The biggest sex myths: busted
Sex is considered a taboo subject, and because of that, a lot of myths tend to fly around. Some hilarious, some downright outrageous, others borderline accurate.
Some of these myths serve like heirlooms: they pass from one generation to the next just because people shy away from openly talking about one of life’s most natural acts. We asked a few people about the sex myths they grew up hearing and believing.
It’s amazing what kind of tall tales we tell each other.
Growing up, we always believed that the broader a woman’s hips and the larger her butt, the more fertile she was. I have no scientific evidence of this, but there may be some truth to it. I don’t quite understand the logic; but I won’t lie, it did and does affect my general outlook of women. I find myself drawn to more endowed women. It’s really more about how much more I can hold and feel *chuckles*.
The erect defect
I know it is ridiculous, and it amazes me that I still hear this myth every time I visit schools to talk to girls.
I used to believe that if you had sex standing up you wouldn’t get pregnant. In my head, I thought semen can’t defy gravity. I had heard it from my first boyfriend; it was his way of coercion. At the time, we were only worried about getting pregnant. No parent said they wouldn’t pay your school fees if you got HIV or chlamydia.
Finger cock blocking
Virginity was something that was a big deal growing up. It always baffled me: girls were meant to be virgins and boys should have experience. How is that even logical? We were a group of friends who genuinely wanted to wait and give our virginity to our husbands on our wedding nights. But the sexual tension was real, so we heard something we thought could work: if you masturbated frequently, you would stay a virgin.
Lies! We did masturbate. It did work for a while. But soon, one by one, we gave in to the building sexual tensions.
Cherry popping monster
I was petrified about sex. The penis was completely unappealing to me. I knew that the first time would be painful. Pain in that area; no thank you! My first boyfriend had it rough; there were times I would be ready but when he would try, I would quickly snap my legs together. This went on for several years. I think it was my fifth boyfriend who finally eased me into it. There wasn’t any pain at all. I genuinely enjoyed my first time. Needless to say, boyfriend #5 and I are now happily married and have a child. The myth was all scare tactic.
Caroline, Brand Manager
The bigger the better
In school, boys used to do dumb stuff, like have a masturbation competition in the bathroom. The aim, no pun intended, was to see who would orgasm first. I have no idea why people did it. I was a late bloomer; most boys had broken their voice, had some hair, while I was still bare as a baby and shorter than most. Guys would talk about their sexual experiences and how girls like larger penises because it made sex better. During those bathroom competitions, I saw how much larger my classmates were. I was insecure about it for some time. With time and dating, I learnt that everyone has their own preference.
And that bigger doesn’t mean better.
Paul, IT Manager
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How often should I have sex…
How often should I have sex when am pregnant
Hey Juliet, as often as you…
Hey Juliet, as often as you wish and can. However, as you progress in your pregnancy, some positions maybe difficult and uncomfortable for you, Use positions that don’t exert too much weight onto your stomach. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/sex-during-pregnancy-top-five-facts
I ejacaculate too quickly…
I ejacaculate too quickly what can i do to stay longer? can viagra help?
Hey Sammy, what you maybe…
Hey Sammy, what you maybe experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. It is important that you only tryout or use performance enhancing drugs if these have been prescribed by your health provider
Check out this article with more tips ;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
I used the e-pill 2 days…
I used the e-pill 2 days after unprotected sex and now I have missed my period. Could I be pregnant?
Hey Emmy, the E-pill is most…
Hey Emmy, the E-pill is most effective when taken within the first 24 hours after unprotected sex. As time goes by its effectiveness greatly reduces. While there are a number of reasons that can lead to a missed period, you may want to start by getting a pregnancy test to get to know if the missed period has been caused by pregnancy after which you can consider other causes. Do get a pregnancy test done at a heath centre or at home. Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/am-i-pregnant