Guide to first time anal sex
Curious to try anal sex but not sure how to get started? Let Love Matters help you with a step-by-step guide to safe and enjoyable first time anal sex.
Be sure
If you have never tried intercourse via the anus, it can be an intimidating prospect. Understand that it’s ultimately your decision to go ahead or not. If you don’t feel ready for it, communicate your feelings to your partner. If they really love and respect you, they will understand your choice.
On the other hand, if your partner isn’t ready for anal sex, talk to them. Forcing your partner will only add stress to the relationship. Find out why they are reluctant and give them time to come to terms with the idea. If they aren’t comfortable with anal sex, try other ways of making love. Sex, of any kind, is only pleasurable when both partners agree to it.Prepare yourself
If and when you decide to go ahead and give it a try, prepare yourself well. Anal sex isn’t very painful if performed with care. The muscles surrounding your anus are tight and which can cause some pain. Relaxing the muscles will reduce the discomfort. So relax and enjoy your first time. Talk to your partner about going slow and taking one step at a time.
Know myths from facts
Several myths cloud our perceptions about anal sex. Some of these myths have cultural roots, while others are purely misconceptions. Anal sex isn’t just for homosexuals, neither is it ‘dirty’.
Be clean and safe
The anus is a region highly susceptible to infection. You should always wash yourself before anal sex. Don’t use too much soap as it makes the area dry and can also lead to a higher risk of infections. Also, make sure that your bowel is empty for comfortable penetration. And always use a condom.
Always start with foreplay
The anus doesn’t self-lubricate. It is important you start with foreplay so that the receptive partner is excited and prepared for the act. Building anticipation will only help you to relax and enjoy anal sex.
Don’t penetrate immediately
It is possible that your partner is not ready for penetration right away. Start stretching the muscles by inserting a finger first. See if your partner is aroused by this. Once comfortable, try multiple fingers, butt plugs or a vibrator. If and only when your partner finds this enjoyable, go ahead with penetration. Inserting the tip of your penis for the first few times will be difficult as the tip is the widest part. Don’t lay flat on your stomach, the pressure might cause a tear around anus; use different positions instead.
Use lubricants
Lubrication reduces friction, making anal sex more enjoyable and less painful. Choose silicone-based lubricants, if possible. Wash yourself well after you’re done to avoid infections. Using unclean sex toys or penis may lead to infections. Always remember to keep it healthy and safe!
Do you have any more tips to make anal sex less painful and more enjoyable? Leave a comment below or share your ideas via Facebook. You can also head to our discussion board if you have questions.
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If in the normal sex,she…
If in the normal sex,she feels the weight&can’t handle me,coz its extra of 16 inches,will she able to handle in that place?
Hi Destroyer,
It’s all…
Hi Destroyer,
It’s all about investing in foreplay so that her anal muscles are relaxed. Remember to use lube. Also, see the 5 other tips listed in the article.
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Hi Franqo,
Both partner will enjoy the experience.
My boyfriend has been…
My boyfriend has been insisting on us ha ING anal sex. Is he gay? Should be worried?
Hi Suddie, having or wanting…
Hi Suddie, having or wanting to explore anal sex does not make one homosexual. Heterosexual couples can also choose to have anal sex. If you however are not comfortable with this, let your partner know and he should also respect your choice. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/anal-sex-top-five-facts
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Just wondering if heterosexual couples have anal sex and can it cause pregnancy?
Hey, yes heterosexual…
Hey, yes heterosexual couples can also choose to have and enjoy anal sex. Have a look at the following article;https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/anal-sex-myths-busted–
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Hi Kevin, thank you for your…
Hi Kevin, thank you for your input.
Where can someone get the…
Where can someone get the lubricant oil
Hi Steve,
You can get lube…
Hi Steve,
You can get lube in a chemist or pharmacy near you.
It’s not allowed in islam…
It’s not allowed in islam. It’s against Islamic act and sinful. No one should try it!
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Thank you for…
Hi Athman,
Thank you for your input! Different strokes, different folks! Love Matters is all about inclusivity and we do not discriminate based on sex, gender, orientation, or any other aspect of being. We respect your religion and what it stands for but kindly note that there are other faiths that allow anal sex. Love Matters is all about inclusivity and we want to make sure that everyone in all their diversity has access to information that can help them make informed decisions.
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You guys are promoting sodomy
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Thank you for…
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That is very bad. Why anus…
That is very bad. Why anus when the pussy carries all the stimulus.
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Thank you for…
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