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Emanuele del Rosso

I am addicted to porn and masturbation

‘I think of sex all the time and watch a lot of porn. I don’t have a gf but I masturbate at least four times a day. Is something wrong with me?’

This is a very critical situation. If you ask me, it’s a mystery. One can’t tell what is causing what. Let’s talk.

Chicken or egg?

So you think about sex all day. Obviously! That’s because you watch porn all day. It makes you think about sex all day. If you think about it all the time, you are going to do something about it, right? Now you know why you masturbate ‘at least’ four times a day?

Am I making sense? You see, the cycle has to stop somewhere. It’s a chicken and egg situation. We have to understand what makes you do what you do?

Girlfriends are not sex toys

Are you saying that you would not masturbate? Why? Are girlfriends sex toys? Eveready batteries to help you match your sexual potential? Unfortunately, many men like to think that once they have a gf, their need and desire for masturbation will be reduced.

Girlfriends are human beings – like you and me with feelings and expectations. They are not some anti-masturbation patch or pill.

All in a day’s work

Tell me, what other things than porn keeps you busy? Do you play any sport, go to a gym, hang out with pals? Do you pursue any hobby or interests? If the answer is no, you may want to seriously consider picking up one.

It will help you build your social skills. You will even have fun alongside.

The biggest benefits will be meeting new people, spending your energy in productive tasks and getting healthy.

That will also leave you with very little time for porn and masturbation. Perhaps it’s too early to think that you have an addiction. Let’s try these simple tricks and see what results we get. If you fail to feel better after trying enough, we can consider speaking to a counsellor or a support group.

Get busy, get going

We are all social beings. We have to meet and greet people. We have to interact with them, like or dislike them and they have a right to like or dislike us too. I am talking about real human beings here.

So get out there and go meet people. Get out of your bed, chair and room. Turn off your computer. Get into a nice set of clothes. Get busy with other stuff. Get busy with other people. See how they spend their time.

Eventually, when the young lads around you will talk about porn, which BTW they all do at some point or the other, you can secretly smile and say, ‘Been there, done that.’

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Recent Comments (29)

  1. I Think Of Sex All The Time
    I Think Of Sex All The Time And I Watch Alot Of Porn Because My Gf Is Far With Me, So Am Worried Am I Normal?

    1. Hi Joseph,

      Hi Joseph,

      That is normal. There is nothing wrong with that. It only shows you have a healthy appetite for sex which is a good thing.

  2. Which types of food can i eat
    Which types of food can i eat to be good in sex or what type of Medicine and where can I get it am in kayole.

    1. Hi FK,

      Hi FK,

      You just nee to eat a balanced diet to stay healthy enough to be active.

      Why do you feel you need medication to have sex, do you feel you have a problem?

  3. Have feel to someone(girl)but
    Have feel to someone(girl)but when I try to contacts she ignore me

  4. I am addicted to porn very
    I am addicted to porn very much…and I musterbate a lot like 7 times a day anywhere please I need help

  5. When a woman is a virgin up
    When a woman is a virgin up to 25yr, is there any problem to occur if she eventually disvirgin. Could that affect her reproductive system or that she may likely not be good in love making

    1. There is nothing wrong with
      There is nothing wrong with being a virgin even at 25 years. There is no problem that can occur because one has never had sex.

  6. Hi l am in a confused state.
    Hi l am in a confused state. ma bf want me to kiss him and I am afraid bcoz l ave not done
    it before and the kissing involves both touches and caresses, plz help

  7. am mary from thogoto so many
    am mary from thogoto so many times i feel to do sex but my boy is far way from me

    1. Thanks for sharing with us.
      Thanks for sharing with us. Patience pays. You will be able to in due time.

  8. Hy.am still in love with my
    Hy.am still in love with my girlfriend even though she wants me to move on without her,I know she feels the same way,what should I do!?

  9. What problems can one face by
    What problems can one face by masturbating

  10. Hi I am 16 years old and I
    Hi I am 16 years old and I have been masturbating for the past 6 years to achieve an orgasm every single day. Does this have any side effects? Will I become sterile? Is this related to not being able to sweat during exercise or excessive facial hair growth because I have those problems. Please get back to me as soon as possible. Thanks

    1. Yes? Care to explain more?
      Yes? Care to explain more?

  11. I am also addicted to this…
    I am also addicted to this thing

  12. I get erected too often even…
    I get erected too often even on sighting a lady

  13. Hello Cyril, thank you for…

    Hello Cyril, thank you for reaching out to us. How do you feel about that? 

  14. What causes shoulder rashes?…
    What causes shoulder rashes? And how can i get rid of it?

  15. Hello Anonymous, thank you…

    Hello Anonymous, thank you for getting in touch and asking a great question. Whilst most of our content is based on love, sex and relationships, we will do our best to help based on what we know. Sex can be a lot of fun, but it can also cause some unwanted side effects. Whenever you become that intimate with another person, your body is bound to have a reaction, and sometimes that can result in some skin problems from having sex. Some are temporary and harmless, while others come in the form of an STI, but either way, they can seem pretty alarming if you’re not aware of what they are. It shouldn’t scare you off from ever hitting the sheets, but knowing what can happen to your skin post-intercourse can help you take the proper precautions to make sure you’re protecting yourself and your skin. Prolonged skin to skin contact and sweat and friction under intimate circumstances can lead to skin issues. There’s a lot happening during sex that can make your skin go awry, whether it’s on your face, your vagina, or some other part of your body, so it’s no surprise that there’s sometimes a reaction. Why do you ask?

     

  16. First of all, masturbation…
    First of all, masturbation will not truly relieve the sexual pressure that one may feel. It may for a short moment, but in the long run it only creates a deeper desire and capacity for sex, which will lead to more masturbation. If you let yourself become enslaved to a sexual high, you will find that you need to go to increasingly extreme acts to maintain the same degree of excitement. There are even ungodly sex therapists who recommend masturbation as a way of increasing sexual desire, not lessening it. This creates a vicious circle, like the junkie who craves a “fix,” but is only temporarily satisfied. The more he indulges in his dependency, the more ensnared by addiction he becomes. This is the nature of all sin. That is why Jesus declared that all who sin become a slave to sin (John 8:34).

    1. Thank you for your…

      Thank you for your contribution, Nathaniel. 

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