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Kissing: do’s and don’ts

Kissing: where the magic starts – or the dreams die! Kissing is often the first step to physical intimacy. For you, we’ve compiled our kissing dos and don’ts. Enjoy!

  • Brush your teeth

    It’s horrible to kiss someone with bad breath. So make sure you smell good. Brush your teeth. And floss them too. Or interdental brushes, or old-fashioned toothpicks. It’s mostly the gunk that’s left stuck between your teeth that makes your breath smell. You can also use some mint if you like.

    While we’re on health and hygiene tips: if you’re suffering from cold sores (oral herpes), do hold back on your urge to kiss until the sore has healed – you might end up passing it on to your partner.

  • Start light

    Once you’re sure that your partner is open to kissing, you could let them take the lead or you can decide to make the first move.

    Tilt your head, move in gently with lips slightly apart. Start by pressing your lips to your partner’s and kiss with your mouth slightly open, keeping your lips relaxed and soft. Build up from here, gradually.

    If everything’s going well, you could even try tongue-kissing, sometimes called ‘French kissing’. Try slipping your tongue into your partner’s mouth smoothly. See how your partner reacts. If they seem to like it, continue. If not, drop it and get back to kissing without your tongue.

    It can also be fun to alternate between the two styles and to increase or decrease the intensity of kissing, just to make things more exciting.

  • Use your hands

    Hands are important while kissing. You can use them to stroke your lover’s face, caress their shoulders, wrap them around their neck or waist, or hold the back of their head and play with their hair. All these actions complement kissing very well. Multi-tasking isn’t that bad after all!

    And if you’re thinking about moving on to the next level of intimacy, it’s the way your partner responds to your caresses that will let you know if they’re thinking the same way.

  • Chew gum

    Spit out that gum before you kiss! You’re right to want to keep your breath fresh.

    But to keep chewing gum while kissing is plain bad manners.

    Now, we know that most of you score high on etiquette and this might sound pretty obvious, but it’s always good to get things straight, right?

  • Start out with the tongue

    This is especially true for first dates, or if you don’t know each other too well and haven’t shared much intimacy yet. You could come across as being too pushy and you could intimidate your date if you start out thrusting your tongue into their mouth.

    Be sensitive to the way your partner is kissing you, and only respond with your tongue if you can feel they’re also taking the kiss in that direction. 

  • Slobber

    Nobody likes a saliva fest while kissing. If you think you’re being slobbery, hold back. Take a break and swallow the saliva down. That’s better than letting your partner fetch tissues to wipe the extra saliva off their face!

    And of course, the most important tip: relax and don’t worry about how you’ll perform. The key to good kissing is being immersed in it. So dive in and enjoy!

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  1. its best if ur intimate n dea
    its best if ur intimate n dea it gives it di best kissin coz both party’s feel it in avery romantic moob. am just imagining it di way it was

    1. Thanks for the input and for
      Thanks for the input and for sharing your thoughts with us.

  2. Can you get HIV if you…
    Can you get HIV if you French kiss a guy? Please answer.

    1. Hi Trizah, one can get HIV…

      Hi Trizah, one can get HIV from the HIV infected bodily fluids, pre-ejaculate, semen, vaginal secretions, breast milk, and blood. Saliva doesn’t transmit HIV but if there is an exchange of blood there could be a risk of getting infected. Check out the following article;-

  3. I should be getting tips…
    I should be getting tips from you guys??

    1. Hi Moses, 

      I am glad you…

      Hi Moses, 

      I am glad you found the content educative! You’re welcome. Keep coming for more!

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