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The miracle that is vagina

By Valentine Njoroge December 30, 10:53 am
Can the vagina get back to its size after having sex? What makes the vagina become large? Are there ways to keep it smaller?

Oh wow! It’s myth-busting time! The un-aroused vagina is between 2.5 and 3 inches long. Once aroused, it stretches to about 4 inches, and any additional stretching is in response to the size of the penis. This is why we can have great sex with men who have different sized penises. So the short answer: the vagina returns to size after sex.

Let’s flex

The vagina is a muscular tube surrounded by pubococcygeal (PC) muscles that start at the tip of your spine and stretch all the way to your pelvic bone. Strengthening these muscles is done through exercises that were formulated by a doctor named Arnold Kegel. They work to strengthen the walls of your vagina and give you better control of everything that involves your pelvis: from gyrating to urination to orgasm.

There’s one simple exercise you can begin with. The next time you are urinating, stop the flow of urine. The muscles you use to do this are the PC muscles and that’s what we want to strengthen. To exercise it, simply flex for about two seconds. You should feel a tightening going from your anus down to your vagina.

Your Kegel work-out should involve a minimum of two sets of 15 repetitions three times a week. After a few weeks, you can increase the number of repetitions and the frequency of your work-out.

And during sex, you can relax these muscles as the man pulls out and flex as he pushes in – you will then both experience more friction.

No to vagina tighteners

You must stay away from those so-called 'vagina tightening' soaps and lotions. They affect the vaginal lining, sometimes drying it out so that you get little cuts during sex and thus making you more prone to infections. Kegels are really the best way to firm and tighten your vagina.

As most fathers will attest, there are few things more wondrous than the vagina – how it expands for childbirth and then later shrinks back for pleasure. This is why all men who’ve visited keep applying for another visit.

Do you have questions about the vagina? Our discussion board moderators can tell you more about this miraculous organ. 

Did you learn something new?

Hi Halimukta, kegel exercises are exercises that strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. You can feel what it feels like next time you urinate- just stop your urine mid-flow. That's flexing your pelvic floor muscles. It's the pelvic floor that stops the urine from flowing. To exercise the pelvic floor muscles, simply flex for about two seconds. You should feel a tightening going from your anus down to your vagina.

Hi Kylie, 

A vagina is capable is stretching for up to 4-8 inches when you're aroused. Your vaginal canal also gets longer to accommodate penetration. It could be that your and your man are not investing more time for foreplay. During forepay, your partner should stimulate you so that you get wet, or what we call lubricated. This lubrication moistens the vagina and its entrance, making penetration easier. Read this article to get tips on foreplay: Top tips for foreplay. It is also possible that you are not fully relaxed during sex and this means that you experience difficulty getting aroused/wet. It is important to relax and be present during sex. Finally, consider using a lubricant to increase sexual comfort, and pleasure.  A large penis can still cause discomfort when having sex. Read more about lubrication here: Things you should know about lubricants 

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