masturbation: your top questions answered
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Masturbation: your burning questions answered

There are so many myths around masturbation that it’s not surprising people have lots of questions about it. We answered your main queries. Karibuni!

  1. Is it ‘evil’?

    Medically, the answer is a firm ‘no’. Culturally, and especially from a religious point, the answer is far more complicated. Some cultures and religions are very open to masturbation and see it as a normal practice. Others, however, say it’s wrong and even evil.

    In the end, you are the only one who can decide whether you want to do it or not. If in doubt, talk to someone you trust to get their input.

  2. Is it bad for women?

    Masturbation is a healthy habit, for people of all ages. Don’t worry about the negative things you may have heard about self-love: they are all myths! Masturbation isn’t harmful from a medical standpoint. On the contrary: it can teach you a lot about yourself, your body, and what brings you pleasure.

  3. How do men masturbate?

    Men usually masturbate by stroking or rubbing their penis at different speeds and intensities until they are aroused and have an orgasm. Many men fantasize about sex or watch porn while they do it. All of that is completely normal. 

  4. What’s the effect of it?

    Masturbation can be great for stress relief, and it has even been shown to increase your levels of happiness. And, of course, it provides sexual satisfaction. Through masturbation, you also get to know your body, your likes and dislikes.

    You may have heard that masturbation causes weak erections, infertility, premature ejaculation, and blindness but those are all myths. Otherwise, there would be far fewer babies in this world.

  5. If someone has masturbated for a long time, can they still stop?

    Yes, absolutely, but you don’t really have to. Masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life.

    However, very few people will become addicted to masturbation. If you find yourself having a hard time concentrating or falling asleep if you don’t masturbate a few times a day, you may have a problem. Please seek help from a professional if you think you have an addiction problem.

  6. Can it affect man’s power during sex?

    No, that’s another myth. Self-love neither makes a man (or woman) weaker during sex, nor does it affect the quality or quantity of sperm.

    If you are having sex after a long dry-spell during which you have only masturbated, you might experience either premature or delayed ejaculation, as you are unfamiliar with the sensations. This should change quickly though, as you have more sex.

  7. Does it lower a person’s self-esteem as it is associated with the fear of discovery and humiliation?

    If it does, this is due to a person’s environment. Things only become shameful if you are told that they are something you should be ashamed about.

    Masturbation is natural and healthy, and there is nothing to be ashamed of if you do it.

  8. Does masturbation have an effect on wet dreams?

    Yes. Wet dreams generally happen when men aren’t very sexually active and sperm isn’t being released. So, if you aren’t having a lot of sex and would like to stop the wet dreams, you can masturbate and reduce the chance of having nocturnal emissions.
     

    Do you have any other questions we can answer? Leave a comment below, ask our forum moderators, or get in touch with us on our Facebook pages for Africa and Nigeria.

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  1. I want to stop but it is
    I want to stop but it is imposible to me

    1. I have learnt something
      I have learnt something

      1. We are glad you learned…

        We are glad you learned something Raphtala! Please feel free to go through more of our content and let us know what you think and if you have any questions, do not hesitate to reach out! Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!

    2. DO NOT BE CHEATED…
      DO NOT BE CHEATED.
      Masturbation will destroy you completely.What they are calling myths are the actual effects.Many years down the line you will wish that you knew…no man should do it even at gun point.

      1. Hi Mburu, 

        Thank you for…

        Hi Mburu, 

        Thank you for your contribution. This article is based on factual information. While there can be effects such as possible addiction, masturbation is totally safe when done right. It is totally fine for you to be against masturbation. At Love Matters, we welcome all opinions as long as they are presented respectfully. Again, thank you for your contribution and keep it here for more informative and factual content. 

      2. If one stops mustarbating…
        If one stops mustarbating will they heal from negative effects of the act like premature ejaculation and weak erection? If yes what length of time can that take

        1. Hi Winston, 

          First,…

          Hi Winston, 

          First, masturbation does not directly cause erectile dysfunction in men. Many men have trouble getting or maintaining an erection at some point in their lives. Some factors that are known to cause erectile problems are performance anxiety, lack of attraction to a partner, a negative body image, a lack of self-esteem, problems in relationships, or using alcohol or other drugs. Perhaps what we should be talking about is addiction and the effects it can have on your life. If you cannot focus on other everyday things such as work, school, hanging out with friends, then yes, it’s time to stop. 

      3. It all depends with you…
        It all depends with you brother, if you feel it’s bad for you, then don’t do it. But don’t tell everyone not to do it, for me I do it and I’m not ashamed about it. I would stop only at my own choice. Thanks for your opinion though, but remember, you can advice someone but you can’t make them change. The decision is always mine. I’m in charge of my life.

        1. That’s right Mike. In the…

          That’s right Mike. In the end, we make decisions that are right for us. Thank you for your contribution!

  2. How can I stop murstabating
    How can I stop murstabating

  3. do we have something called
    do we have something called imature sperms or infertile sperms,and if yes what is the cause

    1. Hi Cruz,

      Hi Cruz,

      There are no immature sperms only sperms that are not strong enough or infertile.

      DNA damage reduces fertility in male sperm, as caused by oxidative DNA damage, smoking, other xenobiotic DNA damaging agents (such as drugs or chemotherapy or other DNA damaging agents including reactive oxygen species, fever or high testicular temperature

  4. Hi, how do i fall in love
    Hi, how do i fall in love with a gir?l

    1. Love comes in many different
      Love comes in many different forms. The people you love are usually the ones you feel happiest with.
      Usually a relationship starts when two people fall in love. They may begin seeing each other on dates.
      Love develops in stages, and doesn’t always follow the same pattern. But in most cases love begins with the passion of sexual attraction, then the dreamy, overwhelming ‘in love’ stage, and finally the deeper attachment that develops over time and can last for years – sometimes for a lifetime.

  5. Demerits of mestabationm
    Demerits of mestabationm

    1. Excessive masturbation for
      Excessive masturbation for both men and women has serious consequences despite what most sexperts advise.
      Over-masturbation can lead to urinary incontinence.

      You risk getting scar tissue or rough tissue around your genitals and clitoris which can lead to painful swelling and complications. The vagina needs plenty of lubrication to work the way it was meant to. If you are masturbating without the benefit of lubricants, you are on the way to causing serious damage to yourself.

    1. Hi Alba, No it does not this…
      Hi Alba, No it does not this is just a myth.

  6. Why do you people lie about…
    Why do you people lie about musturbation being healthy in the Internet whereas musturbation is a killer of real sex!!

    1. Hi JK, What makes you feel…
      Hi JK, What makes you feel that masturbation will ‘kill’ real sex?

      Different people will masturbate for different reasons, even people in relationships do masturbate and go on to have great relationships including great real sex.

  7. I really wanna stop…
    I really wanna stop masturbating

  8. Does it affect producing
    Does it affect producing

  9. Does masturbation cause less…
    Does masturbation cause less interest in aboy, girl relationships And sexual desires with aman if ur woman en vice versa

    1. Hi Justine, Masturbation…
      Hi Justine, Masturbation will not cause a reduction in sex interest toward your partner now or in the future. Some people will choose to masturbate since they are not in a relationship at the time or their partner is away. It is a safe and healthy way to explore your sexuality including sexual satisfaction. Also, sex is just one side of a relationship there is so much more about a relationship and what it provides that leads to sex intimacy.

      Check out the following article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-your-burning-questions-answered

  10. what about youre male en you…
    what about youre male en you have never slept with any girl or woman but mostly ever depends in mursturbation always to fulfil your sex hunger. is it possible that wen you will have sex in your first time with a girl orwoman canyou make her pregnant since you have musturbing in your lyftime can she bare you ahealthy child??

  11. Do drugs reduce manpower…
    Do drugs reduce manpower when use used immediately after sex??

    1. Hey Ronald, what drugs do…

      Hey Ronald, what drugs do you mean? If you are talking about illegal drugs, one should not use them in the first place because they are illegal and they also have far reaching negative effects including addiction. 

  12. How many rounds should a…
    How many rounds should a normal man go for a night

    1. Hi Onnesky, this is a…

      Hi Onnesky, this is a question of preference and what both partners want. Everyone is different and for this reason what is normal for one may not be for another. It helps to talk to once partner, get to know what they want and like and then together agree on a way forward that is agreeable to both. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  13. its been really challenging…
    its been really challenging every time I get mad or stressed the only thing I think of is musturbate how can I do to stop

  14. pls am addicted to…
    pls am addicted to masturbation and I really wanna stop but it’s easy. pls I need help

    1. Hi Kerry, it may help to…

      Hi Kerry, it may help to begin by thinking about what triggers this. If you get to know the trigger, try and avoid it. Remember, the change will not take place in a day but that you will make progress daily. Keep trying even if you are not successful some of the time. You may consider seeking professional help as well. Check the following article for additional tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/i-am-addicted-to-porn-and-masturbation

  15. is masturbation against…
    is masturbation against religious believes?

    1. Hello Willy, yes, some…

      Hello Willy, yes, some religions do teach against masturbation.

  16. At what age is good to have…
    At what age is good to have sex

    1. Hey Skizo, one should have…

      Hey Skizo, one should have sex when they are mature which includes physical maturity and emotional maturity. One should have sex when they feel they are ready for it, they are with the right person and that it is the right time. This can be any age, however legally in most countries one is not allowed to have sex with a person who is less than eighteen years. It is important to take time and think about these things before deciding to have sex. Lastly, remember, it is important to use protection to prevent unplanned pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Infections. Have a look at the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/virginity/are-you-really-ready-to-have-sex

  17. if a woman murstabate while…
    if a woman murstabate while pregnant, can it affect her or the unborn?

  18. Do musturbation affect the…
    Do musturbation affect the duration of time when having sex

  19. Why do penis fill pain after…
    Why do penis fill pain after murstabating for the second time

    1. Hey Daisy, the discomfort or…

      Hey Daisy, the discomfort or pain, which goes away in a short while, is caused by the stretching of the veins in the penis when you have an erection. After ejaculation you may experience pain or discomfort for a short while. Sometimes, it may also be caused by how long the erection lasted. 

  20. What are the disadvantages…
    What are the disadvantages of murstabating as a woman

  21. does masturbating cause…
    does masturbating cause prostate cancer

  22. Hello Keza, thank you for…

    Hello Keza, thank you for your question. No, masturbation does not cause prostate cancer

  23. I have mustarbated for four…
    I have mustarbated for four years, now am having weak erections,might this be the cause?

    1. Hello Khali, thank you for…

      Hello Khali, thank you for reaching out to us. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. Also, there have been no proven medical negative side-effects to masturbation. As you grow older, your sexual energy may decline. However, if the issue is persistent and is causing you much distress, have a conversation with a healthcare provider to ascertain what the problem may be.

      This article has more information on masturbation. https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-top-five-facts-part-1

  24. am thankful to that
    am thankful to that

    1. You are most welcome…

      You are most welcome drumford and we are always here to help 🙂

  25. How oftnely are you suppost…
    How oftnely are you suppost to do it if it is really health coz nowdays we men have fear on our girls and some diseases

    1. Hello Cyrus, this is a great…

      Hello Cyrus, this is a great question. It really is up to  a person’s discretion. However, it is adviseable that a person try not to engage in it too much to the point that they are uable to carry out their daily duties.

  26. hw can i ask a girl to give…
    hw can i ask a girl to give me

    1. Hi Kagodo, thank you for…

      Hi Kagodo, thank you for reaching out to us. What do you want to ask for? also, what is your relationship to this girl?

  27. I gotta question. I have…
    I gotta question. I have been murstabating for a long time but I stopped and when I had sex I did not last long .what might be the problem?

  28. Hello Juani, thank you for…

    Hello Juani, thank you for getting in touch and we are sorry you are going through a hard time. 

    What you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety, or even stress. The anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.

    There are a few things you can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity of the penis. 

    In the long term one can ensure they eat healthily and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. Foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.

    The following articles provide more information;-

    https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
    https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

    Love Matters Team.

  29. Can murstabating cause…
    Can murstabating cause health problems

    1. Hello Kelly, thank you for…

      Hello Kelly, thank you for asking a great question. As the article suggests, Masturbation can be great for stress relief, and it has even been shown to increase your levels of happiness. And, of course, it provides sexual satisfaction. Through masturbation, you also get to know your body, your likes and dislikes.

      You may have heard that masturbation causes weak erections, infertility, premature ejaculation, and blindness but those are all myths. Otherwise, there would be far fewer babies in this world. For more information on masturbation click here: 
       

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-top-five-facts-part-1

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-top-five-facts-part-2

  30. Can I get a woman pregnant…
    Can I get a woman pregnant after mustabiting before sex

  31. Hello me, thank you for…

    Hello me, thank you for getting in touch and asking a really great question. Yes, a girl can become pregnant the first time she has sex. Anytime a girl has vaginal sex with a guy, she is at risk of becoming pregnant. Even if a guy ejaculates before having sex with her or outside of but near a girl’s vagina or pulls out before he comes, a girl can get pregnant. To avoid this, we recommend that you use a form of contraception such as a condom. Click here to find out more on unintended pregnancies and how to avoid them: https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/unwanted-pregnancy-top-five-facts

  32. Hello me, thank you for…

    Hello me, thank you for getting in touch and asking a really great question. Yes, a girl can become pregnant the first time she has sex. Anytime a girl has vaginal sex with a guy, she is at risk of becoming pregnant. Even if a guy ejaculates before having sex with her or outside of but near a girl’s vagina or pulls out before he comes, a girl can get pregnant. To avoid this, we recommend that you use a form of contraception such as a condom. Click here to find out more on unintended pregnancies and how to avoid them: https://lovemattersafrica.com/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/unwanted-pregnancy-top-five-facts

  33. am 23 years and am…
    am 23 years and am musturbating will i get chances of having a child when marriage time comes

  34. if I mustarbate daily.. how…
    if I mustarbate daily.. how many rounds can I go when I have sex

    1. Hi Jacuzzi, thank you for…

      Hi Jacuzzi, thank you for your question. Masturbating before sex has been proven to help you last longer. It should not affect your ability to go multiple rounds.

  35. How to make a move on a girl
    How to make a move on a girl

  36. Hello Anonymous,  reaching…

    Hello Anonymous,  reaching out to people that you are attracted to can be difficult because of the fear of being rejected. However, they are no different than how would approach a friend, family, or another person. The initial hello and coming up with small talk is the same idea except for the person in front of you is attractive. 

    The best way to do this when you are nervous is to talk to people who share the interest. Do they go to school with you? Are they working? Did you meet them at the movies? This way there is already a commonality between you and it gives you the first conversation topic. Find other people who like what you like and try to mingle from there. 

    Otherwise, just be honest. Tell them who you are, why you approached the (they said something smart, they like the same team, you find them beautiful, etc) and then build the conversation from there. Tell them about yourself, and ask questions about them. You are attracted to them and ideally, as you learn more about them you will become interested in them. 

    Everyone has nerves and the girls know that. They will be flattered that you even tried to reach out and talk. 

      We will be sending you positive thoughts, and feel free to ask any other questions as they arise. 
      <3 The Love Matters Team 

  37. I usually masturbate 4 times…
    I usually masturbate 4 times a day is it heathy

    1. Hi Nix, do you feel that…

      Hi Nix, do you feel that masturbating affects your ability to operate on a daily basis? Do you feel that you must masturbate at least four times a day? Is it affecting your social life? If it does, then maybe you are doing it too much. Other than that, you are doing okay.

  38. why do i feel like am…
    why do i feel like am cheating on my girlfriend whenever i masturbate?

    1. Hello Ian, thank you for…

      Hello Ian, thank you for your question. This is quite interesting. It really speaks to the habits, myths, and misconceptions that influence how we have sex and how we think of sex. We cannot tell you why you feel you are cheating, but we may tell you that you need to ask yourself this question and really think about what that means or what you may be feeling this way.

  39. I normally murstabate with…
    I normally murstabate with my husband and we hardly fuck is it normal

    1. Hi Stellah maris, thank you…

      Hi Stellah maris, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. As long as you are both happy and satisfied, it is completely normal. Does it bother either you or your partner that you do not have sexual intercouse?

  40. Can i make babies when i…
    Can i make babies when i have mustabared for a long time

  41. Pls, Can murstabating cause…
    Pls, Can murstabating cause a penis to shrink ?

  42. Hello Charles wisdom, thank…

    Hello Charles wisdom, thank you for asking a great question. Contrary to popular belief, masturbation does not change the size of your penis, otherwise, every man that has sex would have a very small penis at the end of their lives. Your penis returns to normal size after ejaculation as the blood flow reduces after sexual stimulation.

  43. Please, am mustabating but i…
    Please, am mustabating but i can’t last long in sex or bed so what should i do to stop and have long sex with my lover

  44. Hi Evans, thank you for…

    Hi Evans, thank you for reaching out and asking a great question. When you say that you can’t last long in bed, is it because you are unable to erect or because you ejaculate too quickly? 

  45. why do i easily ejaculate…
    why do i easily ejaculate when masturbating…but take a while when having sex

  46. Hello Anonymous, thank you…

    Hello Anonymous, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. The reason you ejaculate quicker when masturbating is probably because you are more aware of what arouses you physically than your partner. If you would like to ejaculate faster while having sexual intercourse, it may be wise to have a conversation with your partner about what you like to feel and experience while having sex. Show her this article too, it will help: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/orgasms/his-orgasms

    Also, do you watch pornography while you masturbate? If you do, then you need to remember to manage expectations. Pornography is fiction and fantasy, meaning, it is not real and expecting your partner to behave or react in the same way would not be fair to them so always keep this in mind when getting involved with someone sexually.

    Otherwise, have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe buddy!

  47. if someone want to slept…
    if someone want to slept with partner doing romance the person release sperm what can we call it

  48. Hi Anonymous, thank you for…

    Hi Anonymous, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question, when a man releases sperm during sexual intercourse or masturbation, it is called an Ejaculation so in this case, he ejaculated during sexual intercourse. I hope this information helps and please feel free to ask us any more questions you may have regarding love, sex, and relationships, and feel free to go through our website too for more information! have a wonderful week ahead. Stay safe!

  49. What side effect does…
    What side effect does murstabating have in mens and wemens?

  50. how should i ask opposite…
    how should i ask opposite sex to have sex with i?

  51. Some people say murstabate…
    Some people say murstabate is not good once u murstabate which means u donate your sperm to the demons u will die poor. Is that true?

    1. Hello Musankwa, thank you…

      Hello Musankwa, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question! There is a popular misconception that masturbation is satanic but this is absolutely not true. Click here to find out more about what we think about masturbation and religion: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/knowing-yourself-the-biblical-way

      Click here to find out more about the popular myths that revolve around masturbation: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-your-burning-questions-answered

      Do not hesitate to get in touch with us in case you have any questions. Have a wonderful week and stay safe! Happy 2021!

  52. How many minutes to have…
    How many minutes to have sexaul intercurse to a nomal guy no drugs

    1. Hi Melvin, thank you for…

      Hi Melvin, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question! How long does sex normally last? That all depends on who you’re having it with. The length of intercourse varies a whole lot from one couple to the next. Click here to find out more: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/how-long-does-sex-normally-last

      Feel free to go through more of our content to help you make more informed decisions and do not hesitate to get in touch with us in case you have any questions. Have a wonderful week, stay safe and Happy New Year! 

    1. Hello Alpha, thank you for…

      Hello Alpha, thank you for reaching out to us. If you are absolutely sure you want to stop, you should know that it will not be easy. This is because sex leads to the release of endorphins which is better known as the pleasure hormone. Second, masturbation has now become part of your arousal template which is the total amount of thoughts, activities, stimuli, smells etc. that arouse a person sexually.
      To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity.
      Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!

      https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/i-could-masturbate-anytime-anywhere?fbclid=IwAR1mXlXZRhQl_ogMzJVuYswU6kBgIZ4KR5hfnShmE-hltggrsH4bBbB-i0

       

    1. Hello Anonymous, we are…

      Hello Anonymous, we are really glad to hear this. Feel free to look through our website to find other articles that you may helpful.

  53. Does Masturbation cause…
    Does Masturbation cause prostate enlargement or prostate cancer

    1. Hi Simon, 

      No. Masturbation…

      Hi Simon, 

      No. Masturbation does not cause prostrate enlargement or prostrate cancer. It is a safe and pleasurable activity. 

  54. My girl friend doesn’t…
    My girl friend doesn’t scream,I have a reasonable size of the penis but I don’t know how i can tell,she might say am comparing her with other guls

    1. Hi Moze, 

      Not all women…

      Hi Moze, 

      Not all women scream and moan loudly during sex. Some women are silent and it does not mean that they are not enjoying sex. Also, the size of your penis does not determine whether a woman screams during sex or not. It is important to talk to your girlfriend and find out whether she enjoys sex. This will be important as it will help you either improve your sex life or keep doing what you are doing. 

  55. Does murstabation break…
    Does murstabation break virginity?

    1. Hi Martha, 

      It depends on…

      Hi Martha, 

      It depends on how you masturbate. Masturbating by stimulating your clitoris and vulva won’t break the hymen. On the other hand, if you use your fingers or a sex toy to penetrate your vagina, you can break your hymen. 

  56. What is nocturnal emissions?
    What is nocturnal emissions?

    1. Hi there,

      A nocturnal…

      Hi there,

      A nocturnal emission is the medical term for wet dreams. 

    1. Hi there, 

      I am glad you…

      Hi there, 

      I am glad you learnt something new! Keep visiting Love Matters for more informative content. 

  57. Masturbation is not good at…
    Masturbation is not good at all my friend’s,

    1. Hi there,

      Masturbation is…

      Hi there,

      Masturbation is actually safe and pleasurable. Masturbate if you’d like to, but don’t feel pressured to masturbate if you don’t enjoy it — it’s really up to you!

  58. Stop lying people,…
    Stop lying people, masturbation is too bad, it canmake u sexually weak, u will never satisfy a woman in bed once u masturbation, I’m can testify because I have ever been a victim of masturbation, but thnx to God and counsellors I stopped, I can now satisfy my wife well in bed

    1. Hi Mukisa, 

      If one is…

      Hi Mukisa, 

      If one is addicted to masturbation, it can affect their relationships with other people and sexual urge and satisfaction. Yet, if one if able to control the frequency, masturbation is safe and healthy. I am glad that you got help and that this helped to repair your relationship with your wife. Read this article to learn more: Is addiction a barrier to intimacy?

  59. Masterbation ina weaken…
    Masterbation ina weaken mboro, tunajua.
    Mbora ina grow ndogo i stead ya kua biggy

    1. Hi there, 

      Actually hiyo ni…

      Hi there, 

      Actually hiyo ni myth. Masturbation ni safe na haina effects if done right. Masturbate if you’d like to, but don’t feel pressured to masturbate if you don’t enjoy it — it’s really up to you!

  60. I have been masturbating…
    I have been masturbating since in class 4 and am now 26 years,I’ve been having a P.E,can that be the course,and how can it be treated.?

    1. Hi there, 

      There is no…

      Hi there, 

      There is no known connection between Premature Ejaculation and masturbation. Kindly visit a doctor to determine the exact cause of the problem. Here is an article that can help you know more about Premature Ejaculation: Top 5 facts about premature ejaculation

  61. Alright …thought can lead…
    Alright …thought can lead to importence and low sperm count in men

    1. Hi there, 

      This is a myth…

      Hi there, 

      This is a myth. Masturbation does not cause impotence or low sperm count. Read this article to understand more: Top masturbation myths

  62. I like this actually I don’t…
    I like this actually I don’t have a girlfriend and am also afraid of doing it what should I do but I do have feeling

    1. Hi Musa, 

      Masturbation is…

      Hi Musa, 

      Masturbation is totally safe and pleasurable. It helps you understand yourself sexually. Try it. Don’t be afraid. Start small and then you begin to explore more. Here is an article with helpful tips to encourage you: Masturbation: no shame in a good thing

  63. Does masturbating make penis…
    Does masturbating make penis short?

    1. Hi there, 

      No. Masturbation…

      Hi there, 

      No. Masturbation does not make the penis shorter. 

  64. itried it but u want to…
    itried it but u want to completely stop…i did it because i was heartbroken and lonely but i need to stop

    1. Hi Dog, 

      That is totally…

      Hi Dog, 

      That is totally possible. Just avoid things that make you want to masturbate, get busy with other things such as work, school, or hobbies. If you are unable to stop on your own, talk to a sex therapist who can help you beat the addiction (if you are addicted). 

  65. If you find yourself in…
    If you find yourself in erectile dysfunctional what could be the possible treatment

  66. If you find yourself in…
    If you find yourself in erectile dysfunctional what could be the possible treatment

  67. Does masturbation decrease…
    Does masturbation decrease pennis size?

    1. Hi John, 

      No. It does not. 

      Hi John, 

      No. It does not. 

  68. Does masterbation bring…
    Does masterbation bring psychological challenges,and financial uncertainties?

    1. Hi Oscar, 

      How now? Please…

      Hi Oscar, 

      How now? Please explain the specific challenges you have in mind?

      Just to be clear, masturbation is a safe and pleasurable way to discover your body. 

    1. Hi Solomon,

      Glad you learnt…

      Hi Solomon,

      Glad you learnt something new! Welcome again!

  69. Is it true that masturbation…
    Is it true that masturbation can cause prostate enlargement??

    1. Hi Ssekabira, 

      No. That is…

      Hi Ssekabira, 

      No. That is a myth. It has been found that there are no links between masturbation and prostate enlargement. 

  70. Stopping masturbating has…
    Stopping masturbating has been so hard for me though I don’t see any effect on me

    1. Hi Terry, 

      It’s true…

      Hi Terry, 

      It’s true. Masturbation does not have any known effects. As long as it does not make you stop doing everyday activities such as work, school, hanging out with friends, etc. You should be fine. 

  71. Is it effective for a lady…
    Is it effective for a lady to masturbate when pregnant??

    1. Hi there, 

      Yes, it is…

      Hi there, 

      Yes, it is totally okay to masturbate when you’re pregnant. It cannot harm you or your unborn baby. 

  72. Ave been doing it very long…
    Ave been doing it very long tym bt I stopped could it lead to immature ijjaculation

  73. I’m not always ashamed about…
    I’m not always ashamed about masturbation, in fact, I do tell my friends that “huwa nanjonga monkey”, and it’s climax is sweet just like normal sex. I think there’s nothing immoral about doing it so long as you’re not guilty about it. However, like anything else, it has side effects. The negative effect of masturbation for me is that I lost feelings for real sex to some extent and I usually cum very fast when I get to fuck a real pussy. I’m even single coz I don’t really need a girlfriend when I can fuck myself.

    1. Hi Mike, 

      Interesting. So,…

      Hi Mike, 

      Interesting. So, do you mean to say that before you started masturbating you had a higher desire for sex but after starting masturbation, the desire went down? Do you think that this may be because you get more pleasure from masturbation than real sex? When you say you come very fast, how much time are we talking about? One minute? Two? Six? How many?

      Also, as long as masturbation does not prevent you from going to work, focus on tasks you are doing, hanging out with friends, etc, then you should be good. 

    1. Alaaar, mbona tena?!

      Alaaar, mbona tena?!

    1. Hi Chris, 

      If your faith…

      Hi Chris, 

      If your faith and belief tell you that it is a sin, then let that guide you. On the other hand, not everyone believes it is a sin so it is important to respect what others believe in. 

  74. Does it effect the growth of…
    Does it effect the growth of someone?

    1. Hi there,

      No, it does not…

      Hi there,

      No, it does not affect growth. 

  75. Im absolutely supriced cause ive tried to stop but the body refuses and iv learned its a natural occurence and health especially for men with premature ejaculation difficulties

    1. Absolutely! As long as it does not affect normal day-to-day life, you should be good. No shame in a pleasurable thing!

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