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How important is sex in a relationship?

By Valentine Njoroge March 21, 06:00 am
I barely have any sex with my partner, and, if we have sex, it's an in-out-two-minute kind of thing. How important is sex for our relationship?

It can be fixed

Hahaha! Just how bad is your sex life that you are asking this question? It sounds like you might be thinking of giving up on sex all together. Please don’t! Trust me, whatever is happening can be fixed.

Sex is what makes relationships special

Let’s put it this way: friends love each other but they do not have sex; roommates live together but they do not have sex; business partners can share bank accounts and other financial arrangements but they do not have sex; brothers and sisters love each other for life but they do not have sex. What makes a romantic relationship special is making love. We can live with, share money with and even love other people. What marks a romantic relationship as special and separate is sex. Frankly, we can hold hands with anyone.

Sex is so much more than intercourse

Sex is communication, play, connection, vulnerability, acceptance, joy, laughter, tears, comfort, tenderness, openness, intimacy, anger, naughtiness, generosity, dominance, submission, fun, food...

I could go on and on and on. Sex matters. Sex is vital and if you don’t believe me, just ask the advertising industry. They have been using sex to sell everything from cars to homes, deodorant, and even household cleaners.

So sit down with your partner and have an honest and open conversation what's happening with your sex life, and if and how you can get things back on track. Good luck!

On a scale of 1-10 (10 being the highest), how important is sex to the success of a relationship? Let us know on Love Matters Naija or Kenya, or drop us a note below. 

Did you learn something new?

paul dzavin kiarie
Tue, 03/22/2016 - 12:43 am
Sex is nt the only way 2 make ua r.shp strng...make ua partnr ua best friend,communication is the key,talk,cuddle,love n undrstnd each other.this simble thngs is wat u need 2 make that r.ship work...
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