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How do I know if she loves me?

‘What signs should I look for to find out if a girl really loves me?’

It’s all about the way she behaves! You can’t ever really be sure about what people say, but their behaviour always tells you the truth.

Maybe you’re wondering whether a girl in your group is falling for you?

You’ll notice that she remembers what you say. And looks for excuses to talk to you, or text you. Often she’s the one who starts the conversation, perhaps for no apparent reason. And if you text, she replies quickly. She’s probably also stalking you on Facebook.

You keep ‘accidentally’ bumping into her, because she’s started hanging out wherever you usually go. Maybe she’s happy to leave her friends to be alone with you? When you’re together, she doesn’t mess with her phone. Her eyes are always on you, and she’s considerate towards you. Maybe giving you small gifts if you happened to mention you need something. She cancels plans to fit in with yours, is nicer to your friends, and tries her best to sit near you. Then you’re sort of dating already, without admitting it!

She probably seems a little nervous when she’s around you, and might seem a little jealous when you talk with your friends.

When you’re nearby, she probably starts playing with her clothes or hair. Sitting next to you, she moves closer to you and maybe lightly touch your hand or arm. She mirrors your movements, and use gestures or words you’ve used.

She smiles when there’s no good reason, and even laughs at your worst jokes.

All those behaviours will continue once you start dating. But pretty soon, she’ll also start wanting to talk about your relationship. She’ll want to be sure that your dating really means something, as opposed to just hanging out. She’ll want to know that you two are an item – and will make it clear she doesn’t want to see you with anyone else.

She’ll soon want to be spending a lot of time with you, doing ordinary everyday things. She wants to feel how life will be once you’re married. You’ll notice that she now cares a lot about you. Worrying if you’re ill, and wanting you to be comfortable and well fed.

Soon she’ll start talking about the future. Your plans. Hers. Money. Jobs. Your families. Children. Through that, she’s telling you she’s expecting a proposal! So don’t mess about. Make your mind up. And get down on your knees!

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  1. It’s true all what u have
    It’s true all what u have said

      1. Thank you Nathy for the…
        Thank you Nathy for the feedback.

        1. Hi Bravin, we are glad you…

          Hi Bravin, we are glad you agree with us!

  2. how about their sitting
    how about their sitting postures and dress code?

    1. Yes body language is a good
      Yes body language is a good way to tell as well.

  3. this iz true bt some men when
    this iz true bt some men when they see u do all dat they say u are begging fr their love or u a being desperate.

    1. People interpret things
      People interpret things differently that’s normal.

    1. I totally disagree with that…
      I totally disagree with that, I believe men should take the lead action first, we are to resiprocate

      1. Hey Chioma, we appreciate…

        Hey Chioma, we appreciate your opinion. However, in today’s society a woman can also make a move and some guys would like that.

  4. 2me kuwa na yeye, naame sima
    2me kuwa na yeye, naame sima phone,hasemi kile anataka,nifanye je?

    1. Akiwasha simu waweza jaribu
      Akiwasha simu waweza jaribu kumuuliza kile ambacho anataka.

  5. its very true on both sides.
    its very true on both sides.

    1. Thanks for your input.
      Thanks for your input.

  6. According to what I have read
    According to what I have read , surely I am not in love

    1. Thanks for sharing that with
      Thanks for sharing that with us.

  7. She hates seeing a y one
    She hates seeing a y one around me and she ever spreads rumours abt me having an affair wid every gal she sees me talk to wen ask her y instead she quarrelst me.we are nt related either bt only pray ttogether she reports every bad thing abt me t the elders.wat does this mean?I’m failing t understand wat t do abt it

  8. in love with ma girl but she
    in love with ma girl but she atimes keep quite for no reason

    1. Hi Kips,

      Hi Kips,

      Have you tried to talk about that with her? If not it would be a good way to solve the issue.

  9. Am in a relationship with a
    Am in a relationship with a guy ed i love him very much more 2 that he just calls me 4 sex please iz dhat real love

    1. Hi,


      Sex is an important part of a relationship but its not the measure of love. If you think he’s not genuine you need to start thinking if that.s the kind of relationship you want to be in.

      Read more about love here .

  10. my guy ask my frind 4
    my guy ask my frind 4 relationship either he or my frind tel me about it,wen i found out he say dat he want 2 test me if i truly luv him,bt i did nt believe him.what should i do???

    1. Hi,


      You just need to take time and think about the situation.If you know your partner well and have had a close, long-term relationship, you can often tell when something’s not right. You might notice that they’ve begun spending a lot more time at work, they have less time for you and your family, start taking calls in private, and seem less committed to doing things with you. Maybe they’re paying attention to their looks, and they appear confused and detached. When you ask them if anything’s wrong, they shrug off your question.
      Whether you want to stay with your partner depends on a number of things. Is your partner willing to go on? If they are, what will it take for them to regain your trust? Will your trust in them ever be restored? How can you start rebuilding your relationship? The answers may not be simple, but give these questions some thought and it might help you decide on the right path to take.

  11. Kuna guy amekuwa akinikatia
    Kuna guy amekuwa akinikatia for long nkampea chance tukaanza kuongea den tukapush now ntajua ajey ju uwa hapigi SMU saana isipokuw chat pekee

    1. Hi Zyat,

      Hi Zyat,
      Kila MTU kuna ile mode of communication yenye yeye hupenda. Labda yeye anapenda kuchat. Lakini nipoa mkibonga hii story na yeye ndio mpate kuelewana.

  12. I have read your advice en I
    I have read your advice en I have realized there is my workmate who does all those things to me en when she realise am talkn to any lady she becomes so mad with me……..she is married en an not how can I avoid this things alweiz huwa ananibuyie even presents like my last birthday she bought me new phone infinix hot 3. An confused plz advice

    1. (No subject)
      Hi Mark,

      She could in love with you. If you are not interested you will nee to let he know clearly but firmly. Try not to send mixed messages for instance when you accept gifts from her that have attachments. You also need to expect a negative reaction reaction but this should not make you waver or change your mind. Check out the following article for more tips:-

  13. I agree with all you have…
    I agree with all you have said.

    1. Thank you Andy for the…
      Thank you Andy for the feedback.

  14. She doesn’t text me anymore…
    She doesn’t text me anymore…I start all our conversations and when I ask her she’s that she’s busy with school and work

    1. Hi David, Communication is…
      Hi David, Communication is an essential part of any relationship, communication has to be too way. If there is inadequate communication between partners they may begin to grow apart. Perhaps you need to find if she is still interested in the relationship, then together you can agree how to make the communication work which may include agreeing on specific times to communicate among others.

    1. Thank you Fred for the…
      Thank you Fred for the feedback.

  15. That is true.actions speaks…
    That is true.actions speaks shangazi I am in a long distance relationship how can I manage it as I love my dea a lot. So far we have met three times and much talk is through calls and texts.our relationship is now turning eight months.early this month she has joined collage very far from personally am hustling..can our relationship move on despite the ‘prone environment in campus’..a

  16. Kuna dem napenda yeye huzima…
    Kuna dem napenda yeye huzima simu mostly on weekend alafu anasema ati ni Stima ilikua na shinda ama anafungulia nkienda kumpigia nazima hapo kuna shinda ama

    1. Ni ngumu kujua kama kuna…
      Ni ngumu kujua kama kuna shida ama nini inaendelea lakini ni vizuri uimwambie vile wewe ufikiri akizima simu kila wikendi. Ni vizuri a jue vile unafikiri ndio kama kuna jambo la kutatua muonge alafu pamoja mpate suluhisho.

    1. Thank you for the feedback…
      Thank you for the feedback Slim.

  17. Very true, action speaks…
    Very true, action speaks louder than words.

    1. Thank you for your…
      Thank you for your contribution.

    1. We appreciate the feedback…
      We appreciate the feedback Antoh.

    1. Thank you for your…
      Thank you for your contribution Momo.

  18. I like this page and would…
    I like this page and would like to be party to the same

    1. You are welcome to Love…
      You are welcome to Love Matters Africa Edward.

  19. She starts smiling when she…
    She starts smiling when she sees you and stares at you most of the times

    1. Thank you for your…
      Thank you for your contribution Stephen.

  20. If she dont want to talk…
    If she dont want to talk with u but sometime she can call u imedietly she hang up

    1. Thank you for your…
      Thank you for your contribution.

  21. And what if you’re always…
    And what if you’re always the one texting or calling first.

  22. sema uongo .. she ‘ll try to…
    sema uongo .. she ‘ll try to hide ..hahaha .. this is too much from a woman

  23. Eddy, we appreciate you…
    Eddy, we appreciate you contribution. Some of these behaviors just happen they are not planned by a lady who is in love. Do check and you just might see it happening around you.

  24. owesome we men fail take…
    owesome we men fail take satisfactory

  25. Geff and Julie, thank you…
    Geff and Julie, thank you for your contributions.

  26. I like this that’s so much…
    I like this that’s so much great

  27. waoooh that true I have been…
    waoooh that true I have been witching my lovers behavior and they are exactily am very happy.

  28. I pray for the grace of God
    I pray for the grace of God

    1. We wish you well, Chidinma.

      We wish you well, Chidinma.

  29. But not the girls of nowadays
    But not the girls of nowadays

    1. Hello Chinenye, this is till…

      Hello Chinenye, this is till happens. We however, appreciate your contribution.

    1. Thank you for the feedback. 

      Thank you for the feedback. 

  30. I love a girl nd i dont know…
    I love a girl nd i dont know whether she luvs me to hw do i ask het

  31. Its all true coz it has…
    Its all true coz it has happened to me bfor nd i ignore her later regretin it nw

    1. Hey Gold, we hope that this…

      Hey Gold, we hope that this article was an eye opener to you and you will make better choices in future. We wish you all the best. 

    1. Hey Alimat, welcome to Love…

      Hey Alimat, welcome to Love Matters Africa.

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