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Ejaculation

If you get really aroused, you have an orgasm or ‘come’. When you have an orgasm, you ejaculate – semen comes out of your penis.

Semen and sperm – what’s the difference?

Semen is the liquid that comes out when you ejaculate. It is a sticky white liquid that contains millions of tiny sperm cells. Each healthy sperm cell is able to fertilise an egg. Sperm can live for three to five days after ejaculation in the vagina. Some sperm has lived up to eight days after ejaculation.

First ejaculation

Some time between the ages of about 11 and 16, you may have your first ejaculation. This means a sticky white fluid called semen comes out of your penis.

Your first ejaculation can happen when you’re asleep – people often call this a ‘wet dream’. It could also happen when you masturbate or when you make love with someone.

No two men are the same. This means some men have their first ejaculation when they’re 11, while others have it when they’re 16.

Wet dreams

A wet dream is when you ejaculate in your sleep. When you wake up and feel the damp patch on your bed, you might think you’ve peed on your bed. But in fact, you’ve just ejaculated semen during your sleep. Often you can have a wet dream without even dreaming about sex.

How much do you ejaculate?

As you go through puberty, the amount of semen you ejaculate tends to increase and change in texture and quantity.

First ejaculation:

  • Average amount of semen: 0.5 millilitres 
  • Colour and texture: clear, jelly-like
  • Average amount of sperm: little sperm – less than a million per millilitre

Six months after your first ejaculation:

  • Average amount of semen: 1 millilitre
  • Colour and texture: clear, jelly-like
  • Average amount of sperm: 20 million sperm per millilitre

One year after your first ejaculation:

  • Average amount of semen: 2.5 millilitres
  • Colour and texture: clear or white jelly-like or sticky liquid
  • Average amount of sperm: 50 million sperm per millilitre

Two years after your first ejaculation – the same as an adult:

  • Average amount of semen: 3.5 millilitres
  • Colour and Texture: white sticky liquid
  • Average amount of sperm: 300 million sperm per millilitre

For the sake of comparison, a teaspoonful is 5 millilitres.

If my pee and semen come out from the same hole – does this mean my semen contains pee too?
No. It’s true that both pee and semen come out through the urethra opening. But the urethra is a tube with two branches, one that goes to the bladder and one that goes to the vas deferens. When the penis releases semen, a valve blocks the branch to the bladder so urine doesn’t escape too.

First ejaculation and pregnancy

In 90 per cent of men, when they ejaculate for the first time the semen doesn't actually contain any sperm – the cells that fertilise an egg to get a girl pregnant. But... there's no way to guarantee whether your first ejaculation will contain any sperm or not. So always use contraception when you have sex with a girl. The safest is to go 'Double Dutch' – wear a condom and use another form of contraception!

Did you know...?

In the early 20th century the British secret service discovered that semen made good invisible ink.

Each time you ejaculate, 200-500 million sperm are released.

Comments
Hi Willie, What you are experiencing is known as delayed or retarded ejaculation, where it takes one more than 30 minutes to ejaculate (in some cases a person may not ejaculate at all) and it happens to most men from time to time. this maybe caused by a combination of physical and Psychological issues like anxiety or stress including the use of certain medication. If this is something happens all the time, you need to see a Doctor who will be able as need be refer you to a specialist.
Simon, Semen which is what carries the sperm is packed with proteins and vitamins and when swallowed the digestive system will break it down and absorb it into the blood stream. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/semen-top-five-facts
Hi Eddie, A good place to start is Love, then think about what kind of a partner you want for marriage. Talk about your expectations early in the relationship so you are both clear and make sure you have open and honest communication which will ensure you are able to talk about everything including the difficult topics.
I take 2min to enjuculate in first but second time I take longer time but at end I enjuculate little or no sperm,am I impontent and can I make a woman pregnant
Hi Franck, You take a shorter time to ejaculate the first round perhaps because you get excited much quicker than in the second and this is normal. The amount of ejaculation is about a tea spoon and this carries hundreds of millions of sperms. Nothing says you are incapable of getting a woman pregnant.
i used to masturbate for two years and i stoped it now for a year. i have ma first born 6 year now, i hv failed to impregnate my wife and even if i tryon other ladies, what medicine can i use please?
Hi Charlie, There are many factors that determine whether your partner can get pregnant including whether she is fertile at the time you have sex, certain lifestyle choices on both your part and her's, whether you or your partner have any fertility issues among others. Masturbation is not of the reasons that would stop you from getting your partner pregnant, as long as your reproductive organs are healthy you should be able to get your partner pregnant. If you have however been consistently trying to get your partner pregnant for more than a year it may be important for you both to visit a specialist. The specialist - Gynecologist - may conduct tests on both of you and advice based on the outcome. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts
I have been musturbating since I was 14years and now I am affected because I ejaculate before penetration when having sex can I get help please can I get back to my normal situation please?

Hi Raphael, Thank you for the feedback. The more important question is what will get her to orgasm or ejaculate, especially because people are different. This also means there is no standard time for everyone, it is important to note that many times women take longer to orgasm than men. Have a look at this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/orgasms/female-orgasms-top-five-facts

Hi Leonard, three years is a long time. I suggest you both visit a specialist - Gynecologist who will conduct comprehensive tests and provide you with advice on how to proceed. In the meantime, have a look at this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

Hi Elvis, Premature Ejaculation is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts

Hi Ken, What you are experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out the following article for what you can do to better control this;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

How can I deal permanently with the problem of premature ejaculation. I have been masturbation since I was 15 and I am now afraid of getting a girlfriend help me.

Hi Steve, behaviour that has been learnt can also be unlearnt. Remember, premature ejaculation is when you ejaculate sooner than you wish or sooner that your partners wants you to. when masturbating the intention may not be to last long, but you can begin to try and last longer even when masturbating. Learn how your body responds and begin to learn to delay or control when you ejaculate. The change will not happen at once but with practice one is able to regain control.Check out the following article for more tips of what you can do to achieve this:- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

Njesh Tim
Wed, 06/20/2018 - 13:16
Hi, how much should i ejaculate to get a girl pregnant. I am asking because we only did it once and it was very fast but now the girl says she is pregnant, I am really doubt her.

Hey Tim, having unprotected sex can lead to one getting pregnant regardless of how many times one has sex. This means that one can have sex only once and this can get them pregnant. If you have unprotected sex and the lady is fertile even having sex once may lead to pregnancy. This is why it is important to use a birth control method like condoms which prevent both unplanned pregnancies and Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/am-i-pregnant

Hey Jos, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

I used to masturbate from when I was a teenage but I stopped when I got married 5 years ago. I have ma first born about 4 years now, i have failed to impregnate my wife and other ladies, did masturbating affect me or what is the problem help me?

Dear Dan, masturbation doesn't lead to infertility this is just a myth. As evidenced by your own experience, you already have one child. If you have however been trying to get your partner pregnant for longer than 12 months, it is important that you seek the advice of a Gynecologist together with your partner. They maybe able to conduct tests and advice you with a way forward. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted

https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts

Hi Jones, what you are experiencing is know as delayed ejaculation where it takes longer than desired to ejaculate or one fails to ejaculate all together. This is caused by psychological issues like fear or anxiety or medicines one could be talking. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/difficulties-with-sex-men

Hi Antony, this really depends on the partners however, ejaculating too soon often under two minutes can be frustrating to both partners. There are a few things one can do to try and last longer during sex. Have a look at the following article for more tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

Hello, what you are experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that you will not perform can make you ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. There are a few things you one can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity on the penis. In the long term one can ensure they eat healthy and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm. The following articles provide more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-factshttps://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation 

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