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Huge penis, painful sex: what’s the solution?

My boyfriend has a huge penis; it hurts a lot during sex. I hate saying 'no' to him every time. Is there a way out? Please help!

I can just see all the gentlemen rushing to read this column. It seems like a problem that usually means neighbours’ envy and owners’ pride.

Large family jewels

So while your boyfriend may be super-proud of his family legacy and heirloom, this is not working out to your advantage at all, is it? People envy large penis sizes and God knows it is the topic of incessant debate, but someone should ask for the user experience as well, right?

Not every experience is a memorable one. The bigger the better works for a TV set. It is not applicable to any body part. The ideal penis size will forever be a contentious discussion.

Opening act

There are four golden rules for a size that’s too big. To begin with, focus more on the foreplay. You may want to begin with relaxing and putting your stress away as you get some mood lighting and aromatherapy started. He has to make his act better and focus on what all he needs to do with you during foreplay.

All you need is a lot of love, patience, and just the two of you being super relaxed. No room for quickies, just yet. Enjoy what you are doing and feeling and don’t let the pressure of penetration get to either of you. Does that sound okay?

For the love of lube

Condoms and any water-based lubricants are your best friends here. The market is quite open to these now. Condoms or lubricants are quite common things to buy so let it not hamper your shopping style.

Lubes and condoms help in making penetration somewhat pain-free. It also means that both of you need to be relaxed and in no hurry.

You, lady, should not freak out every time. Often, women get terrified of penetration, size, pregnancy, and guilt. This fear involuntarily contracts the muscles of the vagina causing it to tighten up so much that penetration becomes even more difficult and thus more painful.

Perfect positions

Another thing to keep in mind is trying out new positions that facilitate excitement and entry. Check them out on a reliable website or find some books on the issue. Believe me, there are some books in the market specifically for issues of penis size and sex positions. See if they work for you and if you can practise them.

Always remember, sex is better when you are more relaxed and comfortable with each other. The most crucial part here is that you talk and communicate with ease and friendliness. Don’t yell, 'Get that beast out of me!' You may leave him feeling confused. He can’t cut it off to suit Her Highness, can he?

Package deal

Now for the man who is well hung. He is the boss in his circle but he feels like a peanut because his girl runs a mile every time he shows off his wares. That’s a conundrum if there ever is one.

This seems very funny now. What a problem! Throw in some benefits like your sweet temperament, loving attitude, and naughty sex talks. Remember sex is pleasurable and fun only when the two of you are talking through the process and working it through. It is not like prepping for an exam and predicting failure!
 

Do you also have concerns about your penis size? Write your comments on our discussion forum or get in touch via Facebook. You can find us at Love Matters Kenya and Love Matters Naija.

Comments
Terryanne
Mon, 08/01/2016 - 15:10
Wah! This is a hard one. I am not one to say the bigger the better. Read through the post and it sounds like something that would help. I can only pity girls and women going through such pain instead of pleasure. Worst is if the man is selfish and only cares about their sexual needs.
Thanx, suffering the same, not because he's too big, but because I am too small. We do a lot of foreplay, BT lav never felt the pleasure and it's sickenning
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