Masturbation: myths busted
Let’s talk about masturbation. Does it give you acne? Do girls do it? Can you get pregnant from it? All this and more.
Masturbation makes you sick
Some say masturbation gives you acne, others say it makes you blind or bald or gives you hairy palms. The list goes on… Well, none of that is true. Masturbation doesn’t make you blind or bald or give you acne. In fact, research has shown that it can help relieve stress, lift your mood up and give you good health.
Although it isn’t very common, some people get addicted to masturbating. They end up masturbating so often (to be clear, we’re talking a lot of times a day here) it keeps them from dealing with daily tasks. If you’re experiencing something similar, don’t worry because it can be cured like any other form of addiction. Seek help from your doctor or therapist.
Women don’t masturbate
Let’s get this straight. The society we live in is more accepting of men being sexually active than women. And that’s why they would like to make us believe that it’s unusual for women to masturbate. But that’s not true. It’s completely natural for both men and women to masturbate.
People in relationships don’t masturbate
Both single and people who are in relationships masturbate. People who are in relationships masturbate not because they don’t like having sex with their partners. They masturbate when their partners are not available. Or just because they feel like it and, hey, masturbating is a totally different experience after all. Or because they want to rehearse for the real sex!
Masturbation makes you infertile and impotent
You must have heard that men could ‘lose’ all their sperm if they masturbate too often and that could make them impotent. Well, that’s just hocus pocus. Because as long as a man has healthy sexual organs, he keeps producing sperm, whether or not he masturbates. The same goes for women – masturbation doesn’t make a woman stop producing fertile eggs.
In fact, for guys who are trying to get their partner pregnant, it’s actually good to keep the semen flowing! Older sperm that has been hanging around in there for a few days are less likely to be in tip-top condition.
Masturbation gives you STDs
Quite the contrary, actually! Going solo is one of the safest ways to enjoy sex! As long as you don’t share your sex toys and use enough precautions while using sex toys, you have little to no risk of contracting an STD. After all, you can’t catch an infection from yourself.
Masturbation can make you pregnant
If a woman is masturbating by herself, she can’t get pregnant. A woman gets pregnant when a man’s semen enters her vulva. So, if you are masturbating mutually, make sure that the semen doesn’t enter the vulva when you ejaculate.
Women lose their virginity if they masturbate
‘Losing your virginity’ means having sexual intercourse for the first time. Whether or not you put your fingers or anything else inside your vagina, and whether or not you stretch or tear your hymen, if you’ve only masturbated, you’re still a virgin.
For women, masturbating means using a dildo
People sometimes get the idea that when women masturbate, it means they put a dildo, a vibrator or some kind of penis-shaped vegetable in their vagina. Well, true enough, some women do enjoy that. But mostly when women bring themselves to an orgasm it’s by using their fingers or maybe a vibrator to stimulate their clitoris.
Read also: Masturbation: Tips and Tricks
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Recent Comments (121)
I heard that you can know if
I heard that you can know if a man masturbates by looking at their knees & touching them. magoti yao hua yanaingia ndani. bt now i think this is jst a myth
Hi John,
Hi John,
you are absolutely right: it’s a big myth!
Can you send for me some…
Can you send for me some sexstlye videos I watch
Hello Jahkey, unfortunately…
Hello Jahkey, unfortunately we cannot share sex style videos with you. However, here are a few articles to help spruce up your sex life: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/69-sex-positions-to-try-before-you-die
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/five-kamasutra-positions-to-spice-up-your-sex-life
Enjoy!
hiyo ni myth bro
hiyo ni myth bro
Thanks for sharing and…
Thanks for sharing and agreeing with us Jay! What did you think of our article?
it’s true that masturbating
it’s true that masturbating removes energy,and loose of stamina in legs .
Hi Salim,
Hi Salim,
no, it’s not true. Just like you won’t loose energy and stamina in your legs from sex, you won’t with masturbation.
Is there anything can happen
Is there anything can happen by sucking or licking
Hi John,
Hi John,
lots can happen: pleasure, arousal, orgasm… But I’m assuming you are wondering about negative aspects? Unless one of you has an STD, it’s all good and risk-free.
how can it be avoided?
how can it be avoided?
Hi there,
Hi there,
it can be avoided by not doing it. But why would you want to avoid it?
Over masturbating causes…
Over masturbating causes loss of interest in opposite sex and can cause erectile dysfunction mostly in addicted men I’ve witnessed that
Hello Anonymous, thank you…
Hello Anonymous, thank you for your input. These are myths and there is no medical evidence to support these claims.
Dr imet a gal this yr then
Dr imet a gal this yr then she always on phone kaln then she had a fight with neighbour bt when i ask her she dosnt tel the fact she seem to hide me the pple i ha with she tells me they r cousins should i quite tha relation help!!!
Hi Jose,
Hi Jose,
talk to her. Tell her you have doubts, and that she needs to be honest with you. Trust and honesty are the most important aspects to a relationship, so you need to work on them. Good luck!
If you masterbate when you
If you masterbate when you are below 25yrs will you have cancer at age 55 and so?
Hi Alex,
Hi Alex,
there is no scientific evidence that strongly links masturbation to cancer. In fact, some scientists say that masturbation lowers the risk of getting prostate cancer.
How does it help mentally
How does it help mentally
Hi there,
Hi there,
it makes you happier and more relaxed.
Its said that if u mastabate
Its said that if u mastabate often there is a higher chance for u not to enjoy the real sex is it true?
Hi Willy,
Hi Willy,
the thing is, masturbation is great. But it can never be as good as actually connecting with another person, and enjoying sex together.
So yes, while we have also heard of this statement, we have to admit that we find it very strange. Do you agree? 🙂
is it true tht whn u
is it true tht whn u mxsterpate u cnt hv a child in future
Hi Dennoh,
Hi Dennoh,
no, this is a common myth. Masturbation will have absolutely no effect on your fertility,
hi, I ave been in a rlstnshp
hi, I ave been in a rlstnshp for 9 months for four months I ave been away bt we we’re communicating with later I discovered she was seeing two other guys behind my back and she keep on say they are friends bt I found out that she was dating them what should I do and I love her bt she cheated on me
Hi Sherlock,
Hi Sherlock,
you need to decide what you want to do. Do you think you can forgive her and she won’t be doing it again? Again, then move on and try to forgive and forget. If you don’t think you can do it, then you need to consider your options. Good luck!
Am 37yrs and i have this
Am 37yrs and i have this problem,1st,i have masturbated for about 15 yrs and this always happen when am having a shower for all those yrs.so my prolem is now i have a wife,werever i do some sex with her i just go one short and am off,i fill like doing again but my man is already off,please help i fill like being a man again coz i fill am not sertisfing her at all but coz am the one who is doing this she cant say anything plz help.
This is completely normal for
This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.
This has nothing to do with masturbation, by the way.
As for satisfying your wife, use your hands, or your mouth, and pay attention to her clitoris. You don’t need an erect penis to satisfy her!
Hope this helps, let us know if any more questions arise.
m jus wndrin…isnt
m jus wndrin…isnt masturbation a sin?
That’s an interesting
That’s an interesting question Esther, and you will have to answer it for yourself, with your beliefs. We believe masturbation is part of a normal, healthy sex life.
I think its a sexual sin
I think its a sexual sin esther
We think it’s up to everyone
We think it’s up to everyone to decide that for themselves.
We think masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life.
I have musterbeting for 8yrs
I have musterbeting for 8yrs now,but up to now ican’t erect well,i dont have fillings on ladies,plz help.
Hi Samuel,
Hi Samuel,
can you tell us some more about what you mean when you say you can’t erect well?
Have been scared that
Have been scared that masterbation would end up getting me Cancer but i get people have been doing it even for decades without any sickness,this gives me courage & feel relaxed.
I agree with u that it awesome coz at times makes my headache & stress fade away. Kudos guys
Yes, please don’t be scared
Yes, please don’t be scared of masturbation! All of the bad things you hear aren’t true. Check out more information here: http://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-top-five-facts-part-2
Does masturbation cause
Does masturbation cause cancer?
Hi Zabby,
Hi Zabby,
no, it’s a huge myth.
If you think about it, masturbation is nothing other than arousal, hopefully followed by orgasm. So nothing other than sex. And sex doesn’t cause cancer, either.
av bn musterbating nd
av bn musterbating nd recently i found tht m nt active in bed,i jst go one shot and my penis iz off,what might b te cause?
Kibet,
Kibet,
this has nothing to do with masturbation. This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.
Are the amount of sperms
Are the amount of sperms released wen musterbating less or more than those released during normal sex?
The same, Noah.
The same, Noah.
i hv mustarbated for 2 month
i hv mustarbated for 2 month and i quited coz i ejaculated faster than i hoped in real sex could had mustarbation had affected me in anywei
Hi Assa,
Hi Assa,
it’s possible that through masturbating, you got used to ejaculating in a certain way, that was always the same. And then, once you had sex, it was far more exciting than masturbation, and you came quicker.
You can make masturbation a game and try to hold off from ejaculation as long as possible, that should help.
can masturbation causes
can masturbation causes itchin at d head tip of ones penis? thou this onli happens seldomly either after masturbation or at any point in time. pls if this is a problm, i wud like to know the solution, tanx.
Kolly,
Kolly,
itching isn’t a good sign, but masturbation shouldn’t be causing it.
It would be best if you saw a doctor about this.
ist true that if u have sex
ist true that if u have sex with someone older than u u can end up infertile
Hi Dennis,
Hi Dennis,
no, that is absolutely not true!
How can you get erection very
How can you get erection very fast after ejaculation
Erik,
Erik,
by taking rest. After ejaculation, you go through something called the ‘refractory period’. It’s the time it takes you to get another erection. You can’t really do much other than rest. Usually, this will take longer the older you get. You can use that time to focus on your partner’s pleasure.
masturbation is just but a
masturbation is just but a tool that can be used to curb fornication and again it prepares one for t marriage life
Thank you for your thoughts,
Thank you for your thoughts, Moses.
I wish i could smarsh this
I wish i could smarsh this websites, masturbeting has no good thing in it, it will just ruin your sexual life. I was doing this for years before i knew the side effects-1) masturbation will reduce your high libido 2) it will lead to low eraction 3) it reduces your feelings for opposite sex (masturbeting has no health good in it please stop it, its a demon that will be on you for years, am a teenage i know this and though exprience) these guys are lying masturbeting is evil. HOW TO STOP 1) be with your funny videos in your phone if you feel like doing it just watch and laugh in a moment you will have forgetten it 2) if you feel like you want it badly go and sit with other people dont be alone you wont resist it 3) if you feel like you want to do it go and do some work or anything that can make you busy. MASTURBETING HAS NO HEALTH GOOD THOSE GUYS ARE LYING, its a evil, a demon that wont let you go if you dont fight
Thank you for writing to us.
Thank you for writing to us. You have broken down on steps to stop masturbation and its very commendable. Congratulation on being able to stop. Scientifically speaking there is nothing wrong with masturbation and those things you have mentioned are mostly just myths. Every one has their religion and belief and therefor one has the right to chose whats right or wrong for them.
I know it really bad but I
I know it really bad but I can’t help it out
Why do you feel its bad Evans
Why do you feel its bad Evans?
Yes its evils it is
Yes its evils it is destroying my appetite
am scared of talking to galz,
am scared of talking to galz, what do i do? Tips pliz
Have you read our article on
Have you read our article on painfully shy? It will help you with your issue https://lovematters.co.ke/news/painfully-shy
ve been mustbatng 4 many
ve been mustbatng 4 many years.i’ve found a vagine wife but my penis is so weak to go through.what could be the problem?
Hi Ben, Masturbation does not
Hi Ben, Masturbation does not make the penis weak. That is just a myth. Read on the other myths herehttps://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted . Do you mean you can’t get a full erection? How do you masturbate without a full erection. If you get an erection that is sufficient to have sex whether the partner is a virgin or not.
I started masturbating when I
I started masturbating when I was 14 n now am 24. I normally have it thrice a week. am having agalfrd bt sometime when am playing sex with her I cd make only one round n then I become so lazy for the next round… I think masturbation has lowered my appetite for sex…what can I do to make me play more than one round????
Hi Daniel,
Hi Daniel,
Read this articles and get the answers that you seek https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
That’s not true…I have been
That’s not true…I have been masterbating for the past 7 yrs but I still get hard erection and I won’t disappoint a woman.
Hi Daniel check out this
Hi Daniel check out this article https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
been a wanker since year 2000
been a wanker since year 2000.no regrets.in all those years I have never had sex with a woman.I have guy pals who we wank together but we are not gay.it feels good and it’s healthy in all aspects
Thanks for sharing your story
Thanks for sharing your story Willy.
Am married now how can i stop
Am married now how can i stop this
Do you want to stop?
Do you want to stop?
I think mastbatin isnt good
I think mastbatin isnt good practice, but am nt sure it can cause biological infertility, is this true? Can 10yaz of it coz the mentioned blem
Hi Shazzo, masturbation
Hi Shazzo, masturbation cannot cause infertility.
is it normal if u feel lyk
is it normal if u feel lyk enjoyng musturbtn other than real sex?
There is nothing wrong about
There is nothing wrong about enjoying self pleasuring since you already know what you enjoy most.
hv been masterpatng for two
hv been masterpatng for two yrs now,when ihv a sexual intercause i dont orgasm or any sweetness people ar talking that they feel during orgasm.what can be aproblem and what can i do to reach it,help.
Hi Taliban, do you feel like
Hi Taliban, do you feel like you don’t enjoy sex? Kindly read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/arousal-and-orgasms .
can musturbating cause strok?
can musturbating cause strok?
No Big, masturbation cannot
No Big, masturbation cannot cause stroke. That is just a myth.
Due to excessive masturbation
Due to excessive masturbation,my penis get bent downwards…by stopping the masturbation..is there any chance for making it normal….and the next question was about infertility?
Hi Sandy,
Hi Sandy,
Masturbation does not cause any kind of defect on the penis.
Check out this article to find out https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes .
Can masturbation can make me
Can masturbation can make me very angry, if i stop masturbation then it will stop
Hi Sanzy, masturbation is
Hi Sanzy, masturbation is known o do the opposite make one relaxed and happy.
Plzzz u can tell me how can i
Plzzz u can tell me how can i stop masturbation
Plzzz u can tell me how can i
Plzzz u can tell me how can i stop masturbation
Hi Sanzay,
Hi Sanzay,
If you want to stop masturbation just like any other learnt behavior you have to stop it gradually.
You reduce the number of times you masturbate each day or each week until you are able to stop completely.
check out this article to find out how you can get some assistance https://lovematters.co.ke/news/does-masturbation-cause-infertility.
plz how can i stop
plz how can i stop masturbation
Hi
Hi
Check out this article to find out how https://lovematters.co.ke/news/cant-stop-masturbating .
Hi ….is it true that
Hi ….is it true that circumcised people enjoy sex the most as compared to uncircumcised ones …..and in what way do they achieve this ?????
Nyc Education,
Nyc Education,
(No subject)
We are glad Bestie.
Hae love matters crew , I…
Hae love matters crew , I have my friend always under his mood all because he has small manhood,he now dated fourth girl but all dumped him off ,he doesn’t get the satisfiable point,pliz help.
Hi Ramzzz, Your friend needs…
Hi Ramzzz, Your friend needs to know that he is not alone, many men are concerned about their size. Sexual satisfaction however goes beyond penis size. Sex is also about showing affection to your partner, it always helps to talk about sex and get to know what will get your partner satisfied. Checkout these articles;- https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/penis-size-myths-busted
https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/orgasms/her-orgasms
Hi pliz tell me more about…
Hi pliz tell me more about masturbation
Hi Tranzy, What exactly wold…
Hi Tranzy, What exactly wold you like to know about masturbation? Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-going-solo
Hi am Jim am am too addicted…
Hi am Jim am am too addicted to masturbation, How van I be cured from this condition, help and email me, [email protected]
Hi, First you are addicted…
Hi, First you are addicted if you do it to the point your parts hurt or you miss out on important tasks like school or work. It may help to begin by thinking about what triggers the masturbation for instance porn and begin by avoiding that. Also, fill up your leisure time with other productive activities including spending time with friends. Behavior is learnt and can be unlearnt, take one day at a time. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/i-am-addicted-to-porn-and-masturbation
Is masturbation bad thing to…
Is masturbation bad thing to do???
Hi there, medically speaking…
Hi there, medically speaking, there is nothing wrong or bad about it. Infact it can be a great and safe way to explore ones sexuality. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted
After having sex itake lng…
After having sex itake lng to erect wat could b wrng?
Hi Dieudonne, This is…
Hi Dieudonne, This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.
is masturbation a free…
is masturbation a free ticket to become one minute man? if so how can one get out of being one minute man
Hi Edson, not really. Infact…
Hi Edson, not really. Infact, masturbation can be a great way to use to learn to control their ejaculation. On the other hand Premature Ejaculation can be caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
I have also an issue with…
I have also an issue with fertility I’ve been trying to make a child with no success. Not even until i did it when she was in her periods. Can be possibly infertile? Am 22.
Hey Davy, it can take upto…
Hey Davy, it can take upto 12 months for one to get pregnant. Also, having sex with your partner around the time she is ovulating which is the time she is most fertile, increases the chances of her getting pregnant. Check out the following article for more tips to increase the chance of your partner getting pregnant;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts All the best.
The time sleep with a gal, i…
The time sleep with a gal, i feel bored, 4 two days, s that a problem?
Hi John, your question is…
Hi John, your question is not clear. What do you mean you get bored? What makes you bored? Do clarify so we can support you appropriately.
Is it true masturbation…
Is it true masturbation causes hair loss?I started it four years ago and now I have started to loss my hair. my hair is not as long as it was initially. This has not happened before .when I started masturbating,4 years later the hair loss started.please tell me the truth.
Hello Johnson, No,…
Hello Johnson, No, masturbation doesn’t cause hair loss. This is just a myth, loss of hair can be caused by a number or reasons including genetics, hormonal issues, deficiency of nutrients among other reasons.
Nyce i have learn alot on…
Nyce i have learn alot on thiz
Hi Joan, thank you for…
Hi Joan, thank you for reaching out and we are glad you have learnt a lot. We will continue to do our best to keep you informed! Keep safe and best regards!
how can i know tht my…
how can i know tht my partner is not hving sex with other mens
Hello morlan, thank you for…
Hello morlan, thank you for reaching out to us. There is no way to know for sure if someone is cheating on you. The best thing you can do is try to communicate with your partner. Be honest with them about your suspicions and your feelings along with your fears. I know this can be scary to bring it up but try to just tell them why you suspect something is wrong and not just accuse them a cheater. Generally if we hold on to our thoughts you might take things the wrong way believe something without knowing if it is real or not.
Is it true that if u…
Is it true that if u masturbate your prostate gland enlarges???
Hi Ivan, there is no medical…
Hi Ivan, there is no medical evidence to support this claim.
Truth is that mursterbation…
Truth is that mursterbation is not good , at least have a partner for sex than mursterbation
Hi Boaz, when you say it is…
Hi Boaz, when you say it is not good, what do you mean?
I’ve been on masterbation…
I’ve been on masterbation for years now… But the problem I have right now is that I don’t last long on on bed.. I don’t know what to do
Hello Peter, thank you for…
Hello Peter, thank you for getting in touch and we are sorry you are going through a hard time. Contrary to popular belief, there is very little correlation between masturbation and not being able to last long in bed. When you say that you are not able to last long, is it because you have trouble maintaining an erection or because you ejaculate quicker than you would like to?
Since self musturbation is…
Since self musturbation is nice can it reduce hamu ya kuwa na mwanamke
Hi Dj, thank you for getting…
Hi Dj, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. At the end of the day, physical intimacy with another person you have a connection with will always be better than self masturbation so do not worry about it reducing your sexual urges with an actual partner. It is important though to always remember that if you masturbate to pornography, then what you see on the screen is fantasy and not real so managing expectation when having actual sexual intercourse is key. Have a wonderful weekend ahead and stay safe!
do shemales cause pregnancy…
do shemales cause pregnancy,can African life allow them to date?
Hi Florentine,
First,…
Hi Florentine,
First, kindly note that she word ‘shemale’ is offensive. The correct word is transgender. A transgender person can get pregnant if they were born with a vagina, ovaries, and uterus. Transgender people to carry pregnancies. In case you would like to begin hormone therapy, it is recommended that you preserve your eggs or get babies first since the therapy can have long term effects on fertility. Preserving eggs can be quite expensive. You may also decide to pause the therapy to allow for pregnancy although how you transitioned may affect fertility. On dating, although there is still stigma and discrimination dating for transgender people, you are free to date. As long as you are happy in your relationship, nothing should stop you from loving and being loved.