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Keep long-distance love burning

By Rose Odengo Friday, February 26, 2016 - 06:00
You have finally found the one, but how do you keep the love burning when there is distance between you? How do make a long-distance relationship work?

Here are pointers from some couples we spoke to on how to keep the love burning, even if you aren't in the same place:

  1. Communicate 
    You might be in two different time zones and your lives are taking different turns. One of the most important things you need to do: communicate regularly! But it doesn’t have to be every day. Once in a while it is healthy to have some “me” time. Try to also get creative with the communication; you can leave each other video messages or even be old fashioned and send a letter or a postcard. 
  2. Spice it up!
    Sext! It spices things up and the sexual tension is also healthy for a relationship. It builds up excitement and anticipation and it is also a departure from routine updates. It keeps things from being boring. You may not be physically together but you can imagine yourselves together - that fires things up!
  3. Trust
    Do not read into things. Not being able to see and experience your partner's day to day engagements at times could send your mind spinning in the wrong direction. She didn’t answer your call yesterday? He didn't text? Don’t read too much into it. You need to trust each other and give your beau time to get back to you. Maybe it was just a long day at work and they blacked out when they got home and forgot to call. It happens. But do talk about what is upsetting you, so it doesn't become a big thing.

  4. There needs to be a return date
    It’s easier to fight to make the relationship work when you know in the near future your beau will be back home with you. A lack of a definitive return date can jeopardize things. Remember hope is what we all fight for. When you hear, 'I am not sure when or if I am coming home,' however true, that strains things and may cause frustration. How much are you willing to sacrifice to be together with your beau physically? You need to be honest with yourself about that and communicate it.

  5. Visit your beau
    It may take two years to save up, but do it and go. It is a sacrifice well worth it. And make sure you are both able to spend quality time with each other. There should be a moment for you two to take time off and enjoy being physically together. It’s all about quality time and the only thing that matters at that moment are the two of you.

  6. Remember why you chose to be in the relationship
    That should be the number one thing that you keep reminding yourself of. Separation is not a death sentence or torture. You love your partner and some sacrifices need to be made on both sides. If you genuinely understand why you are together, you can make it work.

Do you have any other tips to that help spice long distance relationships? Share them with us on our discussion board, Facebook, or drop us a note below.  

Comments
Nop it needs alot of both of u n...what I mean is the love should be reciprocal and maintain the communication I repeat if any of u gives up sorry the relationship ends in the end both parties loose trust in each other and it ends pliz long distance is something that kills u inside especially if people leave without even meeting
Long distance is serious pain if u knw distance is coming jst back out or fix the distance Cuz like it or not the fighting starts,goes to apologize followed by trust issues then later monitor in some wait loneliness comes in slowly chocking the couple then ignorance follows what I mean is this "he/she hasn't called so I ain't calling" u see then the red flags and ego climbs in till finally they or one of u can't handle it......but dats my side of the experience if u love each other fight but make sure if one falls 2day the other will pick them up if u guyz know it's worth it fight 4 it but sorry social media is part of long distance break up but 87% of such never survive
Trust in a relationship when two parties are separated by distance is a battle hard to be fought by both the mind and the heart. There are times when we abruptly find ourselves in need of the other but can't make it . It's the guilt of emotions that arouses the pinch of how much we need to be together but barred by geographical location. As time passes by, trust dims feom the fact that one will always give attention to who they interact with on a daily basis. Distance is a slow poison that kills relationships as a slow pace torture .

Hi Triton, Making a long distance relationship work can be challenging but if both partners are committed to each other they can make it work. Some of the things that can make it work include frequent communication, planning to and spending time together, planning for the future of the relationship together and working toward it. Check out this article for more tips;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

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