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Outercourse: 7 great ideas for pleasure

Outercourse is any sexual activity that does not include sexual penetration. The opposite of outercourse is intercourse (penetrative sex).

Outercourse can mean different things to different people. Some people consider outercourse as any sex play without sexual intercourse, where a man inserts his penis into a woman’s vagina.

For others, outercourse means sex play without any penetration (oral, anal, vaginal).

There are many sexual activities with outercourse that don’t involve sexual intercourse:

How can I have outercourse?
Kissing

You can explore kissing different body parts. Thighs, forehead, neck, between the toes, etc. Just let your tongue do the walking. 

Masturbation

You can give yourself pleasure by touching your own genitals. You can give your partner pleasure by touching their genitals. You can watch your partner masturbate or masturbate while your partner watches, which is a great way to learn what kind of touching you each like.

Rubbing

You can rub your body with your partner’s body. Many couples find it pleasurable and can even orgasm when they rub their genitals together. Body-to-body rubbing is sometimes also called grinding, dry humping, or frottage.

Acting out sexual fantasies

You can share or act out fantasies that turn you on with your partner. Or perhaps you might want to watch a sexy film or read a sexy story together.

Using sex toys

You can use a vibrator or dildo to explore and caress your body or your partner’s body. If you want to share your toy with your partner, and you’re using a toy to go into a vagina or an anus, it is important to put a condom on the toy. For each partner, use a new condom on your sex toy.

Oral sex

You can explore your partner’s genitals by using your mouth. You won’t get pregnant by performing or receiving oral sex, but you can pass on an infection. If you’re a guy, you can prevent passing on infection by using a condom. If you’re a girl, you can prevent passing on infection by using plastic wrap (or a condom cut into a square) to cover your genitals.
 

Anal sex

You can explore your partner’s buttocks, anus, and rectum by touching them with your fingers, mouth, genitals, or toys. You won’t get pregnant having anal sex, but it’s even easier to pass on an infection. Using a condom to cover your fingers or genitals can greatly reduce the risk of passing on an infection.

Can I get pregnant?

Outercourse can prevent pregnancy as long as you and your partner stick to having outercourse and not sexual intercourse (when a man inserts his penis into a woman’s vagina).

If you and your partner perform outercourse correctly, the chances of getting pregnant are almost zero. With anal sex and rubbing your genitals with your partners, there is a chance that semen or pre-ejaculate can get into the vagina. So if you want to be 100 percent sure, use a condom.

Can I get STIs?

No.
Outercourse can greatly reduce your risk of getting an STI, but it doesn’t guarantee it. During oral and anal sex, there is an exchange of bodily fluids between couples, which increases your risk of getting an STI.

Some STIs like herpes and HPV can be passed on simply by skin-to-skin contact. So while the risk of getting an STI is quite low, even with kissing or rubbing you’ve still got a risk of getting an STI. If you’re worried about getting an STI, use a condom or another barrier method to protect yourself.

Are there benefits?

Outercourse has no side effects and can be a pleasurable way to have safer sex especially when no semen and vaginal fluids are exchanged.

For women, outercourse can be helpful to learn how to have orgasms. Many women don’t get orgasms from vaginal stimulation (or sexual intercourse) alone but from clitoral stimulation. For men, outercourse allows them to be sexual without having the pressure to perform during sexual intercourse.

So for couples, outercourse can be a great way to learn about each other’s bodies and give each other pleasure, without the worry of getting pregnant.

Did you learn something new?

Comments

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Hey Quin, this is why it is important to talk to your partner before and agree that this os what you both want. Should anyone of you want more, you should agree and then use protection to prevent unplanned pregnancies and a further risk of Sexually Transmitted Infections. 

Hey Ericko, this means that you get sexually excited too soon. This is also known as Premature Ejaculation, which is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts

Hey Soita, it seems that you get sexually excited too soon. Premature Ejaculation, is when you ejaculate sooner than you wish to. It is caused by a number of reasons including fear, anxiety or even stress. Anxiety that one will not perform can make him ejaculate much earlier or stress from home or work. In other cases, particularly in young men it could be the result of sexual inexperience, and so as the young man gets older he also gains more experience in controlling ejaculation. Check out this article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/male-body/premature-ejaculation-top-five-facts

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Hey Adam, a good place to start is to find out what exactly she doesn't like about oral sex, then together find a solution to what makes her not like her. Talking about sex helps to improve the experience for both partners, find a good time to talk about this. Check out the following article;- https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/talking-about-sex 

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