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How much would you charge for sex?

Let’s for a moment assume that sex work was legal in Kenya, of which its time.

How much would you charge per session? Why? 

Our worth is something we wrestle with through salary negotiations, relationships, separations, etc. But when it comes to sex, the question gets even deeper, no pun intended.

Putting a price on your body, your size, and your sexual prowess can be a fine line between empowering or demeaning, depending on how you look at it.

An old saying goes that sex work is the oldest profession in the world. And for good reason, people have been selling their bodies for the longest time ever. And there is nothing wrong with that if you know what you are doing.

You may probably be thinking: The decision to pay someone for sex not only diminishes the act but devalues both partners. But is it morally and ethically wrong — and should it be legally wrong — to pay for sex?

Consensual sex is legal. But immediately one party offers cash to another in exchange for sex and that money is voluntarily accepted, it’s considered sex work, and that is somehow frowned upon. This is hypocritical, illogical, and wasteful — and it needs to stop.

People have sex with other people whose names they don’t even bother to know!

How much are you worth?

50 bob? 200 bob? 2k? 20k? 500k?

‘If you’re good at something you might as well get paid for it! Everyone has a talent!’

When it comes to setting a price for ourselves, or even in salary negotiations, we have a tendency to undervalue ourselves. You look at what other guys are charging, and you decide to ask for less, thinking you’ll get more clients.

However, there must be a base human connection – two willing, interested humans agreeing to a good time – and a special, intimate experience, whether for free or otherwise.

We have sex work for the same reasons anyone works – to make a living. Until then, if we truly believe that we have a right to their bodies, we have a right to profit from our sexual and emotional labor.

There is a popular misconception that those who pay for sexual services do it because they ‘have-to’ only makes sense for a short amount of time when you’re willing to entertain the belief that asks: ‘Why would anyone pay for something they can get for free?’

That is, of course, until you remember that people pay for things they could get for free all the time. For example, cutting your own hair. Eating at a restaurant when you can cook at home. Take your shirt to Mama Fua when you can wash it yourself.

I’d tell you how much I charge for sex, but again, my prices tend to go up according to demand. Hehe.

The bottom line:

Everyone has a price.

When it comes to the question of what we are worth, the answer is usually always more than we think.

So how much are you worth?

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Recent Comments (3)

  1. When you no your worth, you…
    When you no your worth, you will not devalued yourself

    1. That’s true Prince! It is…

      That’s true Prince! It is important to know your worth!

  2. I suppose I will have to use the same formula I use for regular work… Is it gonna be fun (lower price can work) is it going to require use of skill which I have (price goes up) is it regular work or a one time job? Plug in the answers to the question and you get your price!

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