man and woman kissing

7 tips on how to French kiss like a pro

How would you rate your French kissing skills on a scale of 1-5, with 1 being the lowest and 5 highest?

French kissing is arguably the most intimate part of the dating ritual: You’re face to face, heart, to heart, touching each other with a part of the body that’s filled with millions of nerve endings.

When you get it right it could feel like the world has opened up, but when you get it wrong, there is nowhere to hide. Remember that French kissing doesn’t have to lead to the sex of course and that a good make-out session can be just as exciting, intense, and romantic on its own.

So, how do you get it right?

Tips on how to French kiss

1. Find the right time: The best time is usually when you’re alone, it is an intimate moment after all. Look into each other’s eyes. You’ll both know when the moment is right. Before you go in for the kiss, tilt your head to avoid bumping into your partner.

2. Don’t fixate over your breath: Your breath doesn’t need to be any more minty-fresher than your kissing partner. You should be clean though.

3. Start with the lips: The first thing that comes to mind when you think about French kissing is probably your tongue, but that shouldn’t come into play right away. Follow your partner. Start light. Kiss the lips gently. Remember to close your eyes (awkward!) so that you can focus on the physical sensation of the kiss.

4. Watch out for the tongue: A kiss without any tongue at all is perfectly fine. When it comes to tongue, less is always more. When you’re ready to take it to the next level, open your mouth just a little wider and gently touch your tongue against your partner’s. Let the tips of your tongues ‘play around’ together. Don’t stick your tongue down their throat and choke them. These movements may include touching, stroking, curling, and sweeping.

5. What about the hands? The best spots to place your hands are along ​your partner’s neck, jaw, or waist, or on the back of your partner’s head. Be light and gentle.

6.  Mix it up: Don’t leave your lips or your tongue in the same spot for more than a couple of seconds. Mix up your methods to avoid things getting boring and predictable.

7. How to disengage: Remember to breathe. When you’re French kissing someone, it’s easy to forget to breathe. If this is your first time kissing this person, keep things brief. Get it right and you will be called for round two. Leave your partner dying for more. 

The bottom line:

Learning how to French kiss is easier than you think. Follow these tips, but also follow your heart and body to lead you on and get some experience. Enjoying yourselves is all that really matters. Kissing is a love language when you think about it. 

did you find this useful?

Tell us what you think

Recent Comments (11)

    1. Thank you, Rinahchui!

      Thank you, Rinahchui!

    1. Thank you, Michael!

      Thank you, Michael!

  1. Very brief and to the point…
    Very brief and to the point piece of article. Really educative

LoveMatters Africa

Blush-free facts and stories about love, sex, and relationships