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Long distance relationships

Long-distance relationships mean that you aren’t living with your partner because you are in different places. This means you can’t see each other often.

If you live in Nairobi and your partner lives in Lagos, for example, you’re in a long-distance relationship.

Relationships can go long distance for many reasons. It could be because your partner has found a new job in a different city or country or because you’ve started studying at a university far from home.

Today, long-distance relationships are becoming more common because of modern forms of communication. Emails, chats, video chats, and social media make it much easier for people to stay in touch. You can even have sex on the internet with your partner to keep the spark alive while you’re apart.

Before you go long-distance, it might be a good idea to think about how your relationship will change. For one thing, there’ll be long stretches with no kissing, holding hands, or sex. You won’t get to see and talk to each other in person for long periods of time.

If you can, try it for a while and see how it works out before you make a serious commitment.

Related: 6 Tips To Keep Long Distance Love Burning

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  1. Long distance love used to…
    Long distance love used to work for mi but now it block mi trust

      1. Am also in long distances…
        Am also in long distances relationship, but we love each other but I use to have this feeling that my partner is chatting on me I I trust him But I still have this strong feelings

        1. Thank you so much for your…

          Thank you so much for your input.

      2. Me to i used to be in a…
        Me to i used to be in a relationship but we had to part way

        1. Hi Khadilupez, so sorry to…

          Hi Khadilupez, so sorry to hear this. What happened?

    1. Many issues arise in long…
      Many issues arise in long distance buh it good for people who commit themselves to each other and being faithful for they will endure there love fore

      1. Thank you for your…
        Thank you for your contribution Julius.

          1. Hello oloko Damilola, please…

            Hello oloko Damilola, please elaborate.

          2. Hello Timmieleyin, how can I…

            Hello Timmieleyin, how can I help you ? 

    2. Pls always communicate…
      Pls always communicate regularly to your partner. U will win

      1. Thank you for your…
        Thank you for your contribution Nicholas.

        1. I also agree with…
          I also agree with communicating regularly,, keep you in touch

          1. Thank you for your…

            Thank you for your contribution Seyra.

          2. Hello James, thank you for…

            Hello James, thank you for getting in touch, how can we help you and what is it that you need?

             

          3. Hey Alexmwaua, thank you for…

            Hey Alexmwaua, thank you for getting in touch, how can we help you?

             

      2. yeah
        dhat true and never…

        yeah
        dhat true and never give up

        1. Thank you for your feedback…

          Thank you for your feedback Franq.

    3. Long distance relationship…
      Long distance relationship.. became had for since unfaithfulness begun..no one tend to trust one onother .I think it’s had way.

      1. Hi Collins, sorry about that…

        Hi Collins, sorry about that. A long distance relationship can be challenging to make work especially where there is little communication and trust issues. If partners are however, committed to each other and their relationship, they can make the relationship work. Check out the following article on how to make it work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

    4. Long distance love cannot…
      Long distance love cannot last at all

        1. We would like to hear more…

          We would like to hear more from you Dammy, please tell us more.

    5. The reason is that I am in…
      The reason is that I am in to it.and I want to keep the love go

      1. Just like your name, thank…

        Just like your name, thank you for Blessing us with your words Simon! 

    6. Long distance love works…
      Long distance love works only if u trust it partner

      1. Hi Mmesoma, thank you for…

        Hi Mmesoma, thank you for your contribution and yes, you are absolutely right. One of the fundamental pillars behind any strong and healthy relationship is trust! Very right! 

    7. I love long distance…
      I love long distance rilationship

      1. Hello Adebayo, why do you…

        Hello Adebayo, why do you love them?

    8. What if u boyfriend is in…
      What if u boyfriend is in far distance and he beavroiu change what will the girl do

      1. Hello Evelyn, thank you for…

        Hello Evelyn, thank you for reaching out to us. We are sorry you are going through such a hard time. Communication is an important part of any relationship. Have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Explain how their actions are affecting you and the relationship. Try not to be confrontational because that would put them on the defensive and the resulting conversation would not be productive.  Be ready to listen to their fears and feelings and respond to them as well.

    9. Yes but u can work on it
      Yes but u can work on it

      1. Hello Yasenta, thank you for…

        Hello Yasenta, thank you for sharing and you are very right! As long as both parties have a good understanding of their relationship, are working towards their goals and future plans, and have good communication, they can definitely work on it! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

    10. My partner doesn’t…
      My partner doesn’t communicate with me like before and claiming to love me still.Hes distant but every morning he has to say hii. After that, you’ll not hear anything from him until the next day. It breaks me

      1. Hi Bunny, 

        I know the…

        Hi Bunny, 

        I know the feeling so well, when a guy doesn’t call or text you back, it can drive you crazy

        First, it is important to have an open conversation with your partner about how this change has affected you. Second, have you also taken the initiative to communicate with him? Once two people agree to be in a relationship, you both share the responsibility to reach out to each other. It’s totally acceptable to reach out to him to say hello. Set the pace and he may pick it up. Wishing you all the best. 

    11. Love matter if you guys love…
      Love matter if you guys love each other l think there is nothing bad

      1. Hi Okoye, 

        Thank you for…

        Hi Okoye, 

        Thank you for your contribution! 

  2. I like making friendship
    I like making friendship

    1. (No subject)
      We wish you well. That is a good quality.

  3. Can someone fall in love in…
    Can someone fall in love in a app??And 2 start a serious relationship even if it will be a long distance relationship

    1. (No subject)
      Hi Khadija,

      People meet in different spaces and go on to have great relationships. Long distance relationships can however be challenging to manage, but if the two partners are committed that can make it work. They would need to communicate frequently, plan to visit each other from time to time and have a clear future they are working toward together since they can’t be n a long distance relationship forever. Check out the following article for more information;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/types-of-relationships

      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

    2. Definitely like right now am…
      Definitely like right now am dating an indian lady whom have never meet but we always keep in touch,share pictures and videos and we have taken it to an extent of introducing each other to our families

      1. Thank you Tony for your…
        Thank you Tony for your contribution and we do wish you the very best.

    3. Khadija as long as you know…
      Khadija as long as you know what you want and ready for any challenges, then you believe me it’s possible.

      1. Thank you Wycliffe for your…
        Thank you Wycliffe for your contribution.

      2. Thank for that inspired…
        Thank for that inspired comment

        1. You are welcome Faith.

          You are welcome Faith.

      1. Thank you Juma for reading…

        Thank you Juma for reading our article. Keep reading. 

      1. You are welcome Opeyemi.

        You are welcome Opeyemi.

      1. Thank you for your feedback…

        Thank you for your feedback Vincent Obiri and Happy Easter! Stay safe! 

  4. As long as u are trustworthy…
    As long as u are trustworthy wiz ur partner

    1. Thank you for your feedback…
      Thank you for your feedback Ssali. Trust is essential for any relationship.

    1. Hi Marry, what about Uganda?
      Hi Marry, what about Uganda?

    1. Hey, what about African?
      Hey, what about African?

    1. Hi, Unfortunately we are not…
      Hi, Unfortunately we are not a dating service and so we cannot help you meet some. We wish you well.

      1. Love is the best thing ever
        Love is the best thing ever

        1. Isn’t it? We here at Love…

          Isn’t it? We here at Love Matters think so too! Thank you so much for your feedback Lucky Patrick 🙂

  5. Iam also in a long distance…
    Iam also in a long distance relationship and.i can say it only needs trust and commitment for things to work out for who normally don’t know what happens with our partners in our absence

    1. Thank you for sharing your…
      Thank you for sharing your experience with us Tony.

    2. She just texted and it’s…
      She just texted and it’s over between us. No explanation, we have been in a long distance relationship what should I do?

      1. Hi Kefa, we are so sorry…

        Hi Kefa, we are so sorry about this. Keeping a long distance relationship alive can be challenging, it is not possible to tell what could have happened. You can try reach out to get to know what led to this relationship and perhaps for you to have closure. You need to be alive to the fact that she may not be willing to talk about what happened and why she made this decision. If this is what happens, all you will have to accept this though difficult and begin you journey of moving on. Break ups are tough but life does and has to move on even after a breakup. Remember this was not your fault but a choice she made without giving you a chance to address the issues. Check out this article on more tips on how to cope with a break up;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/coping-with-a-break-up

  6. I need a beauntyfull woman…
    I need a beauntyfull woman who gona love me if is white partner or black

    1. Hey Omar,…
      Hey Omar,

      We are not a dating service and for this reason we cannot help you meet someone. We do wish you well though.

  7. I love sex so much,do i have…
    I love sex so much,do i have any problem?

    1. Hi Spenser, There is nothing…
      Hi Spenser, There is nothing wrong with loving sex. It may only be a challenge if one is spending lots of time on sex to the point that they are unable to focus on other important responsibilities including school or work.

    2. No..you are only romantic
      No..you are only romantic

      1. We appreciate you…

        We appreciate you contribution Peris, 

  8. Hi,I have been dating a high…
    Hi,I have been dating a high school student for 1 year currently a candidate bt she has never allowed me to have a kiss with her,what can be the problem

    1. Hi Denis, perhaps she just…
      Hi Denis, perhaps she just does not want to or she does not feel it is the right time just yet. Lastly she could also be putting her focus on her studies at this point.

      1. Hi Denis,if somebody kiss u…
        Hi Denis,if somebody kiss u does not mean that she/he loves u.sometimes she does not like kissing but yet she loves u.lastly,don’t worry about that!

        1. Thank you Stevo, we…

          Thank you Stevo, we appreciate your contribution. 

  9. Am in a long distance…
    Am in a long distance relationship but I have a feeling that my boyfriend is cheating, how can I deal with this please help because am getting worried

    1. Hi Yvonne. Making a long…
      Hi Yvonne. Making a long distance relationship work can be a challenge. There is however no way to know for sure if your partner is cheating on you. The best thing to do is try to communicate with your partner. Be honest with them about your suspicions and your feelings along with your fears. I know this can be scary to bring it up but try to just tell them why you suspect something is wrong and not just accuse them to be a cheater. Generally if we hold on to our thoughts you might take things the wrong way believe something without knowing if it is real or not. We wish you well.

    2. This is the disadvantage of…
      This is the disadvantage of being in a distance relationship if you are not yet ready to face the challenges, if you are sure he is not faithful why are you still concentrating on him? Open your eyes and see well.

      1. We appreciate your…
        We appreciate your contribution Wycliffe.

    3. I am in a long distance…
      I am in a long distance relationship too and my boyfriend attitude sometime he will behave nicely and sometime his attitude is strange I don’t really understand him anymore

      1. Hi Ameena, have you talked…

        Hi Ameena, have you talked to your boyfriend about this? Long distance relationships can be challenging to make work because of the distance but if the partners are committed to each other and the relationship they can make it work. Communication that is frequent, open and honest is important toward making the relationship work. It is important to talk about what is going on and then agree on how to proceed to make your relationship work. Check out this article for tips on making your relationship work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

      2. Add me up on WhatsApp ameena
        Add me up on WhatsApp ameena

        1. Hey Abdullahi, unfortunately…

          Hey Abdullahi, unfortunately, we do not have a whatsApp group but you can interact with us her or on either of our Facebook pages – Love Matters Kenya or Love Matters Naija. 

  10. am in a long distance…
    am in a long distance relationship,am in Nairobi Kenya my partner is in Europe Belgium we met on dating site,we love each other but sometimes he so difficult to understand him,he can stay for 3-4 days without taking to me, for no reason,if i ask him if there is any problem he will say no, we have been dating for 6month know,we are meeting on November, please advise me what to do because am giving up on him.but at the sometime ifeels like I can’t stay without him,we have never had sex on the phone cause i told him i don’t like it he told me it’s ok,he respects me alot but we always exchange our photos, please help me what to do and confused

    1. Hello Estherwilly, Long…
      Hello Estherwilly, Long distance relationships can be challenging to manage but communication is one of the essential elements that help to strengthen the relationship. At this stage of your relationship, it is important to share with your partner what your expectations are of him including what you would like interms of communication. It may improve your communication if he know what you want or expect. Also, remember communication takes two and you can also initiate communication when he hasn’t. Even a text counts. We wish you well.

  11. I think long distance…
    I think long distance relationshisp is more better when the couples trust each other.
    I also experience long distance relatiinshisp but I miss elot. But infct we have love for each other… Thanks my dia frdz

    1. We agree Geoffrey, trust is…
      We agree Geoffrey, trust is essential for a relationship to work. Relationships are build on trust. Thank you for your contribution.

  12. Am in a long distance…
    Am in a long distance relationship and we always keep it sparkling..my advice is,ladies dont wait for the guy to call or text you take responsibility in your relationship and be a helper…for us we trust each other so we gat no worries apart from just missing each others presence….but he loves me and i love him more despite the distance

    1. Thank you for sharing your…
      Thank you for sharing your experience with us Mizpah and for the advice. We wish you only the best in the days to come.

    2. That’s very true each…
      That’s very true each partner should play their part,,u should nt wait 4 the other partner 2 do everything,

      1. Thank you Mary for your…
        Thank you Mary for your contribution.

  13. Hii there’s this guy who…
    Hii there’s this guy who wants me but she has a wife my friend told me that she was also his ex now the guy is telling that he is willing to shift from where he’s staying now and go somewhere else just for me..what do i do am really confused

    1. Hi Jossy, If he is already…
      Hi Jossy, If he is already married, are you OK being a second wife? Remember if he is cheating on his wife with you, he may also cheat on you with someone else. Take time and think about what kind of relationship you want and what kind of partner you are looking for then make an informed decision.

  14. Being far with your lover…
    Being far with your lover dosent me you cheat on him or her its keeps more understandings between two pipo

    1. Thank you for your…
      Thank you for your contribution Annet.

    1. Thank you for your feedback…
      Thank you for your feedback Annet.

    1. We appreciate your…
      We appreciate your contribution Ann.

  15. Thanks very much for the…
    Thanks very much for the wonderful words. Long distance it helps on increasing love u see each like new ones, thou u miss each other by physical,like me my lover stays far away from me but we do communicate and make love online things move on well. but it has also its disadvantages if one of u is not strong enough in relationship u may get tempted and cheat on your pattern which is not good. In conclusion long distance relationship is good with committed ones.thanks

    1. Thank you for sharing your…
      Thank you for sharing your experience with us Ateenyi. We do wish you well.

  16. Am also having a such…
    Am also having a such relationship bt am not comfortable at all!

    1. Hi Rozzie,…
      Hi Rozzie,

      Have you talked to your partner about your discomfort?

      Do talk about with your partner so that together you can find a solution.

  17. Hi am in a dintance…
    Hi am in a dintance relationship my partner is in Liberia and am in Kenya also we haven’t met yet and I love him so much what can I do to mentain this relationship

  18. Am in a long distance…
    Am in a long distance relationship and I want it to be much stable, need your advice guys

  19. I av got to learn much…
    I av got to learn much through your wall.it has encouraged me to feel comforted and taken my long distance relationship with Kenya a minor issue if guys have lovers in abroad..it really encouraged.

    1. Hi Simo, We are glad that…
      Hi Simo, We are glad that you have been encouraged by what has been shared here. We do wish you well in your relationship.

  20. Am in a long distance…
    Am in a long distance relationship and we don’t always communicate with my boyfriend and I have my friend who is good to me and he told me that he loves but don’t want to loose my boy and I don’t want to loose my friend as well now am confused becose I don’t know to do pliz I need ur advice

    1. Hey Tina, It will be a…
      Hey Tina, It will be a challenge for you to keep both relationships. You will have to choose one. If you tell your partner you are in a relationship and cannot be his partner you are likely to loose him as a friend. Take time and think about who you want to be with and then choose that person. We wish you well.

  21. Long distance relationship…
    Long distance relationship need a couple that knows what they want from there you will find yourself not even cheating coz you know what you want is equally what you have
    Its the best relationship ever

    1. Thank you for your…
      Thank you for your contribution Mikala.

  22. I have a man whom I met 3…
    I have a man whom I met 3 yes ago n we started a xtionship.we had sex then I moved from that place an I lost my contacts and communication end end.this year he texted me on messager explaing how he has been loking for my contact an he dropped his number.I called him n we talked .later I visited him n we had normal talk as friend s and we had sex and I went back home .I love the man but my worry is whether he loves me he have never asked me anything not even being my partner what should I do

    1. Hey Maryann, You need to…
      Hey Maryann, You need to find out from him how he feels toward you and what his expectations are for the relationship you have with him. You can then make an informed decision on how to proceed.

  23. Have been in long distance…
    Have been in long distance for two years and really met challenges what I came to relaize it needs a lot of volunteering and patience a lot of prayer keep hoping that one day all will be okey.communication is one big role which keeps long distance relationship moving.

    1. Hi Zippie, thank you for…
      Hi Zippie, thank you for sharing your experience. Communication is indeed essential in keeping the relationship alive. Partners can also plan to spend time together from time to time as resources will allow. Lastly, partners also need to think and plan about the future now that you will not be in a long distance relationship forever. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  24. Hi..my guy lives away from…
    Hi..my guy lives away from the city of Kampala and we see take long to see each..yet sometimes I miss him..and at times I get paranoid with him what can I do

  25. I nid a girlfriend my people
    I nid a girlfriend my people

    1. Hi Kawuma, Sorry but we are…
      Hi Kawuma, Sorry but we are not a dating service and for this reason we are not able to help you find a partner.

  26. Long distance relationship…
    Long distance relationship needs a lot of trust, b4 any one involves him/her into that kind of relationship then it should b that you’ve used to each other n have built that mutual trust in each individuals, you’ve learned the weaknesses n strength, at that point it can prospire

    1. We appreciate your…
      We appreciate your contribution Ketah.

  27. am in a long distance…
    am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend wea by am in Kenya doing my studies en he iz in Uganda also doing his studies but surely am a Ugandan so we only communicate via watsapp en facebook and I do trust him and he trusts me so am looking for some tips ov how I cn keep my long distance relationship

    1. Hi Debbie, One of the…
      Hi Debbie, One of the essentials is communication which you are doing. You can also consider visiting and spending time together as resources will allow. Lastly, since you can’t be in a long distance relationship forever, you need to talk about the future of your relationship so you can plan and work toward it together. Check out this article for more tips;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  28. long distance relationship…
    long distance relationship works also it increases your love,but needs more trust and commitment.

    1. Thank you for your…
      Thank you for your contribution Halima.

    1. What about dating Kassim.
      What about dating Kassim.

  29. Long distance is good for me.
    Long distance is good for me.

    1. Thank you for sharing Joseph.
      Thank you for sharing Joseph.

  30. Human have error but…
    Human have error but 4givenes matter

  31. Mh mine is working. Now it’s…
    Mh mine is working. Now it’s one year without seeing her,without sex and we are comfortable.

  32. Joseph, thank you for your…
    Joseph, thank you for your contribution.

  33. Dishon, Thank you for…
    Dishon, Thank you for sharing your experience.

  34. I can’t stand my man not…
    I can’t stand my man not texting, calling or show concern. Distance relationship sucks

  35. Hello Morenah, long distance…
    Hello Morenah, long distance relationship requires commitment from both partners. Perhaps you can talk to your partner and find ways to strengthen communication. Create time to visit each other for face to face interaction.

  36. hi guys being in a distance…
    hi guys being in a distance relationshi is so hard and stressful,my beibs is realy stresing me he can go silent for two weeks when i ask him he is complaing of credit,tiresm,busy something like that when i call him or chart him he wil tell me wait a bit.What can i do coz i feel that i love him so much,we have 3years in relationship,bt when he cals his words are realy interesting and wing my soul very first and his tex too.

  37. Yes I would like know how to…
    Yes I would like know how to enjoy making six with that handsome of who is in u s a and am in Kenya becoz I do miss him a lot something time a get ma body very hot plz what can I do he is the am really in love with plz help me

  38. Hi, Being a long distance…
    Hi, Being a long distance relationship can be challenging, but when partners are committed to the relationship and to each other they can make it work. Communication is an essential part of any relationship, it is important you talk to your partner about this so that together you can agree how to make communication between the tow of work better. Check out this article for more tips;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/keep-long-distance-love-burning

  39. may nem is edwin frm kenya…
    may nem is edwin frm kenya west am 24 years wait gail frend age 20 to 21 plz help me now

    1. Hello Edwin, Sorry to say,…
      Hello Edwin, Sorry to say, we are not a dating service and cannot assist you in finding a partner. Best thing to do is take some time with yourself, find hobbies, practice things that you love an try to learn how to be happy with yourself.

      Happiness and confidence is attractive in a person and when you find yourself in a good place people will find you. As always, feel free to ask us any questions about love, sex or relationships if they come up.

      Best of luck.

    1. Glad you like the article!
      Glad you like the article!

  40. hae iam in long-distance…
    hae iam in long-distance relation ilove my man soo much bt the problem is me coz iam vry shy plz help

    1. Hey Caro, It’s normal to be…

      Hey Caro, It’s normal to be shy especially early in a relationship, with time you will get comfortable. You could start by talking on phone or even texting for those topics you are too shy to have a face to face conversation. Eventually you become comfortable, remember communication is an important part of any relationship. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  41. Its true but ladies always…
    Its true but ladies always say ooh can’t wait for you coz you are far and have feelings it force her to look for a man around

    1. Hi Kim, if both partners are…

      Hi Kim, if both partners are committed they can make a long distance relationship work. 

       

  42. hey..Am in a long distance…
    hey..Am in a long distance rshp.The thing is dhat he alwez wait for me tew first text or kal,him..He can stey for 2-3 days widaut textn..Giving an excuse as his broke or he doesnt have anything to sey…Am confused..I dnt knw wat to do though av tried telling him but he keeps doing same mistakes

    1. Hey Bernett, Making a long…

      Hey Bernett, Making a long distance relationship work can be challenging and it is even more challenging if there is no or little communication. Any of the partners can initiate communication. You however need to let your partner know what the lack or little communication on his part is doing to your relationship and then agree on to proceed. If it is not possible to have regular communication and even devote time to spend together like you prefer, it maybe important for you to think about whether you will continue with the long distance relationship or not. Check out the following articles;- 

      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  43. long distance is nothing as…
    long distance is nothing as long as the two parties are faithful,honest,then they will develop trust for their precious relationship.

    1. Thank you for sharing Andrew.

      Thank you for sharing Andrew.

  44. I am in a long distance…
    I am in a long distance relationshop its challenging at tyms my partner doesnt talk to me frequently and at tyms i doubt him

    1. Hi Shiks, have you talked…

      Hi Shiks, have you talked with him about this? It is important you share with him you feelings, concerns alongside your fears. Communication is an important part of any relationship, find a good time and talk about this and together agree on how you wish to proceed. Check out the following articles;- 

      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

  45. Long distance relationship…
    Long distance relationship made my boyfriend cheat on me and have kids it only need a focused partner to make long distance relationship work

  46. My love is that much far I…
    My love is that much far I feel guilty about her being far away from me what can I do

    1. Hey Opa, making a long…
      Hey Opa, making a long distance relationship work can be challenging. But there are a few things you and your partner can do to keep your relationship alive. These include regular communication – there are many options today that you can use from texting to voice calls and even video chats. You can also plan to spend time together from time as resources will allow and lastly, plan for the future of your relationship together so you can work toward that future. Check out this article for more tips;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  47. Am also in long distance love
    Am also in long distance love

  48. It’s more heartable because…
    It’s more heartable because love makes me sick

    1. So sorry Mercy, but what…
      So sorry Mercy, but what causes love to make you sick?

  49. well,I think these long…
    well,I think these long distance relationships are not bad,hwver one’s preference may nt necessarily be fo another n for this reason both partners will in most cases hv to be committed enough so as to hv it successful to there tym ov dream.so das y others find hard bt me I think it’s one ov d best.

  50. hi am in need to have a…
    hi am in need to have a serious girl who is so much committed to love age between 18-23 please help

    1. Hey Bill, Unfortunately Love…

      Hey Bill, Unfortunately Love Matters Africa is not a dating service and for this reason we are not able to help you meet someone. We wish you well. though. 

  51. hi am in need to have a…
    hi am in need to have a serious girl who is so much committed to love age between 18-23 please help

    1. Hi Bill, unfortunately we…

      Hi Bill, unfortunately we are not a dating service and for this reason we are not able to help you meet someone. We, however, do wish you well.

  52. Helo admin
    Im a 29yrs old…

    Helo admin
    Im a 29yrs old lady n dating my bf for 1year 2months..i love this guy alot n i wish i cn b his wife one day.hw can i continue to make him happy???whn ever im having sex with him he scream n say um giving him nice
    N say my pussy is nt normal he never ate something tht tasted lik mine before☺..

    1. Hello Curious, it sounds…

      Hello Curious, it sounds like you have it all together when it comes to sex. Start by committing to the relationship on your part, then get to know from your partner what they want from a relationship, what are their expectations in the long term. If they talk about the future they include you in that future it means they already see you together in the future. Open and honest communication is key since it helps you address issues when they come up or before without hurting each other or the relationship. Find a good time and find out what his plan are to get to know. Remember, to be prepared just in case he is not thinking or even willing to think that far ahead and think about what this will mean and what action you may have to take. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/thank-you-from-casual-to-committed-relationships

  53. I met this guy over the net…
    I met this guy over the net. He is in a different country from mine. We talk online daily, he says he loves me I am also getting feelings for him. He says he wants to visit me at the end of the year. I hope our relationship will become strong.

  54. As long as you trust one…
    As long as you trust one another nothing will go wrong but keep calling and know how he’s fearing

    1. Thank you Asmin for your…

      Thank you Asmin for your input.

  55. My boyfriend has gotten a…
    My boyfriend has gotten a new job in a new town away. My friends are advising me to quit the relationship because long distance relationships never work. Is it true?

    1. Hi Cate, first it is not…

      Hi Cate, first it is not true that long distance relationships never work. If the partners in the relationship are committed they can make the relationship work irrespective of the distance between them. It is important for partners to communicate frequently, spend time together as much as possible and plan for the future together. Check out the following article for more tips on making a long distance relationship work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  56. I’m proud of you guise for…
    I’m proud of you guise for making lively,May God blaze you for the good job you are doing..gud dey.

  57. You are welcome Kennedy. 

    You are welcome Kennedy. 

  58. My partner no longer talks…
    My partner no longer talks to me like before ever since he moved to a new district to work. I feel like quitting this relationship.

    1. Hey Aisha, so sorry about…

      Hey Aisha, so sorry about this. Long distance relationships can be tough to make work. However, if both partners are committed to each other and to the relationship, they can make it work it work. Afew things can make the relationship work including frequent communication, planning and spending quality time together from time to time and planning for the future of your relationship together. It is important that you talk to your partner and find out whether he is still interested in the relationship before you can make a decision on whether to stay or break up. Check out the following articles for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/knowing-when-to-break-up

  59. Can a long distance…
    Can a long distance relationship really work?

    1. Hey Cate, yes a long…

      Hey Cate, yes a long distance relationship can work but both partners must be willing to make it work. Afew things can make a long distance relationship work, for instance, frequent communication. Partners need to use available options to keep communication lines open including text, calls and even video calls. It is also important to plan and spend quality time together as time and resources will allow and finally plan for and work together toward the future together since you will not be in a long distance relationship forever. It is important to think about how your relationship will change before getting into a long distance relationship. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  60. Am in a distance…
    Am in a distance relationship, and we have been together for 3years but I don’t trust him,and he keep telling me believe me,I love only u!!but I still don’t trust him,I get angry with him easily.what can I do

    1. Hey Atoke, long distance…

      Hey Atoke, long distance relationships can be challenging to make work but if the partners are committed to each other, they can make it work. What has led you to not trusting him? Also, if you get into fights or arguments frequently, it maybe a sign of dissatisfaction in the relationship. It is important that you find a good time and talk about these issues with your partner. Think about whether you are willing to continue with the long distance relationship and whether there are things you can both do as partners to make the relationship work. Have a look at the following article for tips on how to make it work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/keep-long-distance-love-burning We wish you all the best.

  61. Is best on how you take the…
    Is best on how you take the reletionship,guyx just did as the way i am with my lovily wife of mine

    1. We appreciate your…

      We appreciate your contribution Yohana.

  62. I suppose I didn’t think…
    I suppose I didn’t think about the decision to be 8n a long distance relationship. We had been together 2 years before this, now I am unhappy there too much suspicion on both ends I just want to quit!!!

    1. Hi Nelly, sorry about this…

      Hi Nelly, sorry about this. Long distance relationships can be challenging to manage or even make work. However, if both partner are committed to each other and the relationship, they can make it work. It is important that you and your partner have an honest conversion about what is happening in your relationship now, what has led to the mistrust and then agree on how to proceed. Have a look at the following article for tips on how to make a long distance relationship work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/keep-long-distance-love-burning

  63. Long distance relationships…
    Long distance relationships often gives us reason to love harder

    1. Thank you for sharing Anny,…

      Thank you for sharing Anny, indeed!

  64. My boyfriend is planning to…
    My boyfriend is planning to leave the country for further studies 2 years. He wants us to keep the relationship until he comes back to marry me. Can this work out for us?

    1. Hey Jaquie, it is important…

      Hey Jaquie, it is important to carefully think about how your relationship will change before getting into a long distance relationship. If your boyfriend is going to be away for that duration of time, it means there will be no physical contact for most of that time and communication will be limited to calls or video calls, texts. If partners are committed to each other and their relationship, they can make it work. Some essentials to a long distance relationship include regular communication and planning together for the future. Have a conversation and agree on what to do during the time you will be apart to keep your relationship alive. Check out the following article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  65. My girlfriend likes sex very…
    My girlfriend likes sex very much and every time she insists of visiting me but wen I refused she don’t wanna talkk to me anymore and I fear she might do it with anyone else incase I refuse!

    1. Hey Collo, have you talked…

      Hey Collo, have you talked with your partner about this? It is normal for partners to have different level of sex drive or preferences of sex. This is why it is important to talk with your partner to find a balance that work for you both. Find a good time, talk with your partner and agree on how to proceed. Have a look at the following article on tips on how to talk about sex;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  66. For the past 4 years my…
    For the past 4 years my partner and I have been in a long distance relationship ao far it has worked well we have only bin together twice it is a matter of trust first then love for you can never love someone u don’t trust

    1. Thank you David for sharing…

      Thank you David for sharing your experience.

  67. We are in a lng distance…
    We are in a lng distance relationship and we dont trust each other. I feel like quiting, is there a way to make a long distance relationship work?

    1. Hey Sharon, sorry about this…

      Hey Sharon, sorry about this. Long distance relationship can be challenging to make work out but if both partners are committed and are willing to make it work. Trust is an important part of any relationship and without trust a relationship may not work. It is important for you and your partner to talk about what has let to the mistrust, address the issues and then agree on how to proceed. Have a look at the following article for tips on how to make a long distance relationship work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  68. Long distant relationship is…
    Long distant relationship is challanging but it can work if both two are comitted to make it work!am also in along distance relatioship and its working!

    1. Hey Lynne, thank you for…

      Hey Lynne, thank you for sharing and reassuring anyone that’s considering this. 

  69. Am into a long-distance…
    Am into a long-distance relationship for 8yrs nw and it favoured me

    1. Thank for sharing and…

      Thank for sharing and encouraging someone.

  70. Distance relationship…
    Distance relationship sometimes create loneliness

  71. Hello guys
    I met this girl…

    Hello guys
    I met this girl on this mtn chat(mblog), she lives in my home town and very close to my aboard, I school at lagos so we haven’t met, but the thing is we love each other unconditionally, we do send pictures and we communicate every day, we’ve been managing like diz for two years now, do you think diz will really have a happy ending

  72. Do long distance…
    Do long distance relationships work. I Am in a long distance relationship but feel that my boyfriend is cheating and I have also been tempted to cheat on him. I still love and he loves me too but this long distance is killing me slowly.

    1. Hi Ammy, long distance…

      Hi Ammy, long distance relationships can be challenging to manage but if the partner are committed to each other and the relationship they can make it work. You may want to begin by addressing the reasons why you feel your boyfriend might be cheating on you. Some of the things that can help your relationship include frequent communication, spending time together are resources will allow and planning about the future since you will not be in a long distance relationship forever. Start by talking honestly about what is currently going on in your relationship. Have a look at the following article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  73. i wat to be part of dis group
    i wat to be part of dis group

    1. Hey Adelowo, you are welcome…

      Hey Adelowo, you are welcome to Love Matters Africa. You can interact with use here or through our Facebook Pages Love Matters Kenya or Love Matters Naija. 

  74. My partner got a new job in…
    My partner got a new job in a different country. He will be away for atleast 2 years. He may visit every six months but I have a bad feeling about this. I dont think our relationship will work after he leaves. I think we just need to break up.

    1. Hey Dion, making a long…

      Hey Dion, making a long distance relationship work can be challenging, this is why you need to carefully consider this before getting into one. It is a good thing that you are thinking about it now. Having said that, if partners are committed to each other, they can make a long distance relationship work. Partners need to communicate frequently, meet and spend time together and plan for the future of the your relationship. Have a look at the following article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  75. We are in a long distance…
    We are in a long distance relationship and we are struggling to make it work. Help…

    1. Hi Andrew, long distance…

      Hi Andrew, long distance relationships can be challenging to make work but if both partner are committed to the relationship they can make it work. Some of the things that can make the relationship work include frequent communication, planning to and spending time together. Have a look at the following article for additional tips;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/keep-long-distance-love-burning

  76. Same as me,I have a guy who…
    Same as me,I have a guy who lives at lagos while me at potharcut for my telioring handwork training,is such a very long distance between both of us
    I do miss him because i really love him.

  77. Can ong distance marriage…
    Can ong distance marriage work?

    1. Hey Dora, a long distance…

      Hey Dora, a long distance relationship or marriage can work if both partners are committed to their relationship and to each other. It is important that you communicate frequently, plan to spend time together and talk about the future since you can’t be in a long distant relationship forever. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  78. I was in a long distance…
    I was in a long distance relationship but had to quit because of mistrust from my partner.

    1. Hi Doris, so sorry about…

      Hi Doris, so sorry about your relationship. Making a long distance relationship work can be challenging and this is why partners need to talk about it, think about how their relationship will change before deciding to go long distance. There are a few things partners can do to make it work, check out the following article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  79. Long distance doesn’t say…
    Long distance doesn’t say they shouldn’t control their feelings

  80. Hi am in a long distance…
    Hi am in a long distance relationship but the guy can stay 2 days without talking to me and there is no problem at all.pls advice me what to because I fell not to continue with the relationship any more

    1. Hi Emily, have you asked him…

      Hi Emily, have you asked him why this happens? It is important that you talk with him to get to know what could be going. Communicate that’s frequent is important in a long distance relationship, without it partners been to grow apart which may lead to breaking up. Try and find a good time to talk about this to get to know what could be going so that together you can agree on how to proceed. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  81. Am IN a long distance…
    Am IN a long distance relationship with someone, but I dont feel like he loves me and I get jealous each time am charting with him, but I really do love him

    1. You are welcome Precious.

      You are welcome Precious.

  82. I’m praying for long…
    I’m praying for long distance relationship because I believe it’s will favour me as well….

  83. I don’t like long distance…
    I don’t like long distance relationship, am a jealous one, what will i do to stop that,

    1. Hi Benedictar, it is…

      Hi Benedictar, it is important to carefully think about whether or not to get into a long distance relationship. A little jealousy is alright, but if uncontrolled it can ruin your relationship. Take sometime and think about where the jealousy is coming from and together agree on how to address the issues. Frequent communication, planning to and spending time together as resources will allow and planning about the future together are some of the ways that can help keep your relationship. Have a look at the following articles for more tips;-

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  84. Long distance relationships…
    Long distance relationships dose nt change anything bcos love is in d heart nt on d face, when it’s speak d whole body movedd

    1. Thank you for sharing Aisha. 

      Thank you for sharing Aisha. 

  85. How can I make my long…
    How can I make my long distance relationship work?

    1. Hey Doraa, you can begin by…

      Hey Doraa, you can begin by communicating frequently. There are many options today that partners can utilise to keep in-touch including audio and video calls. It is important for partners plan to spend time together from time to time and as resources allow. It is also important that you do talk about the future of your relationship since you will not be in a long distance relationship forever. Talk about the future and plan of the future you want. Have a loo at the following article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  86. Long distance relationship…
    Long distance relationship broke my heart

  87. Long distance relationship…
    Long distance relationship do work if both of u trust each other

    1. Thank you Hadassa, we agree. 

      Thank you Hadassa, we agree. 

  88. Am in a long distance…
    Am in a long distance relationship, I do most of the calls bcos my boo is always busy but sometimes I get tired of doing the calls more than he is suppose to , but wen i get to complain about it ,he apologises but note that am staying bcos I knw he loves me and I love him too

    1. Hey Sandra, first, either…

      Hey Sandra, first, either partner can initiate communication in a relationship. However, when communication is one sided or when only one of the partners always initiates the communication. It is important that your partner gets to know the important of him communicating with you, if he does love you he will make time atleast to call you since it is through communication that you get to know each other as well as strengthen your relationship. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems 

  89. How do I know that my…
    How do I know that my partner love s me, without us seeing each other for a long time.

    1. Hi Christy, you could ask…

      Hi Christy, you could ask them how they feel toward you to get to know. Long distance relationships can be challenging to manage because of the long periods apart and for this reason partners need to keep the communication open and as frequent as possible. It is also important to plan and spend time together as time and resources will allow, talk and plan about the future of your relationship.Check out this article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  90. I wonder how people make a…
    I wonder how people make a long distance relationship work.I have tried but we failed, my bf cheated and I was just about to. Now, if you are not in the same town as me, we can’t have a relationship!!!

    1. Thank you for the feedback…

      Thank you for the feedback Chineye.

  91. Am in a long distance…
    Am in a long distance relationship I love my partner so much and he love me too but igot married without letting him know because I still love him.i got married because I know that I can’t marry him.what will I do

    1. Hi Vicky, you need to let…

      Hi Vicky, you need to let him know the decision you took. To still have something going with him will mean that you are cheating on your husband. He will probably be disappointed but telling him will give him a chance to move on and perhaps meet someone else for a relationship. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/how-to-break-up

    1. Thank you Precious, we love…

      Thank you Precious, we love you back. 

  92. Long distance relationship…
    Long distance relationship is not easy for me am confused about everything

    1. Hey Onyedikachi, long…

      Hey Onyedikachi, long distance relationships can be challenging to manage but if the partners are committed to each other and to the relationship they can make it work. You could start by making sure you communicate frequently, you plan to spent time together as resources allow and that you talk about the future of your relationship and plan for it. It will take commitment form both of you but if you are both willing it can work. Have a look at the following article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  93. Pls always communicate…
    Pls always communicate rregularly with your partner .u will win

    1. Thank you for your…

      Thank you for your contribution Yaro.

  94. Long distance relationship…
    Long distance relationship is not an easy thing but when the trust,endurance and love is there it keeps moving depending on how the two keeps the candle burning. To be sincere is not easy not seeing or touching the one you love for a long time.

    1. Thank you Ada for your…

      Thank you Ada for your contribution.

    1. Thank you for the feedback…

      Thank you for the feedback Esther. 

  95. A need a tips on love matters
    A need a tips on love matters

    1. Hey Ifeoma, what specific…

      Hey Ifeoma, what specific tips would you like for us to give you?

  96. Ever since my boyfriend got…
    Ever since my boyfriend got a new job in another county he has changed. He doesn’t calls like we used to and he has also stopped visiting he says work is taking up all his time. When I tell him I can visit him he says he has travelled to another place to work for some days. I feel like giving up. Any advice?

    1. Dear Faith, a long distance…

      Dear Faith, a long distance relationship can be challenging to make work and this is why it is important to take some time and think about how your relationship will change before committing to a long distance. Having said that, if both partners are committed they can make the relationship work in spite of the challenges. It is important that you talk with your partner about the changes you have observed so that you can agree on how to proceed or not. If someone does care about, they will create the time for you amid their busy schedule. Talk with him to find out whether he is still interested in the relationship. Here are some tips to make a long distance relationship work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  97. I am in a long distance…
    I am in a long distance relationshop it’s challenging at tyms my partner doesnt even talk to me frequently and I feel like he may be cheating but this is just some of the time.

    1. Hi Rhowdah, making a long…

      Hi Rhowdah, making a long distance relationship can be challenging but when partners are committed to each other they can make the relationship work. One of the essentials of any relationship is communication, it is important to communicate frequently especially when you are physically apart. There is no way to know for sure if he is cheating on you and for this reason it important to talk about your concerns with him, let him know the important of communicating frequently, talk about the future or relationship and in the meantime when you still have to be apart plan to spend time together from time to time. Check out this article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  98. I walked in on my boyfriend…
    I walked in on my boyfriend on top of another woman. Days later he has not called to explain or excuse the issue I am soo angry and confused at the same time. I don’t know what to do.

    1. Hi Mary, so sorry about this…

      Hi Mary, so sorry about this. Your boyfriend broke the rules of your relationship by cheating on you. It is unfortunate that he has not reached out to you or shown any remorse for his decision. You now have to think about what you want moving forward. Do you want to get back with him and try to rebuild your relationship? Or do you feel it is the end for your relationship? It is important that you think about what you want moving forward and make an informed decision. Remember, you may only be able to make things work if this is what he wants as well. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/knowing-when-to-break-up

  99. Long distance relationship…
    Long distance relationship made my fiance cheat on me and we have a kid together partners should be very committed to make long distance relationship work

    1. Hello Daisy, so sorry about…

      Hello Daisy, so sorry about this. Indeed commitment is important toward making a relationship work. This is why it is important for one to carefully consider the decision to go long distance and then make an informed decision. A long distance relationship  can still work. Have a look at the following article for some tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  100. I am in a long distance…
    I am in a long distance relationship and recently my partner started giving me attitude,does that means she doesn’t love me again or what

    1. Hey Dany, so sorry about…

      Hey Dany, so sorry about this. It is difficult to tell what could be going on. It is important that you talk with her about what you have observed to get to know what could be going on. Find a good to talk about this and agree on a way forward. Here are some tips to make a long distance relationship work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  101. Pls am in a long distance…
    Pls am in a long distance relationship,and my partner have started to give me attitude, is it that she doesn’t love again or what,

    1. Hey Dany, I am not able to…

      Hey Dany, I am not able to tell what the attitude is about, but have you raised this concern with her? Communication is an important part of any relationship, without it partners begin to draw apart. I suggest that you you begin by talking with your partner to get to know what could be going. This will help in finding a solution and deciding how to proceed. All the best. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  102. I can’t stand my man not…
    I can’t stand my man not texting, calling or showing concern to me. Distance relationship are very difficult.

    1. Hey Maurine, making a long…

      Hey Maurine, making a long distance relationship work can be challenging but committed partners can make it work. Frequent communication is especially important since it helps to keep partners in touch and today there are many options to enable this. It is important to talk about the importance of communication in a relationship with your partner and try and do this as frequent as possible. Have a look at the following article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

    1. You are welcome Nimat.

      You are welcome Nimat.

  103. Am in a long distance…
    Am in a long distance relationship, and we have been together for 2 years but I don’t trust him. He travels to see me at least once every 3 months. Still I don’t trust him, he keeps telling me to believe him that he is faithful but I doubt! When we are together his phone is off he says he doesn’t want distractions and this only started recently. I just think something is off with him. When I say I visit him he refused. I have never been where he works and lives. I am getting tired, I feel like just walking out.

    1. Hello Priscilla, have you…

      Hello Priscilla, have you talked about this with your partner? You seem to have trust issues about your partner and this has negatively affected your relationship especially now that you are in a long distant relationship. Since there is no way to tell for sure if your partner is cheating, it is important that you raise your concerns with him, let him know what you have observed and with this make a decision on how to proceed. Have a look at the following article on tips to make a long distance relationship work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

    1. You are welcome Mathias. 

      You are welcome Mathias. 

  104. Long distance relationship…
    Long distance relationship is one of the difficult relationships. I don’t advise people to do it but it is very possible. It has financial implications, emotional deficiency and several things. If the two parties are not faithful to themselves, it can lead to promiscuity.

    1. We appreciate you…

      We appreciate you contribution Temple. Making a long distance relationship work can be challenging but if both partners are committed to each, they can make it work. 

  105. Hello my boyfriend got a new…
    Hello my boyfriend got a new job in a different town. This job is important to him but I have a feeling it will negatively affect our relationship. I don’t know whether we will still work as a long distance relationship from the stories I have heard I feel we should just break up. Please advice.

    1. Hello Favor, it is important…

      Hello Favor, it is important to give careful thought to how your relationship will change before going long distance. One of the major changes, is the long periods you will spend physically apart from each other and yes this will affect your relationship. Partners can however, make it work if they are first committed to each other, they make a commitment to communicate frequently, they make plans to visit each other as resources will allow and that they talk about and make plans for the future of their relationship and work toward it. Take sometime and think about this, then have an honest conversation about the future of your relationship with your partner to make an informed decision. We wish you all the best, check out this article with tips on how to make it work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  106. I wanted to surprise my…
    I wanted to surprise my boyfriend over the weekend and so I showed an announced only to find the guy half naked with another woman. I guess the surprise was on me. I feel so hurt and he has said nothing since then. I want to move on but it really difficult for me on this one.

    1. Hey Angela, so sorry about…

      Hey Angela, so sorry about this. Your partner cheated on you and it appears he either doesn’t know how to approach you to apologize or he is just not remorseful about what happened. You need to think about whether you can forgive and trust him like you did before. If you can’t it maybe time to break up. Breaking up and moving on after can be challenging, but with time you will be able to move on. Give yourself time, eventually you will be able to move on. Have a look at the following article for tips on coping with a break up;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/coping-with-a-break-up

  107. It works for me and itz…
    It works for me and itz going fyn and smoothly qith gods grace

    1. Thank you for sharing Wunmi.

      Thank you for sharing Wunmi.

  108. What if is to to busy to…
    What if is to to busy to pick your or reply your message does that mean is chats on u with somebody else

    1. Hi Victoria, it is difficult…

      Hi Victoria, it is difficult to know for sure if your partner is cheating on you. It is important that you however raise any concerns you have, especially the lack of communication. Communication is one of the essentials of any relationship, without which partners begin to draw apart and this can cause the relationship to fail. Find a good to raise these concerns with your partner, remember not to just accuse him a cheat but raise your concerns to get to know what could be going on. Check out the following article for more information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/how-can-i-know-my-partner-is-cheating-on-me

    1. We appreciate your…

      We appreciate your contribution Mhiz. 

  109. my boyfriend gave me his…
    my boyfriend gave me his facebook password and i also gave him mine. when i login in to his account i saw so many things, like asking so many ladies out. does he really love me? and am planning to breakup with him.

    1. Hello Happiness. So sorry…

      Hello Happiness. So sorry you are going through such a hard time.
      Communication is an important part of any relationship. Have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Explain how their actions are affecting you and the relationship. Try not to be confrontational because that would put them on the defensive and the resulting conversation would not be productive.  Be ready to listen to their fears and feelings and respond to them as well.

  110. Am also in a long distance…
    Am also in a long distance relation bh all it needs is being commted, trust each othr n understanding.long distance van wrk easly

    1. Thank you for your input,…

      Thank you for your input, Eric.

  111. I want to shower you with…
    I want to shower you with hugs and kisses all day long.” “I can’t tell you enough how special you are to me.” “I’m so lucky to have a girlfriend as gorgeous as you.” “Next to you is my favourite place to be.” i think i love this write up……………

    1. Hi imalere efe, thank you…

      Hi imalere efe, thank you for chippin in!

  112. It take understanding to…
    It take understanding to build the foundation of love

  113. Long relationship it’s all…
    Long relationship it’s all about cheating

  114. What makes you say that Mr…

    What makes you say that Mr Private?

  115. Thank you for your…

    Thank you for your cotribution Timmieleyin 🙂

  116. Have learnt a lot from you…
    Have learnt a lot from you and am now ready to protect our love

    1. Thank you for your…

      Thank you for your contribution Sharon and we are always pleased to help!

  117. Long distance relationship…
    Long distance relationship is working for me…. it’s all about commitment and Trust

    1. Hi Faith, thank you so much…

      Hi Faith, thank you so much for sharing yor point of view which is very true and we are so happy for you both. Just like your name suggests, we have faith that your relationship success will inspire more to be just like th both of you! Well done!

    1. Hello Zennoureeny, thank you…

      Hello Zennoureeny, thank you for reaching out to us but unfortunately we are not a dating site and connot help you find a partner. We provide honest information about Love, Sex and Relationships. Feel free to ask any question and we shall be more than glad to respond to you.

      Love Matters Team

  118. Distance relationship is…
    Distance relationship is good when u ar with the right person

  119. Long distance relationship…
    Long distance relationship can only work when both partner truth each other

    1. Thank you for your input…

      Thank you for your input Favour.

  120. He’s far away, he doesn’t…
    He’s far away, he doesn’t call, h e doesn’t chat me, each time I complain he apologies but still repeat ig again.

  121. I like distance relationship…
    I like distance relationship. it’s cool. I’m single and ready to mingle

    1. Hi Prince, Love Matters…

      Hi Prince, Love Matters Africa is not a dating site as we cannot help you in this regard.

  122. I WANT TO MAKE A BOY KISS ME
    I WANT TO MAKE A BOY KISS ME

    1. Hi Naky, why do you want to…

      Hi Naky, why do you want to make them do this?

  123. My long distance boyfriend…
    My long distance boyfriend gets angry each time I refuse to show him my nakedness on video calls,I am living with my elder sister and husband and I tried explaining to my boy friend that I don’t have my privacy to always show my nakedness to him and that got him agree and he said I am not sexy,what should I do,my relationship is crumbling

    1. Hello Chizzy, thank you for…

      Hello Chizzy, thank you for reaching out to us. We understand that this situation would be frustrating to you especially considering your situation. The best thing to do is to try and have a conversation with him and explain the situation. Listen to him as well and respond to his emotions.

      Remember that nobody should try and force you to do something with your body that you do not want to or are not ready to. Your sexiness is not reliant on whether or not you can show your naked body.

    1. Hello SP, thank you for your…

      Hello SP, thank you for your feedback. We are glad to hear that this website has been of help.

  124. when there is communication…
    when there is communication in long distance relationship it work ND also trust in each

  125. Hello Chidimma, thank you so…

    Hello Chidimma, thank you so much for sharing your perspective and you are completely right, communication and trust is key in any successful relationship, especially long-distance relationships! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe! 🙂 

  126. Hey,i got a problem in my R…
    Hey,i got a problem in my R/Ship since my girl happend to be Abroad for a job

    1. Hi, what is the problem? Are…

      Hi, what is the problem? Are you able to explain?

  127. in a distance relationship…
    in a distance relationship how can I know that my guy love me as I do.. pls Expian to me …

    1. Hi Chy, thank you for…

      Hi Chy, thank you for reaching out to us. You have asked a great question. There really is no easy way of determining if someone loves you as much as you love them because people express love in different ways. 

      Love presents in different ways. We all have love Languages. These are ways in which we express love for our loved ones. These love languages are Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.

      This article has more information on these love languages and how they present. Go through it and let us know if you still have any questions.
      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/do-you-speak-the-right-language-when-it-comes-

  128. Hey how can I act love to my…
    Hey how can I act love to my girlfriend instead of saying it

    1. Hello Baba, you have asked a…

      Hello Baba, you have asked a really good question. Love presents in different ways. We all have love Languages. These are ways in which we express love for our loved ones. These love languages are Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.

      This article has more information on these love languages and how they present. Go through it and let us know if you still have any questions.
      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/do-you-speak-the-right-language-when-it-comes-to-love

  129. in a long distance…
    in a long distance relationship, how can a lady know if his partner is cheating on her or not.. ND also know is the his partner loves her de way she do.. pls can tell me if the guy don’t call u the way u do is that means he don’t want u again.. pls tell me…

  130. Hello EBY, thank you for…

    Hello EBY, thank you for reaching out to us. There is no way to know for sure if someone is cheating on you. The best thing you can do is try to communicate with your partner. Be honest with them about your suspicions and your feelings along with your fears. I know this can be scary to bring it up but try to just tell them why you suspect something is wrong and not just accuse them a cheater. Generally, if we hold on to our thoughts you might take things the wrong way believe something without knowing if it is real or not. 

  131. Am in a long distance…
    Am in a long distance relationship tew but lately we’ve been having problems with my partner,I dont know what to do coz I love him so much,I don’t want to lose him,advise me what to do

    1. Hi Peninah, thank you so…

      Hi Peninah, thank you so much for your question. What kinds o problems are you experiencing? Do you know what the cause of the problem may be?

  132. am in long distance. I need…
    am in long distance. I need more advise. Thank.

  133. Hi Collins, what do you need…

    Hi Collins, what do you need advice on?

  134. am in a long distance…
    am in a long distance relationship. my guy doesn’t call me the way I do, is that show he love me

    1. Hi NG, thank you so much for…

      Hi NG, thank you so much for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. Thing is, we all have different ways of loving our partners and for you, that means constant communication and maybe on his end, he does not feel that way. However, communication is important in a Long Distance Relationship. When next you have a call explain your feelings. Speak about what you would like from them and how it would be better for the relationship. Listen to them as well and try and address any fears they may have.

  135. Am in long distance…
    Am in long distance relationship,we have been having problems lately with my partner,now it lead us into not talking,I fear I might lose him coz I love him,please how may I find help

    1. Hello Anonymous, you are…

      Hello Anonymous, you are most welcome. We are always pleased to help. Please feel free to look through the website to find other articles that you may find helpful.

  136. Am in long distance…
    Am in long distance relationship.
    how can I know if my partner love me the way I do.. how can my partner show me love in long distance relationship please I want to know…..

    1. Hello NK, thank you for…

      Hello NK, thank you for reaching out to us. Long-Distance relationships can be a little hard to navigate and it takes determination and compromise from all involved. As luck would have it, we have this great article that has some great information on what could make a long-distance relationship work better. We hope this helps.

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

    1. Hello Vashi, thank you for…

      Hello Vashi, thank you for reaching out to us. What do you mean? Could you please expound?

  137. is it okay to love someone…
    is it okay to love someone who is so far and yet you havent met is it okay to trust that person

  138. pls I need answer ,when A…
    pls I need answer ,when A lady called his partner ND he refuse to call back what doesn’t mean?.. is it good to A lady to call he’s partner everyday ?..when a guy doesn’t call his partner it dat show he still love her?…

  139. Hi Ify, thank you for…

    Hi Ify, thank you for getting in touch and we are so sorry you are going through a difficult time. If you both had agreed that you would talk to each other every day, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. There could be a variety of reasons as to why he may have not called you back dear, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he does not love you, maybe he is busy or something has come up that he will explain to you the next time you talk. Long-distance relationships can be tough but faith, trust, and communication can go a long way. Also understanding each others love languages can help 🙂 Click here to find out more and share this with your partner so that you can both identify each others love languages and further improve your relationship: https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/do-you-speak-the-right-language-when-it-comes-to-love

  140. Its great to know more about…
    Its great to know more about love

    1. Hi Emily, we are so glad…

      Hi Emily, we are so glad that you are enjoying learning more about love! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

       

  141. am in long distance…
    am in long distance relationship, when a lady ask his partner do u want to be with me forever.. he reply ND say is God that know the best is that show he want me or not pls tell me let me know what I will do… I just want to be with him.. “?

  142. Hello Blessing, thank you…

    Hello Blessing, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. Well, his response could mean a lot of things and he isn’t being dishonest. If you want a more specific response from him why don’t you both have an open and honest discussion about how you both feel and see where you both think the future of your relationship is. Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

  143. can long distance…
    can long distance relationship lead to marriage in between u ND ur partner..? if the person really LOVE u?

    1. Hi Vicky, thank you for…

      Hi Vicky, thank you for reaching out to us. It can indeed lead to marriage if you love each other but also dedicate yourselves to spending time together. Although different circumstances force us into Long Distance Relationships, the hope and the ideal situation is for the partners to be together eventually or at eat spend some time together in real-time.

  144. Hey, am in a long distance…
    Hey, am in a long distance relationship, but to tell u the Truth am enjoying it

    1. Hi Francisca, thank you so…

      Hi Francisca, thank you so much for your input. We are glad to hear that you are happy and fulfilled in your relationship.

  145. Thank you for sharing with…

    Thank you for sharing with us Zee! We are glad you agree! Have a wonderful weekend and stay safe!

  146. Am also in a distance…
    Am also in a distance relationship just to avoid thing like hug, kiss, romance, sex etc, and i so much believe in it bt it does not work out for me i don’t know why always on one problem to another

    1. Hi Eunice, thank you so much…

      Hi Eunice, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. Long Distance Relationships can indeed be difficult.

  147. Well I will not say that…
    Well I will not say that distance relationship is not good,is good because me am into it.and is only meant for partners who understand themselves

  148. Am into one now seriously it…
    Am into one now seriously it’s not eaay. Hope I don’t give up

  149. I used to love my girl but…
    I used to love my girl but because of the distance between us she did not trurt me so we broke up

    1. Hi Laxy, thank you for…

      Hi Laxy, thank you for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to hear that you have been through such a hard time. We hope that this was the best option for you and worked out so that you are happy and if you are not, well you could also use this experience as a lesson.

  150. As for me am in long…
    As for me am in long distance relationship ✈️and i hope our relationship ?last long as we want it Amen ?

  151. Thank you for the…

    Thank you for the inspiration and prayer Dammy, Amen!

  152. Am in along distance…
    Am in along distance relationship, we haven’t seen each other for 2years now. I’m not happy about it.

  153. Hello Mugo, thank you for…

    Hello Mugo, thank you for getting in touch with us and we are sorry you are going through a hard time. It is understandable to not be happy, we are currently going through a global pandemic after all. Love is not always a bed of roses and sometimes you are going to have to weather the storms together, even during difficult times but do not despair, click here to find out more:

    https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distancing-coronavirus-you-can-do-it

    Please let us know if this information helps and do not hesitate to reach out to us! Have a wonderful weekend and stay safe!

  154. Long distant relationship…
    Long distant relationship works

    1. Hi Frank. Yes they do! Thank…

      Hi Frank. Yes they do! Thank you for your input, we appreciate it.

  155. If there’s any way I can…
    If there’s any way I can describe my relationship I’ll describe it as ??????? 6years we’ve been struggling so hard not to break cause we believe the bond is still there?… d most painful part is he’s refusing breakup but e doesn’t call but each time I text him e will reply telling me he’s busy, he’s giving me a deep depression but I still love him so much and I’m scared of losing him ???

    1. Hi Erica, 

      I am sorry to…

      Hi Erica, 

      I am sorry to hear about what you are going through. It seems that there is a communication and commitment problem in your relationship. Your boyfriend does not call or text until you do and at the same time he’s not committed to making time for you. It would be wise to tell him about how you feel about his actions. If he listens and promises to change you can give him sometime to see whether he changes. It is also fair to ask him about things that make him unhappy in this relationship. You both can sit down and talk about how you can be better partners to each other or if this relationship is making both of you happy. It is possible that one, or both, of you are unhappy but are afraid to say it out loud. Do not be afraid to break up if you feel that he is not interested in talking about these issues or that the relationship is not healthy for you, or both of you. Here is an article that  can help you know when to breakup: Signs that it’s time to break up and move on. If you decide to fix the relationship here is an article on communication for you and your partner: How can I improve communication in my relationship? 

  156. Hi ma’am, thank so much that…
    Hi ma’am, thank so much that was wonderful. I’m in this serious relationship with this guy I knew through a friend, and we have never met yet. But I’ve grown to love him, and wouldn’t think of anything that would cause me to loose him. But I’m afraid he may not find me very attractive when we finally meet, although we have been sharing all the pictures. And he has already introduced me to some members of his family. Playing what would be your advice to me. Thanks

    1. Hi Promise, 

      Have…

      Hi Promise, 

      Have confidence in yourself. You deserve love. Do not doubt your ability to attract love. The fact that he has introduced you to some family members means may mean that he likes you. Unless you have been sending edited photos of yourself, you should be positive and confident about attractiveness. You are enough!

  157. Yes distance relationship is…
    Yes distance relationship is vry good nd interesting but at the same time make vry hurting cause you might want to b with your partner for a time out but not possible cause of the distance,let love lead ♥️

    1. Hi Blessing, 

      True. Thank…

      Hi Blessing, 

      True. Thank you for engaging with us. 

  158. Am in long-distance…
    Am in long-distance relationship but the communication is minimal one sided to say. I put in much effort but she acts as if she doesn’t have time

    1. Hi Claye, 

      Communication is…

      Hi Claye, 

      Communication is an important part of a healthy relationship. It is especially important in a long-distance relationship where physical contact is not assured for some time. In your case, it could be that you are the only one who is interested in the relationship. Actions speak louder than words and if she is not making time to speak with you, then she may be telling you that she is not interested through her actions. If she has said that she’s interested in being in a relationship with you, talk to her and explain how her silence or lack of communication makes you feel. 

  159. How can I manage a long…
    How can I manage a long distance relationship cos my date got a job in rivers state and am in uyo .right now am having nagative feelings that he is going to change since he is far from me and I don’t want such to happen but I don’t actually know what to do.

    1. Hi Betty, 

      Your long…

      Hi Betty, 

      Your long-distance relationship can work. Like all other relationships, it requires work, perhaps a little extra effort because of the physical distance. Comunication is one of the most important elements of a long distance relationship. Here are tips that can help you ensure that it works: Tips to make your long distance relationship work

  160. long distance relationship…
    long distance relationship is some how good but you don’t know what your partner doing at all times

    1. Thank you, Kelly. To an…

      Thank you, Kelly. To an extent it’s true, but, on the other hand, you do not know what your partner is doing at all times even if you live together. 

  161. Am in long distance…
    Am in long distance relationship now my bf don’t always call me as before ,dose dat mean he still love me

    1. Hi Cecelia, 

      It is totally…

      Hi Cecelia, 

      It is totally normal for a partner not to call as often as he used to at the start of the relationship.  However, it should not be that he goes for long without calling you. On the other hand, since you are already in a relationship, you can also call him and check on him from time to time. Do not always expect him to call. 

      If you want to know whether he still loves you, the best thing to do is to ask him. Have an open and honest conversation with him about your feelings for him and encourage him to express how he feels about you. Remember, actions speak louder than words, you should feel loved and wanted, if you do not feel that way, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship. 

      Here is an article that can help you keep your relationship strong: 6 tips to keep your love burning 

  162. Some long distance…
    Some long distance relationship may work or not it depends with the love you have for each other…I have been in one but I had to quit the reason being I work for so many hours from morning, we did not have a lot of time communicating with each other just saying hi,how are you,my long hours for working made him think that I did not have time for him,& wen am online he is not,I feel guilty for not being committed and giving him more attention that she deserves because am always busy & sleeping late.

    1. Hi Brenda, 

      Thank you for…

      Hi Brenda, 

      Thank you for sharing your experience. Long-distance relationships require commitment from all those involved. Do not feel guilty since it should take the two of you to make the relationship work. Here are tips that can help you revive your relationship: Top tip to make your long-distance relationship work

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