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Vagina shapes and sizes: the myths

By Steph Haase July 22, 06:00 am
Because the vagina is on the inside of the body, we don’t really think much about its shape and size. Read up on the myths and get the facts!
All vaginas are the same

There are probably as many different vaginas as there are women in this world. Just like penises, or noses for that matter, all of them are slightly different. Sure, the basic structures are the same, but for the rest, vaginas can vary quite a lot.

The shape doesn’t vary a lot

It actually appears that there are five different vaginal shapes, according to a 1996 study.
Some women’s vaginas are shaped like cones. Others have parallel-sided vaginas. And while these names still sound somewhat clinical, it does get more exciting. Would you believe that there are heart-shaped vaginas? And pumpkin-seed-shaped and even slug-shaped vaginas? We leave it up to you to imagine what these actually look like.

What you see is what you get

No! Vaginas are miraculous organs! They can change considerably. When a woman is aroused, not only does the vagina get bigger, it also gets longer. The average vagina gets around 4 cm longer when sexually excited.
And the next time you are afraid a penis is too big for a seemingly small vagina, just remember that a baby’s head can pass through there!

Giving birth makes your vagina bigger

Talking about babies – many people think that giving birth changes the vagina. That’s only partly true. Sure, while giving birth, the vagina can get stretched quite a bit but generally, your vagina will go back to close to normal after a while. But, if you had several young children at a very young age, your muscles can be overstretched and may not get back to normal.

In case you have concerns, please talk to your doctor. You can also try Kegel exercises.

Related: How To Do Kegel Exercises 

Age doesn’t affect vaginas

Vaginas also change over the course of a woman’s life. Hormonal changes, whether during menopause, childbirth, or breastfeeding, can all affect the vagina.
Especially for older women, some of the vagina’s elasticity may change and the skin may thin or you may feel drier than usual. If this affects you, please mention this to your doctor.

There are loose and tight women

Lots of people believe that having lots of sex will make a woman ‘loose’. So you could actually tell if a woman is often sexually active by feeling her vagina. That’s a huge myth!

The vagina is a muscle, and while it loosens during sex, it will tighten again afterwards. And there is no evidence that it might just stay loose if a woman has lots of sex.

But virgins are tighter, right?

No, that’s another myth. It might feel that way, but usually, it’s the anxiety and fear that means the muscles may not relax, or, instead, even contract, resulting in a tighter feeling.

The lighter the vulva, the better

Not true. The skin around the vulva (on the outside of the body) will always be darker than the rest of the body. It’s very thin and elastic, that’s why it can look unnaturally dark. If you stretch it, you will see it becomes lighter. But where it’s folded the skin looks darker and that’s totally normal.


Do you have any questions about the vagina? Send them to us on Facebook (Kenya or Naija), the discussion board, or here below. 

Did you learn something new?


Hi Ken, this is not necessarily a bad thing. Vagina wetness means she is aroused and this makes intercourse easy and pleasurable for both partners. If the vagina is so wet that the penis keeps slipping out, keep a clean towel near to wipe off some of that excess lubrication. Have a look at the following article;-

Hey Pascalina, yes you can have sex during your periods if you are both okay with this. However, there is a small chance you could get pregnant and for this reason, if you do not want to get pregnant use protection. On the issue of safe days, these are the most unreliable ways to prevent pregnancy, and we really don't recommend it at all. When your safe days are really depends on the length of your cycle. Technically speaking, the first seven days before and after your period, as well as the time of your period, are relatively safe. But, if you have a shorter cycle (shorter than 28 days), or an irregular one, this will vary. Also keep in mind that sperm can survive for up to five days and longer inside the body- so even if you have sex on a 'safe' day, you can still get pregnant, because the sperm survived until your ovulation date. So you see, it's a very inaccurate. And lastly, of course this won't protect you from STDs. Only condoms will. So we really recommend a more reliable method. Check out the following articles for more information;-

Hi David, penises come in different sizes and shapes. It is useful to talk with your partner to get to know what they like and want during sex. Getting to know what your partner enjoys goes along way toward making sex experience better for you both. Also do share what you like. Have a look at the following articles for more information and tips;-

Hey Fein, there is no way to make your dick bigger without risks. The only way that is likely to work with permanent results is surgery. This like any other major surgery, comes with the risk of serious complications. Have a look at the following article for additional information;-

Hey Bella, a good place to begin is to find out what they like and what they enjoy. Talk about this and also share what you like and enjoy, this way you both will know what exactly each of you is looking for and this will make the experience better for you both. Have a look at this article for more tips;- 

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