I can’t stop masturbating
I think I may be a sex addict. My girl and I have sex but it’s been two months – she is far away. My penis gets erect often and I end up masturbating.
Pole sana
I’d laugh if this wasn’t such an embarrassing and difficult issue to deal with. Pole sana. Are you wearing baggy clothes and constantly dashing to the bathroom? How awful.
So what to do? Stop masturbating. You are 18 so reflexive erections are just par for the course. Reflexive erections occur when men are stimulated sexually, but also when emotionally aroused by anger, nervousness and other exciting stimuli. As you age, you will find that you are harder to arouse and you will need direct stimulation, not just fantasy.
Cut down on the masturbating
Most people report that the more they have sex, the more they want it because they walk around with a sexual charge and are therefore easy to arouse. This is why I am suggesting that you cut down on the masturbating. Constant masturbation means that you are thinking about sex all the time and easy to arouse. While some of your erections may be reflexive, I believe some are due to a high level of fantasy.
If you allow yourself to masturbate only two or three times a week, you will find that your focus will shift. You could also get busy with other activities so that you do not have so much time on your hands to use your hands. Try church group activities, a drama club, the choir or sports like running or football. You could also read.
Stop worrying too much
The point here is to get your mind off sex and calling yourself names like ‘sex addict’. Trust me, you do not want to wish an illness like sex addiction on yourself. If all this fails, there are addiction specialists that can help.
Do you sometimes feel like a sex addict? Head to our discussion board for help.
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Recent Comments (31)
nice piece
nice piece
Thanks Nancy, we are glad you
Thanks Nancy, we are glad you like it!
I am I can’t spend 3 days
I am I can’t spend 3 days wthout it I even lose concentration in class oh on ma studys bt immediate I get one round bk to business
Hi SKS,
Hi SKS,
easy solution to that: don’t let it get to three days without masturbation. High sex drive is normal in young men and women, so it’s perfectly fine to masturbate. Even daily isn’t a problem. So don’t worry about it!
masturbation is it good?
masturbation is it good?
Oh yes, absolutely. It’s
Oh yes, absolutely. It’s healthy, good for your body and mind. Check out our top five facts on masturbation, part 1: http://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-top-five-facts-part-1 and part 2: http://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-top-five-facts-part-2
does musterbating have side
does musterbating have side effects in the long run?
Hi Isa,
Hi Isa,
happiness, pleasure and relaxation are the short term effects of masturbation. There are no known negative long-term side effects.
I want to stop masturbation
I want to stop masturbation
Hi Cosmos,
Hi Cosmos,
tell us, why do you want to stop? How often do you do it?
hi love matters? i do
hi love matters? i do masturbate daily when taking a shower and when i told my best bf about it, he told me that it was dangerous and so nowadays i take shower less often, please help!
Sellychap,
Sellychap,
go get in the shower again. Masturbation, even if you do it every day, is a normal part of a healthy sex life and won’t have any negative effects on you! On the contrary: chances are you will feel happier and more relaxed.
Selly, get back into that
Selly, get back into that shower and beat the hell out of that meat. The only danger your in is denying yourself pleasure that you so well deserve.
thanks for your input JC.
thanks for your input JC.
Nah….i think masturbation
Nah….i think masturbation is a disease which can lower one’s libido in the long run. It’s one of the most addictive habits.
Hi Sam, those are just myths.
Hi Sam, those are just myths. Masturbation is not a disease and it does not lower ones libido. Scientifically it has been proven that masturbation is healthy part of ones sex life.
Hae, is there another way I
Hae, is there another way I can ease my sexual desire apart from masturbation?
Hi Chris try to keep your
Hi Chris try to keep your mind occupied with other things you like doing for example swimming or reading.
Hi Chris try to keep your
Hi Chris try to keep your mind occupied with other things you like doing for example swimming or reading.
Hi, please answer my
Hi, please answer my questions, I have the habit of masturbation from around 7-8 years, at first I enjoyed it a lot, but now after masturbation I feel lot sleepy, I feel kind of a pain near my kidneys, I feel pain in my back, my hand have kind of a tremble. Are all the problems because of masturbation???? I need an answer please do answer me please…
Hi Gatelond, most men start
Hi Gatelond, most men start masturbating from a young age and some do it till when they are old. There is no harm that comes with masturbation. Kindly read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
I cant stop and wont stop
I cant stop and wont stop either, but i am certainly not complaining. I love it.
Thanks for sharing that with
Thanks for sharing that with us JC.
I am overdoing it,sometimes
I am overdoing it,sometimes 3times in an hour and I don’t get orgasm.I have realized I get side pains after doing it more
Thanks for sharing that with
Thanks for sharing that with us. Hope the article was helpful.
I have habbit of masturbation
I have habbit of masturbation from 8 years… I use to do it 2 times per day.. Is it causes for problem of penis? & is it makes penis short?
Hellow! I’m totally addicted
Hellow! I’m totally addicted to masturbation…sometimes I do it like three a day…My questions is between masturbating and sex which is more pleasurable?
Hi Angie,
Hi Angie,
Thats a very interesting question. Pleasure is one of those things that only an individual can be able to measure for themselves. So either through masturbation or sex the point is to enjoy the pleasure while being safe 🙂 .
Hi Angie,
Hi Angie,
Thats a very interesting question. Pleasure is one of those things that only an individual can be able to measure for themselves. So either through masturbation or sex the point is to enjoy the pleasure while being safe 🙂 .
i hear dat masturbatn leads…
i hear dat masturbatn leads 2 premature ejaculation,,may weaken your sperms, hormones $ reduces chances of gettng children..
is it true???
HI Isaac, all this is not…
HI Isaac, all this is not true, these are just myths. Masturbation does not cause premature ejaculation, premature ejaculations is caused by psychological issues like fear, stress or even anxiety. In younger men it could be the result of inexperience in sex. Secondly, if a person’s sex organs are healthy, they will produce healthy sperm which also means they can have children when they choose to. Check out the following article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted