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How much sex do you need to be happy?

Are you happier if you have more sex? A good sex life is important, but having a lot of sex isn’t necessarily the best way to go.

It’s pretty clear that having sex is good for you. For one thing, people who do it more often tend to feel happier, research has shown.

But how much sex is enough sex? Though popular culture has us believe that the more we get the better, maybe it’s silly to aim for as much sex as possible with our partners. That’s what a team of Canadian researchers led by sex and relationship expert Dr Amy Muise got to thinking. They reasoned it could even be pretty stressful, not to mention downright unrealistic, for people to think they need to be having intercourse all the time.

So they went about investigating the link between how often people have sex and how happy they are. Dr Muise and her team pooled data on intercourse and well-being from over 30,000 people in three different studies.

How much is enough?

Not surprisingly, if you’re in a relationship, the more sex you have, the happier you’ll probably be, the results confirmed. But there’s a limit to how much sex really makes a difference. Once a week seems to do the trick – beyond that, there’s no real link between lots of sex and happiness, the study found.

But what about people who aren’t in a romantic relationship? Surprisingly, for singles there doesn’t seem to be a connection between how often they have sex and their levels of happiness, the researchers also found.

Intimacy

So what is it about having regular sex when you’re in a relationship (but not when you’re single) that’s related to being so darned happy? One reason is that weekly sex has a lot to do with feeling satisfied with a relationship, the research showed. Being in a good relationship, in turn, can make for a pretty happy life. What seems to matter is having enough sex to feel intimacy on a regular basis with your partner.

And since intimacy doesn’t just increase immediately after a romp between the sheets and then disappear the next day, it might not be necessary to have sex any more often than once a week for it to have a positive effect on well-being.

Source: Sexual Frequency Predicts Greater Well-Being, But More is Not Always Better, 2015, Amy Muise, Ulrich Schimmack, Emily A. Impett


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  1. me I do it everyday is this
    me I do it everyday is this normal?? does it have effects?

    1. Hi John, as long as you and
      Hi John, as long as you and your partner enjoy it its fine.

      1. Ibid a person or agirl below…
        Ibid a person or agirl below twenty years

        1. Hi Moses, I do not…

          Hi Moses, I do not understand what you mean, could you please explain?

  2. If possible is must b
    If possible is must b everyday,

    1. Thanks for sharing Robert.
      Thanks for sharing Robert.

  3. Everydai sex may sound great
    Everydai sex may sound great to mi

    1. Good to hear that Patrick!
      Good to hear that Patrick!

  4. haha to be virgin is the best
    haha to be virgin is the best way

    1. Depends with what one wants,
      Depends with what one wants, or wants to achieve.

  5. My man gets tired when having
    My man gets tired when having sex.. He can’t even complete 3min.. Wat z the problem wid him.. Help plz

    1. You should talk to him and
      You should talk to him and find out what the problem might be Wiz.

  6. for me i do it thrice a wk
    for me i do it thrice a wk

    1. Thanks for sharing Mwambi.
      Thanks for sharing Mwambi.

    1. Hi Norah, thanks for your
      Hi Norah, thanks for your input.

  7. I think three times a week is
    I think three times a week is good

    1. Thanks for your input Nahdala
      Thanks for your input Nahdala.

  8. I lost my virginty this year
    I lost my virginty this year 28 feb but everytime i have sex i feel pain.

  9. I feel fucking every time to
    I feel fucking every time to be more happy.

    1. Thanks for sharing Omesa.
      Thanks for sharing Omesa.

  10. It depends with some once
    It depends with some once libido,to i propose dat it should be 2 times in a week.

    1. HI William, you are right.
      HI William, you are right. Thanks for your input.

  11. yes i prefer it once in a
    yes i prefer it once in a week coze it makes me feel gud & reduces da pressure btn me & my partner since we are separated by long distance!

    1. Thanks for sharing your
      Thanks for sharing your experience Jany.

  12. Once a week is enough 4 mi
    Once a week is enough 4 mi

    1. Good! thanks for sharing
      Good! thanks for sharing Simon.

  13. everyday?no!u need to take a
    everyday?no!u need to take a time to make u feel dat u miss da ting.when u miss da ting then get it,regardless in a relationship or not,u guan really enjoy it n rest assured u guan be happy.

    1. HI Chizzi, thanks for sharing
      HI Chizzi, thanks for sharing that with us.

  14. if possible I’ll do it on
    if possible I’ll do it on daily basis….mmmmhh

    1. Thanks Remmy for sharing that
      Thanks Remmy for sharing that.

  15. every time u fill u want
    every time u fill u want

    1. Thanks for that Richard.
      Thanks for that Richard.

    1. Thanks for your input Caro.
      Thanks for your input Caro.

  16. so long its available, i can
    so long its available, i can have it daily.

    1. Hi Edward, thanks for sharing
      Hi Edward, thanks for sharing that with us.

  17. thrice a week i thnk ‘t’
    thrice a week i thnk ‘t’ enough in order 2 gve de cells more energy

    1. Thanks for your input Danny.
      Thanks for your input Danny.

  18. an interfal of some 2-3 days
    an interfal of some 2-3 days is best

    1. Thanks for your input
      Thanks for your input Cheburet.

    1. Thanks Mone for sharing.
      Thanks Mone for sharing.

    1. Thant’s great to hear Timothy
      Thant’s great to hear Timothy.

  19. I do agree with that research
    I do agree with that research actually weekly is the best

    1. Its good you agree Gifted.
      Its good you agree Gifted.

  20. everydei sex would b beta.
    everydei sex would b beta.

    1. Thanks for sharing Melanie.
      Thanks for sharing Melanie.

  21. every day it relieves yo mind
    every day it relieves yo mind to think properly

  22. every day work best.
    every day work best.

    1. Good to hear that Walter.
      Good to hear that Walter.

    1. Thanks for sharing that
      Thanks for sharing that Vinnie.

  23. Me i do it in every 2 days,
    Me i do it in every 2 days, it’s posible or

    1. Thanks for sharing that Sanju
      Thanks for sharing that Sanju.

  24. i do it twice a day,is it
    i do it twice a day,is it harmful?

    1. As long as you and your
      As long as you and your partner are ok with it there is no harm.

    1. Good to hear that Mzito.
      Good to hear that Mzito.

  25. Atlist twice a week
    Atlist twice a week

    1. Thanks for sharing Richie.
      Thanks for sharing Richie.

    1. Thanks Bosco for your input.
      Thanks Bosco for your input.

  26. i think it depends on
    i think it depends on someones urge fo sex, if the urge is high, then dat pason one tym z nt enough fo him or ha.

    1. Thanks for sharing that.
      Thanks for sharing that.

  27. Too much of something is
    Too much of something is toxic,,once in a while is okay

    1. Hi Webule, thanks for sharing
      Hi Webule, thanks for sharing that.

  28. The essence is intimacy born
    The essence is intimacy born off love then regular sex as urged for by my wife and I. Random sex from flirting and cheating is stressful and hardly joy generating so I believe.

    1. Thanks for sharing that with
      Thanks for sharing that with us Batey.

  29. i think 3times a week is
    i think 3times a week is better

    1. Thanks for sharing Rodgers.
      Thanks for sharing Rodgers.

  30. Nowadays, sex is a basic need
    Nowadays, sex is a basic need. Thrice a week will do better for me

    1. Thanks Zadock for that.
      Thanks Zadock for that.

  31. daily basis sound much better
    daily basis sound much better

    1. Thanks for your input Musa.
      Thanks for your input Musa.

    1. Thanks for sharing Dorah.
      Thanks for sharing Dorah.

  32. 4 mi everyday basis is good 4
    4 mi everyday basis is good 4 me,does it ve any effect?

    1. No it does not Jose. As long
      No it does not Jose. As long as both you and your partner are ok with it.

  33. Sex is all about playing with
    Sex is all about playing with mind ,for me, i can do it even after a month or more n I find my self OK

    1. Hey Brenda, thanks for
      Hey Brenda, thanks for sharing your experience.

    1. Thanks for sharing Jose B .
      Thanks for sharing Jose B .

  34. Thrice a week is motsly
    Thrice a week is motsly recommended….Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday

    1. Thanks for your input Felix.
      Thanks for your input Felix.

  35. it is a God given gift. u can
    it is a God given gift. u can have it as many times as u wish as long as u both enjoy.

    1. Thank you Alex for sharing
      Thank you Alex for sharing that with us.

  36. I agree once in a week is
    I agree once in a week is beta

    1. Good to hear you agree with
      Good to hear you agree with it Patience.

    1. That’s good to hear Ark.
      That’s good to hear Ark.

    1. Thanks for sharing Johny.
      Thanks for sharing Johny.

  37. since i cant control my sex
    since i cant control my sex desires, honestly having it daily suits me better.

    1. Thanks for sharing your
      Thanks for sharing your experience Evans.

  38. Iam 28 And Still Vgne What
    Iam 28 And Still Vgne What Wll Be Fast Sex If I Hv.

  39. Atleast as many as u 2 in
    Atleast as many as u 2 in relationship feel lyk having it

    1. Thanks Owen for your response
      Thanks Owen for your response.

  40. My partner n I we have sex…
    My partner n I we have sex every two weeks is this healthy

    1. (No subject)
      Hi Sandra,

      Research has suggested that atleast once a week will lead to a happier relationship. Do you feel this once every 2 weeks is enough? Is your partner happy with this? What reasons stop you from having it more often? Sex is better when you talk about with your partner. Find a good time and talk to your partner about it so that you can both find a solution to this. Check out the following article for more tips on talking about sex with your partner;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/marriage/married-life/maintaining-happy-relationships

  41. Hello I dry during sex what…
    Hello I dry during sex what the problem

    1. (No subject)
      Hello Lucy,

      Dry sex can be painful and it further increases the chances of getting Sexually Transmitted Infections. This is something that happens to women at some point of their life. It is important to know what leads to wet or even dry vagina during sex and this is usually arousal or a lack of it. It is therefore important to spend more time in foreplay which gets you aroused. Let your partner know/show your partner what gets you aroused and the keep talking even during sex so that he only penetrates when you are ready. You can also consider using artificial lubrication like KY Jelly which can be purchased at your local Pharmacy. Check out the following article for more tips.

      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/dry-sex-women-at-pains-to-please

    1. (No subject)
      Hi Mary,

      What is considered too much by one may not be to another. It really just depends on the people involved.

  42. Am in a relationship my…
    Am in a relationship my boyfriend request for sex everyday is it normal and does it have any effect

    1. (No subject)
      Hi Chichi,

      It appears your partner has a higher sex drive than yours. It is completely normal to have different levels of sex drive. You may however need to talk to your partner so that he learns to understand when you are not in the mood or you just don’t want to have it and there is nothing wrong with that either. However if you are both upto to it there is nothing wrong with you having as much sex as you possibly can. Check out the following article for more tips on talking about sex;-

      https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  43. Monday Tuesday Wednesday…
    Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday and Sunday✓✓✓✓✓

    1. Hi, 

      That is great! If this…

      Hi, 

      That is great! If this works for you then more power to you! 

  44. twice or thrice a week will…
    twice or thrice a week will be confartable for me

    1. Thank you for your input…

      Thank you for your input Cate. 2-3 times a week sounds great! Keep enjoying!

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