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Masturbation and sex

Almost everyone masturbates – it’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s just part of being a sexual person.

Living with a disability doesn’t mean you have to miss out on masturbation. It’s a great way to get to know your own body, find out what turns you on, and enjoy yourself. It’s safe and can help you find out what works for you. You don’t need a partner to experience sexual pleasure – and even if you’re in a relationship, there’s no reason not to masturbate.

It makes no difference whether you have a disability or not. Masturbation is something everyone can enjoy.
Whatever you’ve heard about masturbation, don’t worry: you will not become, skinny, weak, or mad from masturbating. It doesn’t give you a stomach ache or fever. It won’t affect your fertility. And there’s no age limit – most people masturbate, whether they’re very young or elderly. You can masturbate as often as you want, and for as long as you want. Nothing bad will happen.

It’s completely normal to fantasize when you masturbate, even if you think about something you wouldn’t consider doing in real life.

How to masturbate

If you can’t reach your penis or vagina with your hands, you can use toys to masturbate. There are vibrators with extra-long handles for that purpose. You can also try to masturbate without using your hands – you can try to rub yourself against a pillow or the mattress, for example.

Try to masturbate in a relaxed, private setting and give yourself lots of time. Look at some arousing pictures, use toys and plenty of lubrication, and don't beat yourself up if it doesn't work. If you’re in a relationship, you can have fun masturbating with your partner – ask them to give you a hand.

Things may not work out immediately. Patience may be the key, and if it isn't, have a chat with your healthcare provider – they made be able to help you.

If you can't get an erection or physically aroused, that is okay. There are plenty of body parts that can create sexual pleasure. However, do not hesitate to talk to your health care provider. It may have something to do with your condition or treatment, and your doctor will be able to discuss the options with you.

Privacy

It’s your right to be sexually active. But if you share a room with someone else and there’s not much privacy, it can be difficult to ask for it. Or perhaps your disability means you need some help to masturbate. You might have to talk to someone about it, and that’s not easy.

But be brave! Masturbation is normal, and there’s no reason you shouldn’t enjoy it. Look at it this way: whoever you talk to about it, you can be almost sure that they masturbate too. And if they can, why shouldn’t you?

Comments

Hey Stephen, Masturbation does not cause infertility in men or women. This is just a myth. As long as a man has healthy sexual organs, he keeps producing sperm, whether or not he masturbates. In fact, for guys who are trying to get their partner pregnant, it’s actually good to keep the semen flowing! Older sperm that has been hanging around in there for a few days are less likely to be in tip-top condition to fertilize the egg. Check out this article for additional information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/masturbation-myths-busted

Anonymous
Fri, 06/22/2018 - 16:58
How can I stop masturbation? I am very addicted to it every I time I find a chance I watch porn and then masturbate. How can I stop all this?

Hi There, a good place for you to start is by addressing the trigger or what is leading you to masturbating. While masturbation has no medical effect if one does it to the point they miss out on important tasks like work or school then it maybe important to think about it. In your case, it appears what triggers the masturbation is watching porn and perhaps how you choose to spend your leisure time. Try and avoid porn as much as possible  by filling up your free time with other productive and also fun activities this way you will be occupied with productive but also activities you love taking part in. You can also consider spending time with friends. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/i-am-addicted-to-porn-and-masturbation

Hey Evansavage, if one is solo masturbating there is no risk of getting a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI). However, if one is masturbating another person, or they are masturbating each other, if they come into contact with fluids like semen or vaginal fluids it may expose them to STIs if the either of them has an STI. Check out the following article for what is safe and what's not;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/safe-sex/sti-prevention/staying-safe

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