Think about how your lives have changed after the baby and the talk about how you restore things to what they used to be. Open and honest communication will go along way to helping this process. Do find a good time to have this conversion. Check out the following articles for more tips:- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

Hi Star, thank you for reaching out to us. We understand that it would cause you discomfort for someone you love to laugh at you. Have a conversation with her and ask why she is doing it and let her know how you feel. Try not to accuse her so she does not go on the defensive.

I know what you have been doing before he meet you, and I don't know how you luck like den. So try and set up your self again, luck good always he will come back to you, so from there he will tell you what the problem is and you will Len from there. Thank
Esther
Mon, 03/27/2017 - 09:13 pm
Hi my name is Esther I have been dating Guy's but I don't love when I pay a visit and see another girl I will be very angry please I need help
Hi Esther, You mean you find another girl at his place when you visit? Have you asked what the relationship between him and girl is? How you feel when this happens is completely normal but it maybe important for you talk to your partner and get to know what could be going with the girls you find at his place. Holding on to assumption may lead to make a decision that is misinformed. Talk to him so you can get to know. We wish you well.
Do u know the girl. Have u asked him who the girl is.if yes and you realize she is his girlfriend. Ask the guy to one of you. Or he chooses her ,don't cry,although it pains alot . he is not the3 only guy in the3 world...
Hi Paloma, The only way they will get to know how you feel is if you become brave and tell exactly how you feel. It maybe tough to do it one on one but you can also do it over a call or any other way you feel will work for you. Remember, they maybe feeling the same way or not and you'd have to respect their feelings even if they don't feel the same as you.
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