If you have never tried intercourse via the anus, it can be an intimidating prospect. Understand that it’s ultimately your decision to go ahead or not. If you don’t feel ready for it, communicate your feelings to your partner. If they really love and respect you, they will understand your choice.
On the other hand, if your partner isn't ready for anal sex, talk to them. Forcing your partner will only add stress to the relationship. Find out why they are reluctant and give them time to come to terms with the idea. If they aren’t comfortable with anal sex, try other ways of making love. Sex, of any kind, is only pleasurable when both partners agree to it.
If and when you decide to go ahead and give it a try, prepare yourself well. Anal sex isn’t very painful if performed with care. The muscles surrounding your anus are tight and which can cause some pain. Relaxing the muscles will reduce the discomfort. So relax and enjoy your first time. Talk to your partner about going slow and taking one step at a time.
Several myths cloud our perceptions about anal sex. Some of these myths have cultural roots, while others are purely misconceptions. Anal sex isn’t just for homosexuals, neither is it 'dirty'.
The anus is a region highly susceptible to infection. You should always wash yourself before anal sex. Don't use too much soap as it makes the area dry and can also lead to a higher risk of infections. Also, make sure that your bowel is empty for comfortable penetration. And always use a condom.
The anus doesn't self-lubricate. It is important you start with foreplay so that the receptive partner is excited and prepared for the act. Building anticipation will only help you to relax and enjoy anal sex.
It is possible that your partner is not ready for penetration right away. Start stretching the muscles by inserting a finger first. See if your partner is aroused by this. Once comfortable, try multiple fingers, butt plugs or a vibrator. If and only when your partner finds this enjoyable, go ahead with penetration. Inserting the tip of your penis for the first few times will be difficult as the tip is the widest part. Don't lay flat on your stomach, the pressure might cause a tear around anus; use different positions instead.
Lubrication reduces friction, making anal sex more enjoyable and less painful. Choose silicone-based lubricants, if possible. Wash yourself well after you’re done to avoid infections. Using unclean sex toys or penis may lead to infections. Always remember to keep it healthy and safe!
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