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When sex hurts

By Sarah Moses June 24, 12:14 pm
Sex can hurt for a lot of women at some point in their lives. But when pain during intercourse doesn’t go away, it’s time to get things checked out.

Pain before, during, or after sexual intercourse that doesn’t go away with time is called dyspareunia, and it feels different for every woman.

For some, sex only hurts during one position or movement, like deep thrusting. Other women find that intercourse with one partner is too painful to bear, while with another lover it’s pure bliss. It’s also possible for a woman to feel pain every time she is penetrated and even be unable to use a tampon.

Lubrication

Why is intercourse painful for some women sometimes and pleasurable for others all the time? The answer’s simple – there are many different causes of dyspareunia. Often, it’s a combination of things that are responsible for this condition.

Some causes are purely physical, like an infection or inflammation in the vagina. There are also psychological and emotional reasons like stress, anxiety, a poor body image, or a fear of pain. These can make it hard for a woman to get aroused enough to have sex. So sometimes, painful sex can just be a question of not enough lubrication.

Tips

What can you do if you or your partner have painful intercourse? A doctor can help figure out what’s going on. Dyspareunia is treated by examining a woman for physical problems and asking her where and when it hurts. But doctors also treat psychological and relationship issues that are involved. All are super important to healthy and pain-free sex.

The good news is that there are also some tried and true tips that can help. Foreplay’s a great place to begin. The more time you spend getting physical before intercourse the more aroused a woman will be.
During sex, it’s a good idea to switch things up and try different positions since some will be more pleasurable than others. And don’t forget to use lots of lubrication – when it comes to pain-free sex, wetter is definitely better.


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Comments
Mamo Ladyn
Wed, 06/24/2015 - 02:45 pm
Hv pain during sex think hv problem wit ma woo mp cause all de time hv sex feel like he's pushing ma woo mp n dnt enjoy sex
Mamo Ladyn, it could indeed be that his penis hits against your cervix which can be very uncomfortable. Try positions where penetration is shallow or where you are in charge of the depth, like you on top!
Mamo Ladyn
Wed, 06/24/2015 - 05:30 pm
Hv to b incondroll by being on top bt still feel de pain I sometimes put ma finger jst to check bt ma woo mp is clos by think dt is y feel pai during sex
rabs nelima
Wed, 06/24/2015 - 06:58 pm
my guy always wants 5 short evryday at 9t n ma prblem s dat da fast play i enjoy it da 2nd i feel more painful n i cant manage da rest, wat can i do so dat i can receiv 5 plays, in arous, orgasm na lubricant am ok
Rabs, you need to talk to him. Sex isn't about quantity, it's about quality! Why go five times quickly and painfully, when you can have it once or twice, slowly, and painlessly? Nothing against the occasional quickie, but if that isn't satisfying, having them five times just sounds exhausting.
damaris akolo
Wed, 06/24/2015 - 10:20 pm
I have a problem wen having sex I always fill a lot of pain and thea is this smell that comes out after sex another thing I can't handle the second round of sex plz help me
Damaris, are you very wet and aroused when you start having sex? Is the smell a sort of fishy 'aquarium-like' smell? That's totally normal. And if you can't handle a second round, don't have one. Have sex once and make it count! You need to talk to your partner about this. Sex is about both people's enjoyment.
julius
Thu, 06/25/2015 - 02:16 pm
my gal feels some pain when having sex though she loves me and she asks me if she can try it on another man bt i say no to her,my dick is sizeable what do i do?
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