Big penis: is that what women want?
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Big penis: is that what women want?

‘Is my penis big enough?’ It’s a question every man asks himself at some point. Research sounds like bad news for smaller guys: it found that women like their men tall, manly, and well-endowed.

But shouldn’t we believe that technique is more important? That penis girth trumps length? That personality is what matters most? One thing is clear: men care about the whole penis size thing more than women do.

Women find tall men with a V-shaped body and a large penis attractive, a recent Australian study claims. The study showed flaccid penises up to 13cm long to women – but as far as the women were concerned they could have been longer. ‘Our curve wasn’t going down at 13 centimetres so we did not reach the most attractiveness in terms of size,’ said one of the researchers.

But only Australian women were asked. Can we really generalise Australian taste to everyone else’s? What’s more, the computer animations the women rated were faceless, skinless, hairless dummies based on Caucasian build. What if you factor in some beautiful eyes and gorgeous wavy hair? Is a penis really that important when it comes to rating how sexy a man is?

Length, girth, or both?

Croatian study took a different approach and just asked women how much they prioritised a big penis. The result will be more encouraging for men, and probably less surprising for women. More than half of the women asked said they find penis length and girth only somewhat important. Just 18 per cent of the women found a long schlong to be very important.

But there’s a snag. It seems to be difficult to ask women directly what they like in terms of penis sizes.

Instead of blurting out what she really thinks, a woman may say that penis size doesn’t matter to her. She censors herself.

This is why the Australian authors say their study is different. They didn’t ask the women directly what they liked in terms of penis size. Instead, the ladies had to rate life-sized animations. They say that this gives a better idea of what women really like.

Related: What Do Women Like In A Penis?

Flaccid or erect?

Another question that comes to mind when reading the Australian study is why the ladies had to rate flaccid penises. Those of us who have seen a penis go from soft to hard know that the flaccid size says very little about what the penis will look like once it is erect. So when measuring sexual attractiveness, should we be looking at flaccid or erect penises? Which one is more of a turn-on to women?

And one more thing: cave-people may have strolled around the fire in the buff, but how many women today actually see their potential partner’s sex organs before making a move?

It’s not all about the penis though, the Australian study found. The most attractive men are those with the full package: large penis, tall, and a sporty V-shape.

Satisfaction!

Let’s talk about more than just looks – does a big penis mean more satisfaction between the sheets? It shouldn’t, according to several studies. The vagina can adapt to all kinds of penis shapes, so length and girth shouldn’t influence satisfaction at all. But then, a wider penis could stimulate the clitoris more effectively, another US study suggests.

In this study, 90 per cent of the ladies preferred girth to length because it felt better to them. But then, this perception of pleasure could be different from actual physical arousal and satisfaction. So no real conclusions in the satisfaction category, either…

It’s all in the mind

There does seem to be hard evidence for one thing though: men find penis size much more important than women do. Several studies have looked into this. One of the largest, again a US study, found that 85 per cent of women are satisfied with their partner’s penis size, while only 55 per cent of the men are happy with their willies.

Where does this insecurity come from? The media, and porn materials particularly, seem to hammer the message that a huge penis equals more manliness into men’s heads. And the women’s exaggerated responses in porn movies don’t help.

Because this seems to be causing insecurity in some men, there is a huge market for penis-enlarging products – despite the fact that they don’t actually work.

So, does size matter? Yes, it does. To men. Women seem to be much more relaxed and open when it comes to their partner’s penis size.

 

What about you? Does size matter? Leave a comment below or join our discussion on Facebook.

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Recent Comments (154)

  1. IS A CURVED PENIS SEEMS TO BE
    IS A CURVED PENIS SEEMS TO BE MORE GOOD THAN THE STRAIGHT PENIS DURING SEX

    1. Hi Josphat, no pens is better
      Hi Josphat, no pens is better than another for sex. It’s all about how you use it. And keep in mind that most women organs more easily through clitoral stimulation anyway.

  2. what about these short guys
    what about these short guys wth tall pennis??

    1. Hi Albert,
      what about them?

      Hi Albert,
      what about them?

  3. how long should anormal man
    how long should anormal man takewhen fucking before ejaculation in second round?

    1. Hi Dan,

      Hi Dan,
      that really depends. Anything is fine. And please, don’t go for speed. Quality is better than quantity, especially when it comes to sex.

      1. To mean size of the pennis…
        To mean size of the pennis doesn’t matter

        1. Hi there, 

          Yes, to women…

          Hi there, 

          Yes, to women since they seem to be much more relaxed and open about their partner’s penis size. Women don’t often equate pleasure to penis size. Size seems to matter to men though. 

  4. Thank you for making this
    Thank you for making this clear.No more worry though.

    1. Hi Winnie,

      Hi Winnie,
      you are very welcome!

    1. You are most welcome, John.
      You are most welcome, John.

  5. it is all in the mind, learn
    it is all in the mind, learn to prepare to achieve quality.

  6. how to make mine to be big
    how to make mine to be big

  7. the size of the pennis
    the size of the pennis dertermines the quality of love making.

    1. Big myth there, Martin! Penis
      Big myth there, Martin! Penis size has very little to do with how good the sex will be.

  8. Ok in d 1st round wen makg
    Ok in d 1st round wen makg luv, wat is actualy proper tym 4 som1 to ejaculate 4 som1 who is healthy well.

    1. Hi Ali,

      Hi Ali,
      somewhere between 5 and 15 minutes. But that’s just a general number, some men will take longer, others will ejaculate faster. It really depends on many factors, how much foreplay, how much experience, when he had sex for the last time, is he stressed, is he wearing a condom, and so on.

  9. Am a boy of 18yrs,am datin a
    Am a boy of 18yrs,am datin a gal who dnt wont 2 visit me @ ma house bt she wan me 2 visit her,ma problem x dat, whn i try 2 kiss her or ve sex wif her,she refuse it,help me

  10. Plz am datin a gal 4 abt 1yr
    Plz am datin a gal 4 abt 1yr on fbook,i always talk 2 her or txt her on fone bt she sty @ accra n am @ ksi,plz wat shld i do 2 knw dat she really luv me 4m her hrt,plz gv me idea

  11. masterbating can damage you
    masterbating can damage you from getting children

  12. To Me it does matter coz it
    To Me it does matter coz it creat a sense of true indentity of what u are made of.

    1. Thanks for sharing, Michael!
      Thanks for sharing, Michael!

  13. Wat matters the most to mi is
    Wat matters the most to mi is sartisfaction no matter the size

  14. Luv s nt sex n sex s nt luv..
    Luv s nt sex n sex s nt luv…pple shud get dat pretty well…

    1. That’s true, but they can be
      That’s true, but they can be related.

  15. What if u penis does nt erect
    What if u penis does nt erect?

    1. when does it not erect?
      when does it not erect?

  16. I was with with mi boyfriend
    I was with with mi boyfriend for two years then he decided to leave for work in SA in 2011.we have been communicating ever since .but da problem comes whenever i try to talk about ourlove he tells me just be patient &whenever i try to send some pictures

  17. Size doesn’t matter as long
    Size doesn’t matter as long as the owner knows how to rock me I’m fine because those huge ones I won’t enjoy but get tears n pain instead of me enjoying sex but it musnt be small to a point of I can’t feel it in me

    1. Those are great points, thank
      Those are great points, thank you!

  18. I was with with mi boyfriend
    I was with with mi boyfriend for two years then he decided to leave for work in SA in 2011.we have been communicating ever since .but da problem comes whenever i try to talk about ourlove he tells me just be patient &whenever i try to send some pictures (nude) he tellsme he hates that .i feel i love him & miss him but all his ways suggests he does understand mi situation.he even smtyms blocks on phone

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,
      first of all, not everybody enjoys nude pictures, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you.
      Maybe you should just be patient?
      Try to talk about your fears with him and see what he says!

  19. why z it that some men take
    why z it that some men take short time to ejaculate for the first round and vice versa happens in the others.and you may end up not ejaculating in round two

    1. Itz lyk normal but round 2 u
      Itz lyk normal but round 2 u l ask any kind o4 drinkz

    2. Hi Sam,

      Hi Sam,
      This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

  20. Why does some ladies refuse
    Why does some ladies refuse to be touched on clitories during foreplay?

    1. We don’t know. You should ask
      We don’t know. You should ask the ladies.
      Remember, the clitoris is super sensitive, so maybe you aren’t gentle enough?

  21. I thnk te size doesn’t matter
    I thnk te size doesn’t matter at all..,it ‘ll depend hw he uses it so long as satisfaction

  22. My girl friend complains more
    My girl friend complains more when i fuck her more without ejaculating,pliz help me 2 be ejaculating faster.

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,
      try to have more and longer foreplay. The more aroused you are, the faster you will be able to have an orgasm!

  23. A situation whereby a man
    A situation whereby a man would make love to a woman only one round and then he goes flat(cant errect)and feels no urge for it again at that time.What do you think is wrong with the guy?

    1. Hi Bra,

      Hi Bra,
      nothing.
      This is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

  24. i met a girl whom i
    i met a girl whom i befriended and finally we fell in love but any time i call her or she calls me,there’s nothing she speaks apart from asking me for money.Is this lady up to love really?

    1. Frederick,

      Frederick,
      it doesn’t really sound like true love, now, does it? What is your feeling?

  25. I think its all in the mind
    I think its all in the mind

    1. Thanks for your input!
      Thanks for your input!

  26. Pls It It Bad For A Man Go
    Pls It It Bad For A Man Go Only One Round

    1. Hi Maxwell,

      Hi Maxwell,
      no, that’s fine. Quality is much better than quantity!
      Also, it is completely normal for men to have what is called a refractory period, where it cannot get hard after ejaculation. Honestly, your body is just telling you that it needs some time. There is no real way to change it or make it happen less, so just try to work with your body. If you are really hoping to have more sex, then take the time to recharge and focus on your partner. This is a good time to focus on them and give them pleasure. You will become hard again in no time and continue.

  27. Pls It It Bad For A Man Go
    Pls It It Bad For A Man Go Only One Round

  28. God is very perfect, never
    God is very perfect, never try to rectify His good work coz we are fearfully n wonderfully made. He had a good purpose for u with such an organ.

    1. Thanks for your input, John.
      Thanks for your input, John.

  29. how many rounds does a man
    how many rounds does a man need to go to satisfy a woman in a night?

    1. Hi John,

      Hi John,
      it isn’t a matter of one, two or five rounds. What matters is that the man knows where a woman’s clitoris is, and what to do with it. You see, the in-and-out movement of intercourse doesn’t do anything for the clitoris. You need to use your hands, or mouth, or something else to stimulate the clitoris to satisfy a woman.

  30. How can lady stimulate a man
    How can lady stimulate a man

    1. Hi Ram,

      Hi Ram,
      by asking him what he wants. Sex is about communication, and without people saying what they want and need, sex will not be amazing.

  31. does a lady feel satisfied
    does a lady feel satisfied when the man use a condom while having sex?

    1. Hi Kirui,

      Hi Kirui,
      yes, absolutely.
      Especially because real satisfaction in a woman comes from stimulating the clitoris, and that has nothing to do with a condom.

  32. Hi,am 26yrs en ave neva
    Hi,am 26yrs en ave neva experiencd the orgasm i dnt ejuculate at all.i feel so incomplete wen pepo say wat thy feel after making love…am i okey en wat can i do pliz advise me…

    1. Hi Lucy,

      Hi Lucy,
      do you know where your clitoris is and how to stimulate it in order to get aroused? If not, check out this section to start with. http://lovematters.co.ke/resource/vulva
      The clitoris is a woman’s real hot spot, and most women can’t have an orgasm without stimulation of it.
      try it and see if it works!
      Good luck!

  33. I need a grlfrnd can u
    I need a grlfrnd can u connect me to one

    1. Hi Toel, sorry, we can’t help
      Hi Toel, sorry, we can’t help with that!

  34. My hubby hax a big penis bt
    My hubby hax a big penis bt doexnt xatisfy me,y?

    1. Hi Sharon,

      Hi Sharon,
      probably because you haven’t told him what satisfies you. Chances are that you might not even know.
      Good sex is about communication. Show him what arouses you- he can’t just magically know what does.

  35. does the rounds matter to her
    does the rounds matter to her or even one is satisfactory.And how many rounds can a man make? second is it okay after ejaculaton your penis remains erect and. you go on with the game to second ejaculatio?

  36. Hi! I have a galfriend who
    Hi! I have a galfriend who was my student 5 years ago. I suggested our relationship this year when I got her on Facebook early this year and she accepted. The problem is that in both our chats and calls, she’s not romantic. She rarely uses romantic words. I asked her why and she told me that it’s because am her teacher. We stay far from each other , working. I feel being cheated. Pls help.

    1. Hi Barry,

      Hi Barry,
      she needs time to adjust from the student role to a lover role.
      Is there any chance you can meet at some point and live out your relationship in person? That might help her accept the difference.

  37. i have a problem when i want
    i have a problem when i want to make love 2 any woman ma penis doesn’t erect hard what might be the issue

    1. Hi Ramah,

      Hi Ramah,
      what exactly do you mean by not erecting hard?

  38. is there any problem when u
    is there any problem when u are making love within one mint d sperm is out

    1. Hi Alex,

      Hi Alex,
      It sounds like you are coming earlier than you would like, this often happens to young men who don’t have a lot of sexual experience because they get very aroused very easily. With more sexually experienced men, it might be due to psychological problems, like fear, stress or depression.
      Generally though go slow, enjoy the buildup of touching and caressing each other. Make time for oral sex during your physical interactions. Take time focusing on your partner as well as yourself. Communicate together about what feels nice, what doesn’t and what you would like to try together. Experiment, explore and try new things!
      Make sure to use lots of lube and switch up the fun. Even if you do orgasm you can take some time to have oral sex with your partner until your body is ready to go again. Change positions and mix it up.
      Some people say condoms help them last longer, while others may use cock rings (just make sure it is the right size and not too tight!).
      Generally just remember that sex is more than just penetration and there are lots of ways to enjoy each other.
      If you are finding that you really cannot maintain an erection then it might be time to see a doctor. There are some medical conditions that can affect your performance but would need to be looked by a professional.
      You can also keep masturbating, however challenge yourself to last longer. Go slow, feel the way your body changes when you are getting closer to climax. Tease yourself, find tricks that help you delay the finish.

  39. during sex period sme girls
    during sex period sme girls dnt really go straight 2 de point unless dey suck ur penis so wt z da reason bhnd dat?

    1. Hi there,

      Hi there,
      what do you mean by them not getting straight to the point?

  40. i am short(height) and i dont
    i am short(height) and i dont know if my penis is the right size but my partner cums every time we have sex, some times we go several times, this makes me feel great about me

    1. Hi Tedd,

      Hi Tedd,

      It is a huge myth that size matters. First of all good sex is a mixture of chemistry, movement and bodies you cannot just be great at sex because one of these things is there- you really need to meet the other person on multiple levels. Also everyone’s bodies are different. Penises vary in size as do vagina. What might be small for one person is large for another- its all relative. So there is no one magical shaped or sized penis for every person out there.

      Check out some of these articles to to learn more about penis size:

      http://lovematters.co.ke/news/small-penis-its-all-mind

      https://lovematters.co.ke/resource/penis-shapes-and-sizes#section-1

      http://lovematters.co.ke/news/penis-top-five-facts

    1. Thanks for sharing your
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

  41. what is the reason for a
    what is the reason for a penis to b curved?

    1. Hi Patt,

      Hi Patt,
      there is no real reason for this, other than it’s a variation of nature.

  42. Huhuuuuu….its jxt amazing
    Huhuuuuu….its jxt amazing to read thru all the replies from love matters. For me size n shape does not matter. Wat really matters btwn me n my partner is our love n feelings towards one another.

    1. Glad to hear you like our
      Glad to hear you like our replies, and thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  43. can u do dock style with a
    can u do dock style with a small dick

    1. Do you mean doggie? Yeah,
      Do you mean doggie? Yeah, sure!

  44. God is our creator. I thank
    God is our creator. I thank Him the way He created me. am trusting God with every part of m body. am satisfied with my cable.

    1. As the article says, it’s not
      As the article says, it’s not about the size. It’s about communicating with your partner and knowing where the clitoris is.

  45. Do we have different sizes of
    Do we have different sizes of vaginas as it is in the case of penises

    1. Fredrick,

      Fredrick,
      yes, absolutely. No two vaginas are the same- the vary in shapes and sizes, just like penises do.

  46. ofcouse no one want a
    ofcouse no one want a toothpick. good girth and medium length, about 13-16 cm is da best. i bet!

    1. Toss some women do not mind
      Toss some women do not mind the tooth pick as you call it. Different women prefer different sizes.

  47. I think in all honesty, many
    I think in all honesty, many women lie about this particular topic. They say what they think you want to hear or so they won’t be criticized or labeled. Put it this way, for all those women claiming size isn’t an issue or length isn’t, why are there so many long, wide, thick however u put it, dildos & vibrators specifically made for women’s pleasure out there?? So all this bs talk from those who say its not the size being important to them isnt being honest with themselves or their man (if not single)

    1. Dewane, all women are not the
      Dewane, all women are not the same and they prefer different sizes. And just for clarification even dlidos are made in different size, not just big ones.

  48. thanks for my thick n long
    thanks for my thick n long penis.

  49. remember its not hpw long it
    remember its not hpw long it is its how long it lasts

    1. Thank you Nora for your input
      Thank you Nora for your input.

  50. kissing a guy wid hiv can
    kissing a guy wid hiv can infect me

    1. Hi Sash, one can only be
      Hi Sash, one can only be infected by HIV through kissing if both partners have open wounds or sours in the mouth, and even then the chances are still very minimal .

  51. mmh!!.. this is amazing ..
    mmh!!.. this is amazing …does also the size of testicles matter i. sexual relationship .. please answer!!
    ad if yes how?? (small or big)

    1. Elijah,

      Elijah,
      The size of the testicles do not matter during sex.

  52. I only go one round then
    I only go one round then fail to erect totally. what could be the problem with this

  53. hi..what about those whose
    hi..what about those whose clits have been removed..how else can the penis arouse..help

    1. Rheno Penetrating creates
      Rheno Penetrating creates good sensation most of the time so one could maximise on that, and possible also ask her what makes her tick.

  54. my penis is so long and am
    my penis is so long and am not happy with it… wat shld i do

  55. I have been having sex now
    I have been having sex now for 6 years and have laid 12 ladies. Each time I take on any of the they always cry untill tears come out. Have asked some of them and always say they don’t even know why. My Penis ain’t that big but I go two ✌ rounds continuously without stopping. All of this ladies I have broken up with them and at the moment they are in relationship, but they always look for me for sex. Is this really normal?

    1. Hi Kovic you have to be
      Hi Kovic you have to be really good in bed for then to come back for sex even when they are in other relationships. and yes being good in bed is normal and a very good thing for any man.

  56. I hav bin musterbing past 9
    I hav bin musterbing past 9 yrs.can that cos harm 2 my reprodudctn systm?

  57. is it that the clitoris is
    is it that the clitoris is located at different points in different women?

  58. Does penis enlargement affect
    Does penis enlargement affect in future or does it ve any side mmdkg

  59. hi,my hubby haz small penis
    hi,my hubby haz small penis bt wen he erect it’s bcms big n hard i do enjoy n satisfied so sizes dnt matas!

  60. Actually,size is matters and
    Actually,size is matters and more effective to my patners enough

  61. Thanks alot for the lesson,…
    Thanks alot for the lesson, of course the size matters but with some tequenics

  62. size does not matter it…
    size does not matter it depends on how physical fit you are

  63. size does not matter it…
    size does not matter it depends on how physical fit you are

  64. Size does matter sometimes…
    Size does matter sometimes but not most of the time. I have average size and had no complaints but when having threesome and helper is larger she moans more and cums allot but still wants mine too. so like I said sometimes it matters and most of the time it doesn’t. Just have fun and be confident. confidence speaks volumes.

  65. (No subject)
    Thank you John for sharing your thoughts and experience with us.

  66. One lady said she would…
    One lady said she would rather go for a big penis than a small size, to me I would say some women also consider it

    1. Hey Ali, indeed, everyone…

      Hey Ali, indeed, everyone has their own preference. More importantly having a bigger penis does not make one a better lover, knowing what their partner wants and likes however, does. Thank you for your contribution.

  67. It depends on how u prepare…
    It depends on how u prepare one another.some women r even satisfied by only licking their pussy.ask uaself how long in centimeters is a tongue?

    1. Thank you Peter, we…

      Thank you Peter, we appreciate your contribution.

  68. I always cum within 1mins in…
    I always cum within 1mins in my first round BT takes a long time of about 15-20 mins during 2nd round. Is d 1st normal or not

  69. Wow… So in love with this…
    Wow… So in love with this page

    1. You are welcome to Love…

      You are welcome to Love Matters Africa Kats. 

  70. How can I make my penis abit…
    How can I make my penis abit longer

    1. Hey Kioko, unfortunately…

      Hey Kioko, unfortunately there is little you can do to increase your penis size. A bigger or longer penis doesn’t make one a better lover, and it doesn’t mean they’ll have better sex. You will discover girls or women find foreplay, affection and relationship satisfaction as important as their partner’s penis size. Check out this article for more information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/can-i-make-my-penis-bigger

    1. Hi Kigen, thank you for your…

      Hi Kigen, thank you for your feeback.

  71. Lesson learnt carefully…
    Lesson learnt carefully….thanx love matters

    1. Hello Eddie, thank you so…

      Hello Eddie, thank you so much for your feedback buddy and we are so glad to be able to provide you information that can help you make informed decisions. We will continue to do our best to continue doing so, have a wonderful week ahead and stay safe.

  72. What matters is how u…
    What matters is how u prepare UA partner ,don’t also over drive it may bear natty taste

    1. Hi Pato, indeed foreplay…

      Hi Pato, indeed foreplay plays a part in ensuring your partner is well lubricated. However, some women have issues getting wet and could need to see a medical practitioner for a proper diagnosis.

  73. Thanks indeed for the…
    Thanks indeed for the knowledge

    1. Hello Tom, thank you so much…

      Hello Tom, thank you so much for your feedback we appreciate it.

    1. Hi there, 

      Do you have a…

      Hi there, 

      Do you have a question you’d like us to answer? Go ahead, ask, we are here to answer!

  74. my dick the biggest in the…
    my dick the biggest in the world

    1. Hi Richard, 

      Good to know!…

      Hi Richard, 

      Good to know! How long is it though?

  75. How can a young man stop…
    How can a young man stop erectile disfunction after the first ejaculation

    1. Hi Carl, 

      First, this is…

      Hi Carl, 

      First, this is not erectile dysfunction, it is called the refractory period, this is the time between an orgasm and when you feel ready to be sexually aroused again. It is common and totally normal not to achieve an erection immediately after ejaculating. For some people, erections come after some minutes but for others, they take a bit longer. Factors that affect this include overall health, libido, and diet. 

  76. The way you do “it” matter…
    The way you do “it” matter not sizes

    1. That’s true Carasco! You can…

      That’s true Carasco! You can always find creative way to make most of what you have. 

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