Talk about the hardest question of them all. I think all of humanity has grappled with this question and we see related ramblings everywhere we look: cave walls, poems, songs, books, and chapters in the Bible. So here is my attempt at answering this…
Different types of love
There are different kinds of love, the most obvious being what we feel for our family. It sits there quietly, informing our choices in behaviour, giving birth to kindness, loyalty, affection, protectiveness, and all manner of other feel-good things. I think what we feel for friends is another version of this.
Then there is the big life-altering, rationality-erasing, all-consuming kind of love. This is the one that has us, as the human race, baffled.
When we are in love, we think about the object of our affection constantly and the smallest of their actions can make or break our day and mood.
Everything they touch seems iridescent – what they wear, what they drive, etc. And so when they touch us, we too are iridescent. This love is loud; it does not sit anywhere quietly. It declares its presence even when we think we are being smooth and subtle. We crave our beloved’s attention, affection and physical presence. If we do not have it, we can become obsessed. And god forbid, if we get rejected we then can go raving mad.
Love helps you grow
I am truly a romantic because I believe loving other people makes us better people, and that our true romantic partners make us bigger and better versions of ourselves. Having another person in your life who believes in you and actively pursues what is best for you is, I believe, what God meant romantic love to be about.
I hope I have answered your question and I hope you find love.
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