Does masturbation cause infertility?
I enjoy masturbation, but I’m afraid I won’t be able to father a child if I keep it up. Is this a real risk? ‘MYTH!’, cries Valentine.
No difference between masturbation and sex
Masturbation is the manual manipulation of your genitals until you achieve an orgasm. You can do it yourself or a partner can do it for you. The mechanics that lead to the orgasm are different from intercourse, but the orgasm happens in the exact same way as with intercourse: you ejaculate.
Your body makes sperm consistently and throughout your life, which is why men can continue to conceive children well into old age.
Constant sperm production
Sperm cells are made in your testes (balls) and then moved up into your pelvis and into the seminal vesicles where they are stored and mixed with seminal fluid. The seminal fluid has sugar and provides a nice alkaline environment for the sperm to live in as they swim through a woman’s acidic reproductive system to the egg which one of them will fertilise.
Most men produce about 12 billion sperm per month and about 300 million of these are ejaculated in each load. Easy arithmetic shows you would have to be very dedicated to ejaculate all the sperm that you produce.
What you do not ejaculate is broken down by your body and the components are used to make new sperm.
Masturbation myths
Society has used all manner of lies to dissuade us from masturbating – from ‘You will go blind’ to ‘You will grow hair in your palms’.
I believe that the only people who do not masturbate are those with short arms. Masturbation will not prevent you from becoming a father.
However, when you are trying to conceive, you might want to abstain from it just to make sure you ejaculate as many sperm cells as possible into your partner.
If you have sex multiple times per day for a few days, you will notice that your load is a lot lighter by the second and third day. This indicates that your supply is running low – but worry not, your body will always make more!
What other myths about masturbation have you heard? Leave a comment below or join the discussion on Facebook, where you can find us at Love Matters Naija and Kenya.
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Recent Comments (323)
How can one increase his
How can one increase his penis?
Hi Mark,
Hi Mark,
Why are you low esteem on your penis size? Are you worried you are not performing well in bed? Normally performance issues have more to do with confidence than penis size.
Not to mention that size is relative. What is big for some is small for others and vise versa. Everyone’s bodies are different and it is more about how they come together, not stand alone. Sex is pleasurable when there is a chemistry between two people, when emotions are being shared and good communication. Tell your partner what feels good and what doesn’t. Experiment, you never know what will happen until you try and communication always leads to better sex.
Check out these articles about penis size and love making:
https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes
http://lovematters.co.ke/news/big-penis-what-women-want
No,in fact it makes you d*ck…
No,in fact it makes you d*ck uglier
Hey Wasp, this is not true,…
Hey Wasp, this is not true, infact aside from the other benefits it can help prevent some penis problems. Have a look st this article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-top-five-facts-part-2
by abstaining from sex for…
by abstaining from sex for along time and eating alot of ground nuts
Hey, we appreciate your…
Hey, we appreciate your contribution. Abstaining from sex is not going to increase ones fertility since having sex doesn’t affect ones fertility, neither will eating ground nuts. The ground nuts for some people, may increase ones sex drive but not their fertility. Have a look at the following article for tips;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/male-fertility-problems-top-five-facts
Is it true that if your used
Is it true that if your used to masturbation then you won’t be able to perform normally eg if you used to go three rounds then u can’t afford those three u can only go one?
Hi Kelly,
Hi Kelly,
nope, not true. Masturbating should not affect your performance in any way.
As a side note- when it comes to sex, quality is often better than quantity. So it’s not necessary to go three rounds- make the first one count!
U may injure ur penis tissues
U may injure ur penis tissues since u might do it in ahasty and viollent manner.
Hi Harrison,
Hi Harrison,
you should have nothing to worry about in this department. Yes, you should be somewhat gentle, but there is much less damage a hand can cause compared to the heavy thrusting during sex.
frequent masterbation can
frequent masterbation can make someone week especially men.
Hi Joseph,
Hi Joseph,
that’s one of the many myths about masturbation. It’s not true at all. There is no harm associated with masturbation!
I jst lyk to knw if it risk
I jst lyk to knw if it risk to mastubate every day coz i do enjoy it dan real sex.bt 4now i ve tryin to hv a child bt it seemz lyk nothng happn.what is the problem
Hi there,
Hi there,
masturbation will not affect your fertility.
I advise you to check out our pregnancy pages. There are many tips, including how to calculate the most fertile days, when you should be having sex. Good luck!
so i can enjoy myself…the
so i can enjoy myself…the way i want….
Yes, you can! Enjoy!
Yes, you can! Enjoy!
Yes, you can! Enjoy!
Yes, you can! Enjoy!
It make the body, less
It make the body, less influencive with normal sex
Hi James,
Hi James,
that’s one of the many myths associated with masturbation. Don’t worry, it won’t affect your sex life.
i used to masterbate when i
i used to masterbate when i was at high school bt its 7years since i stopped the act bt with different girls non have concived can it affect
Hi Pirio,
Hi Pirio,
masturbation has not affect your fertility. It’s a huge myth.
As for not conceiving, if you want to be a father, I suggest you and your partner sit down and plan the best times to have sex in order to conceive. there is only a very small time frame within a woman’s cycle in which conception is possible. And that’s when you should have sex. Check our Pregnancy section for more tips.
what i kn0w as ascienetist is
what i kn0w as ascienetist is that masturbation can cause STI’s like gonorhea
Hi Jahfar,
Hi Jahfar,
seeing that gonorrhea is caused by bacteria, that are passed on between people. It is not possible to get STIs from masturbation.
Why iz it that you get a
Why iz it that you get a better orgasm when you masturbate than having sex?
Hi Florence,
Hi Florence,
it could be that masturbation takes care of the first, urgent, needs, and then,once this is done, you can enjoy the actual orgasm during sex better. If this is how it works for you- go for it!
Can masturbation lead to
Can masturbation lead to erection difficulties or feeble erection?
Hi Rogers,
Hi Rogers,
another big myth. No, it can’t. Check out our masturbation myths: http://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted
Does masturbation cause waist
Does masturbation cause waist pain? Cos av been feeling alot of pain in my waist
Hi Jonas,
Hi Jonas,
it shouldn’t. If you have been feeling a lot of pain, please see a doctor to make sure everything is alright with you.
Frequent masturbation does it
Frequent masturbation does it causes quick ejaculation?
Hi Samuel,
Hi Samuel,
do you mean during masturbation or intercourse?
During masturbation, yes, it can normal that you ejaculate more quickly, because you know exactly what to do to get going.
During intercourse, the excitement of all the different feelings compared to masturbation can sometimes lead to quicker ejaculation. But this is reversible, once you get more used to it.
So nothing to worry about!
what is the benefit of that
what is the benefit of that act on men?
Hi Saved,
Hi Saved,
satisfaction, relaxation, happiness.
Masturbation affects people
Masturbation affects people differently depending on when u started it. Those who have done it for long will tell u they experience prem. ejaculation do to the conditioning of their bodies and mind that u wank to come and the sooner the better but later when faced with a woman u realize the sooner has taken toll on u. Take that to the bank guys. No myth, its a brainer.
Hi Nyaega,
Hi Nyaega,
actually, it is a myth. And if you think about it logically, you will realize why. Masturbating is nothing other than stimulating the penis to get to orgasms and ejaculation. No, replace masturbation in that sentence with sex. Is there any difference? No. So why would sex/masturbation lead to premature ejaculation? It doesn’t make sense, does it?
Masturbation affects people
Masturbation affects people differently depending on when u started it. Those who have done it for long will tell u they experience prem. ejaculation due to the conditioning of their bodies and mind that u wank to come and the sooner the better but later when faced with a woman u realize the sooner has taken toll on u. Take that to the bank guys. No myth, its a brainer.
wat are dah bad effect of
wat are dah bad effect of masturbation?, does it have any???
Hi Jankluovski,
Hi Jankluovski,
thankfully, there aren’t bad effects. Many people say there are, but those are myths. Check our myth buster on masturbation: http://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted
I learnt when you are used to
I learnt when you are used to it reduces your performance when copulating with your lady. is it true?
Hi Dougy,
Hi Dougy,
if it’s the first time with a lady, the excitement of it can make you ejaculate prematurely. But then, this is true whether you masturbate or not. Other than that, masturbation does not affect your general performance.
i strongly feel masturbation
i strongly feel masturbation negatively affects the psychological aspects of a man.. normaly aftr masturbation a person develops a guilty conscience.
Hi Kalima,
Hi Kalima,
why would anybody feel guilty about doing something that is healthy and part of a normal sex life?
you can lose your sight too
you can lose your sight too
Hi Abdully,
Hi Abdully,
if this was true, almost everybody on this earth would be blind.
does masturbation cause
does masturbation cause backache because i really feel it when i frequently masturbate??
Hi Donchiz,
Hi Donchiz,
masturbation by itself doesn’t. It could be your posture that’s causing it. Try standing up, if you are usually doing it in bed, or the other way around. Or sitting up. And see if anything changes.
is there a problem of
is there a problem of masturbating like 6 or more times in a day ??
Hi Donmark,
Hi Donmark,
that is a bit excessive. There is nothing wrong with doing it every day, but six or more times is a bit on the high side. Try to limited yourself to two or three times and see if that works for you.
Wat if it gots tired while on
Wat if it gots tired while on works. And she’s still in need of?
Hi Peter,
Hi Peter,
not sure we are understanding your question. Do you mean your penis gets tired during sex, but your partner hasn’t had an orgasm yet? Use your fingers or mouth on the clitoris, in that case. And she will be happy!
How can i get to the
How can i get to the pregnancy page?
http://lovematters.co.ke
http://lovematters.co.ke/resource/pregnancy
i hope its only better when
i hope its only better when one eats well
Hi Peter,
Hi Peter,
everything is better when you eat well!
Pls, cn u enlighten me on
Pls, cn u enlighten me on different styles or positions i cn use during sex to boost my sex life nd to satisfy my partner…
Hi Beauty,
Hi Beauty,
the best way to satisfy your partner is to ask your partner what they enjoy.
Good sex isn’t about changing positions five times during intercourse (although it can certainly make it exciting), but it’s about talking and listening to your partner.
So, before you next have sex, sit down together and talk about sex. What do you like, what does he like, are there things you always wanted to try? Are there things you like less? It can feel a bit awkward as first, but it will improve your sex life. We promise!
Does it mean that men are
Does it mean that men are encouraged to masturbated than women or is it that its gat more effect on women than men
Hi Bruce,
Hi Bruce,
both women and men can masturbate, and both should be encouraged to do so. And no, it doesn’t have more effect on either. The effects for both are happiness, satisfaction and relaxation, as well as getting to know your body and getting to know what you like. There is nothing wrong with masturbation, no matter if you are a man or woman.
Is it true that masturbation
Is it true that masturbation can cause early ejaculation/premature ejaculation?
Hi Ahmed,
Hi Ahmed,
quite the opposite, in fact. With masturbation, you can practice to last longer during sex. Check out our myth buster on ejaculation:
http://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted
I think masturbation causes
I think masturbation causes weak erection.n shrinked penis if done execesively..
Hi Peter,
Hi Peter,
it’s a myth. Think about it. Essentially, masturbation is no different from sex.There is stimulation of the penis to get to orgasm and ejaculation. So why would masturbation cause weak erections, or a shrinking penis, if sex doesn’t?
how wil u know that a gal is
how wil u know that a gal is virgin
Hi Robin,
Hi Robin,
it’s super simple: Ask her and believe what she says! That’s the only way.
Whoever tells you that you can tell by looking at a woman’s legs, or vagina, or whether she will bleed when you have sex is not telling you the truth. Check out the myths about virginity: https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/myths-about-virginity
I seem to enjoy musterbation
I seem to enjoy musterbation more than the actual sex, and even when I have my partner with me, I can go for the first round perfectly but I do not regain my strength quickly( it takes too long before second erection). Could this be an effect of musterbation?
Hi Henry,
Hi Henry,
This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.
And no, it’s not related to masturbation.
Hope this helps, let us know if any more questions arise.
I also enjoy masturbation
I also enjoy masturbation more than sex. i can go for long masturbation sessions, sometimes hours. That makes the dick exhausted by the time you cum. But Masturbating for long periods of time gives you some ejaculatory control so use that your advantage. So if your girl likes to go for rounds, one after the other, Refrain from cumming until she is completely satisfied or has cum severally. Just keep thrusting her and then rest when she needs to rest and cum last. Give your dick all the refractory time it needs after otherwise you’ll go flaccid mid session
Hw can one get a baby boy??
Hw can one get a baby boy??
Hi Simon,
Hi Simon,
there is no way to ensure that your baby will be a boy. That’s up to genetics, and no ritual, or position will help. Whoever is claiming otherwise is not telling you the truth.
gud job,does every sperm in
gud job,does every sperm in each enjaculation active
Hi Hiesto,
Hi Hiesto,
yes, there are a few million sperm cells in every ‘shot’ and all of them are viable and active. But your body continuously makes new ones, so there is no risk of ‘running out’.
Congrats jst big up.
Congrats jst big up.
Thanks Edu!
Thanks Edu!
How many positions are there
How many positions are there to masturbate? Must u use your hands
Hi Kavicky,
Hi Kavicky,
no, you can masturbate however you want to.
You can rub yourself against a pillow, use toys or other things, whatever your creativity demands. Be careful with vegetables or anything organic, or inserting your penis or vagina into anything where it could get stuck, or that could break.
For How long can i have sex
For How long can i have sex if am used to murstabation coz am afraid it will affect me and my partner when i will first have sex?
For How long can i have sex
For How long can i have sex if am used to masturbation coz am afraid it will affect me and my partner when i will first have sex?
Pliz prescribe for me any
Pliz prescribe for me any medicine or drug to cure premature ejaculation……..Also drugs to keep me going for a bit long when having sex
i have been masturbating
i have been masturbating since the age of 18 and now ii am 28 and i having problems with premature ejaculation and penis is not as strong as it was before so what should i do i am very much addicted to Porn ,,,,
Hi Klaus, Masturbation does
Hi Klaus, Masturbation does not cause premature ejaculation. If anything it helps with reducing premature ejaculation. Masturbation does not cause the penis to be weak that is just a myth. You can read about the other myths here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted . What makes you think you are addicted to porn? Read this article it will help with that https://lovematters.co.ke/news/porn-addiction-what-you-can-do-about-it .
i heard that if you
i heard that if you masturbate, you will lose your stamina, and also make you forget things you have learnt. Is it true?
Hi there, those are just
Hi there, those are just myths. Check some more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
I’ve been masturbating for
I’ve been masturbating for the past 15 years, does that have any effect on me. I mean can i still get a woman pregnant?
Hi John, yes you can still
Hi John, yes you can still get a woman pregnant. Masturbation does not cause infertility that is just a myth. Read some more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
can excessive masturbation
can excessive masturbation cause infertility?
No Ron Masturbation cannot
No Ron Masturbation cannot cause infertility.
But I heard many people
But I heard many people saying that they are not able to produce children after over masturebath for so many years
What can i do to stop
What can i do to stop masturbation cause i feel weak wen i do it?
Hi Alex, masturbation does
Hi Alex, masturbation does not cause weakness. check more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/cant-stop-masturbating .
Hi im 26 and i’m masturbating
Hi im 26 and i’m masturbating from around 17-18. some times i used to masturbate too much,
Now i feel like the size of my pennis is decreased having loose skin over it. and premature ejaculation.
Im not sure whether this will affect my life ahead or not. Do I still can make my future wife happy with sex?
Please let me know
Thanks in advance
Hi Abhilash, masturbation
Hi Abhilash, masturbation does not decrease the size of the penis that is just a myth read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
Pls admim…I’m always
Pls admim…I’m always masturbating everyday ..and it scares me that my body might not grow normally bcs of excess mastubation (it is bliv u won’t grow well when u have excess of sex) …and also ..I might not b able to impregnate a lady …Due to low sperm count or so ….Pls shed more lights on this …
Hi Tosho. you don’t need to
Hi Tosho. you don’t need to worry, all those are just myths. Masturbation does not cause any of that. Read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
I practiced masteurbati0n in
I practiced masteurbati0n in 3-4 times every day ..It can be affect my fertility?
Hi Reign, masturbation does
Hi Reign, masturbation does not affect your fertility.
does it msterbation affect
does it msterbation affect your academic performance in anyway
Hi Brown unless one is
Hi Brown unless one is addicted to it which is very rare, it should not affect you daily life in any way.
hi,I masturbate regularly and
hi,I masturbate regularly and I don’t feel good sometimes I think I should stop it how will I stop it?
Hi Arafat check out this
Hi Arafat check out this article to get assistance https://lovematters.co.ke/news/cant-stop-masturbating .
This will stop wen ua
This will stop wen ua married,havin sex with som1 will help u to ubstain from it
Will mastrubation affects my
Will mastrubation affects my child when reproducing into my wife
Hi thick, masturbation cannot
Hi thick, masturbation cannot affect your child in any way.
I doin masturbate everyday,if
I doin masturbate everyday,if any problems arrise for long term like azoospermia?
Hi Sid, there is no such
Hi Sid, there is no such problem that can arise from masturbation.
Hi.Im just a teen who always
Hi.Im just a teen who always masturbate and sometimes my balls swell that causes pain… Can it cause infertility?
Hi Jopher you should go for a
Hi Jopher you should go for a check up to find out why you get the swelling.
does masturbations cause
does masturbations cause infertility?
No Charle, masturbation does
No Charle, masturbation does not cause infertility that is just a myth.
Im 19 years old and i
Im 19 years old and i mastubate one or twice a week but every time i mastubate i feel pain in my joints and lower back and also sharp pain in my chest
Is there anything to be afraid of ?
Hi Aly, masturbation is not
Hi Aly, masturbation is not supposed to cause any kind of pain. Kindly visit the hospital for a check up.
how mastrbatng effect my hair
how mastrbatng effect my hair
Hi Keyow, there is no effect
Hi Keyow, there is no effect that comes from masturbation. That is just a myth. Read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
I masturbated for nearly 5
I masturbated for nearly 5 years frm my teen.m 23 now.does it causes infertility..nd can my sperm conut be increased
Hey there,
Hey there,
it’s a huge myth that masturbation cause infertility. Have a look at more myths about masturbation here: https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted
And why do you think your sperm count needs to be increased?
i masturbate 1 in two days du
i masturbate 1 in two days du i still have a chance of getting a lady pregnant in future…am 18 now
There is nothing wrong with
There is nothing wrong with masturbating. It can’t affect you negatively in that way.
Find out more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
I masturbated since 11 now i
I masturbated since 11 now i’m16 i do it daily will my sperm weak or cause infertility and if i can be a father
Hi Jame,
Hi Jame,
There is nothing wrong with that. Masturbation is safe. Read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
pls can u recommend drugs to
pls can u recommend drugs to cure premature ejaculation? secondly, i masturbate because i feel i dnt want to cheat on my wife though she is not with me now and my fear now is that if she comes back i might not be able to satisfy her sexually cos i feel i wil have weak erection. so pls help me out on wht to do pls.
Hi Austin,
Hi Austin,
It sounds like you are coming earlier than you would like, this often happens to young men who don’t have a lot of sexual experience because they get very aroused very easily. With more sexually experienced men, it might be due to psychological problems, like fear, stress or depression.
Generally though go slow, enjoy the buildup of touching and caressing each other. Make time for oral sex during your physical interactions. Take time focusing on your partner as well as yourself. Communicate together about what feels nice, what doesn’t and what you would like to try together. Experiment, explore and try new things!
Make sure to use lots of lube and switch up the fun. Even if you do orgasm you can take some time to have oral sex with your partner until your body is ready to go again. Change positions and mix it up.
Some people say condoms help them last longer, while others may use cock rings (just make sure it is the right size and not too tight!).
Generally just remember that sex is more than just penetration and there are lots of ways to enjoy each other.
If you are finding that you really cannot maintain an erection then it might be time to see a doctor. There are some medical conditions that can affect your performance but would need to be looked by a professional.
You can also keep masturbating, however challenge yourself to last longer. Go slow, feel the way your body changes when you are getting closer to climax. Tease yourself, find tricks that help you delay the finish.
I am masturbating since I am
I am masturbating since I am 10. I am 21 now I am worrying that I will get low sperm count moreover I am taking medicines for the disease named schizophrenia due to medicines I have weak erection I can feel once If I stop medicines the desire in me is more what should I do if I have to consult my doctor and tell regarding this how should I explain to my doctor
Hi Frozen, it would be nice
Hi Frozen, it would be nice if you considered disclosing to your doctor as he would be able to give you proper direction.
Check out this article to find out more about masturbation effects https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
I masturbate daily since my
I masturbate daily since my childhood and now i m 18 and i used to masturbate 2-3 times a day . Is there will be any problem in my future due to infertility or sperm count for ejaculation or hair loss?? Pl advice me
Hi there,
Hi there,
There is nothing wrong with masturbation.
Read this article to find out more https://lovematters.co.ke/news/does-masturbation-cause-infertility .
I am staph patient and I
I am staph patient and I masturbate , will it make me not to impregnate my wife if I got married. ? vRyAV
Hi,
Hi,
There is nothing wrong with masturbation.
Read this article and find out more https://lovematters.co.ke/news/does-masturbation-cause-infertility .
i am masturbating since 6
i am masturbating since 6 year now i’m of 20. i’m afraid to have a infertility . please tell me is this true ,
Hi Shardul,
Hi Shardul,
As the article above states clearly that is just a myth. Masturbation does not cause infertility.
I have been doing for 8 years
I have been doing for 8 years. I’m married with no child and yet so far this my 3rd year in marriage. What could be the problem?
Hi Paddy,
Hi Paddy,
Masturbation does not cause infertility. It might be that their is an issue between you and your partner. You might want to consider both of you going to the doctor for a check up.
help…my penis is a little
help…my penis is a little bent. what cn i do to make it to look normal
Hi Charlie, there is nothing
Hi Charlie, there is nothing wrong with that. Check out this article to find out more https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes .
the truth is th habit lead to
the truth is th habit lead to addiction and overmusta wil make u appear older,pre mature ejaculation and loss of memory. u can sleep even th whole due to fatigue thn erectile dysfunction is real please dont be mislead stop it and find a partner AM A VICTIM IN 30’S AND I REGRET!!!!!
Hi Do you have any factual
Hi Do you have any factual backing to this. This article is based on actual research. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I have read all comments that
I have read all comments that masturbathing is safe then why all the people in news telling that most of the population is infertile due to over masturbate or pornography . please help me out because I’m worried about my future and I tried hard to control myself not to masturbate but I can’t.
Hi Raja, there is nothing
Hi Raja, there is nothing wrong with masturbation. There are just a lot of myths around it because people don’t understand about masturbation. Read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
Hi i’ve been masturbating
Hi i’ve been masturbating since i was 12 years old but i’ve become so sensitive that i would ejaculate in less than 10 to 20 seconds. Is this called as premature ejaculation?? If yes, pls yell me how to get rid of it?
Hi Renn,
Hi Renn,
It sounds like you are coming earlier than you would like, this often happens to young men who don’t have a lot of sexual experience because they get very aroused very easily. With more sexually experienced men, it might be due to psychological problems, like fear, stress or depression.
Generally though go slow, enjoy the buildup of touching and caressing each other. Make time for oral sex during your physical interactions. Take time focusing on your partner as well as yourself. Communicate together about what feels nice, what doesn’t and what you would like to try together. Experiment, explore and try new things!
Make sure to use lots of lube and switch up the fun. Even if you do orgasm you can take some time to have oral sex with your partner until your body is ready to go again. Change positions and mix it up.
Some people say condoms help them last longer, while others may use cock rings (just make sure it is the right size and not too tight!).
Generally just remember that sex is more than just penetration and there are lots of ways to enjoy each other.
If you are finding that you really cannot maintain an erection then it might be time to see a doctor. There are some medical conditions that can affect your performance but would need to be looked by a professional.
You can also keep masturbating, however challenge yourself to last longer. Go slow, feel the way your body changes when you are getting closer to climax. Tease yourself, find tricks that help you delay the finish.
Hi love matters…if u read
Hi love matters…if u read all the above complains they are rather related….if we do a reaserch using the above complains it will come out clear that masturbation really contributes to some problems in male reproduction system…..frst one becomes weak….pre mature ejaculation….reduced penis size due to frequent brushing over…..please check and help…ave masturbated since i was 18 now am 25 i see my penis to be abit small…
There is not scientific
There is not scientific backing to prove all the allegations. They are just myths that people have because they do not have factual information on masturbation. Thanks for sharing.
hi, i’ve been masturbating
hi, i’ve been masturbating since 14 and now i’m 16 but my sperms aren’t thicker than before but as i was reading through your articles i found out that it has no effect on fertility! thank god. but last year i was in a boarding school and i found out that i had the smallest penis around. can’t it be an effect?!
There is nothing wrong with
There is nothing wrong with that. Men have different sizes and penis shapes and that is normal.
Read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes .
I am masturbating from 12 .
I am masturbating from 12 . now I’m 16 . Now I stopped masturbate. Will stopping it effect in my sex life?
No stopping it cannot affect
No stopping it cannot affect you in anyway.
ok i’am gonna do it untill i
ok i’am gonna do it untill i die because there’s no problem
Thanks for sharing that with
Thanks for sharing that with us Lucky.
Hi i have been masturbate
Hi i have been masturbate from age of 13 years now i’m 33 years old. it can be effect my fertility please answer me.
Hi Lapo,
Hi Lapo,
Just like the article above says, masturbation does not affect fertility in anyway.
Can masturbation cause your
Can masturbation cause your sperms become weaker?
Hi,
Hi,
That is just a myth. masturbation does not make your sperms weak. in any case your body is able to make new and fresh ones to replace the ones that have been discharged.
Hai sir, I am 26 now, and am
Hai sir, I am 26 now, and am going to get married soon, I used to masturbate 3 times in a day, now it seems that my sperm quantity is very low comparing to early days and will it affect my future (will my over masturbation can prevent me from becoming a father?)
Hi Arjun,
Hi Arjun,
Masturbation does not cause infertility that is just a myth. Find out more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
Hi, i started masturbating
Hi, i started masturbating from age16. i do this everyday atleast one time will this effect my future will i have children. or will i become infertile
Masturbation does not cause
Masturbation does not cause infertility. That is just a myth. Read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
Hi am masterbat from 10-up2
Hi am masterbat from 10-up2-know there is a lot of peoples saying a hard words to stop this thing know am worried.from that I have 1Q is this thing cause infertility?
Hi there,
Hi there,
Masturbation is a safe way of exploring ones sexuality. It does not cause infertility that is a myth. Read more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
I started mastuburating from
I started mastuburating from the age of 14 atleast once a day till now.now my age is 16 and i found that i got colourless sperm…is there any remedy to ragain sperm quality..is this affect in male infertility
Hi,
Hi,
What colour do you feel your sperm should be? There is nothing wrong with your sperm.
Masturbation does not make your sperm unhealthy, if anything it helps created new healthier sperms. You cannot also become infertile because of masturbation, that is just a myth.
Hi since I started
Hi since I started murstabating, I have never had guts of having a girl friend. And I don’t feel like having one. Iam worried. What could be the problem.
Having a girlfriend is a
Having a girlfriend is a matter of choice. Masturbating does not prevent one from being in a relationship.
When you feel you are ready for a relationship you can start looking for a partner. In the meantime enjoy exploring yourself.
hey I masturbation a lot 4
hey I masturbation a lot 4 time a day. so my story goes like this I was inlove with some girl and we never used condom and she never get pregnant , she was not preventing and now am inlove with another girl our thing is series and she is never get pregnant and she is not preventing what is a problem, is it me or what plz help
Hi,
Hi,
First thing first, masturbation does not cause infertility. That is just a myth. If you and your partner have been trying to get pregnant for over two years with no success, it would probably be a good idea for both of you to go for fertility to find out where the issue might be.
He i have been mastribation
He i have been mastribation for long time and now now it ejaculated in seconds i dont get anytime to enjoy will it will be the effect on my martiage life of becoming a father
Hi Ronnie,
Hi Ronnie,
Are you asking if masturbation causes premature ejaculation? Kindly clarify you question.
Masturbation once a week is
Masturbation once a week is right or I’ve to reduce this?
There is nothing wrong with
There is nothing wrong with that Raj, keep enjoying.
Hi,i masturbate twice a day
Hi,i masturbate twice a day will it cause me to become infertile?
Hi Leo, just like the article
Hi Leo, just like the article above explains masturbation does not cause infertility that is just a myth.
can mastribut lead to erectil
can mastribut lead to erectil dysfunction and can it decrease our relastion ship with opposit sexual partener
Those are just myths Sol.
Those are just myths Sol. Learn more here https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted .
Hey can you help me in
Hey can you help me in stopping masturbation ???
(No subject)
Hi Yogesh,
First masturbation has no medical effect but if you feel it is getting in the way of you having productive life or even relationship it maybe be time to check it. This is a behavior that you learn and for this reason you can unlearn it. Think about what triggers this behavior and begin to avoid this, also think about what you are doing with your free time and find ways of filling this time with more productive activities. Lastly, take one day at time and even when you fail start over again. We wish you well.
my feelings are always on…
my feelings are always on watching porn which make me to masterbate.so I want a help please to stop this coz am feeling guilty
Hello Magaya, thank you for…
Hello Magaya, thank you for reaching out to us. It is understandable that you would have all these feelings around masturbation. We grow up being told all sorts of things about what it does to our bodies and how it is bad for us. Ultimately, you make choices for yourself. Here at Love Matters, we maintain that there is nothing wrong with masturbation and there are no known medical adverse effects. What you feel is right or wrong is completely up to you and will determine how you interact with your sexuality. If you feel that watching porn is a trigger for you, then stop watching porn or try and avoid situations where you will find yourself watching porn.
Okay….but when I maturbate…
Okay….but when I maturbate my penis goes down
Hi Dennis, has this always…
Hi Dennis, has this always been the case or is it new?
Hi my Samuel I maturbate…
Hi my Samuel I maturbate Something and I want to Stop[
Hi Samuel,
The best way to…
Hi Samuel,
The best way to stop is to focus your attention on other things that bring you joy. This can be work, hanging out with friends, going swimming, long walks etc. This way, you will be distracting your body and mind from thinking about masturbation. This may be hard at first but with time, it will become easier if you keep focusing on the goal which is to stop masturbating. If you find it hard to stop on your own, get a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist who specializes in sexual health. They should give you professional help.
I want to stay away from…
I want to stay away from musterbation
This is perfectly fine. If…
This is perfectly fine. If you are absolutely sure you want to stop, you should know that it will not be easy. This is because sex leads to the release of endorphins which is better known as the pleasure hormone. Second, masturbation has now become part of your arousal template which is the total amount of thoughts, activities, stimuli, smells etc. that arouse a person sexually.
To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity.
Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!
Hey can help me to stop…
Hey can help me to stop wachting porn videos
Hello Robbin, why do you…
Hello Robbin, why do you want to stop?
I masturbate at night only…
I masturbate at night only and you at night your body is idle help me please
By trusting Yahweh himself …
By trusting Yahweh himself … always having the word of God by your side.Actually I did and it a sure sign of success musterbation is sin
Hello Ian, thank you so much…
Hello Ian, thank you so much for getting in touch and sharing your opinion with us. I think that you will really enjoy our article on knowing yourself the biblical way, click here to find out more and let us know what you think!
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/knowing-yourself-the-biblical-way
Have a wonderful week and stay safe!
Can you help me stop…
Can you help me stop masturbating
Hello Ogun, thank you for…
Hello Ogun, thank you for reaching out to us. If you are absolutely sure you want to stop, you should know that it will not be easy. This is because sex leads to the release of endorphins which is better known as the pleasure hormone. Second, masturbation has now become part of your arousal template which is the total amount of thoughts, activities, stimuli, smells etc. that arouse a person sexually.
To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity.
Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/i-could-masturbate-anytime-anywhere?fbclid=IwAR1mXlXZRhQl_ogMzJVuYswU6kBgIZ4KR5hfnShmE-hltggrsH4bBbB-i0
Nope i also need somebody…
Nope i also need somebody who can help me
Hi Colloh,
How can we help…
Hi Colloh,
How can we help you? This is a safe space and you can share whatever questions you may have.
Help me stop
Help me stop
Hi Lukeman,
To stop…
Hi Lukeman,
To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something e.g. porn, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity.
Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!
Same to me I want to stop…
Same to me I want to stop masturbating
Hi Silver,
To stop…
Hi Silver,
To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something e.g. porn, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity. Take a walk, call a friend, bake, workout, read, watch TV, etc, whatever it takes to take your mind off of the urge to masturbate.
Please note that it could take you sometime to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!
Hi love matters i just want
Hi love matters i just want to say that if masturbate do not affect our sexual life , what about our mental ability and life and physical effects as my sites says that masturbation affect your mental abilities and causes back pain and so on… Is it true …please reply…
(No subject)
Hi,
What specific mental or physical effects are you referring to? Masturbation has no medical effects, it is infact a great and safe way to relieve stress and explore once sexuality. If you are experiencing back pain it maybe important to seek medical treatment. Check out the following article for more information:-
https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-going-solo
If I masturbate am I can’t…
If I masturbate am I can’t to be a father for a child
Hi pls can masturbating cause
Hi pls can masturbating cause prostate cancer?
(No subject)
Hi Rich,
Masturbation will not and does not cause cancer of the prostrate. This is just but a myth.
which time is the best when…
which time is the best when you want your partner get pregnant?
(No subject)
Hi,
The best time to increase her chances of getting pregnant is having sex when she ovulating or about to ovulate. Check out the following article for more tips:-
https://lovematters.co.ke/pregnancy/before-pregnancy/getting-pregnant-dos-and-donts
Am I can’t be a father for a…
Am I can’t be a father for a child if I masturbate
(No subject)
That’s just a myth Ahd, you can still get children even if you have been masturbating if you are health and your sexual organs are healthy. Check out the following article for more information.
https://lovematters.co.ke/news/masturbation-myths-busted
I am mastrubuting daily and…
I am mastrubuting daily and four or three times a day since one yearncpuldmi become father
Thank you for your…
Thank you for your contribution Ramish.
i do masturbate now i am…
i do masturbate now i am thinking to have a child can it affect me do i have chance to make my wife pregnat
If a teenager women over…
If a teenager women over masturbate would it cause infertility in the future??
Hey Marie, Masturbation will…
Hey Marie, Masturbation will not cause infertility. This is just a myth.Check out this article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted
Is regularly masturbation…
Is regularly masturbation thrice in a day will stop me to be a father?
Hey Yogesh, No it will not…
Hey Yogesh, No it will not this is just a myth. Check out the following article;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted
no
no
Thank you for your input.
Thank you for your input.
I believe that masturbation…
I believe that masturbation at times is caused by loneliness .
Kogyo, what makes you…
Kogyo, what makes you believe that way? You have an experience?
can masturbation make you…
can masturbation make you not to erect after sometime of having sex
Hey Dennise, masturbation is…
Hey Dennise, masturbation is one of the safest, easiest forms of sex. It’s about getting to know your body and your likes and dislikes. This way, you can also teach your partner what you enjoy when you have sex. There is nothing unhealthy about masturbation. Check out this article: https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-top-five-facts-part-1
How do I stop masturbation?
How do I stop masturbation?
Hey Teddy, first,…
Hey Teddy, first, masturbation has no medical effect. It may however be important for someone to consider their masturbation behavior if it is causing them to miss out on important tasks like school or work. Also, if they are doing it to the point the parts are bruised or in pain. A good place to begin is to think about what could be leading to this behaviour and then begin by avoiding these triggers. Sometimes the trigger could be porn and so one needs to avoid porn. Secondly, one can consider filling up their leisure time with more productive activities which may include spending time with friends. Check out the following article with additional tips;- https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/ways-to-make-love/cant-stop-masturbating
Hi, I check your blogs…
Hi, I check your blogs regularly. Your story-telling style is witty,
keep doing what you’re doing!
Thank you Jonathan we…
Thank you Jonathan we appreciate your feedback.
Am worried about my penis…
Am worried about my penis size,i even fear having sex to avoid embarrassments,how will i increase the size
Hey there, unfortunately…
Hey there, unfortunately there is not much you can do to increase your penis size other than surgery which may also present some complications after. Also, having a bigger penis doesn’t make one a better lover, knowing your partners needs and desires will. It helps to talk to your partner to get to know what your partners needs. Check out the following article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/six-myths-about-increasing-penis-size
Is it true that if one…
Is it true that if one musterbates at hi youthful age his marriage will be affected??
Hi Timmy, what effect…
Hi Timmy, what effect exactly? Masturbation has no negative medical effect. Infact it can be a great and safe way to explore once sexuality and release some sexual tension. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted
Can musturbation lead to…
Can musturbation lead to memory lose
Hi John, masturbation does…
Hi John, masturbation does not cause memory loss and it also doesn’t make you sick. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted
Can excessive masturbation…
Can excessive masturbation cause premature ejaculation?
Hello Oye, this is not true,…
Hello Oye, this is not true, it is just a myth. Premature ejaculation is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for more information;-
https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-your-burning-questions-answered
I hav being martabating for…
I hav being martabating for three years now i fear that i may not be a father due to inferility in future am now 19 years!
Dear Josh, masturbation…
Dear Josh, masturbation doesn’t cause impotence. This is a myth. If a person is health and their sexual organs are healthy they should be able to get their partner pregnant. Have a look at the article above.
Hi is it true that…
Hi is it true that masturbation cause premature ejaculation. Cox am addicted to masturbation nd am experiencing Premature ejaculation now during sex or evean the masturbation srlf
Hi is it true that…
Hi is it true that masturbation cause premature ejaculation. Cox am addicted to masturbation nd am experiencing Premature ejaculation now during sex or evean the masturbation srlf
Hi Muatapha, masturbation…
Hi Muatapha, masturbation does not cause premature ejaculation. When one is masturbating, the only goal maybe to ejaculate. Premature ejaculation on the other hand is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for more information;-
https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-your-burning-questions-answered
Hi Muatapha, masturbation…
Hi Muatapha, masturbation does not cause premature ejaculation. When one is masturbating, the only goal maybe to ejaculate. Premature ejaculation on the other hand is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article for more information;-
https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-your-burning-questions-answered
Yah, it reduces one’s load …
Yah, it reduces one’s load ,,,its like water in a tank,see
Wasp, what load are you…
Wasp, what load are you talking about?
I heard someone saying that…
I heard someone saying that mersturbation reduces the dicks size
Hi Jonny, this is just a…
Hi Jonny, this is just a myth. Masturbation does not reduce the size of a penis. Have a look at the following articles for more information;-
https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/penis-shapes-and-sizes
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted
musturbation coures pre…
musturbation coures pre_mature pregnances
This is not factual.
This is not factual.
How can I stop masturbation
How can I stop masturbation
Hello Ian, thank you for…
Hello Ian, thank you for reaching out to us. If you are absolutely sure you want to stop, you should know that it will not be easy. This is because sex leads to the release of endorphins which is better known as the pleasure hormone. Second, masturbation has now become part of your arousal template which is the total amount of thoughts, activities, stimuli, smells etc. that arouse a person sexually.
To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity.
Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!
Can one get hurt when he…
Can one get hurt when he masturbates after a period of about 1 month of circumcision
Hi, it really depends on…
Hi, it really depends on whether you have healed or not.
Thanks for that oo…
Thanks for that oo.. masturbation for life
Your most welcome…
Your most welcome Msolombogozi, always pleased to help!
wot make some last longer in…
wot make some last longer in bed
Hello Kim, thank you for…
Hello Kim, thank you for reaching out to us. For one, younger people generally last longer. After the age of thirty sustaining an erection becomes harder and harder. Also, after the first round, a person is usually able to have a longer and more sustained second round. There are also people that generally have higher stamina than others.
I heard that it also leads…
I heard that it also leads to prostate enlargment…
Hello Anonymous, there is no…
Hello Anonymous, there is no scientific evidence that masturbation causes this condition.
U will be thin
U will be thin
Hi John, what an interesting…
Hi John, what an interesting myth.
Will i satisfy my wife if i…
Will i satisfy my wife if i continue musterbatng when getng married?
Hi johannah, thank you for…
Hi johannah, thank you for reaching out to us. You should be able to. In fact masturbating before sex will help you last longer.
hello I have a problem of…
hello I have a problem of spending less time when am playing sex with my girlfriend I think it was a result of masturbation because I was using it and I release sperms very first am 27years
hello I have a problem of…
hello I have a problem of spending less time when am playing sex with my girlfriend I think it was a result of masturbation because I was using it and I release sperms very first am 27years
Hello Eddy, thank you for…
Hello Eddy, thank you for getting in touch with us and sharing.
What you are experiencing is known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety, or even stress. The anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men, it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation.
There are a few things you can do to improve control and last longer. In the short term, you can take short breaks during intercourse, you can also apply firm pressure underneath the penis during intercourse to push blood out of the penis hence decreasing sexual tension, distract yourself to think about other non sexual things or use penis desensitizers. Penis desensitizers come in the form of sprays and creams that can be applied on the penis minutes before intercourse and they help to delay ejaculation. Sometimes a condom can help reduce the sensitivity of the penis.
In the long term, one can ensure they eat healthily and avoid lots of processed foods, begin to exercise which improves blood flow in the body, reduce or eliminate the use of alcohol including smoking and more importantly reduce stress during intercourse. The foreplay will also play a critical role in preparing your partner and getting them closer to an orgasm.
The following articles provide more information;-
https://lovematters.co.ke/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts
https://lovematters.co.ke/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation
Love Matters Team.
Can masturbation cause…
Can masturbation cause parallized of one side of the body include the legs and the hands?
Hello Eddy, sexual activity…
Hello Eddy, sexual activity does not cause strokes, nor is sexual activity dangerous for those who have already experienced a stroke. If you are experiencing these symptoms though, you need to see a doctor immediately as the symptoms you are experiencing are signs of cardiovascular issues or a stroke and require medical assistance.
To I’m 20 years by now…I…
To I’m 20 years by now…I’ve been musterbating seen 2016…how could i help myself
Hello Denis, thank you for…
Hello Denis, thank you for reaching out to us. There is nothing wrong with masturbation as long as it does not stop you from carrying out your day to day duties unhindered. However, if you are absolutely sure you want to stop, you should know that it will not be easy. This is because sex leads to the release of endorphins which is better known as the pleasure hormone. Second, masturbation has now become part of your arousal template which is the total amount of thoughts, activities, stimuli, smells etc. that arouse a person sexually.
To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity.
Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!
I have been using that…
I have been using that method of musterbating coz I can take a full year without having sex with any girl but what if I musterbate myself I feel comfortable so nw am gonna stop it by today
If you want to stop, that is…
If you want to stop, that is okay but remember that there is no scientific evidence that masturbating has an effect on the body.
I have been masturbate five…
I have been masturbate five times per one week can that lead to infertile?
Hi Anonymous, masturbation…
Hi Anonymous, masturbation does not lead to infertility. We understand that you may have heard this but it is a myth.
Hi am so much addicted to…
Hi am so much addicted to porn and masturbation have tried avoiding it but I keep on going back please dear counselor help me.
Hi Ryan, thank you for…
Hi Ryan, thank you for reaching out to us. If you are absolutely sure you want to stop, you should know that it will not be easy. This is because sex leads to the release of endorphins which is better known as the pleasure hormone. Second, masturbation has now become part of your arousal template which is the total amount of thoughts, activities, stimuli, smells etc. that arouse a person sexually.
To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity.
Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try, and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!
This article has more information on porn addiction.
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/porn/porn-addiction-what-you-can-do-about-it
helo,
Is stopping of…
helo,
Is stopping of masturbation leads to infertility?
Hi Anamika, thank you for…
Hi Anamika, thank you for asking. It will not. The male body starts producing sperm very early in life and stops very very late in life.
Hi I’m porn addict and I’m…
Hi I’m porn addict and I’m scared that I won’t be able to become a mother
Hi Angel, thank you for…
Hi Angel, thank you for getting in touch and we are sorry you are going through a hard time. Why do you feel that being a porn addict won’t make you a mother?
lhave done muxterbation now…
lhave done muxterbation now can l get madicine for cure
Hello Benxon, thank you for…
Hello Benxon, thank you for reaching out to us. If you are absolutely sure you want to stop, you should know that it will not be easy. This is because sex leads to the release of endorphins which is better known as the pleasure hormone. Second, masturbation has now become part of your arousal template which is the total amount of thoughts, activities, stimuli, smells, etc. that arouse a person sexually.
To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity.
Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try, and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!
This article has more information on porn addiction and should be of help.
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/porn/porn-addiction-what-you-can-do-about-it
I want to stop musterbating…
I want to stop musterbating need more prayers and advice
Hello Emma, thank you for…
Hello Emma, thank you for reaching out to us. If you are absolutely sure you want to stop, you should know that it will not be easy. This is because sex leads to the release of endorphins which is better known as the pleasure hormone. Second, masturbation has now become part of your arousal template which is the total amount of thoughts, activities, stimuli, smells etc. that arouse a person sexually.
To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity.
Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try, and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!
This article has more information on porn addiction and should be of help.
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/porn/porn-addiction-what-you-can-do-about-it
I have learnt very many ways…
I have learnt very many ways of stoping masturbation and i will try them. thank you
i have masturbate now for 7…
i have masturbate now for 7 years and now am feeling like i have no sperms left, what can i do to remove this believe
Hi Collins, thank you for…
Hi Collins, thank you for reaching out and asking a great question. First and foremost, please be rest assured that masturbation (no matter how long you have done it) does not reduce your sperm count. Secondly, the information above elaborates on the feelings you had and can hopefully help you settle your mind. Please click on this link to find out more about myths behind masturbation: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-top-five-facts-part-1
I have been mustarbating…
I have been mustarbating since I was 19yrs.but now it is very hard for me to maintain my erection and am 25yr.please help.
Hi Kevin, thank you so much…
Hi Kevin, thank you so much for reaching out and opening up to us. What you are describing is known as Erectile dysfunction (ED) which is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse. Do not worry though, occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a medical or psychological professional depending on what you believe might be the root cause. Please check out the link to this article for more information:
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/erectile-dysfunction-what-to-do
I have been doing this for…
I have been doing this for some time,
and now I’m going through tough times due to easily forgetting please help me recover thanks.
Hi David, thank you for…
Hi David, thank you for getting in touch and we are so sorry you are going through a hard time. What is it exactly that you feel you are going through and how can we help?
I have been murstabating for…
I have been murstabating for 11 years and I try to stop but it is hard I rub my clit anywhere just to feel the pleasure a want to stop can you help me……and murstabating by rubbing my clit what should I do to stop the effects of murstabating all this year’s so that I can enjoy my sex life
Hi Joy, thank you for…
Hi Joy, thank you for reaching out to us. If you are absolutely sure you want to stop, you should know that it will not be easy. This is because sex leads to the release of endorphins which is better known as the pleasure hormone. Second, masturbation has now become part of your arousal template which is the total amount of thoughts, activities, stimuli, smells etc. that arouse a person sexually.
To stop masturbating, you will need to identify the things that lead you to masturbate like seeing something, or just boredom. Also, when you get the urge to masturbate occupy yourself with another activity.
Please note that it could take you 21 days to 6 months to work on this and it might not work. If you are really committed, try and find a counselor or a therapist to help you through. Good luck!
https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/i-could-masturbate-anytime-anywhere?fbclid=IwAR1mXlXZRhQl_ogMzJVuYswU6kBgIZ4KR5hfnShmE-hltggrsH4bBbB-i0
This is helpful very…
This is helpful very especially to me. Have been doing it like thrice per and always feel uncomfortable with…. I thank you for answers to some questions you have givri here above.. phonography had began to attract me very much for like a week but i will by force try to abstain from it especially through internet
Hello Fidel, thank you for…
Hello Fidel, thank you for getting in touch and we are so glad to help. We wish you all the best. Please feel free to go through more content on our website and feel free to ask us any questions you may have regarding love, sex and relationships. Have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe!
i mustabated almost daily…
i mustabated almost daily till i noted something wrong when i got a girlfriend and when we were romancing i never felt the pressure but i erected well enough
Hello Stephen, what do you…
Hello Stephen, what do you mean by “the pressure” ?
What of back pain?? Does…
What of back pain?? Does musturbation cause back pain???
Hello Benard, there is no…
Hello Benard, there is no medical evidence that it should. However, if you are experiencing this then see a medical practitioner as soon as you can for a proper diagnosis and advice on the way forward.
Ok my penis size is too…
Ok my penis size is too small, how can do to sartifite my partner
If you’ve ever wondered…
If you’ve ever wondered whether your penis was too small, you’re definitely not alone – fretting over the length or girth of their member is something a lot of guys go through. There’s even a name for it: ‘small penis anxiety’.
The thing is, though, the vast majority of guys out there have a perfectly normal penis. They just need a little reassuring.
A study found the average for a flaccid penis comes in at 9.16 cm. If it’s stretched, the average becomes 13.24 cm. That’s pretty close to the average erect length of 13.12 cm.
Girth measurements revealed an average of 9.31 cm for flaccid penises and 11.66 cm for erect penises. Do you fall outside of these measurements?
Am not getting pregnant…
Am not getting pregnant because of murstabation y
Hello Joyjoyce, how do you…
Hello Joyjoyce, how do you mean? Are you able to explain?
If i mastubate will i be…
If i mastubate will i be able to get my wife pregnat
Hello Prince, yes you will…
Hello Prince, yes you will. The article explains this.
perfect thanks
perfect thanks
Hi there,
You are welcome!…
Hi there,
You are welcome! Keep it here for more informative content!
perfect thanks
perfect thanks
Hi Victor,
You are welcome…
Hi Victor,
You are welcome! Keep it here for more informative content!
Hi am from Nigeria I…
Hi am from Nigeria I maturbate not frequently but I want to stop how can I stop it I need help.
Hi Samuel,
The best way to…
Hi Samuel,
The best way to stop is to focus your attention on other things that bring you joy. This can be work, hanging out with friends, cooking, going swimming, long walks etc. This way, you will be distracting your body and mind from thinking about masturbation. You will also find other ways to get excited other than masturbation. This may be hard at first but with time, it will become easier if you keep focusing on the goal which is to stop masturbating. If you find it hard to stop on your own, get a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist who specializes in sexual health. They should give you professional help.
Any desease brought about…
Any desease brought about with masturbation
Hi Jemo,
No. Masturbation…
Hi Jemo,
No. Masturbation is not known to cause any disease.
I have been mustabating for…
I have been mustabating for a year and know I produce watery sperm which have some kind of colourless like substance that look like solid oil what could be the problem
Hi there,
I think you mean…
Hi there,
I think you mean semen? Semen is the thick fluid that comes from men’s penis when they ejaculate during sexual activity. Healthy semen is usually a cloudy-white or grey fluid with a jelly-like consistency. In case you have concerns about your consistency, visit a hospital for specialized advice and care.
Just to be clear, masturbation does not affect the type of semen produced.
I musterbate every 14 days…
I musterbate every 14 days it is normal?
Hi jack,
Totally normal…
Hi jack,
Totally normal. Interesting, do you have a schedule for this though? You seem to be very keen on having masturbation every 14 days. What’s the reason behind this?
Good advice
Good advice
Hi James,
I am glad you…
Hi James,
I am glad you learnt something new today! Keep it here for more!
I want to know how to…
I want to know how to masterbat
Hi Rankadah,
Ah, am I am…
Hi Rankadah,
Ah, am I am assuming that you want tips on how to masturbate? If yes, read this article to get tips: Top tips on how to masturbate for men and women
Av being masturbating for…
Av being masturbating for 8year and nowaday am trying to stop of which is working . If i do sex with my partner will she get pregnant
Hi John,
Yes, your partner…
Hi John,
Yes, your partner can still get pregnant. Masturbation does not cause infertility in either men or women! Unless there are other underlying issues affecting your fertility, you should be fine.
Is masturbation bad at…
Is masturbation bad at teenage?
Hi Mutharimi,
Masturbation…
Hi Mutharimi,
Masturbation is a healthy and pleasurable sexual act for people of all ages. Even as a teenager, it is a great way to explore your body and understand what turns you on.
I mastur bate daily and want…
I mastur bate daily and want to stop
Hi there,
If you want to…
Hi there,
If you want to stop masturbating, find something that helps to keep your mind so busy that you forget about masturbation. This could be work, school, hanging out with friends, something fun, working out, etc. Secondly, it is best to avoid things that make you want to masturbate. Triggers such as porn, music, or images, or certain things that tempt you to masturbate. Be keen on your habits and try to avoid them.
I’ve tried many times to…
I’ve tried many times to stop masturbating but I find myself doing it especially when am asleep,I usually do it then realize I did a mistake in the morning,please help me how I can stop this
Hi Mark,
If you want to…
Hi Mark,
If you want to stop masturbating, find something that helps to keep your mind so busy that you forget about masturbation. This could be work, school, hanging out with friends, something fun, working out, etc. Secondly, it is best to avoid things that make you want to masturbate. Triggers such as porn, music, or images, or certain things that tempt you to masturbate. Be keen on your habits and try to avoid them.
Please help me stop…
Please help me stop masturbating,during the I am able to stop masturbating but I cant control myself when I am asleep,I usually realize I did it in the morning….please help me
Hi Mark,
It is possible to…
Hi Mark,
It is possible to stop masturbating if you no longer want to do it. You seem quite aware of your patterns as you can already tell when you masturbate most. This is good. If you want to stop masturbating, find something that helps to keep your mind so busy that you forget about masturbation. This could be work, school, hanging out with friends, something fun, working out, etc. Secondly, it is best to avoid things that make you want to masturbate. Triggers such as porn, music, or images, or certain things that tempt you to masturbate. Be keen on your habits and try to avoid them.
Hey ? is there a way my…
Hey ? is there a way my penis can enlarge with no effect bcoz I can’t have sex ?
Hi Dominic,
Well, there…
Hi Dominic,
Well, there are many methods that are purported to increase penis size but most of them are either harmful or not effective. Your penis size should not affect how much pleasure you have from sex. Talk to your partner and explore what works for both of you when it comes to intimacy.