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What do women find more attractive than good looks?

What makes a guy attractive to women? There’s one trait that’s even hotter than good looks, a recent US study found.

The good news is the trait has nothing to do with appearance. And it’s not something a guy either has or doesn’t. Instead, it’s a quality that can be learned and developed. Curious what it is that women find so attractive in a potential partner?

Doing good for another person

So were a group of US researchers. Studies had already shown that women find a trait called altruism attractive in a man. Altruism basically means doing good for another person. A guy who is altruistic will go out of his way to help others, even if doing so is risky or has consequences for himself.

Even though the researchers knew that women found altruism attractive, there hadn’t been any studies comparing guys who were altruistic do-gooders to those who were just plain good looking.

Would women find selfless guys more attractive than hunks?

To find out, the researchers enrolled just over 200 heterosexual women in their study. Each woman was shown several pairs of pictures. The pairs consisted of two guys: one who was unarguably a hunk and another who was decidedly less attractive.

Sexy!

Next, the women read a short scenario. Then they learned that one of the guys behaved altruistically in the scenario, while the other guy decided not to help. Sometimes the hunk was the do-gooder, while other times it was the less-attractive man. Afterwards, the women were asked to rate how desirable each of the two guys was either as a long-term partner or for a short affair or one-night stand.

If you’re the kind guy who goes out of his way to help others, you’re in for good news: altruism is indeed sexy in a potential partner, the study confirmed.

Guys who make it a point to help others actually become more desirable in the eyes of women. This is true if they’re considered handsome to begin with. But it’s also very much the case if they’re not.

Selfishness: not attractive

What’s more, being helpful trumps looking good. In the study, less-attractive do-gooders were rated as more desirable than selfish hunks for long-term partners.

In fact, according to the researchers, if a guy can either be handsome or a do-gooder, the latter wins out when it comes to getting the girl, in a long-term relationship anyway.

Source: Farrelly, D., Clemson, P., & Gutherie, M. (2016). Are Women’s Mate Preferences for Altruism Also Influenced by Physical Attractiveness? Evolutionary Psychology, Jan-Mar 2016:1-6.
 

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  1. its apoint anyone can agree
    its apoint anyone can agree with

    1. That’s true Steve. Thanks.
      That’s true Steve. Thanks.

    1. Hi there, do you feel
      Hi there, do you feel otherwise?

  2. I think women like men who
    I think women like men who are themselves,being the real you is what matters

    1. Thanks for your input.
      Thanks for your input.

  3. i agree that there are guys
    i agree that there are guys who love helping others but you find they want to please evrybody even their exes and this brings problems in their current relationships.we all know what happens when your always near your ex

    1. Thanks for your contribution
      Thanks for your contribution Alce.

  4. That’s a point driven home
    That’s a point driven home well…ua articles are so helpful

    1. Thanks we are glad to hear
      Thanks we are glad to hear that Innocent.

  5. I agree, stayed intact with
    I agree, stayed intact with my ex and my r/ship got broken

    1. Thanks for sharing that with
      Thanks for sharing that with us Nick.

  6. I think its physical
    I think its physical appearence

    1. Thanks for sharing your
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts Alex.

  7. women love men with long
    women love men with long dicks

    1. Thanks for the input.
      Thanks for the input.

  8. women dont judge your face
    women dont judge your face only but they like men with long dicks

    1. Thanks for your input Kagawa.
      Thanks for your input Kagawa.

  9. aguy who does good also knws
    aguy who does good also knws hw hurtin it is to do bad to othrs..i prefer hm doing good than lukin good

    1. Thanks for sharing that with
      Thanks for sharing that with us Susan.

  10. Pockets! The deeper the
    Pockets! The deeper the better. Women will never be honest about this but I have seen the ugliest men with very gorgeous woman! Ugly broke men stay single bu if the pockets are deep then he’ll get whomever it is he wants.

  11. Yes, my r/ship got broke with
    Yes, my r/ship got broke with out any thing going wrong, and I believed is because of doing good

    1. Thanks for sharing your story
      Thanks for sharing your story with us Ubi.

  12. Not all women are after…
    Not all women are after money some are in for intimate love,care and attention from the men of their heartly desires.

    1. That’s right Noah!

      That’s right Noah!

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