A lesson in seduction
Please, can you help me seduce a stranger girl? asks a reader. Valentine suggests he begin with baby steps before trying any long strides.
Shyness is normal
Your question seems simple but it really isn’t. Shyness around the opposite sex is particularly common in Kenya where a lot of our high schools are same-sex. We spend most of our adolescence only speaking to the opposite sex when they happen to be family members.
Start easy
Before we get to seduction, how about we start with a conversation? Women can be intimidating. We are so different from men and I hear from male friends and colleagues that everything about us can be distracting. The way we walk, our smiles, skin, hips, breasts, the way we smell, our voices…
It can be a visual, auditory, and olfactory overload, so be patient with yourself.
Instead of focusing on your crush and trying to speak to her, can you speak to other women?
Try flirting with the kiosk lady as you pick up some things for the house. Tease your sister’s friends and watch them respond to you. This will gradually build your confidence.
Listen up
Most women do not like a man who comes on too strong with the ‘seduction vibe’. A guy who can start a conversation and listen to us as we speak and ask us questions is more likely the guy we will gravitate towards.
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach and the way to a woman’s heart is through a man’s ears. So just say ‘hi’ and initiate conversation politely and then listen. Pay attention as she prattles on about her day, her friends, her interests etc. Then ask her some follow-up questions such as what she likes about her friends or what she finds particularly interesting about her hobbies.
If you think ‘seduction’ you will be awkward.
Instead, think of it as the opportunity for you to get to know a cool person. Later, down the line, you can start giving her compliments about how she is dressed and how she makes you feel like: ‘Seeing you makes my day!’
Just be patient and try to relax and have fun.
How do you approach a stranger you are attracted to? If you need help, head to our discussion board.
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Recent Comments (155)
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wow
Does this help?
Does this help?
Thats great keep it up. And
Thats great keep it up. And how can I end my shyness for galz??
Hi Harrun, we will. Shyness
Hi Harrun, we will. Shyness is fine, you just need to practice. Do it a few times, and you will see that it will become a little less scary!
i erect for abt two min n
i erect for abt two min n before i strt sex ma penis goes down n itz tyke tym to xtrand again plz help Wat de plblem?
Hi there,
Hi there,
when you say it’s going down, does this mean you have already ejaculated?
In terms of getting another erection, it’s normal that it takes time. It’s the so-called refractory period, it means that your body needs time to recovery before you can have another erection. And that can take anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours, depending on your age, fitness, and a bunch of other factors.
i have been mastarbateing for
i have been mastarbateing for 4yrs i sleepted wit gal i gave her short and died wats wrong?ni mastarbation imeniaffect ?
Hi Mart,
Hi Mart,
so you ejaculated and then lost your erection, is that it? But that’s totally normal! Nothing wrong with this, even if you don’t last long. It’s normal for men who are not sexually experienced to ejaculate quickly. And no, masturbation won’t change that, masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life.
i just begin by commenting as
i just begin by commenting as per the situation at hand or enviroment we are in. if she answers its time to unpackage to her
Hi there,
Hi there,
thanks for sharing your insights.
Can a mother with a flopt
Can a mother with a flopt breast still get aroused nd get nipple hard
What exactly is a flopt
What exactly is a flopt breast? One that hangs?
yes
yes
what should I do to win a
what should I do to win a certain who really luv but I shy to approach. Please, help
what should I do to win a
what should I do to win a certain lady whom I really luv but I shy to approach. Please, help
what should I do to win a
what should I do to win a certain lady whom I really luv but I shy to approach her. Please, help
Hi Franson,
Hi Franson,
Reaching out to people that you are attracted to can be difficult because of the fear of being rejected. However, they are no different than how would approach a friend, family or other person. The initial hello and coming up with small talk is the same idea except the person is front of you is attractive.
The best way to do this when you are nervous is to talk to people who share interest. Do they go to school with you? Are they working? Did you meet them at the movies? This way there is already a commonality between you an it gives you the first conversation topic. Find other people who like what you like and try to mingle from there.
Otherwise, just be honest. Tell them who you are, why you approached the (they said something smart, they like the same team, you find them beautiful etc) and then build the conversation from there. Tell them about yourself, and ask questions about them. You are attracted to them and ideally as you learn more about them you will become interested in them.
Everyone has nerves and the girls know that. They will be flattered that you even tried to reach out and talk.
be bold and man enough to
be bold and man enough to face your fears brother, be yourself, at times being silly helps one get a lady she wants.
to me seduction is as easy as
to me seduction is as easy as abc! I don’t. beat around, I say what I want and 90% I get. no woman intimidates me. I can tell whether I’ll sleep with a woman immediately she returns my greetings.
Some people find it more
Some people find it more difficult.
how pliz
how pliz
Why do other ladies have
Why do other ladies have astrong sex smell?do men also hav it?is there anythi to do with hygine?
Hi Sandy,
Hi Sandy,
it’s normal for people to have a certain smell. check out this article: http://lovematters.co.ke/news/genital-hygiene-dos-and-donts
what questns cn u get 2 ask a
what questns cn u get 2 ask a new lady b4 seducing her?
Hi Paulo, The best way to do
Hi Paulo, The best way to do this when you are nervous is to talk to people who share interest. Do they go to school with you? Are they working? Did you meet them at the movies? This way there is already a commonality between you an it gives you the first conversation topic. Find other people who like what you like and try to mingle from there.
there’s a gal whom am
there’s a gal whom am interested in.i do think of her everyday n nyt.we are social n talk funny jokes.when it reaches the time 2 her 4 sex i do fear coz she even lookin at her behaviours.
Hi Michael,
Hi Michael,
we don’t quite understand what you fear. COuld you explain again?
wow thts realy helpful.
wow thts realy helpful.
That’s great to hear!
That’s great to hear!
hw can i prolong my
hw can i prolong my ejaculating span? koz i does it so quick help???
Hi Nyte,
Hi Nyte,
It sounds like you are coming earlier than you would like, this often happens to young men who don’t have a lot of sexual experience because they get very aroused very easily. With more sexually experienced men, it might be due to psychological problems, like fear, stress or depression.
Generally though go slow, enjoy the buildup of touching and caressing each other. Make time for oral sex during your physical interactions. Take time focusing on your partner as well as yourself. Communicate together about what feels nice, what doesn’t and what you would like to try together. Experiment, explore and try new things!
Make sure to use lots of lube and switch up the fun. Even if you do orgasm you can take some time to have oral sex with your partner until your body is ready to go again. Change positions and mix it up.
Some people say condoms help them last longer, while others may use cock rings (just make sure it is the right size and not too tight!).
Generally just remember that sex is more than just penetration and there are lots of ways to enjoy each other.
If you are finding that you really cannot maintain an erection then it might be time to see a doctor. There are some medical conditions that can affect your performance but would need to be looked by a professional.
You can also keep masturbating, however challenge yourself to last longer. Go slow, feel the way your body changes when you are getting closer to climax. Tease yourself, find tricks that help you delay the finish.
What the normal size of a
What the normal size of a quality penis?Are the short ones really effective to an average ladie?Just be frank.
Hi Fara4,
Hi Fara4,
It is a huge myth that size matters. First of all good sex is a mixture of chemistry, movement and bodies you cannot just be great at sex because one of these things is there- you really need to meet the other person on multiple levels. Also everyone’s bodies are different. Penises vary in size as do vagina. What might be small for one person is large for another- its all relative. So there is no one magical shaped or sized penis for every person out there.
Check out some of these articles to to learn more about penis size:
http://lovematters.co.ke/news/small-penis-its-all-mind
https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes#section-1
http://lovematters.co.ke/news/penis-top-five-facts
http://lovematters.co.ke/news/erections-vary-size-and-angle
I take too long to release
I take too long to release yet screwing hard…my gal says am rough and its painful..am afraid
Hi Stekto,
Hi Stekto,
invest lots and lots of time in foreplay. The more aroused you are, the faster you will come. Use thin condoms, if you are using condoms. Also add some extra lubrication.
And listen to your girlfriend, if it’s painful for her, you need to stop. Try having her in charge of movement, like her on top. Or let her finish you off with a handjob. What do you think?
Bravo .
Bravo .
🙂
🙂
i think i get somethings/many
i think i get somethings/many things today,
i thank d HON.LADIES & GENTLE MEN WHO WORK HERE. THANKS.
You are most welcome!
You are most welcome!
Am in a relationship and
Am in a relationship and whenever having sex I take too long to ejaculate and the penis remains firm,might there be a problem
Hi Robert,
Hi Robert,
spend lots, and lots, and lots of time on foreplay. The more aroused you are when you start having intercourse, the faster you will be able to ejaculate.
Also, you can practice coming faster with masturbation- treat it like a race 🙂
Hw lng does it take for a
Hw lng does it take for a normal man to ejaculate
Hi Deo,
Hi Deo,
anywhere from a few minutes to half and hour and longer.
It really depends, and there is no average!
Find your response helpful..
Find your response helpful.. Okay, I ended my relationship with my unfaithful partner a month ago.. To be honest, i am very courageous talking to girls but I loose interest so fast before even getting to know each other well enough.. What might be my problem..
Hi Edwin,
Hi Edwin,
maybe it’s still too soon- give yourself some more time.
Keep talking to girls, maybe one day there will be one you aren’t getting bored of!
Find your response helpful..
Find your response helpful.. Okay, I ended my relationship with my unfaithful partner a month ago.. To be honest, i am very courageous talking to girls but I loose interest so fast before even getting to know each other well enough.. What might be my problem..
hey……u r tellin us dat
hey……u r tellin us dat masterbation is g
ud….how….
Hi Simon,
Hi Simon,
yes, we think that masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life. It gives you sexual satisfaction, is good for relaxation and stress relief, and getting to know your body.
Check out this article, for example: https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted
am 24yrs never had sex in my
am 24yrs never had sex in my whole life is it ok ? i rilly like lidies bt i fear if i ask 4 sex wat will happen coz i have nvr done it before !
Hi Mike,
Hi Mike,
first of all, it’s totally okay! You should only have sex when you are ready for it. And don’t fear it, you will be alright!
As for asking the ladies- it would be best to start a relationship with one of them first. You should approach this slowly. If you just start asking about sex, they will most likely not be too happy.
Hi Mike,
Hi Mike,
first of all, it’s totally okay! You should only have sex when you are ready for it. And don’t fear it, you will be alright!
As for asking the ladies- it would be best to start a relationship with one of them first. You should approach this slowly. If you just start asking about sex, they will most likely not be too happy.
Hi am 20 yrs old, nw in the
Hi am 20 yrs old, nw in the varsity, i’ve never had sex bt luv it so much am so close yo girls bt when it comes to asking s*x am poor,and many even think am going around wid many women,bt as I know personally i’ve neva slept wid one….pliz help.
Hi Sam,
Hi Sam,
are you having a relationship with one of them? If you just start approaching women about sex out of context, they will surely not agree!
Hi am 20 yrs old, nw in the
Hi am 20 yrs old, nw in the varsity, i’ve never had sex bt luv it so much am so close yo girls bt when it comes to asking s*x am poor,and many even think am going around wid many women,bt as I know personally i’ve neva slept wid one….pliz help.
We got aroused with my
We got aroused with my girlfriend bt she ws like she didnt want 2 gv in n i switched off my mind frm hvn fuck with her, she went 2 the washrum n came back ready for a fuck i ws unable 2 erect what myt hv caused this
Hi Pat,
Hi Pat,
This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation or an erection. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.
Thanks for your reply,so do
Thanks for your reply,so do u advice me to have one as a girlfriend si that I may be at the tackle?
Yes, Sam! Start dating a
Yes, Sam! Start dating a woman you like, and then take it from there!
:It take mi tym to erect
:It take mi tym to erect after first ejaculation wht mayt be de problem
secondly: whn it cames to flirting for a friend am very active bt whn it cames to flirting my own I hve difficulty,,,
Hi there,
Hi there,
firstly: This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.
Secondly: Reaching out to people that you are attracted to can be difficult because of the fear of being rejected. However, they are no different than how would approach a friend, family or other person. The initial hello and coming up with small talk is the same idea except the person is front of you is attractive.
The best way to do this when you are nervous is to talk to people who share interest. Do they go to school with you? Are they working? Did you meet them at the movies? This way there is already a commonality between you an it gives you the first conversation topic. Find other people who like what you like and try to mingle from there.
Otherwise, just be honest. Tell them who you are, why you approached the (they said something smart, they like the same team, you find them beautiful etc) and then build the conversation from there. Tell them about yourself, and ask questions about them. You are attracted to them and ideally as you learn more about them you will become interested in them.
Everyone has nerves and the girls know that. They will be flattered that you even tried to reach out and talk.
I lov this lady so much but
I lov this lady so much but however much I try to show it she is not too keen to realize infact she wld take it as a joke. Am loosing it, what do I do?
Hi Sam,
Hi Sam,
Reaching out to people that you are attracted to can be difficult because of the fear of being rejected. However, they are no different than how would approach a friend, family or other person. The initial hello and coming up with small talk is the same idea except the person is front of you is attractive.
The best way to do this when you are nervous is to talk to people who share interest. Do they go to school with you? Are they working? Did you meet them at the movies? This way there is already a commonality between you an it gives you the first conversation topic. Find other people who like what you like and try to mingle from there.
Otherwise, just be honest. Tell them who you are, why you approached the (they said something smart, they like the same team, you find them beautiful etc) and then build the conversation from there. Tell them about yourself, and ask questions about them. You are attracted to them and ideally as you learn more about them you will become interested in them.
Everyone has nerves and the girls know that. They will be flattered that you even tried to reach out and talk.
i lov the lesson, big up!
i lov the lesson, big up!
Thank you!
Thank you!
am 24 yrs old am fine wid
am 24 yrs old am fine wid sexual n i xay kudos to ur site, the only q i hve is dea natural ways of increasin penis size?
Hi there,
Hi there,
there is no way to increase your penis size, other than very invasive surgery.
Why are you low esteem on your penis size? Are you worried you are not performing well in bed? Normally performance issues have more to do with confidence than penis size.
Not to mention that size is relative. What is big for some is small for others and vise versa. Everyone’s bodies are different and it is more about how they come together, not stand alone. Sex is pleasurable when there is a chemistry between two people, when emotions are being shared and good communication. Tell your partner what feels good and what doesn’t. Experiment, you never know what will happen until you try and communication always leads to better sex.
I luv sex and never get
I luv sex and never get enough of it
the more I play sex the more I want more
I find women irresistible and generally they seem to like me
do you think my libido will decrease with time or I should seek medical help
Hi Jack,
Hi Jack,
it’s very likely your libido will decrease over time.
Have you tried masturbation? That might help get you satisfied when you can’t have sex.
hi feel attracted to this
hi feel attracted to this chick bt she is in another relationship…… Any help?
Hi Willy,
Hi Willy,
you can approach her and tell her how you feel. But, if she says no, that’s probably it. You shouldn’t pressure her into anything.
Those galz who i loved,never
Those galz who i loved,never loves me and those who loves me,i neva loved them,it haz bn lyk that,nw am completely heart-broken,n i fear follin in love again,i hate love!,plz is thea smthing i can do?
Hi Rass,
Hi Rass,
so sorry to hear that! Unfortunately, there isn’t all that much you can do. Maybe you could start looking for love elsewhere? For example, you could try online dating. It might be that getting to know each other online first might make it easier to find someone you like offline as well? Good luck, and please don’t give up!
I had sex wth various time on
I had sex wth various time on diffrent but the truth is afta the occasion i leave tears on there Eyes and blood on their Pp most of them problem being my Pen is huge so ineed advice
Hi Razko,
Hi Razko,
use lots of lube and let the lady be in charge. Them on top, for example, works well, because then they are in control of the penetration depth.
Av bin havin thix problem wid
Av bin havin thix problem wid mae chik coz evry tym afta sex she alweiz complain that’s its hurtin is it normal?
Hi Sanchez,
Hi Sanchez,
no, pain after sex isn’t normal, but unfortunately, it’s common.
Check this article, it might help!
https://lovematters.co.ke/news/sex-hurts-help
I have a friend who has gf’s
I have a friend who has gf’s but he is never attracted to them, the problem with him is; he is attracted to men(he is gay). He told me this and i run short of words. How on earth can i advice him
Hi there,
Hi there,
we think that it’s completely okay to be gay. Check out this article, our expert answers a similar question there: https://lovematters.co.ke/news/feeling-gay-feeling-abnormal
Hi,am 23 and I ve been dating
Hi,am 23 and I ve been dating this chiq for the last 7months,I we never had sex before.. so the other day we decided to try out things bt to ma surprise she was a virgin so it real hard to act coz I tot its painful to her.,, is there anyway we can try things wtout her experiencing a lot of pains…. pliz help
Hi Frankie,
Hi Frankie,
it’s great you are so considerate.
Check out this article, but we have much more information on the website, just look around!
http://lovematters.co.ke/news/first-time-sex-top-five-facts
hi i do masturbate n also hav
hi i do masturbate n also hav sex alot so am i ok or shud i concentrate on one?
Hi Dane,
Hi Dane,
that’s totally okay. Does your partner know? Because they might feel like they are not enough when they find out.
Cn masturbation lead to small
Cn masturbation lead to small penis size n hw cn i controll masturbation coz i alwys do it more thn twice
Hi Richy,
Hi Richy,
no, masturbation will not affect your penis size. And even twice a day is fine. We think that masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life.
Check this article: http://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-top-five-facts-part-2
my guy cnt have sex for more
my guy cnt have sex for more than 5 minutes .leaving me unsatisfied.pls is dere any problem with him?
Hi Clara,
Hi Clara,
he most likely has issues with premature ejaculation.
This is what we usually tell men to try:
this often happens to young men who don’t have a lot of sexual experience because they get very aroused very easily. With more sexually experienced men, it might be due to psychological problems, like fear, stress or depression.
Generally though go slow, enjoy the buildup of touching and caressing each other. Make time for oral sex during your physical interactions. Take time focusing on your partner as well as yourself. Communicate together about what feels nice, what doesn’t and what you would like to try together. Experiment, explore and try new things!
Make sure to use lots of lube and switch up the fun. Even if you do orgasm you can take some time to have oral sex with your partner until your body is ready to go again. Change positions and mix it up.
Some people say condoms help them last longer, while others may use cock rings (just make sure it is the right size and not too tight!).
Generally just remember that sex is more than just penetration and there are lots of ways to enjoy each other.
If you are finding that you really cannot maintain an erection then it might be time to see a doctor. There are some medical conditions that can affect your performance but would need to be looked by a professional.
You can also keep masturbating, however challenge yourself to last longer. Go slow, feel the way your body changes when you are getting closer to climax. Tease yourself, find tricks that help you delay the finish.
Wow! am learning smth tnx to
Wow! am learning smth tnx to love matters
Great, Jm!
Great, Jm!
is it true that agirl can’t
is it true that agirl can’t stick to one man coz in all of my relationship i finds out that am played by the girl
Hi David,
Hi David,
well, some people believe that monogamy is not for people, but we think it really depends on the person.
Sorry you have been disappointed!
Thats some cool pieces of
Thats some cool pieces of advice. Keep up!
We will, thank you!
We will, thank you!
am in relationship but she
am in relationship but she refuses to do sex with mi..she say she fear because she is virgin..pliz help!!!!
Well, if that’s her choice,
Well, if that’s her choice, then you will have to accept it.
Is she a virgin because she wants to wait until marriage, or is she just afraid? Because there’s a difference between the two.
am an able to love coz wans i
am an able to love coz wans i waz hrtbroken by mah fast lv plz hlp wat can i du
Hi Chris,
Hi Chris,
as stupid as it sounds, time will heal all wounds. Give it more time, and you will see, at some point, you will be open for love again! All the best!
wat causes big girls be juicy
wat causes big girls be juicy wen fucking
Hi Wan,
Hi Wan,
what exactly do you mean?
Av gt a gal, whenever i screw
Av gt a gal, whenever i screw her, she complains its painfl coz we use a condom. She denies me havng her bare bt the condom makes me stay for a lng tym. She later denies me a second chance. Am planning 2 leave hr due 2 tht. Advice plz.
Hi DNM,
Hi DNM,
sex needs one thing to be great- communication! And it seems that’s something you two could improve on. Talk about what you want and need. The condom problem, for example, is probably easily solved with extra lube. And sex is about quality rather than quantity. So if you’ve been having sex for a long time in one evening, she may be feeling sore- that’s why there is no second time. But you learn this all, you need to talk. And leaving and starting a new relationship with similar mistakes isn’t going to change things for the better.
hi. First lemmi thank u for
hi. First lemmi thank u for ur gud work. keep it up. Now I have issues with ladies such that we never get to the second gear as in after getting to know one another they just loose interest in me. wat am I doin wrong or do I over stay the getting to know each other zone?
Hi Maxiny,
Hi Maxiny,
hmm, it could be coincidence, or, it could be that you only attract women who aren’t interested in you sexually.
Maybe you should get out of your comfort zone, and talk to someone who you wouldn’t normally go for?
Nice teaching may God guide u
Nice teaching may God guide u
Thank you.
Thank you.
Nice teaching may God guide u
Nice teaching may God guide u
most girls have interest in
most girls have interest in me but they fear how to start… me too, how can i start for them…?
Frederick,
Frederick,
Start what, a relationship?
Cool Stuff…Kudos
Cool Stuff…Kudos
Thanks!
Thanks!
My penis is short and thick.
My penis is short and thick..each and evry time i fuck ma gals they du make a lot of noice so i dont knw dat am rough or wat is the prblm??
Brayoh,
Brayoh,
we don’t know what the problem is, and you shouldn’t be asking us this. Good sex isn’t just about the act- it’s about communicating with your partner, and asking them what they want and like, and don’t want and dislike. So ask your partners!
Can u gt pregnant durng/afta
Can u gt pregnant durng/afta periodx?
Dottie,
Dottie,
the risk is very low, but it’s not impossible.
did the vargin size depend on
did the vargin size depend on body size of the woman?
Joshu,
Joshu,
no, not really. The vagina can expand a lot during arousal.
there is this lady i love so
there is this lady i love so much but she has a lot of jokes even when am serious how can i make her reduce the jokes?
Have you told her you are
Have you told her you are serious and you want to have a serious conversation with her? She might use the jokes to avoid that…
hae thanks gor the good job.
hae thanks gor the good job.
I am from a poor family and i was not brought up by both parents this has affected my love life i just cannot belive that i can maintain a relationship in campus what is wrong with me
Joe,
Joe,
you need to believe in yourself. Don’t let your past determine your future.
on what dates are it safe to
on what dates are it safe to have unprotected sex with my gf?
Kibet,
Kibet,
safe days are one of the most unreliable ways to prevent pregnancy, and we really don’t recommend it at all.
When your safe days are really depends on the length of your cycle. Technically speaking, the first seven days before and after your period, as well as the time of your period, are relatively safe. But, if you have a shorter cycle (shorter than 28 days), or an irregular one, this will vary. Also keep in mind that sperm can survive for up to five days and longer inside the body- so even if you have sex on a ‘safe’ day, you can still get pregnant, because the sperm survived until your ovulation date. So you see, it’s a very inaccurate. And lastly, of course this won’t protect you from STDs. Only condoms will. So we really recommend a more reliable method.
Most ladies like me. They luv
Most ladies like me. They luv being close to and even touching me, telling me and hearing from me stories related to sex. I sometimes take this as an advantage and approach them but always there is no positive result.
What may be the problem?
We don’t really know, Moses.
We don’t really know, Moses.
Maybe you can talk to one of them about what happened and find out why there wasn’t a positive result.
I hve a gal who z nt ready to
I hve a gal who z nt ready to ope up about her life to mi… She doesn’t want to tell mi bout her dad who she does bt live she lives wid her mum.. She says she wll tell wen i propose to her
Marley,
Marley,
I guess you have to decide if you want to be patient or not, then.
Hi, I have a lady who claims
Hi, I have a lady who claims she loves me yet she admits to me that she has a crush on someone whom I know, she keeps the man’s number and in most cases she initiates the convo with him and at the same time she had slept with someone under my nose, she has visited a male friend, slept in the same bed and she has a tendency of giving out her digits on social media and even strangers without thinking. These sometimes really make me feel maf. however, I tried to forgive and forget about the issues but sometimes it’s a bit difficult, what should I do?
I can imagine it’s really
I can imagine it’s really difficult, Charles.
Have you talked to her and told her how difficult you find it to deal with her behavior?
Is Mustrbation Not A Sin?
Is Mustrbation Not A Sin?
Hatim,
Hatim,
that’s up to you to decide.
Medically speaking, masturbation is a normal part of a health sex life.
I like ur advc keep it up
I like ur advc keep it up
Thanks!
Thanks!
I have a small penis can it
I have a small penis can it give me problem in sex???
It is a huge myth that size
It is a huge myth that size matters. First of all good sex is a mixture of chemistry, movement and bodies you cannot just be great at sex because one of these things is there- you really need to meet the other person on multiple levels. Also everyone’s bodies are different. Penises vary in size as do vagina. What might be small for one person is large for another- its all relative. So there is no one magical shaped or sized penis for every person out there.
Check out some of these articles to to learn more about penis size:
http://lovematters.co.ke/news/small-penis-its-all-mind
https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes#section-1
http://lovematters.co.ke/news/penis-top-five-facts
http://lovematters.co.ke/news/erections-vary-size-and-angle
I last had sex 3yrs ago I don
I last had sex 3yrs ago I don’t have a girl. my worry is that am I not going to loss my long performance (6 rounds) since I am single.
Have a look here, Jhon:
Have a look here, Jhon:
https://lovematters.co.ke/news/young-dumb-and-full
thanks for ur goood advice I
thanks for ur goood advice I love women alot many penis stand for long after sex I love sex soon much already I dunno it like 4 seized a week now the rest drizzle I practice masturbation as susbstite to sex but am still hot feeling to have more and more sex do I have a problem please and can this urge for sex deteriorates eventually because it’s naughty like two years and have sex with more than thirty galz different several team each please help
Shad,
Shad,
that’s totally normal, especially when you are young! Please make sure you are safe when you are having sex, seeing the large number of partners you’ve had.
And keep on masturbating- even if you do it once or twice a day, nothing wrong with that!
Greeting to you all. I dont
Greeting to you all. I dont know why but I have habit of find it dfficult to trust any lady around me… and how to start up conversation with a lady I got attracted, like what do I even start telling her? help me LOVE MATA
Reaching out to people that
Reaching out to people that you are attracted to can be difficult because of the fear of being rejected. However, they are no different than how would approach a friend, family or other person. The initial hello and coming up with small talk is the same idea except the person is front of you is attractive.
The best way to do this when you are nervous is to talk to people who share interest. Do they go to school with you? Are they working? Did you meet them at the movies? This way there is already a commonality between you an it gives you the first conversation topic. Find other people who like what you like and try to mingle from there.
Otherwise, just be honest. Tell them who you are, why you approached the (they said something smart, they like the same team, you find them beautiful etc) and then build the conversation from there. Tell them about yourself, and ask questions about them. You are attracted to them and ideally as you learn more about them you will become interested in them.
Everyone has nerves and the girls know that. They will be flattered that you even tried to reach out and talk.
Thank you LOVE MATTERS… I
Thank you LOVE MATTERS… I am now playing cool. But girl of our community are local, It take a long processes to get then love you… what’s your advice on simple ways to get a lady loves you within a day in a local society? IT IS A BIG DEAL HELP ME LOVE MATTERS..
Sorry to say, but there is no
Sorry to say, but there is no simple way to make someone love you within a day.
ur advise are amazing…bt
ur advise are amazing…bt masturbation is among the main cause of premature ejaculation medically speaking
We would love to see research
We would love to see research on this, because, according to the research we work with, masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life, and can, in fact, help with dealing with PE
i have a problem, i think
i have a problem, i think that my penis is smaller in size as i compare with others, but my girlfriend seems to have no problem with that koz she even cry when i push it in all of it…….how can i stop this worry? plz help me
Stephen,
Stephen,
Chances are you have nothing so Rory about, but what concerns me is your gf’s crying. Is she wet and aroused enough? Sex shouldn’t be painful.
ma gf tulifanye xex akiwa 5
ma gf tulifanye xex akiwa 5 dayx bfo period en anaxema n pregnant can it happn
Kelvin, the truth is a woman
Kelvin, the truth is a woman can become pregnant anytime of her cycle. Most important thing to remember is always use a contraceptive method to minimize chances of unintended pregnancies. Get more information here https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/pregnant
i hv bn masterbeting for long
i hv bn masterbeting for long can i have lost my virginity cuz i have never had sex
Dino, One loses their
Dino, One loses their virginity when they have sex for the first time and not through masturbation.
As a guy i like to be plain
As a guy i like to be plain (honest) in my dealings in all ways whether the opposite sex or same sex. I noticed that most girls are not. how do i buy a woman’s honesty?
You cannot buy honesty. As
You cannot buy honesty. As long as you keep being honest that is what matters. You cannot control other people’s choices on whether they want to be honest or not.
But if you are honest all the time people will tend to reciprocate and also be honest with you. Keep up the honesty.
lost hope in women
lost hope in women
What made you loose hope Davi
What made you loose hope Davi?
Thax love matters Africa,i a
Thax love matters Africa,i a gf who heard wrong information about me and she decided to Chuck me yet i still love her too too much how can i win her back,please help me+++++++++++
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Hi Tony,
Have you tried explaining to her the truth as you know it?
Unfortunately, you can only tell her what is truth from you end and let her make a decision. You can’t make her be with you if she does not want to. Do talk to her, get her the truth. Remember relationships are built on trust and in the absence of trust a relationship may not work. We wish you well.