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Knowing when to break up

Do you feel like you’ve given your relationship your all, but it’s not working? Or you grew apart? Then it’s probably time to consider ending the relationship.

Breaking up with your partner is never easy, but sometimes you have to do it. Sometimes we stay in unhappy relationships because ending it is such a tough decision, and can cause a lot of emotional stress and practical problems. If you’re putting it off, even though you feel it’s the right thing to do, you’re not the only one.

When is it time to break up?

It’s tough to know if it’s really time to break up with your partner. Here are a few signs that it’s time to break up and move on:​​​

  • One of you cheated on the other and you both realise it’s over.
  • You’ve lost interest in spending time with your partner.
  • Your relationship has changed a lot since you first started being together, and you don’t like the way things are going.
  • You fight a lot with your partner. These fights keep happening even though you’ve tried talking out the underlying problems properly.
  • You find it hard to be yourself in the relationship.
  • You’ve started keeping secrets from your partner or have discovered that your partner is keeping secrets from you.
  • You and your partner find yourselves having to say ‘sorry’ too often.
  • It’s been a long time since you said ‘I love you’ to each other.
  • You haven’t had sex in a long time.
  • You lack the energy, drive, or motivation to make up to your partner.

These are just a few indicators. The strongest of them all is feeling there’s something wrong with your relationship.

Relationships always have their ups and downs. It can be worth working hard with your partner to try to improve the situation. Sometimes the problems aren’t really about you and your partner, but about outside circumstances that are putting a strain on your relationship – things like money worries, trouble at work, a lost job, or arguments with family.

Yes, you can come out of the other side of a bad patch feeling closer than ever. But that doesn’t mean that you and/or your partner should spend years of your lives feeling unhappy all the time. So sometimes a break-up is the best option.

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Recent Comments (205)

  1. And whateve u are a married…
    And whateve u are a married lady and u want to end that relationship

    1. (No subject)
      Hi Jenny,

      If you feel that you want to end a relationship you need to begin by making sure your reasons are clear. Then find a good time to talk to your partner about these especu=ially if you feel the reasons that have led you to this decisioncannot be rsolved. It is important you do it in person since you have been together with this person for a while. Expect that he wmay not accept this decision and so you need to be clear, firm but not really cruel. Lastly, think before hand about how your relationship will change and prepare for that change.

      Check out the following article for more tips on how to break up;-
      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/breaking-up/how-to-break-up

      1. It has helped me alot..thanks
        It has helped me alot..thanks

        1. You are welcome Gladys. 

          You are welcome Gladys. 

    2. Quiz,can religion matter end…
      Quiz,can religion matter end to break-ups

      1. Hi Cynthia, thank you so…

        Hi Cynthia, thank you so much for your question. To be honest, any issue that cannot be resolved can indeed lead to a break-up. However, parties in the relationship need to understand that compromise is key in making relationships work.

    3. Am in a breakup now and this…
      Am in a breakup now and this just what I need right now thabkz

      1. Anonymous we are so sorry…

        Anonymous we are so sorry you had to go through a hard time but know that we are so proud of you for using our information to help you move on and know you are incredible, okay? Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

  2. Its is difficult to talk…
    Its is difficult to talk with my partner up to now eight month now no talk wat should i do

    1. (No subject)
      Communication is essential for any relationship to stay alive and even grow. You cannot resolve the problems you have if you are not talking to each other. If you are not able to talk to each other it maybe time to consider a break up. Have you tried to reach out to your partner to resolve the issues?

      What led to this state of the relationship?

  3. my boyfriend cheated me with…
    my boyfriend cheated me with her mothers househelp that tym I felt so bad bt after sometime I jxt forgot everything…..now he wants me back should I accept him???

    1. Yes 4give him man iz twe…
      Yes 4give him man iz twe error … I know not wans u made an error urself then u regret

      1. Hi Tendo, what is not fair?

        Hi Tendo, what is not fair?

  4. Hi, my man has been keeping…
    Hi, my man has been keeping to himself lately due to the fact that he’s financially down. I’ve tried all my means of communicating with him but he still shut me out… What can I do in order not to lose my relationship

    1. Hi Bella, this experience is…
      Hi Bella, this experience is obviously tough for your partner. All you can do is to give him time and reassure him of your support to him. You want to communicate your support to him without pestering as this may have affected hi self esteem. You cam also try and keep your conversations away from the financial challenges as much as possible. we wish you well.

    2. Don’t beg so much 4 love…
      Don’t beg so much 4 love maiby tha man has just lost interest

      1. Thank you Carol for your…
        Thank you Carol for your contribution.

    3. If u can let go of him then…
      If u can let go of him then do it

      1. Thank you for your…

        Thank you for your contribution Success.

  5. I and my partner have slowly…
    I and my partner have slowly grew apart,no communication,sex is once in a while…he asked if he shld give me time to think but am confused

    1. If he love u he will come…
      If he love u he will come back

      1. Thank you for you…

        Thank you for you contribution.

  6. my boyfriend keeps on…
    my boyfriend keeps on promising me promises bt he failed for what he promised me. When i asked him why u do so he keeps saying don’t worry abt it whats the problem with him and i really love him

    1. Hi Nancy, I couldn’t…
      Hi Nancy, I couldn’t possibly tell what the problem is with him. You may however want to let him know that this is disappointing to you and that it is important for him to keep his word when he make a promise to you so that he doesn’t negatively affect your trust in him. Wish you well.

    2. My boyfriend promise me to…
      My boyfriend promise me to marry me first time he meet me but now he Dan change he mind now,but I don’t want to lose him bcoz I love him so much,

      1. Hey Shade, are you still…

        Hey Shade, are you still dating or you broke up? If he has said he no longer wants to marry you, do you want to be in a relationship that will not lead to marriage? You need to take sometime and think about what you want in a relationship and determine whether you can get what you are looking for in this relationship. If you want a relationship that will lead to marriage and he doesn’t want to get married it maybe time to break up. Take sometime and think about what you want and then make an informed decision. Check out the following article for additional information;-

         https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/knowing-when-to-break-up

        https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/coping-with-a-break-up

  7. I meet this guy on face book…
    I meet this guy on face book we dated almost six month, the thing is he insisted I move with him and start a family and all he wants is sharing everything like paying the house and buying food .the first time we meet we use to go out and eat but nowadays he doesn’t he is saying is looking money for shifting and now I’m a wife I’m so confused.

    1. Hi Jill, you need to talk…
      Hi Jill, you need to talk with your husband about the things that are bringing about the with your husband. It maybe important to talk about what your expectations were before and what they are right now, in him as your partner and the marriage. Also, let him tell you what his expectations are so together you can both agree on the way forward.

  8. My boyfriend treats his…
    My boyfriend treats his friends more special than he does to me… He is never willing to have us on social media…I feel like quiting..should I?

    1. Hi Tina, Have you talked to…
      Hi Tina, Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? It may help to get to know what his reasons are for not wanting to go public about your relationship. Think about what but more importantly which kind of person you want to be with and then make a decision on how to proceed with your current partner.

    2. I have the same issue he…
      I have the same issue he prefers treating my friend who is a girl special more than me there was a time I borrowed him some money he said he doesn’t have but the girl asked him for money and he gave her he didn’t even consult me and get has become violent we are engaged but funny thing is that he bought a ring but he didn’t even say will u marry me he just gave me the ring I am the one who put it in the finger not him he treats me like I don’t exist I buy him stuffs he doesn’t even appreciate it for my side don’t even remember the last time he bought me a gift he says he wants us to wed but he doesn’t even call or text to check on me during the day u see him on Facebook but he doesn’t even text back plz help me should u continue with this relationship? Am not close to him any more I don’t open up to him anymore

      1. Hey Andor, is the kind of…

        Hey Andor, is the kind of partner and relationship you want to be in for the rest of your life? Have you talked with him about these? You need to take sometime and think about what you want in a partner and a relationship. It appears your partner doesn’t care for you or even respect you. If he is unwilling to change to better your relationship, it maybe to break up and move on. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems

  9. I realized my hubby has a…
    I realized my hubby has a side chic n it’s eating me up.. What do I do?

  10. We’ve be married for 16…
    We’ve be married for 16 years but at times it on n off there violence involved,unfaithfulnes,n bad mouthing, n when ever I walk away he trys to make me feel it was my fault, we have children n it has reach a point where my children don’t want us to stay together coz they have seen him abuse me what should I do

    1. Hey Terry, Sorry about this…
      Hey Terry, Sorry about this. I|t seems the issues in your relationship have gone to far to the point your children feel the need to protect you. If it is not possible for your relationship to go back to what things used to be before, it maybe time to break up. Remember exposing the children to such violence does affect them and may affect their own relationships in the future.

      1. Sorry at that stage no option
        Sorry at that stage no option

        1. Hey Enoch, we appreciate…

          Hey Enoch, we appreciate your contribution. 

  11. I had this man for six…
    I had this man for six months.I love him so much but all we keep doing is fight.he cheats on me but forgive him but I now decided to move on but I totally can’t I get so stressed I just can’t forget him but when am with him is just fights what should I do??

    1. Hi Betty, Is this the…
      Hi Betty, Is this the relationship you want? If he is unwilling to change particularly on the cheating it maybe to breakup. Fights are also a sign of deep seated dissatisfaction in the relationship. You both need to have an honest communication about what is happening in your relationship and agree on how to proceed.

  12. My gal friend wants us to…
    My gal friend wants us to get married, am also broke she always says, u are broke but I love u, men with wealth are many wants me ….. I patience pays

    1. Hey Ahmed, this a good thing…
      Hey Ahmed, this a good thing. We wish you well.

  13. I have a boyfriend that I…
    I have a boyfriend that I really love and he also claim to love me back, but when he does something wrong to me and I confront him about it he ends up getting ungry and blaming me for his actions. Sometimes I really feel bad and ungry and even think of calling the relationship quit what should I do

    1. Hi Kimberly, All…
      Hi Kimberly, All relationships will have problems from time to time. Partners will disagree but how they choose to resolve the issues is what makes the difference. It is important to maintain open and honest communication between partner. This communication ensures you can address any issues without having to hurt each other or the relationship. You need to talk with your partner, talk about how you have both handled differences in the past and agree on how to do it better in future. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/relationship-problems/fighting-dos-and-donts

      1. Thank you for your…

        Thank you for your contribution, Success.

  14. I have been I a relationship…
    I have been I a relationship since in high school and now we have a daughter 6yrs BT the guy never responsible BT claims to love us… Till now he lives with his parents and he depends on me BT now am tired of him,should I quit plz

    1. Hi Mary, have you talked to…
      Hi Mary, have you talked to him about this? You may want to talk to him about what your expectations are and also find out what his plan is. Based on this you can then make a decision.

  15. Hi… Have been dating my…
    Hi… Have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now and promised to marry me… But the relationship has been having ups and down even communication from him has been a problem he does say that he’s not into phone that much last weekend we did not talk upon our meeting but yesterday he told me he is not interested in the affair anymore what should I do pls

    1. Hi Rachael, All you can do…
      Hi Rachael, All you can do now is to try and find out what could be going on with him. Sadly there is little you can do if he insists on breaking up, but if he is willing you can together work to resolve the issues he may have. We wish you well.

  16. Hi, am married for 3years…
    Hi, am married for 3years but things have changed totally Simply because my hubby has been cheating on me severally with à number of girls. We have been Discussing the matter over and over again but denies that and vow he does not have any. This is really eating me up even after having à baby with another Lady out there hé denies hé is responsible.i have one Child and Sometimes ï feel ï Should leave him

    1. Hi Emma, So sorry about this…
      Hi Emma, So sorry about this. Cheating causes a rift between partners especially when partners are unable to resolve the issues. If he refuses to change and commit to your relationship even after having another child with someone else, you now have to think about what you want and then make a decision.

  17. I have a a boyfriend whom we…
    I have a a boyfriend whom we’ve dated with for three months,, we’ve been using a condom but he changed abruptly, he wants us to have unprotected sex,when I’m in my safe days, I don’t like the idea coz l fear I might become pregnant,, I’ve shared it to him but he don’t want to listen,, should I quit

    1. Hi Caren, Condoms are one…
      Hi Caren, Condoms are one option for preventing Pregnancy you can consider using. Safe days can be unreliable for preventing pregnancy. You can however consider other methods. It maybe important to begin by getting tested for HIV together if you haven’t already since only condoms can prevent both Sexually Transmitted Infections and pregnancy. However, if you are not ready for this and you are unable to agree on how to proceed it may be time to break up.
      Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/birth-control

      1. Thank you, I’m now…
        Thank you, I’m now comfortable to make my decision

  18. Am in a long distance…
    Am in a long distance relationshio we meet once in a while what have realised with my guy is that he is not into sex we can spend the night together but nothing happens we do it once in a while..so my quiz is..Does this shows that he respect me or what does it mean.. because am always very loyal to him cant afford to cheat on him he is my all

    1. Hi Winnie, Sex is always…
      Hi Winnie, Sex is always better when you talk about it with your partner. It is however normal to have one partner having a higher sex drive than the other, but talking about sex ensures you find a balance that work for both of you. Talk about your needs and together agree how to make it work.

  19. I have been married…
    I have been married foralmost seven years now and have two kids now my wife thinks I hate the eldest because he’s my stepson which is not true.so the relationship has now changed we keep fighting and she leaves then comes back after some time do you think I should end this ..I’m stressed

    1. Hi Paul, Did you find out…
      Hi Paul, Did you find out why she thinks you hate your step son?You may need to talk about this so you can reassure her, she needs to know that she may have misread your actions. Talking about this will help address the source of your fights and perhaps the option will not to end things. We wish you well.

  20. Hav been dating this guy for…
    Hav been dating this guy for 3 months now but he has changed he has two accounts in fb n he blocked me in one..could he b cheating

    1. Thank you for your…
      Thank you for your contribution Rael.

  21. What if you my partner she…
    What if you my partner she doesnt want to listern en all she puts up is her freinds what should i do

    1. Hey Vin, Relationships are…
      Hey Vin, Relationships are about the two partners in the relationship. It is important to consider the feelings of each other and not to prioritize the feelings of others over those of ones partner. Maybe your partner needs to decide what is important to her, she needs to choose what to give priority.

  22. Iam married for 3 years now,…
    Iam married for 3 years now, no family discussion no communication,my husband lives in Nairobi, he can stay even a month without coming home ,no phone calls maybe once for a while. I feel like quiting this relationship it’s so boring.advise pls

    1. Hey Rorna, So sorry about…
      Hey Rorna, So sorry about this. Making a long distance relationship can be challenging. Have you raised these concerns with your husband? It is important you talk about your expectations in the relationship so that you partners get to know what you want or expect even as he tell you about his expectations. This way you can both agree on how to proceed. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  23. I started dating this year…
    I started dating this year the relationship is four month old but it seems to me like I’m the one putting more effort.we had sex but now he just said that we should abstain which left me thinking if he wanted that it should have been before we did it the first time…we make plans but we never go through with them just because he has somethings more important that he’d rather do i love him but i don’t think I’m ready to fight for someone that cannot do the same what can you advise me to do.

  24. Hi I am too attached to my…
    Hi I am too attached to my bae that the thought of me without him scares the shit out of me. But the issue is our relationship does not have any communication ?plus i don’t wanna lose him he means much to me

  25. Hi my hubby has been…
    Hi my hubby has been cheating on me for the past three years and we’ve been talking about it but he seems to be enjoying it and this is eating me up.should I walk out or what what should I do?whenever we talk about it he keeps on telling me that I should give him time that it will end am stressed.

    1. Hi Margy, Sorry bout this…
      Hi Margy, Sorry bout this. Do you want to continue waiting for him to change while this is eating you up? Do you want to still give him time? Three years is a long time to wait, you need to think about what you want and then make a decision.

  26. The couples of today have…
    The couples of today have forgotten the importance of the intimate time they spend together before drifting off to bed(Pillow talk)
    Talking with your partner at this time each wrapped up in each others time when hormone are firing is essential as people are more agreeable at the time,instead of starting a conversation on matters relationship at okward times is distasteful.This moment is also a build up to good sex and sexual gratifications as each is able to set the mood for sex instead of rushing into it half cocked leaving each frustrated.If a partner is however abusive you simply need to remind each other why you fell in love in the first place,do that kinky stuff you loved ,bring back the roaring flames of passion and in no time no one will remember why you are fighting in the first place.Thats my take,remind each other what matters most.Not anything else in the world but each other.

    1. Thank you for your…
      Thank you for your contribution Nicholas.

  27. My lady for the last three…
    My lady for the last three months has developed changes,she doesn’t visit m anymore but wants only me to visit her. We have never had penetrated sex but rubbed so intimately but of late even this rubbing she doesn’t want. Keeps going out sometimes with the sister but at times alone in the day. I love her so much. Of late she’s gotten a job far away from where I work andshe is to report on first DEC 2017. Kindly advice it bites into me.

    1. Hello Jack, As you have…
      Hello Jack, As you have noted something about your partner has changed. It may help to talk with your partner about what you have observed, get to know what could be going on and then agree on how to proceed. It is important that you also talk about the fact that you will now be in a long distance relationship if you choose to and agree on how to proceed. Check out these articles;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems
      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-relationships-dos-and-donts

  28. What do you mean Morris?
    What do you mean Morris?

  29. I have a boyfriend whom I…
    I have a boyfriend whom I love but he himself says he loves me but he has never said anything that can make me happy, he is ever abusing me, so I had decided to give it a quit for my best of my life, is it right???

  30. I don’t trust my hubby after…
    I don’t trust my hubby after I caught him cheating on mi with several ladies.wat can I do n I don’t have ability to raise my child alone?

    1. Hello Leah, So sorry about…

      Hello Leah, So sorry about this. How you are feeling is completely normal. Have you talked about this with him? Is he sorry about what happened? Does he want to change and commit to your relationship? It takes time to rebuild trust that has been broken. If your partner is willing to change and commit to the relationship then there is chance that your trust in him may be restored with time. Have a look at this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/relationship-problems/tips-to-recover-from-cheating-in-marriage

  31. Hi I dated this girl for…
    Hi I dated this girl for long time,, she’s a Kikuyu girl as they say Kikuyu girls kill their husbands to inherit the property but my friends keep telling me that I shouldn’t rely on this girl as my wife and I love her much and too she loves me much,,, what should I do???

    1. Hi Vince, you have to make a…

      Hi Vince, you have to make a decision as to what it is what you want. The truth is that people will have an opinion whoever you choose to date. If you love her and she loves you, she represents the kind of person you want to be with, then her tribe and other people’s opinions shouldn’t get into the way. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/the-8-signs-youre-with-the-right-partner

  32. What’s the case about one is…
    What’s the case about one is in love with someone,deeply in love but this guy has a kid somewhere and he doesn’t want to loose this kid

    1. Hi Rachael, that he has a…

      Hi Rachael, that he has a kid with someone else doesn’t mean that he can’t get into a relationship or that to be in a relationship will mean loosing his kid. There just needs to be a conversation and agreement on how he will participate in the raising of his child. 

  33. Hi my man is a phone addict…
    Hi my man is a phone addict and this is affecting our marriage we nolonger have sex,we fight alot and worst is that I fear him am beginning to keep my issues to myself should we end our marriage because we both feel it’s not working?

    1. Hi Beryl, So sorry about…

      Hi Beryl, So sorry about this. You seem to have mutually agreed that it’s not working. Breaking up a marriage is a big step but if you both feel it is not going to work or you are both not willing to make it work, it maybe time to break up. Check out this articles for more information;- 

      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/breaking-up/knowing-when-to-break-up

      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/breaking-up/how-to-break-up 

  34. Relationship has difficult…
    Relationship has difficult sorption to handle them what you need to do is to be readly for every thing and strong enough.

    1. Thank you for your…

      Thank you for your contribution Mercy. 

  35. Hi. I’m a college teach. I…
    Hi. I’m a college teach. I feel attracted to my student and she also seem like she has the same feeling. I’ve tried to avoid it but it’s overwhelming. What do I do?

    1. Hi Niclas, Is having a…

      Hi Niclas, Is having a relationship with your student acceptable based on the ethics of your profession and the terms of your employment? Being the teacher it may appear you are talking advantage of your position. Think about the consequences of moving forward with the relationship and then make an informed choice. 

  36. My husband is blantly…
    My husband is blantly cheating on me and also we don’t talk when he talks is all about he doesn’t want me he has someone else its kaming to to even he inst sleeping at hmeee you know y I haven’t walked away? Becoz I don’t have anywea to go nd I have kids

    1. Hi there, so sorry about…

      Hi there, so sorry about this. No one really deserves this, but it appears he no longer wants to be in a relationship with you. You could consider talking with him about how to end the relationship and move forward. You also need to agree on how he will take care of the children. The other way is to go the legal route, where he will be compelled by the law to take care of the children. We wish you well. 

  37. Hi. Av bn in e relationship…
    Hi. Av bn in e relationship for the last 8 months. My girl has had constant battles abt our relationship by her parents. She has started being abusive en I force her to talk to mi though it ends in abuses. She still insists that she loves mi bt I am so much hrtbroken. Wat should I do

    1. Hi Ephantus, have you raised…

      Hi Ephantus, have you raised this with her? While couples will have disagreements from time to time, when these are very frequent it may be a sign of dissatisfaction in the relationship. Also how you choose to resolve the differences make a great difference. It is important that you talk about this and find out where it could be coming from. After which you can make a decision on how to proceed. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

  38. Hi frnds,i have a problem ma…
    Hi frnds,i have a problem ma wife is dating with her ex,she nolonger care about me,she quarrels everyday with me for no reason while chating with the ex everyday ofwhich i know.so what can i do cause i feel so disapointed in her.

    1. Hi Ashraf Jr., we are so…

      Hi Ashraf Jr., we are so sorry about this. Have you talked about this with her? Frequent quarreling may indicate deep seated dissatisfaction in a relationship. It is important you talk about the relationship and agree on how to proceed. If she is no longer interested in the relationship, it maybe time break up and move on. We wish you all the best. Check out the following article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems

      https://lovematters.co.ke/love-relationships/breaking-up/knowing-when-to-break-up

       

        

  39. Hi, I am in a long distance…
    Hi, I am in a long distance relationship. Can it really work, I am almost giving up..

    1. Hi Peter, Long distance…

      Hi Peter, Long distance relationships do work if both partners involved are committed and willing to make it work. There are afew things you can do to make it work. It is important to start by thinking about whether you want to be in a long distance relationship. Some of the things you can do is communicate frequently, talking and agreeing about the future so that you can together plan for the that future and lastly planning and spending quality time together as resources and time will allow. If you feel there are challenges in the relationship, do find time and talk to your partner, share with them your concerns so that together you can agree on how to address the issues. Check out this article for more tips to make it work;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/long-distance-love-keep-it-hot-with-this-proven-technique

  40. I just broke up with my…
    I just broke up with my girlfriend and am now looking someone new. Please hook me up with someone caring, between the age of 22 to 25.

    1. Hey Phillo, we are not a…

      Hey Phillo, we are not a dating service and for this reason we are not able to help you meet someone. On the other hand, if you just broke up with your girlfriend, maybe you need to take sometime and heal before getting into a new relationship. Break ups can be tough and if one gets into a new relationship with issues from a past one, those issues may have a negative effect on the new relationship. Have a look at this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/coping-with-a-break-up 

  41. We fight alot I and my…
    We fight alot I and my partner because of very small issues that do not warrant fighting. Does this mean we are done our relationship cannot be fixed? Please help.

    1. Hi there, sorry about this…

      Hi there, sorry about this. All relationships have problems from time to time including fights. It is however how the partners choose to address their differences when they arise that makes the difference. On the other hand, fighting or arguing very frequently, may indicate deep seated dissatisfaction in the relationship. It’s for this reason, important for partners to talk and get to know the real source of the many fights and then address the identified issues. Also, because you will always see things differently some of the time, it is important to establish some norms on how to address the differences when they occur to ensure that partners don’t end up hurting each other. Open and honest communication can help to address such issues without hurting each other. Check out these articles for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/fighting-dos-and-donts

  42. my husband cheated on me, he…
    my husband cheated on me, he says he is sorry and was misled. I don’t know if I can trust him again, we have been married for 3 years. Can marriage work after such, please help.

    1. Hey Ascar, a relationship…

      Hey Ascar, a relationship can recover after a partner cheats. It however depends on whether both partners are willing to make it work, the person who cheated should be remorseful, ask for forgiveness and commit to the relationship. The person who was cheated on should also be willing to forgive. It may take sometime to rebuild the trust but if partners are committed to each other they can restore their relationship. Be honest with your partner, share with them your concerns and fears. Check out the following article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/tips-to-recover-from-cheating-in-marriage

  43. What if your partner has…
    What if your partner has wierd sex ideas that you don’t like what do you do?

    1. Hi Chelsea, it is important…

      Hi Chelsea, it is important for partners to talk about sex. Partners need to talk about what they like, this will help partners to find a good balance for their relationship. If one partner needs to introduce something new or different, they still need to talk to their partner and see id they are willing to try it out. If you are unwilling to try out something new, let your partner know who should also respect your choice. If your partner insists on something that makes you uncomfortable and is unwilling to let it go, you may have to consider breaking up. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  44. But really why do people…
    But really why do people even cheat??? Cheating has more of negative effects than positive ones. Very disappointed! ???

    1. Hey Pesh, people will cheat…

      Hey Pesh, people will cheat for various reasons unique to them. Cheating has negative effects in a relationship, we agree. However, partners can still make a relationship work after a cheating incident if they want to and choose to. The person cheated on needs to be willing to forgive the person who cheated who should also be willing to take responsibility of their actions, seek forgiveness and commit to the relationship. In some cases however cheating may mean the end of a relationship. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/why-do-people-cheat 

  45. If your partner has hit you…
    If your partner has hit you once but apologised later and then you get back together but now you are always scared he will do it again that you never say anything, what can you do?

    1. Hi, first violence is not…

      Hi, first violence is not allowed in any situation in a relationship and also this was not your fault. It appears that you talked about it but this did not address the issues and this maybe why you are still afraid that this may happen again. If you are unable to trust that your partner will keep their word, talk to them and have them reassure you of their commitment to you, the relationship and that this won’t happen again. If you are consistently worried about what they may or may not do, you need to think about whether this is the relationship you want to be in. Take sometime, think about it and then make an informed decision on how move forward. Have a look at this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/sexual-harassment/domestic-violence-whose-fault-is-it-anyway

  46. I having been dating an…
    I having been dating an older married lady. Our relationship is a top secret she supports me but I want more and to be proud of my partner. I am confused. Pliz advice.

    1. Hey Roy, if you want more…

      Hey Roy, if you want more from a relationship and you can’t get from your current relationship, it maybe time for you to break up so you can hopefully get into a relationship that will give you what you are looking. Think about how your life will change when you break up with your current partner to make an informed choice. We wish you all the best, have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/how-to-break-up

  47. There’s no peace in my…
    There’s no peace in my relationship, we do argue all the time, fight over little things, but I still love him, what can I do to bring peace?

    1. Hi Mercy, it is normal,for…

      Hi Mercy, it is normal,for partners to have disagreements from time to time. However, frequent fights maybe a sign of deep seated dissatisfaction in the relationship. It may also indicate a breakdown in your communication. It is important that you and your partner talk about this to find out what’s the underlying cause of the fights. This way you can find a solution and agree on how to proceed. Check out the following articles for more information;-

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/good-fights-versus-bad-fights https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

    1. Hi Mirror, welcome to Love…

      Hi Mirror, welcome to Love Matters Africa.

  48. If you have been dating a…
    If you have been dating a guy for more than 3 months and he has changes he has two accounts in fb and he blockes you in one of them..do you think he be cheating?

    1. Dear Alice, I can’t possibly…

      Dear Alice, I can’t possibly tell if he is cheating or not, but have you talked with him about this? It is important that you talk with him, let him know what you have observed and this is affecting trust in your relationship. This will help you get to know what could be going on and you can also make a decision on how to proceed. We wish you well. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/how-can-i-know-my-partner-is-cheating-on-me

  49. i broke up with my…
    i broke up with my girlfriend but it was a mistake. I was fed alot of lies I have tried to get her back but she does not pick my call what can I do? I have tried to move on but I am hurting I need her back help me with ideas.

    1. Hey Lawrence, it’s…

      Hey Lawrence, it’s unfortunate that you made a decision based on lies. What you can do now is to try and clarify this information with your girlfriend. If she is not picking your calls or responding to your text, you could try reach out to her through a mutual friend to see if she will be willing to talk with you. However, if she is unwilling to talk to you, you will have to respect her choice. We wish you well. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/how-can-i-get-back-my-ex

  50. I just learnt with…
    I just learnt with undeniable proof that my hubby has a side chic this is hurting me soo much.. I don’t know what do I do?

    1. Dear Faith, have you…

      Dear Faith, have you considered talking about this with him? This maybe the right place to start as you think about what your next step should be. Sometimes a relationship can recover after a cheating but other times it may mean the end of a relationship. It is important you talk with your partner to get to know if there is a chance and also think about whether you want to give your relationship a chance. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/tips-to-recover-from-cheating-in-marriage

  51. its a year since we got…
    its a year since we got married bt thingz hv changed totally,no peace that used t b there before,ma husband has been olyz drunk wch started recently,in matters of apologising its hard 4 him,its pissing me off coz when talking he pretends t b busy,wht shld I do????

    1. HI Mary, so sorry about this…

      HI Mary, so sorry about this. Communication is an important part of any relationship. Communication should be open and honest; the way to address the issues in your relationship is to talk about it especially since this only started recently. It is important to identify what could have led to this change on the part of your partner. Try and find a good time to have this conversation, help your partner see what’s going on and how this is affecting your relationship. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

  52. When is the time to breakup
    When is the time to breakup

    1. Hi Viola, do have a look at…

      Hi Viola, do have a look at the article above for some situations that may lead or cause a break up. 

  53. am married bt my husband has…
    am married bt my husband has been claiming that am dating have been dating someone else en it has been paining me a lot so I feel to devorce.so please help me

    1. Hello Eunice, so sorry about…

      Hello Eunice, so sorry about this. Have you asked your husband what makes him think you are dating someone else? You may want to get to know what has caused the trust issues to come up, and try to address the issues. Trust is essential for any relationship, if you partner is unable to trust you, it maybe time to break up. Take time and think about your options before deciding how to proceed. Have a look at the following articles for more information;-

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/happy-relationships/tips-for-talking-to-your-partner

       

  54. Was married for 2years but…
    Was married for 2years but my hubby kept lots of secrets from me and he even went and misused all the money u had raised for investment behind my back not once but twice this created lots of hatred and now I feel I don’t want to be with him anymore. What should I do?

    1. Hey Kathy, so sorry about…

      Hey Kathy, so sorry about this. If you no longer want to be with him based on what he has done in the past, it is time for you to breakup. If you hate him and no longer think that things between you can work out, you need to break up with him. Trust is essential for every important and when there is no trust in a relationship it may mean the  end of the relationship. Be honest with him about your reasons for choosing to end things with him. Check out the following article for more information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/knowing-when-to-break-up

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/how-to-break-up

  55. Am learning something,,,…
    Am learning something,,, thanks.

    1. Hey Nailah, keep exploring…

      Hey Nailah, keep exploring the website for additional blush free and informative articles. 

  56. I have been in a hectic…
    I have been in a hectic relationship. No week passes without a fight. I discovered he keeps alot of secrets from me. We solve the problem but the same issue comes in again and again. Little by little I lost trust in him. I felt I was no more secure but he threatens to kill me if I quit. He even bit me up sometimes back. What should I do? I really need to end this up

    1. Hello DW, I am sorry for…

      Hello DW, I am sorry for what you are going through. Violence in any form, should not happen and should not let it happen just because he is threatening to kill. Have you ever talked about this issue? If not perhaps you may consider seeing a professional counsellor or a friend you trust. Keeping quiet will only make the suffering worse. Check out this article: https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/sexual-harassment/intimate-partner-violence-top-facts

    1. Thank you for the feedback…

      Thank you for the feedback Olam.

  57. Thank you for sharing your…
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I truly appreciate your efforts and I will be waiting for your further write ups thank
    you once again

    1. You are welcome Allan. Keep…

      You are welcome Allan. Keep reading our articles. 

  58. My boyfriend have been…
    My boyfriend have been cheating on me,he was calling me on phone before but now that am pregnant he stop calling me,he stop sending me money,he stop visiting me,he stopped everything about me,but now that have gave birth,he only come once to see his daughter even our baby’s dedication he didn’t show that he don’t have money, till then he didn’t see his daughter till she raise leg to waka,now that his mother took her from me he has not go and look his daughter,also one thing i hear is that he has pregnanted a lady that makes my body heavy,so i keep praying to God to make me a strong single mother on earth…now that am hustling on my own,staying elone,he now give me a call begging me that his sorry for everythings that make me to pass true that i should forgive him,that it will not happen again that he promise,,, as for me i don’t have anything in mind so i told him have forgiven him,,,so this new pattern that he carry come na,any day you ask him money he will say him don’t have money but he is receiving salary ohh,that makes me feel anony,,that’s why i want you people to help me,what should i do? pls help

    1. Hey Faith, so sorry about…

      Hey Faith, so sorry about this. Do you want to still be with him as your partner? You need to take sometime and think about what you want moving forward. If you choose to end the relationship, it will be important that you agree together on how you will both participate in raising the child you have together. Find a good time and talk about these issues so you can agree on how to proceed. 

  59. Hmmmm… Av been in dis…
    Hmmmm… Av been in dis relationship for abt 10 months… From d crach,everything was all good,our relationship was awesome… There was communication, sex,fun… Etc…but after some point in d relationship I got to no my partner can do without sex…and any tym I refuse he ll become so angry…and then I’ll just give my self to him…and anytime we quarrel he always insult’s me…there was a tym when he was admitted in the hospital… And I went to visit him…after the whole charts, fun n jokes., he asked me a question “what if I get married to someone else would we still have dis relationship going on” and I was lyk”no”…since that day I felt devastated… I just saw my self as a fool…the most funniest tin is dat he calls me his fiancée… And he has Neva for once introduce me to his family… He doesn’t even have my picture in his phn…he traveled n came brk of recent…I’ll chart him up,and he won’t reply…he didn’t call me while he was away…no text,notin….he d tym he came brk he call me asking me if I could come to his house… But I said am “busy”..
    Now I feel he already have some one and he’s trying to tell me indirectly he doesn’t want me…I just don’t want to stay in a relationship dat will always make me cry or sad…I’ll have to tell him it over…wat do u tin lm-ann

    1. Dear Lina, relationships are…

      Dear Lina, relationships are about love, respect, friendship, love…If you are not getting what you want in a relationship or you don’t feel you can get what you are looking for in a partner it maybe time to  break up. You seem to be unhappy in this relationship,  take sometime and think about what you want moving forward. Check out the following article for additional tip;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/how-to-break-up

       

  60. we have been together for…
    we have been together for almost five years,know he got a
    a lady pregnent.he said is a mistake

    1. Hi Esther, what is going on…

      Hi Esther, what is going on in your relationship can tell you whether it is time to break up. For instance, when you start keeping secrets from your partner or discover that your partner is keeping secrets from you. Have a look at the article above to see what other situation may mean breaking up. It is important however to talk with your partner about what you have observed or what is going in your relationship to determine how to proceed. Additionally have a look at this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/revealed-the-top-10-relationship-killers

    1. Hey, what is causing the…

      Hey, what is causing the confusion?

  61. My boyfriend promise me to…
    My boyfriend promise me to marry first time I meet, but now he Dan change he mind, wat ar wan do now bcoz I love him so much, I dnt want to lose him

    1. Hey Shade, are you still…

      Hey Shade, are you still dating or you broke up? If he has said he no longer wants to marry you, do you want to be in a relationship that will not lead to marriage? You need to take sometime and think about what you want in a relationship and determine whether you can get what you are looking for in this relationship. If you want a relationship that will lead to marriage and he doesn’t want to get married it maybe time to break up. Take sometime and think about what you want and then make an informed decision. Check out the following article for additional information;-

       https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/knowing-when-to-break-up

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/coping-with-a-break-up

  62. Hi..what if your man is far…
    Hi..what if your man is far from you,and you as d lady try at all means to make the relationship work by doing d calling and doing the romantic chatting,but d more u do that,he keeps pushing away, giving excuses of been busy with work n his family members issue since his d breadwinner of d family,guys please help me what should I do, should I continue or end it all?

    1. Hi Grace, a relationship can…

      Hi Grace, a relationship can only work if both partners are committed to the relationship. Communication is essential for any relationship and both partners should participate in the communication since without it partners begin to draw apart. It is important that you talk with your partner about what is going on and get to know what is his priority at this time, since this will help you make a decision to either continue or end it all. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems

  63. i have been married for 9yrs…
    i have been married for 9yrs now but the marriage has been soiled with alot of lies and infidelity most of the yrs.we separated in our third yr but got together again till last yr when i discovered that my husband was having affairs with his workmates and waitresses in the hotels he slept at while doing his field work away from home.we have 2 children,9 and 3yrs.recently he opened up and shared the dark secrets of his affairs.now i find it hard to trust or even be with him at all.i have lost all the respect for him and i feel like am not worth being with him because he has never shown that he genuinely wants to be with me because his words never match his actions.i have been holding on because of the children who love him very much.i never had the privilege to grow up with a father and so i never wanted my children to go through the same,but to this extent my interest here is very low.please help me what should i do,knowing that we have children too…

    1. Dear Elaine, so sorry about…

      Dear Elaine, so sorry about all this. You need to ask yourself what you want moving forward? While you have children together, you can choose the path of co-parenting to ensure that you don’t live in an unhappy marriage for the rest of your life seeing that your children are still young. The other options is for you both to work on mending your relationship and trust. Take sometime and consider all your options before making an informed choice. All the best. Have a look at the following articles;-

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/breaking-up/knowing-when-to-break-up

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/tips-to-recover-from-cheating-in-marriage

  64. My boyfriend of three years…
    My boyfriend of three years recently told me that he is not serious he is just having fun.. What should I do

  65. Am tired with my bf…am…
    Am tired with my bf…am always insecure since we started dating …

  66. I have my boyfriend whom we…
    I have my boyfriend whom we’ve dated for 3years and last year 2018 December I got pregnant and things started changing ….we started fighting alot we cant talk and now we cant even stay together and have good moments…… I’m now left in I dilemma whether I should give him time or I should just accept that there no love anymore

    1. Hi there, sorry about this…

      Hi there, sorry about this. Did you plan together about this pregnancy or it just happened? It appears that your partner was not prepared for this and this has caused a strain in your relationship. It is important that you find a good time and talk about both the pregnancy moving forward as well as what is happening in your relationship and what has brought about the changes you have seen. This will be useful in deciding how to proceed, remember you may need your partner’s support during this time and beyond. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems

  67. I’ve been dating this girl…
    I’ve been dating this girl for about two months now. Everything has been perfect, we clicked since the first day we met, communication is great and we meet often plus I make sure I take her out often too. However recently I realized that she lied to me we were to meet but she gave an excuse of going to meet her uncle who stays in town, but I realized she dint go there. When I ask where she was she gets so confrontational and says I don’t trust her. Is that a red flag?

    1. Hey Fabian, it is…

      Hey Fabian, it is challenging to determine what really happened and whether she cheated on you. All you can do is to seek to find out what really happened without accusing her of cheating. The only way to address this and resolve it is to talk about it. Communication is important in any relationship especially when it comes to resolving problems. All couples have problems but is is how a couple chooses to resolve the issues makes the difference. Have a look at the following articles for more information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/how-can-i-know-my-partner-is-cheating-on-me

  68. Hello. I’ve been married and…
    Hello. I’ve been married and blessed with 2babiesl. My marriage has really changed. My hubby keeps changing women like clothes and promising to make babies with all these women. We’ve really lost interest in each other infact we nolonger have appetite. Ave forgiven him mpaka ave chosen my children over him. Right now we live as roommates and we are here just to take care of children. I loved him but his deeds have driven that love to my babies. The worst is whenever I talk to him about this unfaithfulness he reminds me that am a wife and the ladies are just mistresses. He don’t feel sorry hata kidogo. What should I do?

    1. Dear Auma, so sorry about…

      Dear Auma, so sorry about this. You have to think about whether this is the kind of relationship you want to be in for the rest of your life. It is important for you to think about your options including staying in the relationship or breaking up and how this will affect you and your children. Take sometime and think about these options to make an informed choice. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/tips-to-recover-from-cheating-in-marriage

  69. Hi, I got a man who’s…
    Hi, I got a man who’s married of course, we began an affair n now am pregnant for him, but offlate he has changed a lot. No communication, he also cheats with other girls, drinks,..what should I do?

    1. Hi Jane, all you can do at…

      Hi Jane, all you can do at this time is to try and reach out to him and talk about the baby you are going to have together. You need to agree on how he can participate in raising this child. You may not have a lot of control over how they behave but you can try talk with him about the cheating and drinking that you have observed. More importantly, you need to think about the future of your relationship with him and decide if you wish to keep the relationship or not. Remember, the more partners he has the higher the chances you will also be exposed to the risk of getting infected with a Sexually Transmitted Infection. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/jealousy-and-other-problems

  70. Have been in relationship…
    Have been in relationship with my boyfriend for eight months now but have had intercourse with him two times he always cums before I do and too fast if we have met for three hours he spends two and a half hours sleeping his erection doesn’t last long
    Could be that I have a problem?

    1. Hi Ime, first, there is…

      Hi Ime, first, there is nothing wrong with you. It appears your partner is experiencing premature ejaculation. This is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make them ejaculate much earlier or stress from either the relationship or work could also affect how soon they ejaculate. In younger men, it could be the result of sexual inexperience, as one gets older however and also gains more experience they become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few things your partner can do to overcome Premature ejaculation, see the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation  Overcoming this will take practice and time. Try support your partner during this period. On the other hand, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. 

  71. I have been in a…
    I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for eight months we have only met two times he spends most of his time sleeping whenever we meet if we agreed on three hours he spends two and half hours sleeping his erection does not last
    Could it be that I have a problem

    1. Hi Ime, first, there is…

      Hi Ime, first, there is nothing wrong with you. It appears your partner is experiencing premature ejaculation. This is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make them ejaculate much earlier or stress from either the relationship or work could also affect how soon they ejaculate. In younger men, it could be the result of sexual inexperience, as one gets older however and also gains more experience they become better at controlling their ejaculation. There are a few things your partner can do to overcome Premature ejaculation, see the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation  Overcoming this will take practice and time. Try support your partner during this period. On the other hand, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

    1. You are very welcome Ahmad. 

      You are very welcome Ahmad. 

  72. my GF is in a relationship…
    my GF is in a relationship and I know about it. I confronted her she admit to it. I forgave her. despite my knowledge of the relationship she has, I accept her because I love her. but one thing that bagfuls my is that she is still in the same relationship. Pls Wat should I do.

    1. Hello Jame, thank you for…

      Hello Jame, thank you for reaching out to us. It is great that you had a conversation with her. If the situation still persists, you may decide to have another conversation with her. However, you may have to set boundaries for yourself within this relationship. If you are repeatedly disrespected, at what point do you decide that you cannot take anymore. This is something you might have to have at the back of your mind while you have this conversation.

  73. That is the best thing to do…
    That is the best thing to do.

    1. What is, Amandarosesimon?

      What is, Amandarosesimon?

  74. I love my boyfriend so much…
    I love my boyfriend so much and he loves me so much back then but now everything change he said he doesn’t need me again that we should only be bestie we have dated for 4yrs now i love him so much i don’t want to lose him but am confuse right now please i need your advice please

    1. Hello Blessing, we are sorry…

      Hello Blessing, we are sorry you are going through such a hard time. Have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Explain how their actions are affecting you and the relationship. Try not to be confrontational because that would put them on the defensive and the resulting conversation would not be productive.  Be ready to listen to their fears and feelings and respond to them as well.

    1. Hello ishaia, having a…

      Hello ishaia, having a little trouble understanding what you mean. Could you please explain?

       

    1. Hello Jenny Gold, thank you…

      Hello Jenny Gold, thank you for reaching out to us, how can we help you? 

  75. Am in a one and half year…
    Am in a one and half year relationship and me and my boyfriend have been through alot of challanges but we deal with then without giving up lately he has been telling me he feels tired and he thinks i deserve better since he thinks he is not enough but still claims to love me very much…it has come to apoint where it looks like we are all giving up but i still love him soo much…should i fight back and resolve or should i let it go

    1. Hi Caroline, thank you for…

      Hi Caroline, thank you for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to hear that you are going through such a hard time. Relationships go through ups and downs, this is normal. If you do not feel that you are ready to break up then the two of you need to sit down and talk out the issues you feel you might have. Find common ground, you may have given up on one aspect, but you can find other things to hold on to. Love sometimes means fighting for each other.

  76. I feel am in new word I don…
    I feel am in new word I don’t know wat to do and I love him I don’t think am bold enough to breakup wt him

    1. Hi Abdulrasheed, it is okay…

      Hi Abdulrasheed, it is okay not to be ready for the breakup. Take all the time you need and leave when you feel you are ready.

  77. Hapana danganya our sisters…
    Hapana danganya our sisters here….

    1. Hi there, 

      Alaaar,…

      Hi there, 

      Alaaar, tumewadanganya aje?

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