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5 inches: the ideal penis size?

By Chris Hart Wednesday, October 17, 2018 - 06:00
They say that a good dick should be more than 5 inches long. Is it regarding erect or non-erect penises? And: does longer mean better?

What is 'normal'?

There are a whole lot of misunderstandings about penis size. Mostly that’s because what’s ‘normal’ covers a very wide spectrum, and average lengths and widths are actually quite a lot smaller than most people imagine.

Marketing scams

You also have to be careful where you go looking for information. For example, there are loads of websites out there which have an interest in convincing you that your penis is below average! After which they’ll start trying to persuade you to buy penis enlargement treatments. Everything from pills and vacuum pumps to penis extenders. Which don’t work, by the way.

In fact, reputable studies show that the average length of an erect penis is just over five inches. And a non-erect (flaccid) penis averages just over three and a half inches in length.

International averages

And those figures may, in fact, be slightly higher than they should be because maybe it’s only the bigger guys who are willing to be measured! Those averages probably also vary a little internationally, but not significantly. I can’t say for sure how much, because there haven’t been any reliable surveys that cover the whole globe.

So the simple answer to your question is that an erect penis that’s more than about 5 inches long is bigger than average.

But it’s also worth noting that over 45 per cent of men wish that their penis was larger. While only 15 per cent of women say that size matters. Which suggests that men really shouldn’t worry.

Porn makes men worry

Why are men so worried about penis size? You can mostly blame the porn industry for that. Porn movies almost always show men with abnormally large penises. They also choose camera angles to make them look even bigger. The sex in porn movies is also a lot more energetic than in real life. And gives the impression that a huge penis is necessary to give a woman pleasure.

But actually, only a small fraction of a woman’s pleasure during lovemaking comes from the feeling of having a man’s penis inside her vagina.

Making love well actually involves both partner’s entire bodies – and especially their minds.

Why am I saying all this? Because it’s important not to get hung up on size. So when the time for lovemaking approaches, relax! By all means, go online to check out sex positions that make the best of what you’ve got. But chances are that the size of your penis won’t matter at all!


Are you hung up on size? Share your concerns and thoughts below, on Facebook (LM Africa and Naija), or our discussion forum.

Comments
Dear Christopher, It is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue. The average refractory period should be about 30 minutes. Try relaxing after an ejaculation, the pressure of wanting to get it up can get in the way of actually getting up.
I have no problems with size but I cum before my wife most of the time it takes me 2 minutes and I can feel the frustration sometimes. I have tried different things and foods but they are not working. Any ideas to a reliable solution? Thank you.

Hi Edu, what you seem to be experiencing is know as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make a person ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Have a loom at the following article for more tips to better control your ejaculation;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/sex-problems-how-to-overcome-them/how-to-overcome-premature-ejaculation

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