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Kissing: top five facts

Kissing: a super-romantic thing, with the right person at the right time. Sparks can fly. Or… tongues tickle, saliva drips, and teeth clash. Far less romantic. So how do you do it right?

  1. Do what feels good!

    There are no such things as kissing lessons. You learn it yourself with practice. It’s not difficult either. Tongue kissing often starts with kissing on the lips. You move your lips and explore the other person’s lips gently with your own. Then you turn your head to one side a little, so your noses don’t get in the way, you open your mouth, and slowly let your tongue slip inside. If it feels good, you’re doing it right!

  2. Everyone is different

    Different people like different types of kissing. Some people close their eyes, others don’t. And while you may enjoy slow, gentle kissing, your partner might be into rougher kissing and nibbling your lips. But don’t worry! The key is to talk to your partner and find out what you both like. And don’t be put off if the first kiss is not as perfect as you may have imagined – keep on trying, and you’ll get to that perfect kiss!

  3. The downside

    While kissing can be exciting and lots of fun, there may be some risks involved. Some illness can be passed on through kissing. Herpes for example – otherwise known as cold sores. Or glandular fever (mononucleosis) – which is even known as the ‘kissing disease’. It’s most common among young people and can leave you feeling exhausted for months. 

    (Getting HIV through kissing is nearly impossible, by the way. You’d both need to have open cuts on your lips or in your mouth, and be very unlucky.)

    Finally, if you don’t want that perfect kiss to be ruined by bad breath, brush your teeth regularly! And use dental floss or toothpicks. It’s the bits of food that fester between your teeth that can give your breath that bird-cage aroma.

  4. Why do we kiss?

    In humans, kissing probably evolved from parents passing food with their mouths to their children, scientists say. Or even passing food to their partners, which is called ‘courtship feeding’. (We don’t recommend you try it on a first dinner date!)

    What’s more kissing has health benefits! For one thing, it can make you happier and reduce stress. And it can even lower your cholesterol level, researchers found. 

  5. Don’t feel like hitting the gym? Start kissing!

    Intense kissing will get your heart rate going – just like working out. While resting, your heart usually beats 70 times a minute. During kissing it can increase to 100 beats per minute and up to 150! You also use 34 facial muscles when you kiss.

    You could even lose weight through kissing. Intense kissing will burn about 6 calories per minute. So grab your partner for a fun and effective workout tonight!

    What was your best kiss, worst kiss, missed kiss or first kiss? Leave a comment below or join the discussion on Facebook.

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Recent Comments (22)

  1. i gve brth 7 weeks ago culd
    i gve brth 7 weeks ago culd my periods resume?coz i can see sm blood on my vigina.

    1. Hi Eliza,

      Hi Eliza,
      if you are not breastfeeding, your periods will resume 6 to 10 weeks after giving birth. If breastfeeding, many women won’t get their periods until about 20 weeks after giving birth.
      Also, some bleeding is normal after giving birth, even though 7 weeks later is a bit on the late side.
      To be on the safe side, you should discuss this with your doctor, as it’s hard to make any judgement from afar. Good luck!

  2. After sex wth my guy i
    After sex wth my guy i experience stomach upsets expcly abdominal is it normal?

    1. Hi Nancy,

      Hi Nancy,
      hm, that sounds unusual. Is this something that happens regularly or just once?
      If it happens more than once, I would advise you to see a doctor about it.
      If it was just once, it could have been a coincidence or you were not relaxed and cramped up. Keep an eye on it though, and if it happens again, talk to a doctor.

  3. my gf complains afer sex esp
    my gf complains afer sex esp around abdomen is this cousd by da activity

    1. Hi Morher,

      Hi Morher,
      yes, it could be.
      Make sure she is very aroused before you start having intercourse.
      If the problem still persists, she might be best off seeing a doctor.

  4. my guy enjoys deep
    my guy enjoys deep penetration but sometimes where he feels good is where hurts me the most….wat might b the problem

    1. Hi Stephanie,

      Hi Stephanie,
      are you talking about kissing or sex?

  5. This is well said. What does
    This is well said. What does it mean to kiss your woman on the neck?

    1. Hi Alboh,

      Hi Alboh,
      it doesn’t mean anything is particular, but many people like it 🙂

  6. what are the side effects of
    what are the side effects of staying longer without sex…can it be unhealthy?

    1. No, not at all.

      No, not at all.
      And, other than some sexual urges, especially if you don’t masturbate, there are no side effects.

  7. what are the effects of
    what are the effects of masturbation?

    1. Sexual satisfaction,
      Sexual satisfaction, relaxation, de-stressing. Masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life and doesn’t have negative effects.

  8. My bf doesn’t learn how to…
    My bf doesn’t learn how to kiss mi wat can I do.
    I have taught him for quit long but things don’t change

  9. I have never done it..
    I have never done it..

    1. (No subject)
      Hello Ratty,

      We hope it was a great experience for you both.

  10. My bf usually like to kiss m…
    My bf usually like to kiss m in ma clitoris, is dat normal or

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