I’m always horny
Beryl’s always aroused. Cold showers, masturbation or sexwon’t stop her urges. Her boyfriend can’t keep her satisfied. She’s worried that she’s a nymphomaniac.
‘One day I was in a matatu and on the radio, a lady called in to say that she could meet a man and then five minutes later be banging his brains out. I recognized this feeling! I can sense the judgment from you. But you know what? I don’t care.’
Am I a nympho? Do I suffer from ‘persistent genital arousal disorder’
‘But I don’t actually sleep around with just anyone. I am in a monogamous relationship so I only have sex with my boyfriend. But like that woman on the radio, I am horny all the time.
At times the slightest thing sets me off – cologne or a simple smile. I liked it initially but now, I am kind of worried I may have a condition like nymphomania or something. I recently went online and saw another condition called ‘persistent genital arousal disorder’. I’m scared. Could I have that?”
Boyfriend not enough…
‘My boyfriend used to love the fact that I was always willing to have sex with him anywhere and anyhow. It was amazing when we first slept together. But soon, he just said frankly that he couldn’t keep up with my sex drive. Initially, I thought I was ovulating because it used to be the case that I would get more aroused around that time. But that was obviously not the only source of my horniness.
So I got myself dildos to complement my boyfriend. And at times we use them together, so he doesn’t feel left out.’
Sex toys not enough…
‘But nothing seems to work. It has gotten so bad over the years, that at times I carry sex toys to work and jack off in the bathroom.
I can barely concentrate on anything and when I’m doing boring things like watching news, washing clothes, or cooking, I just want to have sex.
‘Occasionally I feel afraid of myself. I have spoken to my boyfriend about it and he asked me to see a counsellor or some other specialist. I did and it didn’t go well. I was told that I have a lack of self-control and I should stop watching pornography. But I don’t even watch porn or look at X-rated magazines. Nothing! I even forward sex scenes in movies because I am afraid it will make things worse.’
Exercise not enough…
‘Since masturbation isn’t working and I’m tiring out my boyfriend, I tried sports. My friend recommended it. She said it will help shift my mind to other things. I took up swimming. I swim an hour a day, five times a week. So far it has helped somewhat, but not completely. About two hours after my swim, I am locked behind doors with my sex toys.’
‘I am so afraid of myself now. It is making things weird for me and my boyfriend, and I don’t want to feel like this anymore. I want to go back to being normal. This can’t be normal.’
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just pray had because ur
just pray had because ur problem is nt ordinary, some thing spiritual is behind that.
Thank you for your comment!
Thank you for your comment!
You need real prayers so that
You need real prayers so that God can deliver you. This is a bondage for you, kindly seek some help from the spiritual church around and talk to the pastor.
Thank you for your comment.
Thank you for your comment.
We think a doctor might also be a good option.
Sister I Knew I Were Alone.I
Sister I Knew I Were Alone.I Have The Same Condition And My Girlfrind Is An Cooperative.She Cant Help Me
So sorry Isaac. What have you
So sorry Isaac. What have you tried to improve your situation?
U always go 4 prayers,
U always go 4 prayers,
Thanks for sharing your
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Racheal.
What you have is a disorder
What you have is a disorder in the Arousal phase of Masters and Johnsons hierarchy. Don’t see a doctor or a physician, see a Psychiatrist. It doesn’t mean u re abnormal, no. You will be helped with therapies from different schools of thought that may help lower the arousal to normality.
Thanks for your input!
Thanks for your input!
I got the same problem too,..
I got the same problem too,.. Thinking about sex all the time and fetishes with pumpum ladies,.. But it depends with your mentality,.. I am good now at least i can control the urge,..
Thanks for sharing your story
Thanks for sharing your story, Shayne!
Try & seek medical assistance
Try & seek medical assistance from a specialist.. Sorry ma d.a
We completely agree!
We completely agree!
Had same problem few years
Had same problem few years back en I slept around alot rn mustabated alot but later joined the prayer groups en wenever I cld mustabated it cld make me feel guilt en sleepin around too so I started feeling Strong en reducing the number of times I sleep wit different gals en mustabate first thing join prayer groups , share ur problem wit strong spiritual women , exercise on a daily basis and avoid use of toys completely , then atleast make sure every time u sleep wit ya bf I cum then slowly by slowly u Wil heal it took me 3 yrs
Thanks for sharing your story
Thanks for sharing your story, Ed.
I had the same problem but it
I had the same problem but it stopped.All i did is that i tried to make myself busy all the time.
Thanks for sharing your
Thanks for sharing your experience, Bosco!
i too have same problem ….
i too have same problem …..but i manage to control it…i make myself busy throughout the day
Thanks for sharing what
Thanks for sharing what worked for you, Maxwell.
no matter how much you pray..
no matter how much you pray…God only adds up to what you do..He increases the bountiness of your sweat..Get busy, see a psychiatrist and most of change your mind set and stop thinking you have a disorder..Best of luck
Thanks for your input, Phoebe
Thanks for your input, Phoebe.
with that disorder you need
with that disorder you need to change your mentality and refute ideas leading to sex drive
Joy, thanks for sharing your
Joy, thanks for sharing your ideas.
jxt feeling lonely and
jxt feeling lonely and depressed after finding no 1 to hav ax a soulmate
Aww, don’t worry, you will
Aww, don’t worry, you will find someone!
av got the same problem here
av got the same problem here
What have you trued to do
What have you trued to do about it so far?
A void being indoors a lone i
A void being indoors a lone i think it will come to a stop
Thanks for sharing your
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Victor.
Beryl thanks alot for the
Beryl thanks alot for the boldness to come out and narate this, many suffer either in silence or ignorance. You a see young girl on the nighbourhood indulging in sexual acts with more than one boy, we conclude the parents have not raised her properly, or we imagine she got it from the parent (s) the same to the boy child. Honestly I do not have advice however my sugestion which might or might not work is to find ways of hating sex! How? Think of sex as what is reaping you of your dignity, Connect every bad thing to sex. Anytime you feel the slight urge to have sex, think of the negative. This will not solve but will provide larger gaps between the times you have it. Then pray hard!
Thank you for sharing your
Thank you for sharing your ideas with us, Kelly.
there is nothing beyond God.
there is nothing beyond God. just pray for the deliverance and He will deliver you from that my dear
Thank you, Eddy.
Thank you, Eddy.
honestly you need to see a
honestly you need to see a gynaecologist
Thanks for your input!
Thanks for your input!
God gave you a reason for a
God gave you a reason for a reason,humble yourself to God and He wil show you how to go about it, .
Thanks for sharing these
Thanks for sharing these thoughts, Martinez.
most of them have given their
most of them have given their advise but me i will say take away the toys, pray hard for guidance and continue to do what u have been doing swim and keep talking to ur boyfriend
go for medical help but in ur mind u should knw that there is no watso ever therapist better than ur self, so before u go to se a therapist, treat ur self as one do the talking to ur self bse all of us the therapist we do alot of talking .just trying to talk to someone out of something and everyone can talk including you, so talk to your self first. i wish you the best and i knw you will get through this bse by the time you speak u are such a strong lady and your boyfriend should be proud of you. best wishes from me and my team
Thank you for sharing, Nadra.
Thank you for sharing, Nadra.
ma friend,am sorry 4that,,juz
ma friend,am sorry 4that,,juz try hard to keep urself busy always..as it iz said,an idle mynd iz a devils workshop..so don let ur mynd b evil,,n another thing 4get al thoz toys kabisa n b prayerful…
Thanks for your input .
Thanks for your input .
Ghai..!!my God.I have the
Ghai..!!my God.I have the same issue.I dont know what is wrong.Any time I see a sexy lady around am aroused fully.I. can have sex but after some few hours I still need more and am dissatisfied.Why??
Geoffrey, that is not the
Geoffrey, that is not the same thing. Yours sounds pretty normal.
You need help from God nt men
You need help from God nt men.
Thanks.
Thanks.
Alweiz be around friends and
Alweiz be around friends and also try to engage in games that u will come out tired and ready to rest that will help..goodluck
Thanks for your opinion,
Thanks for your opinion, Omonde!
sounds to me like more of a
sounds to me like more of a spiritual problem…………..focus on being in CONTROL of your thoughts,and anything other than that “WEAKNESS”…….and we all know Nobody likes to be in a Position of weakness
works for me Atleast..
Thank you for your input,
Thank you for your input, Maina.
If u wanna change your
If u wanna change your situation u must be willing tu change your mind fst,pray tu God nothing is above the most high,u must have faith en try the best for yourself like Being in public placeses find a frd who will help u totaly in this bt note it will be over once u change yo mind en willing
Thank you for your input!
Thank you for your input!
I blv in prayers so much I
I blv in prayers so much I only trust in God.n God will deliver u my dear trust in Him
Thanks Pawell.
Thanks Pawell.
do circumcision it will help
do circumcision it will help and pray hard.
Merry, FGM is illegal in
Merry, FGM is illegal in Kenya and we don’t advocate for it.
Seems we hv the same problem
Seems we hv the same problem tho am married.
Hi Nissy, how do you cope
Hi Nissy, how do you cope with it, and does your partner help?
you are normal all u need to
you are normal all u need to do is put your mind in your game and am sure u wont feel as a burden to your boy if at all he aint complaining….thank God its a talent
Hi Bav, thank you for finding
Hi Bav, thank you for finding time to comment.
When you become addicted to
When you become addicted to something,always there are withdrawal stuffs that drag you behind.And you are with the sex toys at your disposal its always not easy to manage leaving it once and for all.Its prudent you do away with the sex toys.Burn them.I used to sail in the same boat as you.Also diligent enough,check on your diet.Food is also a trigger.Most importantly pray to God.And in silence tell him about it.He knows all about you.He created you.Happy new year in advance.
Thank you David for your
Thank you David for your Input.
[email protected] ill
[email protected] ill advice you try doing something that diverts your mind from being idle, try something that changes your mood, like you could paint your house in some colors that will change how you feel about the environment you are in, stop thinking of how much sex you need right now, but rather start thinking about your future, try as much as possible to start focusing on other life commitments and issues that you have to accomplish in the future…. have something to keep you off from thinking about sex….
Believe me, it’s like a heart break that tears you down, you can’t stop thinking about that person who just broke you, the moment any memory comes up, tears roll down! but to move on, you have to try find something that changes the way you reason, you have to find something that diverts your feelings, so first,
1. start by disposing off those sex toys you have, don’t walk with them anymore,
1. buy some stuff like crisp, groundnuts, bubble gums (not too much junk) that you’ll be taking from time to time just to keep your mind busy,
2. STOP THINKING ABOUT SEX AT ANYTIME,
3. start putting on clothes that cover your womanhood s that you’re not alerted by any attention drawn from you by other men,
4. set a daily schedule that you must make sure you’re following..
5. commit yourself to other extra activities like charity work-set a few places like children’s home where you can be spending time there,
6. START REDUCING THE NUMBER OF TIMES YOURE HAVING SEX-set a countdown timetable very week/month to lower down your sex drive..
7. get time to know which types of foodstuffs are capable of increasing your sex drive and try to avoid them or substitute them with less harmless ones.
8. set a small farm at your backyard, have something like grapes or domesticated poultry that will ensure you’re always committed when at home.
9. change the kind of music you listen to, no sensual songs or such related stuffs..
10. anything in your house or vicinity that gives u sexual memories should be disposed of immediately.
11. Take note of the people whom you live with, and those around you. If anyone near you tries to use the advantage of your situation to get sexual satisfaction, keep them off limits and out of your life… they’ll just ruin everything you’re trying to put in practice and that won’t solve your problem..
12. Get a play station, or some puzzle book, or something like candy crush and play these kind of games whenever you’re free……..
13. Avoid conversations that will make you get arouse, no porn movies, no sexy touches all the time and no stupid stuff related to sex at any time.
14. Develop a habit of wanting to get to sleep when you’re idle, sleep will keep you away from a lot of stuff.
15. Always do something that you really like doing, for example, I personally like having kizomba lessons and dances, I can dance the whole day without complaining and I won’t care about anything else, by doing so, you’ll have lesser things to remember or think about…
That’s just a list of alternatives to help you. It’s easy to negotiate with the brain and mingle around with it, it just depends with how much will power do you have, how further ere you willing to push yourself to accepting that the impossible is not something that can be cracked to become possible… there are always a lot of stuff you can do..
Alexander John
Wow! Thanks so much John.
Wow! Thanks so much John. That’s some really cool advice you gave there. We appreciate your input.
Am also got that problem
Am also got that problem
Hope you are reading the
Hope you are reading the comments , you could use some of the advice’s given here.
Its like u r not alone im
Its like u r not alone im Having the same whenever i comes across any beutiful lady i will find ma dick up which nikiwa means nikiwa Kwa puplic it will remain up Kwa matt the same plz help
John, there are some some few
John, there are some some few good advice here hope you are following.
it’s not a matter of prayers
it’s not a matter of prayers like other guy’s have commented,its all about you,your brain is all you need,wenever you feel like having it do something else that will change your thoughts,and avoid staying alone always be where people are to cut off the thoughts of using the damned toys,thank you
Hi Makori, thanks for your
Hi Makori, thanks for your input.
try n b strong beryl coz it’s
try n b strong beryl coz it’s not ua folt…God is in control of your life…
Thanks Winnie for that
Thanks Winnie for that reassurance.
May God help u.
May God help u.
Mesh, we hope she gets a
Mesh, we hope she gets a solution.
I believe the Holy Quran has
I believe the Holy Quran has answers to all questions and has solutions to every problem. …..if you are a muslim observe fasting and follow all the rulles of fasting and you will be suprissed
Thank you Musa.
Thank you Musa.
i am in the same condition as
i am in the same condition as hers maybe we can make things happen
Hi Simon, what do you mean
Hi Simon, what do you mean exactly?
seek medical assistance from
seek medical assistance from a docter & pray to your God
Thank you Farah for your
Thank you Farah for your input.
gal i feel u,,i just hv two
gal i feel u,,i just hv two advices for u
1 seek spiritual guidance from ua pastor
2 check also wat u eat aside from keepn uaself busy which is a gud n best excercis check wat u r eatn kaa u use akina groundnuts tat bng am example definetly u wil feel hot this is a body that got hormones tat gt stimuletd by many things,,,gal just check ua diet it also count
Thanks for your input!
Thanks for your input!
Trie FGM perhaps it can work
Trie FGM perhaps it can work
Original, FGM is illegal in
Original, FGM is illegal in Kenya and we would not advocate for it.
Stay Away From Bad Friends
Stay Away From Bad Friends Also.
Thanks Case.
Thanks Case.
My sister all is not lost. At
My sister all is not lost. At least Avoid pornograpgy. keep busy and keep off impure thoughts. I was addicted to masturbation too. Only God will help you. Keep praying that He may give you the same power to overcome it.
Thanks Marcquez for your
Thanks Marcquez for your contribution.
confess to God and pray alot
confess to God and pray alot.xo that he will deliver you my sister.
Thanks Lucifer.
Thanks Lucifer.
It sounds tricky. If the
It sounds tricky. If the problem is recent , may be yo taking in more of sex arousal foods. It might be better if you identify them and reduce on their consumption.
Thanks for your input.
Thanks for your input.
U suld try to knw hw to
U suld try to knw hw to contro ur mind, once u ar able to do that d problem wl solve. Wish u best of luck
Hi Ola, thanks for your input
Hi Ola, thanks for your input.
I’m realy sory for the problm
I’m realy sory for the problm that u hav my dear,belive me that is a big prblm and u realy needs cure.there’s somethin spiritualy causin that prblm and u might end up without even a husband in ua lyf.have u ever ask your self why ur using toys while u have a bf? That isn’t NORMAL at all …..in box me if intrest,i knw somewhere they can get u treated cz my gf was once having the same prblm that ur facing and he is now fine
Hi Raj, Thanks for your input
Hi Raj, Thanks for your input. There is nothing wrong in using sex toys if one enjoys them and use them to spice their sex life. Where is it that your girlfriend got help? We would like to know.
A minimum of five fucking
A minimum of five fucking crazy boy friends will do u good
Kimko don’t you feel like
Kimko don’t you feel like that will fuel her desire?
God Is The Only Answer To
God Is The Only Answer To Your Problem Lady
Thanks Davie.
Thanks Davie.
go and see a doctor and put
go and see a doctor and put everything in God’s hands
Thanks Mwiche for that.
Thanks Mwiche for that.
MY DEAR THERE IS ONE SIMPLE
MY DEAR THERE IS ONE SIMPLE SOLUTION, TURN TO GOD, HE IS THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN HELP YOU OVERCOME THIS SITUATION. ALWAYS READ YOUR BIBLE IT WILL HELP YOU A LOT
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Thank you Anara for your
Thank you Anara for your Input.
am sorry my dear but i also
am sorry my dear but i also have the same problem and am afraid.that its getting worse and worse.especially when am at bathroom bcoz i cant shower without mustabating…
Hope the advice here helps
Hope the advice here helps you as well James.
First of all don’t feel that
First of all don’t feel that you have a problem that’s who you are…and there isn’t standards in the sexual life to judge that you are abnormal…but if you want to decrease your sexual desire just focus on the intellectual side like reading and arts in general…best wishes
Thank you Ibbi for your wise
Thank you Ibbi for your wise input.
Just see a specialist sister
Just see a specialist sister . This may affect you even psychologically
Thank you Kelvin.
Thank you Kelvin.
Well this is hard for me also
Well this is hard for me also but i think av learnt something from all the advice hope it will work out for me
Jeff, we hope it works out to
Jeff, we hope it works out to.
in box me 4concling thatz a
in box me 4concling thatz a matter on how uv kept ua mind 0718390870
Duke are you a professional
Duke are you a professional certified counselor?
Very rare but it does happen.
Very rare but it does happen. One similar case was caused by a spinal growth. MRI of spine would be advisable
Thank you Doctor Tonui.
Thank you Doctor Tonui.
go to NATIONAL YOUTH SERVICES
go to NATIONAL YOUTH SERVICES OF KENYA Training for only one month utasahau nyege.
Robert but she exercises
Robert but she exercises every day and still it doesn’t help much.
The woman isn’t the problem
The woman isn’t the problem but it’s a health condition. Specialized medical check up could possibly unravel the cause. Psychological problems, Noo. That can’t be.
Hi David, what kind of
Hi David, what kind of specialized medical check up are you referring to?
I believe you have a
I believe you have a psychological problem….stemming probably from sexual abuse in childhood,or something…..n it makes u always crave sex yet feel no satisfaction at all…in addiction,you have major symptoms of sex addiction….tackling these past traumatic events n doing lots of spiritual counselling may help u understand the roots of this problem.
Thank you Jay for your input.
Thank you Jay for your input.
homones…..work that way..
homones…..work that way…but not like in your case
Thanks Weche.
Thanks Weche.
use birth control pills to
use birth control pills to balance your hormones , I can assure you it works
Hi, Birth control pills do
Hi, Birth control pills do not change someones sexual desire.
But again,, be committed also
But again,, be committed also,, why would you carry the sex toy while you wanna stop. Just stop.
Thank you Sam for your input.
Thank you Sam for your input.
You need God intervention in
You need God intervention in your life,wat I think is you have to go for deliverance…
Thanks Oladeo for your input.
Thanks Oladeo for your input.
ur minds r obssesed wit
ur minds r obssesed wit sexual desire thus input more unsexrelated action n above ol try as much to change ur mindset.
Hi Kimeto, thanks for your
Hi Kimeto, thanks for your input. How should one change their mind set?
I think the problem is more
I think the problem is more spiritual, you need a doctor coz this can really affect how you relate with your family and friends. Try counseling too. And of importance tell God your problem, He is everything, believe in Him and you will never regret.
Thank you Hilda for your
Thank you Hilda for your contribution.
Pliz find things that should
Pliz find things that should keep your mind busy always……avoid scenarios that could arouse sexual excitement…always try to be with friends especially if you are not busy.
Joel thank you for your
Joel thank you for your contribution on this.
You need to engage yourself
You need to engage yourself anytime you feel aroused by doing extra work.Always stay connected to God he is the healer of everything
Thanks for your input.
Thanks for your input.
theres geoffry who made a
theres geoffry who made a comment that he shares a similar problem,maybe they should hook,do it to the maximum eventually theyl get bored of sex,probably this will solve it
Steve, she is already in a
Steve, she is already in a relationship and is committed to it. Thanks for your input though.
u need Gods intervention
u need Gods intervention
Thanks Jecintha.
Thanks Jecintha.
u r bold!!! I salute you for
u r bold!!! I salute you for that ma dia.as for me I can say seek guidance from God Almighty!!!? God does things for a reason.soo rem u r special in ua own way,juu kuna wengine Hata hio erection hawana n wanatamani tu.soo seek God’s help n let ua boyfriend support by taking u to activities like swimming, running, n etc ndio u burn out some libido.U going g to make it.
Thanks for your input Khalid.
Thanks for your input Khalid.
My man showers me with so
My man showers me with so much love and attention a woman could ever ask for, but I have one problem with him….he is a serial cheater. Every tym I find out about these chics he claims he doesn’t know why he keeps cheating. pliz help
Shean, Cheating is a decision
Shean, Cheating is a decision one makes its not an accident. You need to decide if you want to be in such a relationship fr the rest of your life. If not, you need to move on with your life and find someone trustworthy.
i wud rather advice u get a
i wud rather advice u get a baby thn definitely ua mind wl shift n sense of parenthood responsibility wl occupy ua mind instead
Ogal, what if she is not
Ogal, what if she is not ready for the responsibility of bringing up a child?
in deed this is a bit
in deed this is a bit terrifying though natural on the other side and good for you. some of the people even admire to be like you, but can’t have even a single sensitivity within their bodies! ! one simple word for you, is just to get a way of diverting your sexual feelings always whenever you think it’s not the best time for it. wish you the best
Thank you Migisha for your
Thank you Migisha for your input.
OMG I think you need to see
OMG I think you need to see me asap! i have a magic wand that can cure all the problems you have dear 😉
Jaynnaro, do you feel like
Jaynnaro, do you feel like the boyfriend is not good enough?
Hell yeah if he was we
Hell yeah if he was we wouldnt be discussing her problems here. She need a proper fucking IMO. Give me her no.
Try things that could lower
Try things that could lower your libido like a little kerosene on food.
Romeo, does that really work?
Romeo, does that really work?
Seek help from god
Seek help from god
He will solve it
Thanks for your input Gladys.
Thanks for your input Gladys.
first nothing wrong with that
first nothing wrong with that and hoping your boyfriend can understand you more. don’t hate yourself for that..try to withdraw from it slowly and it will come to end
Thanks for your support and
Thanks for your support and for giving your input Joseph.
Fmg wil help that for sure
Fmg wil help that for sure pole.it wil make feel not normal.
Hi Cheri, female genital
Hi Cheri, female genital mutilation is illegal and therefore should not be recommended to anyone.
Come for prayers. It shall go
Come for prayers. It shall go. Prayer can’t fail. I sorted someone like that before.
Hi Ben thanks for your input.
Hi Ben thanks for your input.
Am almost the same
Am almost the same
Thank you for sharing…
Thank you for sharing Antonio.