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Vagina shapes and sizes: the myths

Because the vagina is on the inside of the body, we don’t really think much about its shape and size. Read up on the myths and get the facts!

  1. All vaginas are the same

    There are probably as many different vaginas as there are women in this world. Just like penises, or noses for that matter, all of them are slightly different. Sure, the basic structures are the same, but for the rest, vaginas can vary quite a lot.

  2. The shape doesn’t vary a lot

    It actually appears that there are five different vaginal shapes, according to a 1996 study.
    Some women’s vaginas are shaped like cones. Others have parallel-sided vaginas. And while these names still sound somewhat clinical, it does get more exciting. Would you believe that there are heart-shaped vaginas? And pumpkin-seed-shaped and even slug-shaped vaginas? We leave it up to you to imagine what these actually look like.

  3. What you see is what you get

    No! Vaginas are miraculous organs! They can change considerably. When a woman is aroused, not only does the vagina get bigger, it also gets longer. The average vagina gets around 4 cm longer when sexually excited.
    And the next time you are afraid a penis is too big for a seemingly small vagina, just remember that a baby’s head can pass through there!

  4. Giving birth makes your vagina bigger

    Talking about babies – many people think that giving birth changes the vagina. That’s only partly true. Sure, while giving birth, the vagina can get stretched quite a bit but generally, your vagina will go back to close to normal after a while. But, if you had several young children at a very young age, your muscles can be overstretched and may not get back to normal.

    In case you have concerns, please talk to your doctor. You can also try Kegel exercises.

    Related: How To Do Kegel Exercises 

  5. Age doesn’t affect vaginas

    Vaginas also change over the course of a woman’s life. Hormonal changes, whether during menopause, childbirth, or breastfeeding, can all affect the vagina.
    Especially for older women, some of the vagina’s elasticity may change and the skin may thin or you may feel drier than usual. If this affects you, please mention this to your doctor.

  6. There are loose and tight women

    Lots of people believe that having lots of sex will make a woman ‘loose’. So you could actually tell if a woman is often sexually active by feeling her vagina. That’s a huge myth!

    The vagina is a muscle, and while it loosens during sex, it will tighten again afterwards. And there is no evidence that it might just stay loose if a woman has lots of sex.

  7. But virgins are tighter, right?

    No, that’s another myth. It might feel that way, but usually, it’s the anxiety and fear that means the muscles may not relax, or, instead, even contract, resulting in a tighter feeling.

  8. The lighter the vulva, the better

    Not true. The skin around the vulva (on the outside of the body) will always be darker than the rest of the body. It’s very thin and elastic, that’s why it can look unnaturally dark. If you stretch it, you will see it becomes lighter. But where it’s folded the skin looks darker and that’s totally normal.

     

    Do you have any questions about the vagina? Send them to us on Facebook (Kenya or Naija), the discussion board, or here below. 

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Recent Comments (96)

  1. Can’t believe what I have
    Can’t believe what I have read because some women have bigger vagina than others.

    1. Hi Jamil, what is it that you
      Hi Jamil, what is it that you can’t believe?

  2. Can a women be able to
    Can a women be able to tighten a vagina in the course of sex?

    1. Yes by flexing the kegal
      Yes by flexing the kegal muscles she can be able to tighten and loosen her vagina.

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    wats de best process of breaking a virgin

  4. What causes some women there
    What causes some women there vargina dry

    1. Vaginal Dryness can be caused
      Vaginal Dryness can be caused by several things including psychological , physical or even medical reasons. Its sometimes normal for women to run dry during sex. That does not mean one has a problem.

      1. That’s exactly what…
        That’s exactly what I experience during sex.

        1. Hello Veea, you experience…

          Hello Veea, you experience dryness?

        2. When you experience dryness…
          When you experience dryness during sex at times its actualy when you have not kept your self in the mood.sex starts from your mind and the minute you slip your mind away thats the time you dry

          1. Hello Swabie, thank you for…

            Hello Swabie, thank you for your input. Indeed one of the reasons a person may be dry during sex is if there has not been enough arousal or if a person is not in the mood.

      1. Hello Ray, thank you for…

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  5. Do ladies prefer bigger…
    Do ladies prefer bigger dicks to smaller ones?

    1. Hello Jay, different people…

      Hello Jay, different people like different things. Some women prefer small penises over larger ones and vice versa.

  6. Hae gud information, but my…
    Hae gud information, but my bae drys in 5mins what might be a problem?

  7. Why does my dick stay sleepy…
    Why does my dick stay sleepy when i have a girl

    1. Hello Yobra, do you mean you…

      Hello Yobra, do you mean you never get an erection every time you are with a girl? If this is a case you maybe experiencing Erectile Dysfunction (ED) which come with signs like a man being unable to get or maintain an erection. ED is caused by a number of reasons including medicines a person maybe taking, psychological issues like stress, some medical conditions among others. It is important to seek medical attention to determine what could be causing the ED and the appropriate treatment. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-top-five-facts

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        1. Hello Ropey, thank you for…

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  8. Why when doing sex girls cry…
    Why when doing sex girls cry is the vagina small?

  9. how deep is the longest…
    how deep is the longest vagina when aroused

  10. I want to see real photo of…
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  11. what about fat and slim…
    what about fat and slim girls? Is it true that fat girls have tight vagina and slim have wide vagina?

    1. Hey, this is not true. You…

      Hey, this is not true. You cannot how ones vagina is by looking at their body size. 

  12. And are there girls who have…
    And are there girls who have very wet vagina and why?

  13. You mean you can’t make your…
    You mean you can’t make your vagina tighter with that vagina stick?

  14. Why can’t you use
    Diagrams…

    Why can’t you use
    Diagrams for shape
    For us to understand
    What exactly you’re
    Demonstrating.

  15. How can I keep the vagina…
    How can I keep the vagina clean mine has a bad smell?

    1. Hey Phanice, vaginal small…

      Hey Phanice, vaginal small or odour, is normal. Every vagina has its own, individual scent, and you shouldn’t try to change or disguise it. When cleaning the vagina, use warm water to wash your vulva. It’s not a good idea to use soap, especially on your inner labia and inside your vagina.
      Soap can upset the natural balance of bacteria making one more likely to get infections. Have a look of the following articles for more information;-

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/vulva-and-vagina

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/vaginal-discharge-and-odour-top-facts

  16. Is it safe to use hair…
    Is it safe to use hair removal creams around the v area? Waxing I think is very l painful.

  17. How long is sex supposed to…
    How long is sex supposed to last under normal situation?

    1. Hello Erick, research…

      Hello Erick, research suggests that sex usually lasts about 5 minutes on average. There are people who will last for much less time and there are those who will last much longer than that time. It is important to find what works for you and your partner, a good balance between quality and quantity. Have a look at the following articles for more information and tips to last longer;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/how-long-does-sex-normally-last

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

  18. What is the right penis size…
    What is the right penis size to enjoy sex? If you can make penis bigger and longer?

    1. Hello Joash, having a bigger…

      Hello Joash, having a bigger penis doesn’t make one a better lover, and it also doesn’t mean one will have better sex. This means one can enjoy sex regardless of their size. Also, other than surgery which comes with complications, one can’t really make their penis bigger or longer. Have a look at the following articles for more information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/penis-shapes-and-sizes

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/can-i-make-my-penis-bigger

  19. Whatw aboust penis size
    Whatw aboust penis size

  20. what causes pain during sex?…
    what causes pain during sex? It happens to me alot of time and I am not a virgin?

    1. Hey Violet, so sorry about…

      Hey Violet, so sorry about this, sex should be pleasurable for both partners. Painful sex can be caused by a number of reasons including dry sex where penetration happens before the vagina is sufficiently lubricated, the position during sex, the size of the penis and the fact that one may not be relaxed during penetration because of stress, anxiety or fear of pain based on a past experience. It is important to get to know what is causing the pain. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/painful-sex-time-to-listen-up

  21. Thank you Love Matters, very…
    Thank you Love Matters, very informative information.

  22. How do you know if a girl is…
    How do you know if a girl is a virgin when you have sex? She told me she was virgin when we have sex there was no blood at all. Is this possible?

    1. Hi Davis, you can’t tell if…

      Hi Davis, you can’t tell if a girl is a virgin when having sex with her, even experienced doctors can’t tell if a girl is a virgin. Also, bleeding or not bleeding is not proof that one was or was not pregnant. The hymen which is what stretches during first time sex which may lead to bleeding may have already been stretched by other activities such as sports hence no discomfort or bleeding. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/virginity/busting-the-hymen-myth

  23. Pliz comment about cleaning…
    Pliz comment about cleaning vagina. Is it normal for it to smell so much?

    1. Hey Drew, vaginal odour, or…

      Hey Drew, vaginal odour, or smell, is normal. Every vagina has its own, individual scent, and you shouldn’t try to change or disguise it. To clean the vagina, one should use warm water to wash the vulva. It’s not a good idea to use soap, especially inside the vagina. Soap can upset the natural balance of bacteria and actually make one more likely to get infections. It can also be a cause of itching and irritation or pain during intercourse. If one does choose to wash their vagina with soap, they should consider using a gentle soap one without strong perfumes. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/vaginal-discharge-and-odour-top-facts

  24. My girlfriend her vagina is…
    My girlfriend her vagina is always dry it become wet we am about to finish. Why?

    1. Hello Higson, vaginal…

      Hello Higson, vaginal wetness during sex is a result of arousal. It maybe important for you to spend more time in foreplay to get your partner aroused and sufficiently wet before intercourse. Remember, dry sex can be uncomfortable and painful to your partner, it doesn’t have to be. You can also consider using lubricants for purposes of supplementing. Check out the following article for additional;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/dry-sex-women-at-pains-to-please

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/lubricant-top-five-facts

  25. My girlfriend vagina becomes…
    My girlfriend vagina becomes very wet during sex and I feel nothing when we are having sex. What should she do to reduce the watery?

  26. Is it safe to have sex…
    Is it safe to have sex during periods? How do you know your safe days?

    1. Hey Pascalina, yes you can…

      Hey Pascalina, yes you can have sex during your periods if you are both okay with this. However, there is a small chance you could get pregnant and for this reason, if you do not want to get pregnant use protection. On the issue of safe days, these are the most unreliable ways to prevent pregnancy, and we really don’t recommend it at all. When your safe days are really depends on the length of your cycle. Technically speaking, the first seven days before and after your period, as well as the time of your period, are relatively safe. But, if you have a shorter cycle (shorter than 28 days), or an irregular one, this will vary. Also keep in mind that sperm can survive for up to five days and longer inside the body- so even if you have sex on a ‘safe’ day, you can still get pregnant, because the sperm survived until your ovulation date. So you see, it’s a very inaccurate. And lastly, of course this won’t protect you from STDs. Only condoms will. So we really recommend a more reliable method. Check out the following articles for more information;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/sex-during-your-period-top-five-facts

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/birth-control/are-safe-days-safe

  27. My penis is short and think…
    My penis is short and think when I erect is this OK to satisfy a girl?

    1. Hi David, penises come in…

      Hi David, penises come in different sizes and shapes. It is useful to talk with your partner to get to know what they like and want during sex. Getting to know what your partner enjoys goes along way toward making sex experience better for you both. Also do share what you like. Have a look at the following articles for more information and tips;- 

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/penis-shapes-and-sizes

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  28. What is the safe way to make…
    What is the safe way to make your dick bigger?

  29. How can I make sure my…
    How can I make sure my partner enjoy having sex with me as a lady so that he doesnt cheat?

  30. Hi Mackline, thank you for…

    Hi Mackline, thank you for your contribution 🙂

  31. How can you tighten sagging…
    How can you tighten sagging brests

    1. Hello Ann, thank you for…

      Hello Ann, thank you for reaching out to us. Unfortunately, at this time, there are no known remedies for tightening sagging breasts.

  32. We appreciate your feedback…

    We appreciate your feedback Ezekiel! Have a wonderful weekend ahead and stay safe!

  33. Which style is gud while…
    Which style is gud while having sex with a virgin lady

  34. Hi Kevin, this is a great…

    Hi Kevin, this is a great question. The short answer is that you should find a position where you are both comfortable. Find positions where you can give each other feedback and always be willing to listen to your partner but also watch their body body language. Start with basic positions that are not to intricate or need you to exert too much energy or concentration. Remember to have fun!

  35. Vagi al muscle may get…
    Vagi al muscle may get confused if different penis sizes are exerted

    1. Hi Vincent, that is yet…

      Hi Vincent, that is yet again another myth that is not true. Vaginas are quite elastic in nature and it is highly unlikely that the muscles would ever get confused.

  36. Is it normal if you are not…
    Is it normal if you are not producing female fluid during sex?

  37. Hi Cindy, thank you for…

    Hi Cindy, thank you for reaching out to us. Not all women produce enough lubrication to prevent friction and tearing during sex. In such cases, it is best to use water-based lubricant to boost that which is already produced.

  38. I store dry goods in my…
    I store dry goods in my vagina

    1. Helo Cave, why would you do…

      Helo Cave, why would you do that? We strongly advise against this.

  39. How long will it take for a…
    How long will it take for a Vigina to get normal after sex

    1. Hi Shadrack, 

      Do you mean…

      Hi Shadrack, 

      Do you mean normal size? 

      After sex,  a woman’s entire body relaxes and so does her vagina. The vagina is extremely elastic and regains its size and shape after the act. 

    1. Hi there, 

      Thank you for…

      Hi there, 

      Thank you for visiting Love Matters!

    1. Hi Brian,

      Love Matters is…

      Hi Brian,

      Love Matters is not a dating service and cannot assist you in finding a partner. The best thing to do is to find out where your desired partner hangs out either online or offline. Read this article to get tips on how to approach them: 9 helpful tips for talking to someone you like. As always, feel free to ask us any questions about love, sex, or relationships if they come up. Best of luck.

  40. Talk about other infections…
    Talk about other infections that are not sexually transmitted but affect sexual organs. I had a husband who frequently scratched his private parts and I used to feel a lot of pain having sex with him. His sperms were also very week and has a very bad smell. I used to fell dirty after sex, and I eventually left him. My research landed on YEAST INFECTION. Was it???

    1. Hi Mercy, 

      Yes, that’s…

      Hi Mercy, 

      Yes, that’s possible. Itching and pain in the area around the penis and white discharge from the penis are common signs. However, only a doctor can truly diagnose this. On the other hand, yeast infections in men are treatable. Factors that cause this condition in men include diabetes, certain antibiotics, being, overweight, etc. Also, how did you know that his sperms were very weak? 

  41. after childbirth,how long…
    after childbirth,how long does the vagina muscles goes back to normal size

  42. How many types of clit are…
    How many types of clit are there

    1. Hi there, 

      The clitoris…

      Hi there, 

      The clitoris comes in different shapes, sizes, and colors just like the vagina. 

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