Vagina shapes and sizes: the myths
Because the vagina is on the inside of the body, we don’t really think much about its shape and size. Read up on the myths and get the facts!
All vaginas are the same
There are probably as many different vaginas as there are women in this world. Just like penises, or noses for that matter, all of them are slightly different. Sure, the basic structures are the same, but for the rest, vaginas can vary quite a lot.
The shape doesn’t vary a lot
It actually appears that there are five different vaginal shapes, according to a 1996 study.
Some women’s vaginas are shaped like cones. Others have parallel-sided vaginas. And while these names still sound somewhat clinical, it does get more exciting. Would you believe that there are heart-shaped vaginas? And pumpkin-seed-shaped and even slug-shaped vaginas? We leave it up to you to imagine what these actually look like.What you see is what you get
No! Vaginas are miraculous organs! They can change considerably. When a woman is aroused, not only does the vagina get bigger, it also gets longer. The average vagina gets around 4 cm longer when sexually excited.
And the next time you are afraid a penis is too big for a seemingly small vagina, just remember that a baby’s head can pass through there!Giving birth makes your vagina bigger
Talking about babies – many people think that giving birth changes the vagina. That’s only partly true. Sure, while giving birth, the vagina can get stretched quite a bit but generally, your vagina will go back to close to normal after a while. But, if you had several young children at a very young age, your muscles can be overstretched and may not get back to normal.
In case you have concerns, please talk to your doctor. You can also try Kegel exercises.
Related: How To Do Kegel Exercises
Age doesn’t affect vaginas
Vaginas also change over the course of a woman’s life. Hormonal changes, whether during menopause, childbirth, or breastfeeding, can all affect the vagina.
Especially for older women, some of the vagina’s elasticity may change and the skin may thin or you may feel drier than usual. If this affects you, please mention this to your doctor.There are loose and tight women
Lots of people believe that having lots of sex will make a woman ‘loose’. So you could actually tell if a woman is often sexually active by feeling her vagina. That’s a huge myth!
The vagina is a muscle, and while it loosens during sex, it will tighten again afterwards. And there is no evidence that it might just stay loose if a woman has lots of sex.
But virgins are tighter, right?
No, that’s another myth. It might feel that way, but usually, it’s the anxiety and fear that means the muscles may not relax, or, instead, even contract, resulting in a tighter feeling.
The lighter the vulva, the better
Not true. The skin around the vulva (on the outside of the body) will always be darker than the rest of the body. It’s very thin and elastic, that’s why it can look unnaturally dark. If you stretch it, you will see it becomes lighter. But where it’s folded the skin looks darker and that’s totally normal.
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https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/vulva-and-vagina
https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/vaginal-discharge-and-odour-top-facts
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https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/how-long-does-sex-normally-last
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
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https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/dry-sex-women-at-pains-to-please
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/lubricant-top-five-facts
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https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/are-safe-days-safe
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https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/penis-shapes-and-sizes
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex
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Hi Mackline, thank you for your contribution 🙂
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How can you tighten sagging brests
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Hello Ann, thank you for reaching out to us. Unfortunately, at this time, there are no known remedies for tightening sagging breasts.
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We appreciate your feedback…
We appreciate your feedback Ezekiel! Have a wonderful weekend ahead and stay safe!
Which style is gud while…
Which style is gud while having sex with a virgin lady
Hi Kevin, this is a great…
Hi Kevin, this is a great question. The short answer is that you should find a position where you are both comfortable. Find positions where you can give each other feedback and always be willing to listen to your partner but also watch their body body language. Start with basic positions that are not to intricate or need you to exert too much energy or concentration. Remember to have fun!
Vagi al muscle may get…
Vagi al muscle may get confused if different penis sizes are exerted
Hi Vincent, that is yet…
Hi Vincent, that is yet again another myth that is not true. Vaginas are quite elastic in nature and it is highly unlikely that the muscles would ever get confused.
Is it normal if you are not…
Is it normal if you are not producing female fluid during sex?
Hi Cindy, thank you for…
Hi Cindy, thank you for reaching out to us. Not all women produce enough lubrication to prevent friction and tearing during sex. In such cases, it is best to use water-based lubricant to boost that which is already produced.
I store dry goods in my…
I store dry goods in my vagina
Helo Cave, why would you do…
Helo Cave, why would you do that? We strongly advise against this.
How long will it take for a…
How long will it take for a Vigina to get normal after sex
Hi Shadrack,
Do you mean…
Hi Shadrack,
Do you mean normal size?
After sex, a woman’s entire body relaxes and so does her vagina. The vagina is extremely elastic and regains its size and shape after the act.
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Thank you for…
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Thank you for visiting Love Matters!
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Naomba no. Ya dem msexy
Hi Brian,
Love Matters is…
Hi Brian,
Love Matters is not a dating service and cannot assist you in finding a partner. The best thing to do is to find out where your desired partner hangs out either online or offline. Read this article to get tips on how to approach them: 9 helpful tips for talking to someone you like. As always, feel free to ask us any questions about love, sex, or relationships if they come up. Best of luck.
Talk about other infections…
Talk about other infections that are not sexually transmitted but affect sexual organs. I had a husband who frequently scratched his private parts and I used to feel a lot of pain having sex with him. His sperms were also very week and has a very bad smell. I used to fell dirty after sex, and I eventually left him. My research landed on YEAST INFECTION. Was it???
Hi Mercy,
Yes, that’s…
Hi Mercy,
Yes, that’s possible. Itching and pain in the area around the penis and white discharge from the penis are common signs. However, only a doctor can truly diagnose this. On the other hand, yeast infections in men are treatable. Factors that cause this condition in men include diabetes, certain antibiotics, being, overweight, etc. Also, how did you know that his sperms were very weak?
after childbirth,how long…
after childbirth,how long does the vagina muscles goes back to normal size
Hi Tasha,
First note that…
Hi Tasha,
First note that your vagina probably won’t return completely to its pre-birth shape, but this shoud not worry you. It takes anywhere between a few weeks to 12 months for the vagina to return to its normal feeling. Read this article to learn more: Does the vagina snap back after childbirth. Also, kegel excercises can help. Read this article to learn more: All you need to know about kegel excercises
How many types of clit are…
How many types of clit are there
Hi there,
The clitoris…
Hi there,
The clitoris comes in different shapes, sizes, and colors just like the vagina.