Outercourse: Top Five Facts

Outercourse: top five facts

Outercourse simply means sex without penetration. Some do it as a birth control method, others find it the most comfortable way to make love. We’ve put together a Top Five Facts on the topic.

Outercourse is a word coined to contrast with intercourse.

  1. What is it?

    Outercourse, also called non-penetrative sex, basically means sex without penetration. So no penis entering the vagina or anus. For some people outercourse also means no oral sex. While outercoursing, if we may say, couples experiment with kissing in different ways, mutual masturbation, rubbing against each others bodies, watching erotic films together or using sex toys.

    So what’s the difference between this and ‘foreplay’. Well no difference – just that with what people call foreplay, you go on to have intercourse. Foreplay is the starter, intercourse is the main dish. With outercourse, all the other ways to make love are the main dish.

  2. Why people do it 

    Some use outercourse as a form of birth control or to avoid contracting sexually transmitted diseases (we’ll discuss more about this in Fact #3). For couples who are just starting a relationship and not ready to go all the way, outercourse can be a comfortable way to explore each other’s’ bodies instead of ‘just doing it’. 

    Of course both men and women can have great orgasms just with outercourse. And remember, only about a third of all women regularly have an orgasm with intercourse. So for them, outercourse is likely to hit the spot!

  3. Low risk

    As the name suggests, non-penetrative sex means sex without penetration. For heterosexual couples, it means the semen doesn’t get inside the vagina, so there’s no risk of pregnancy. Similarly, no exchange of body fluids means reduced risk of contracting and passing on sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). 

  4. Caution

    That, however, doesn’t make outercourse entirely foolproof. If the penis is rubbed close to the vagina there’s a chance that sperm cells could be released early, come in contact with the outer labia, make their way inside the vagina, travel all the way up and manage to fertilise an egg, leading to pregnancy. After all, it only takes one!

    The slightest exchange of body fluids also exposes you to the risk of STDs. And a lot of couples find it hard to hold back from intercourse when they are so close to it. That’s why it’s best to use a condom while having outercourse to be sure that you aren’t taking any risks – especially for oral sex on a guy. For oral sex on a girl, you can use a ‘dental dam’ or a square cut from a condom to cover the vagina.

  5. Benefits

    Outercourse is one of the safest ways to make love. It has no medical or hormonal side effects as a method of birth control. It also minimises the risk of STDs. Not only that, it also increases mutual trust and intimacy between partners and prepares them for intercourse. And when you’re caught in a steamy, sexy situation without any contraceptives, outercourse is definitely the best way to go! 

    For more information read: Outercourse: Sex Without Penetration


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Recent Comments (38)

    1. Hi Lachumba,

      Hi Lachumba,
      is that something you would consider trying?

    1. Hi Terry,

      Hi Terry,
      that’s great to hear. Do you have any experience with outercourse yet?

    1. Hi Wanja,

      Hi Wanja,
      it’s pretty safe, if you keep to some precautions, as the article mentions.

    1. Hi Iddah,

      Hi Iddah,
      thanks for your comment. Do you have any additional tips and tricks?

    1. Hi Mike,

      Hi Mike,
      go for it and let us know what you think 🙂

  1. I wil hv to try,it sounds
    I wil hv to try,it sounds ‘civilised’.

    1. Hi Ben,

      Hi Ben,
      it’s definitely a great way to be intimate if you don’t want to have actual intercourse!

    1. Hi Champion,

      Hi Champion,
      we are glad to hear that!

  2. its safer and effective
    its safer and effective

    1. Hi Emmanuel,

      Hi Emmanuel,
      that’s true, thanks for your comment!

    1. We are glad to hear that,
      We are glad to hear that, Shee!

    1. Hi Allan,

      Hi Allan,
      are you going to try it? Good luck 🙂

  3. So interestin.Will definitely
    So interestin.Will definitely try it when married.

    1. Sounds good, Osalumese!
      Sounds good, Osalumese!

  4. it safe,and at the sme tyme
    it safe,and at the sme tyme hrd coz ur body is askin 4more than that

    1. Ahh, yep, you went straight
      Ahh, yep, you went straight for the problem there. Well spotted 🙂

  5. Great! i have tried it, it’s
    Great! i have tried it, it’s sweet. I have tried it!

    1. And, will you do it again?
      And, will you do it again?

  6. I use it and I have never
    I use it and I have never regretted, the problem is my partner thinks that I am unable to have sex and that is one of the excuse I give out

    1. Hi Mophat,

      Hi Mophat,
      sex isn’t just about intercourse. It’s also about being honest, and talking to each other about it.
      You and your partner need to figure out what you both want, and don’t want, and share that with each other.

  7. Are you talking sex between
    Are you talking sex between men or a woman and man?

    1. Between men and between men
      Between men and between men and women.

  8. But may be love matters is
    But may be love matters is for Moslem s and other non Christians because most of your teachings are against the christian faith. foristance u a in favor of masturbation as well as abortion and now i hear out course. hey we would appreciate if you taught real love matters apart from misleading people because the bible says that you will give accountability for every soul you mislead. Thanks just concerned.

    1. Hi Harriet, you are right.

      Hi Harriet, you are right.

      Love matters is not religious based, and therefore, we do not give religious teachings. We offer factual information on matters love, sex, relationships and everything in between.

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