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How do I masturbate my girlfriend?

My girlfriend wants me to masturbate her to orgasm. How do I do that? This happens to be a question that Valentine loves to answer!

What a great question! And I love your attitude – she wants it done, you don’t know how, and you are asking questions.

Ask her

She is the best person to ask. She has had her body for years and if she is making this request, it’s safe to assume that she has already successfully masturbated to orgasm. Each woman’s body responds differently and she is your best coach.

Instead of asking for instructions, I suggest a combination of her demonstrating what she does when she is flying solo and giving you directions when you take the reins.

Just in case she is too shy, or you do not want to ask for directions in the heat of the moment, here are some ideas on where to start:

  1. The clitoris (also called the little man in the boat)
    Run your finger between her labia and down toward the entrance of her vagina. You should feel a little button along the way as your partner gets turned on, it will get hard and the hood that covers it will recede. Lick it, flick it, touch it lightly, or gently roll your forefinger around it… let her moans tell you what works.
     
  2. U-spot
    So the point where a woman urinates from is surrounded by erectile tissue, just above it and on either side. The U-spot’s erotic potential is well known to our Ugandan neighbours. Their men are taught how to gently caress it with the tip of their penises.
    They call it kakyabali [pronounced kah-chah-vah-li].
     
  3. A-spot
    This is the equivalent of the male prostate and is situated at the very end of the vaginal canal, near the cervix. Direct stimulation of this spot with your fingers can produce violent orgasmic contractions.

Good luck and congratulations on this great new addition to your sex life!
 

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  1. 1. what are the benefits of
    1. what are the benefits of masturbation???
    2. does it have side effects??

    1. 1. relaxation, satisfaction,
      1. relaxation, satisfaction, stress relief, getting to know your body,…
      2. the same as with sex

    2. If gets to a point of…
      If gets to a point of addiction, it’s very, I repeat very hard to vacate from the behavior,.my advice, it’s addictive and you can end up tearing your tissues trying to pressured yourself to have the best feeling, I mean after getting used

      1. Thank you for sharing with…

        Thank you for sharing with us Markfield.

  2. my gf cries alot after the
    my gf cries alot after the second round wat could b the prob

    1. Ask her!

      Ask her!
      We can’t tell you- only she can!

      1. You must have hurt her…
        You must have hurt her during the first round,leaving her with bruises….. It hurts alot

    2. Maybe she’s seeing someone…
      Maybe she’s seeing someone else

  3. sme ladies take long 2 get
    sme ladies take long 2 get heated up en others heat up vry fast y? en i hear family planning also affects z t true?

    1. Not really. It really depends
      Not really. It really depends on the woman.

  4. My wife missed her mp will it
    My wife missed her mp will it b pregnancy? Our baby isjust9 months we don’t wish to hav a baby tufanyaje

    1. Has she had any since she had
      Has she had any since she had your last baby?
      It would be best to take a pregnancy test, to see what is going on.

  5. is there any benefit for men?
    is there any benefit for men???

    1. Making his partner happy!

      Making his partner happy!
      And, mutual masturbation can be very satisfying and fun!

  6. i fail in love with a guy but
    i fail in love with a guy but i found from my friends that the guy preganted alady back home ,when i asked him he say it z true am confuse .plz help me

    1. Joy,

      Joy,
      What is it that’s confusing you? He got another girl pregnant and is honest about this. Did he get her pregnant while you were in a relationship?

  7. I huv agal that i love so
    I huv agal that i love so much but she didn’t love me, what can i do?

    1. Sorry Ken, but if she doesn’t
      Sorry Ken, but if she doesn’t love you, there really isn’t much you can do to win her over. Be friends, be nice, be honest and trustworthy, but that’s about it!

    1. Nope, no hook-ups, sorry!
      Nope, no hook-ups, sorry!

  8. “dnt ever try 2 cheat pple
    “dnt ever try 2 cheat pple that wanking is safe” nothing lik that, wanking has alot of side effect n it ll ended by death!

    1. Enlighten us on the side
      Enlighten us on the side effects causing death 🙂

    2. Ummm, I don’t think
      Ummm, I don’t think masturbating can cause death. I’ve masturbated regularly for years and I really can’t say my health has been deteriorating. On the contrary, I’ve been growing healthier.

  9. “dnt ever try 2 cheat pple
    “dnt ever try 2 cheat pple that wanking is safe” nothing lik that, wanking has alot of side effect n it ll ended by death!

    1. We are curious- what are the
      We are curious- what are the side effects that cause death?

  10. I have a girl friend she
    I have a girl friend she needs me all the time and tells me to come near to her heart, but when I approach her I am nothing from her side, what should I do.

    1. Talk to her. Tell her that
      Talk to her. Tell her that you are confused about her reactions and see if you can come to a solution together.

  11. when with wife i don’t feel
    when with wife i don’t feel lyk having s*x, when i see other chicks i admire n even erect. i lov her n she lov mi too n i don’t want to disapoint her. pls advice!

    1. Are you satisfied with your
      Are you satisfied with your sex life? Doesn’t sound like it, so we suggest you sit down with your wife and see what it is both of you are lacking. It’s normal that after some time, sex takes less of a priority, but you need to work on keeping it interesting.

  12. is true that pple who
    is true that pple who musterbate give birth to abnormal kids

    1. If that was true, there would
      If that was true, there would be very few healthy children in the world. Huge myth, thankfully.
      Masturbation is a normal part of a healthy sex life.

  13. Often tyms wen am finger
    Often tyms wen am finger fucking my gal frnd my dick is always horny,hard nd erect. Bt the moment i start fucking her it drops immediately and goes off. Wat cud be the prblem nd hw cn i solv it pls???

    1. Bricks,

      Bricks,
      by going off, do you mean ejaculate?

  14. I Have Agirl Friend Ifeel
    I Have Agirl Friend Ifeel Like We Should Have Sex But Ifear To Tell Her That Lets Have Sex. Ineed Your Help

    1. Kelly,

      Kelly,
      just slowly start introducing the topic, to get a feel of what she thinks about it and then move onwards.

  15. thanks for your teaching
    thanks for your teaching

  16. From my previous question
    From my previous question “going off” i ment that my dick does not erect and becomes flaccid immediately i penetrate her nd thz causes serious prblms wid her.

    1. This could be because of
      This could be because of anxiety of performance. You can talk to your partner about this and try to find ways of resolving it, like whenever you become flaccid, she could give you a hand job or blow job to help you regain your erection. But talking about it with her could go a long way in dealing with it.

  17. Am married to a lady who is
    Am married to a lady who is circumcised and she seems to have no sex moods everyday

    1. Wilson have you tried to talk
      Wilson have you tried to talk to her and find out what the issue could be? Find out what could turn her on or what she prefers to do.

    2. you need to give it to her i…
      you need to give it to her i need woman like that

  18. some women get wet too faster
    some women get wet too faster than others,what could be the reason?

    1. Mory people are different and
      Mory people are different and therefore they can get aroused differently. But there are also other factors like interest, mood, mental status of the person just to mention but a few that comes to play.

  19. is the U spot same as G spot?
    is the U spot same as G spot?

    1. Joseph i only know of the G
      Joseph i only know of the G spot but i will try and find out about the U spot.

  20. Nice querry nice answers.
    Nice querry nice answers.

  21. my boyfriend once masturbated
    my boyfriend once masturbated infront of me once as i was on my periods.
    .doest it mean he doesnt love me?

    1. Mbithe , it could be because
      Mbithe , it could be because he wanted to relieve his sexual urge since he could not have sex with you. it might have had nothing to do with how he feel about you. But you could also just ask him to find out why he did so.

      1. He asked me to allow him to
        He asked me to allow him to masturbate and i allowed him…..did i do wrong by allowing him?

  22. How can i increase my
    How can i increase my strength & erection in bed naturally?

  23. do all women reach organism
    do all women reach organism during sex?

    1. Tony all women can reach
      Tony all women can reach orgasm but not all women do so.

  24. my girl wets wen i cerees her
    my girl wets wen i cerees her bt wen i penetrate it is 2 tight. she cant stand the pain… help

    1. Paul, it could be because she
      Paul, it could be because she is tensed and therefor her vagina becomes tight making it painful during penetration. You need to make sure she is absolutely relaxed and also be very slow and gentle with her, this might help in painless penetration. Prolong the foreplay to help her relax and lubricate her more.

  25. Need Help Plz @tyme I Look At
    Need Help Plz @tyme I Look At Any Girl My Penis Usually Erect Beyond My Control Wat Shld I Do To Stop This?

    1. Ayub it means you have a
      Ayub it means you have a healthy sexual appetite. Men are very visual, this means men get turned on by what they see. There is nothing abnormal about what you are experiencing.

  26. what makes some gals fainting
    what makes some gals fainting wen they are fucking by their boyfrds

    1. Erick its not fainting but
      Erick its not fainting but more like zoning out in pleasure its just a reaction to the pleasure they may be experiencing.

  27. Is mastrbating reduces ur
    Is mastrbating reduces ur powers? as in u ejaculate so easly during the act with ur gf nd get bored on the way so first?

  28. Nko na dem wangu anapenda
    Nko na dem wangu anapenda niwe nikimfuck kila na kila, usingizi hata sipati. Shita yake ni nini?

    1. Kib, ni kawaida ya watu
      Kib, ni kawaida ya watu wengine kuwa na sexual drive ambayo iko juu kuliko yako. Ni vyema upata kuzungumza na yeye ili upate kujua ni kitu gani unaweza kuwa ukimfanyia ili anapata kutosheleka virahisi zaidi. Kila la heri.

  29. jambo,my wife does not show
    jambo,my wife does not show me her body when having sex why n I nid more than having sex,n when having sex she swith off the bulb.

    1. Hi Wilson , talk to her and
      Hi Wilson , talk to her and find out why she does that. It could be because of several reasons like she is shy or she is not confident about how she looks , whatever the reason work with her to deal with the issue by giving her assurances or compliments.

  30. I have learnt alot frm yo
    I have learnt alot frm yo site thank you

    1. You are welcome Sammy
      You are welcome Sammy

  31. Mi nikifanya mapenzi kadame
    Mi nikifanya mapenzi kadame kangu kanapiga tunduru mapaka majirani wana kuja whats wrong?

    1. Bush, hakuna kitu mbaya ni
      Bush, hakuna kitu mbaya ni vile kuna madame wengine huwa loud wakati wa sex na hio ni kawaida.

  32. Hello All,

    Hello All,
    Concerning masturbation, I have been doing it for the past 15years now, it makes me feel alive and sleep very well, though it’s not polite but how can I stop it, I even do it after meeting with some girls,because I don’t feel satisfied. Got married but its quite unfortunate that my wife doesn’t like sex, what do I do?

      1. Yes, I have but she said
        Yes, I have but she said maybe with time, maybe because of my size or she’s just scared. She is wide but she doesn’t even call for sex, and if I do, she complains, I hope my marriage will not break up because of sex, cos I love it every time.

    1. Hello friend, unajikumbali…
      Hello friend, unajikumbali kwanza, unachange mindset. You are already addicted and I can only help you by this, you need deliverance and cleansing coz the spirit has dominated it has taken place

  33. My dear mastubation has alot
    My dear mastubation has alot of side efect. alot of it
    1 losses memory
    2 fast ejaculate during sex
    3 short of spermatozoa
    4 weakness of the body
    5 spiritualy prevent ur luck
    6 emacipate the size or ur penis
    and many more

    1. Son of the man, masturbation
      Son of the man, masturbation has side effects like one can become addicted but on very rare occasions. Most of your side effects do not have scientific backing so they cannot be taken as factual. Which research shows any of the things you have listed above? we would like to rad it.

  34. i startd in highskul n this
    i startd in highskul n this year is wen i learnt to control it.the good thing is that i learnt to control how fast i can ejaculate which means i can last upto 1 hour for one round….

    1. Good for you DJ-Gaza 🙂
      Good for you DJ-Gaza 🙂

  35. I need to break my girlfriend
    I need to break my girlfriend pls help

  36. IS It Normal For A Man To
    IS It Normal For A Man To Have 1 Testis And Can He Impregnate A Woman?

    1. Joy, yes a man can have one
      Joy, yes a man can have one testis and it can work perfectly when it comes to releasing semen for impregnation.

  37. Y do u i ejagulate before i
    Y do u i ejagulate before i even penetrate her
    is it a problem in any way????

  38. Can mustarbation lead to
    Can mustarbation lead to impotence?

  39. Can mustarbation lead to
    Can mustarbation lead to impotence?

  40. wat causes demoralised in
    wat causes demoralised in less than 5 mins in da time of sex yet I go in with much interest and at da end nothing has been done advice

    1. sex is mentally involving and
      sex is mentally involving and its important to keep your concentration up. You also need to ask yourself what changes from the time you start having sex to the point where you lose interest. Then work together with your partner to keep the experience enticing through out the act.

  41. weny i fuck ktumia cd i dt
    weny i fuck ktumia cd i dt realese bt without l do wat cm be the problem

    1. Hi Sandy the condom is known
      Hi Sandy the condom is known to desensitize the penis but for women it does not have this effect. Most of the time this is normally in our heads. Try to concentrate during sex and not think about the condom too much.

  42. hw can someone stop
    hw can someone stop masturbation

  43. i have this friend of mine a
    i have this friend of mine a she i admire her so much there was a time she visited me but i went far until i finger fucked her and after that act she is so close does it mean am winning her or what

    1. Alshabaab only time will tell
      Alshabaab only time will tell, as long as she keeps showing interest you might as well ask her if she wants to be in a relationship , if that what you are pursuing her for.

  44. What could make a hole on my
    What could make a hole on my penis? Though I had sex with my gal frnd last 2 wks

    1. Ife, if you have a hole in
      Ife, if you have a hole in your penis that should be there you need to visit a doctor as soon as possible for check up

  45. I nid a kind heartd gal to
    I nid a kind heartd gal to love in al ma life hu read us into a marriage life.

    1. Anthony am sorry we can’t
      Anthony am sorry we can’t help you with that. But am sure she’s out there waiting for you to find her so keep searching.

  46. My wife were being a friend
    My wife were being a friend with a guy. So every time I want make sex with her am still thinking that there relationship. But we have talked and she changed now but this fill is still in my minde. Please help me to forget

    1. It is normal to take time
      It is normal to take time before you can get over some things. If you talked about it and she changed you only need time to build your trust back.

  47. My lady goes silent after
    My lady goes silent after ejaculation for almost five mins and holds me back after that silences.Q.is there any problem?Pliz assist.

    1. It is perfectly normal for
      It is perfectly normal for ladies orgasms to last to up to five minutes there is no problem with that. She is just enjoying her orgasm.

  48. does staying long without sex
    does staying long without sex harmful?. thank you

    1. Dominic staying long without
      Dominic staying long without sex is perfectly safe and normal.

    2. Huhuhu in the same boat
      Huhuhu in the same boat

  49. How can I reduce premature
    How can I reduce premature ejaculation?

  50. how do i bring my man to that
    how do i bring my man to that crazy stage of erection?

    1. Farey, ask him what turns him
      Farey, ask him what turns him on, then do it for him. Its that easy.

  51. Sex ile poa unafaa kulast how
    Sex ile poa unafaa kulast how long ndo ata dame wako atosheleke

    1. Joni its not about how long
      Joni its not about how long you have sex its about the quality of sex you have with your partner. Having sex for a long time does not translate to good sex. Concentrate more on having satisfactory sex with your partner as opposed to the duration you have it for.

  52. av learned so much from this
    av learned so much from this page, thank you.

    1. you are welcome Vera.
      you are welcome Vera.

  53. my girlfrend dsn’t want me to
    my girlfrend dsn’t want me to fingerfuck bt have realised that her clitoris is big and she fears me to know it.,plz help i want 2 fingerfuck her.

    1. Yegon you need to talk to her
      Yegon you need to talk to her about this and find out why she is uncomfortable with you fingering her or seeing her clitoris.

  54. My boyfriend is good in oral
    My boyfriend is good in oral and the lovemaking part however as much as he will tend to go for four rounds in a night and with a perfect oral, I’ll only manage to get to the clitorical ejaculation and I’ll tend to feel pain when we switch it to doggy style so kindly help Dr

    1. You need to talk to him about
      You need to talk to him about this, some positions can be painful and uncomfortable due to deep penetration. You can discuss about having more quality sex as opposed to quantity.

  55. I always feel pain when using
    I always feel pain when using condom and sometimes i think of removing it. This makes me lose concentration and my perform and it’s destroying my relationship. What should I do?

    1. Dennoppo you need to use more
      Dennoppo you need to use more lubrication preferably water based lubrication to help reduce the friction and increase the sensation.

  56. my gal refuse to have sex wt
    my gal refuse to have sex wt me she says until she finish her high skul bt she always says dat she luv me so much. is it rily working?

    1. Joshaa relationships are much
      Joshaa relationships are much more than just sex. If she is not ready you need to be patient and wait until when she is ready for sex, that is what true love is about. Being patient with your partner.

    1. UTI can come from different
      UTI can come from different sources including from your partner. The important thing is both of you need to go for treatment if you still have not done so.

  57. i hav aproblem…av had so
    i hav aproblem…av had so many gfs saiz nko univesity…but out of almost all the six of them i havnt had sex with any but i hav feelngs…wen we get to aroom or to bed i ejaculate jst after atouch or avry tight hug thn tht felng stops n i cnt do anthng evn wen the lady wants….wat shud i do…

  58. Aftr sex with ma grl she told
    Aftr sex with ma grl she told me dat anafill uchungu xana 2 an extend anaenda hosi

  59. nilipata dem last week na
    nilipata dem last week na amataka dt 24 tulale naye,nifanye nn

    1. Anderson having sex is a
      Anderson having sex is a choice na kama hauko ready for sex you simply tell her you are not ready for it.

  60. I hav a strong desire to mek
    I hav a strong desire to mek lv wen alon bt once i get to bed wid my man,the urge fades away quickly,wot should i do?

    1. Lucy masturbating is easy as
      Lucy masturbating is easy as one knows what they like. Sex on the other hand involves two people who might not be in synch Talk to your partner about it and help make your experience more enjoyable by discussing the specific things you like or prefer during sex.

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    is there any other way to make a dig more enlarged apart from steroid…??

  62. I fail to know when my wife
    I fail to know when my wife is at orgasm..what are signs of a woman’s orgasm??

    1. Vicky you can simply ask her
      Vicky you can simply ask her to tell you when she is reaching orgasm, That way you don’t have to guess.

  63. During my first time sex my,
    During my first time sex my, I find it difficult to sex my girl because my penis wasn’t rigid enough as it use to be on a normal day. Pls wat mighty b d cause?

    1. Emzy first time sex can cause
      Emzy first time sex can cause a lot of anxiety and therefore affect your erection and even sexual performance. Talking to your partner about it helps a lot in relaxing one and making sex more comfortable and enjoyable.

  64. hi, i,ve agirlfriend but i
    hi, i,ve agirlfriend but i keep on chasing on other ladies and after am done with them i go ahead for some1 else, what might b the problem?

    1. Nyash when you are in a
      Nyash when you are in a relationship and go after other girls its called cheating and its a choice one makes. You need to focus on your relationship and get everything you need from it as opposed to getting it elsewhere.

  65. Whats The Best Style To Fuck
    Whats The Best Style To Fuck 4 U To Get A Baby Gal?

    1. Chot there is no sex position
      Chot there is no sex position that determines the sex of a child and it all happens naturally.

  66. After orgasm my wyf becomes
    After orgasm my wyf becomes very tired to an extent she cant wake up/walk for about 30 min. Is it normal?

    1. Orgasm and sex can be very
      Orgasm and sex can be very consuming physically and taking a bit of time to recover is totally normal.

  67. Ope girls r evrywhere looking
    Ope girls r evrywhere looking 4 male partners,plz guys stop this act n let gals enjoy our manhood.thanx 4 ur advice lovematters keep it up n be blessed.

    1. Thank you for your input Amos
      Thank you for your input Amos

  68. For how long can a normal man
    For how long can a normal man takes playing 2nd – 3round b4 ejaculation n 4hw long does a woman take to reach organsm

    1. Bonney people are different
      Bonney people are different therefor it depends with the individual. There is no universal time set for it.

  69. Hi mi galfrnd lyks oral fuck
    Hi mi galfrnd lyks oral fuck bt does not want fucking is there any problem?

    1. Herbalist you might want to
      Herbalist you might want to talk to her about that but it could be she’s not ready for sex yet.

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    ilike this topic much.Just like this word `little man in the boat

  75. What are the disadvantages
    What are the disadvantages and advantages or side effects of penis Enlargement?

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    my gal lover speaks to me in aharsh way bt her friend iz so polite and she alwayz wants to be next to me even if she iz on or off from me and am getting so tempted what should i do nw

  77. My wife dosent like sex even
    My wife dosent like sex even if we stay for 2weeks. The problem started when she started using family planning injections. I have feelings with her but every time she refuse. What should I do?

  78. Is it good to masterbate?
    Is it good to masterbate?

  79. Use to musturbatn,but i av
    Use to musturbatn,but i av just dated once en we partd bt the rest dem niko naye sahi i cnt penetrate hr is now 7mnth altho anaogopa fuck na sivajo..help

  80. i alway have sex more than 3
    i alway have sex more than 3 times a day which translates to more than 9 ejaculations a day. a week ago i fainted and i was taken to hospital and the docter said it was due to sexual exaustion, so kindly admin what could be the impact of this? i cant stay without having sex.

    1. You don’t have to stay
      You don’t have to stay without having sex you just need to reduce the number of times you have it to avoid fatigue. If you can’t reduce then you might be addicted to sex and that means you will need professional help.

  81. hi,what might be the problem
    hi,what might be the problem when man ejaculate sperm with blood particles?

    1. Tina that is not normal and
      Tina that is not normal and so they should visit a medical facility as soon as possible.

  82. nifuk wife wangu short moja
    nifuk wife wangu short moja an

    aeza ka siku nne akiniambia feelings izijarudi ata nimdare kiasi gani askii kufukiwa shida inaeza kuwa nn

    1. Ibra saa zinging ni kawaida
      Ibra saa zinging ni kawaida kukosa hisia za mapenzi sio kila wakati watu hua na hisia zile.

  83. niko na shida na tadadhali
    niko na shida na tadadhali nisaidieni, nimekua much interested na other mens wife such tht for now nimelala na karibu wote in my living area n m feeling guilt of it..,nimeloose interest mpaka kwa madem size yangu, wat shud i do??

    1. Yobra it’s a good thing you
      Yobra it’s a good thing you feel guilty kwa sababu unajua unacho kifanya sio sawa. Kama unatamani mwanamke mzee kukuliko tafuta yule ambae hajaolewa. Umejaribu kufikiria nini kinaweza kutendeka ukipatikana na mume wa mmoja wao? Kulala na mtu ni uamuzi wako kwa hivyo waeza amua kutofanya vile

  84. naji swali usualy why even
    naji swali usualy why even after havinn sex nna penda tu masturbation juniji sikie wow…?and what’s hasara ya masturbation?

  85. this page has a lot of
    this page has a lot of teachings thanx love matters

    1. You are welcome Anniee.
      You are welcome Anniee.

  86. my friend is one minute man
    my friend is one minute man in bed how can we help him

  87. Wat can one do to stop
    Wat can one do to stop mastubation?

    1. Hi Mary,One can start by
      Hi Mary,One can start by getting rid of all pornographic material in their possession if that is what they use. Then one needs to stop the number of times they masturbate systematically until they can be able to stop completely. This may take a while since its a habit that one develops over time so one needs to be patient.

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    1. Sorry Reagan but we can’t
      Sorry Reagan but we can’t help you with that.

  89. I don’t know why I always…
    I don’t know why I always feel pains during sex and am not a virgin.

    1. Thank you for the feedback…

      Thank you for the feedback. Keep reading.

  90. after masterbation i feel…
    after masterbation i feel alot of pain in tubes. what maybe a problem

    1. Hey Eve, the pain maybe as a…

      Hey Eve, the pain maybe as a result of the blood that rushes toward your sexual organ during masturbation as a result of being aroused. The vessels are stretched as a result of them filling up with blood. This pain or discomfort goes away after a shortwhile. If it persists, it is important you seek medical advice. Have a look at the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/the-dangers-of-over-masturbation-for-women

  91. my gf keeps saying that she…
    my gf keeps saying that she wants me to learn this stuff so we can do it but I just cant seem to get it right she says but every time I try she seems to have discomfit and I think she is too shy to tell me what to do.pls tell me what I can do to help

    1. Hello Anonymous, thank you…

      Hello Anonymous, thank you for reaching out to us. It is great to hear that you are listening to your partner and you are willing to respond to their requests. It may be useful to speak with your partner to get to know what they like what they expect that way your sex lives will be greatly enhanced. Sex is better when partners talk about it.

      Have a look at the following article for information;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex

  92. Is there any pleasure on…
    Is there any pleasure on having anal sex?

  93. Do hand jobs have side…
    Do hand jobs have side effects on my penis

    1. Hello Lucky, thank you for…

      Hello Lucky, thank you for reaching out to us and we are glad you have asked a good question. Hand jobs are basically when someone else masturbates you. And like masturbation, it isn’t unhealthy or bad for you at all. Masturbation can actually be good for your health, both mentally and physically. And it’s pretty much the safest sex out there — there’s no risk of getting pregnant or getting an STD. As long as the person giving you the hand job is clean and this activity does not affect your day to day activities, you should be fine buddy!

  94. Is it oky for a lady to suck…
    Is it oky for a lady to suck someone’s dick

  95. Hi Vilon, thank you for…

    Hi Vilon, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. Oral sex is when you pleasure someone else’s genitals with your mouth, or they use their mouth on your genitals. Click here to find out more: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/oral-sex-taste-the-pleasure

    Also, Oral sex is fun — on it’s own or as part of foreplay. It makes some women reach an orgasm easier than during intercourse. And there are few men who don’t enjoy getting head. Want to give it a try? Just stick to these do’s and don’ts! https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/oral-sex-dos-and-donts

  96. Hi Joseph, why do you feel…

    Hi Joseph, why do you feel this way?

  97. How can you make your…
    How can you make your partner want to have sex?

    1. Hi Aleko, 

      The first way is…

      Hi Aleko, 

      First, find out why your partner is not interested in sex. Is it because the sex has been bad, bad timing, not interested in having sex with you, or is he/she is asexual. If your partner is asexual: meaning that he/she is not interested in sex at all. Learn more about asexuality here: Top 5 facts about asexuality 

      When you find out why, you can see how to work around the issue, if possible. If it’s because the sex has not been great, the first thing is to ask them what they like and what they don’t like. It could be that you don’t spend enough time on foreplay. Invest in foreplay, e.g. kissing, that gets them excited about having sex. Start by teasing them and see how they react. If not perhaps try another teasing ideas such as touching, talking dirty, complimenting their body. Timing is very important because if they are unhappy or frustrated, it may be hard to get them excited. Remember that while you do this, you should be careful about their consent. If they say no or stop, listen to them.  

      Sadly, you may also find that the sexual chemistry is not mutual, meaning that it only on your side and not his/hers. See if  can work to change this. Remember that this may or may not work. 

       

  98. What are side effects of…
    What are side effects of masturbation

    1. Hi Elem, 

      Masturbation is a…

      Hi Elem, 

      Masturbation is a fun and pleasurable act used by many people to explore their body and feel pleasure. There are no known physical effects of masturbation if done right for instance, avoiding being too aggressive. On the other hand, some people become addicted to masturbation and this may begin to affect their day-to-day life. You know you’re addicted when you can’t control the urge to masturbate, skip work, school, or social functions so you can masturbate, or plan your day around when you can masturbate. As any other thing in life, moderation is key. 

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